Tantric Sex

Tantric Massage Techniques to Enter the Erotic World of Tantric Sex

Table of Contents

Introduction

Chapter I: Description and Benefits of Tantric Sex

Chapter II: How Tantric Sex Differs from Other Kinds of Sex

Chapter III: The Female Body

Chapter IV: The Male Body

Chapter V: Pleasing with the Lingam and Yoni

Conclusion

Introduction

I want to thank you and congratulate you for downloading the book, “Tantric Sex: Tantric Massage Techniques to Enter the Erotic World of Tantric Sex”.

In the age of materialism and instant gratification, sexual satisfaction is often taken for granted.  With free pornographic material oftentimes just a few clicks away in the privacy of one's own home, now more than ever people have become accustomed to fast consumption of erotic material and quick orgasms at the expense of gaining a deeper, more intense and longer-lasting sense of pleasure.  It remains important to consider that in intimate interpersonal relationships, there exists a benefit to slowing down, establishing a genuine connection, and exploring a wider range of methods for achieving mutual satisfaction.  One such method of achieving these goals is that of Tantric sex.

By the end of this book you should be familiar with the description and benefits of Tantric sex, be able to identify and be comfortable with different methods of stimulating both male and female erogenous zones and sex organs, know how you can continually work to improve your love-making skills in order to bring your partner increased pleasure, and enjoy more sensual, seductive, satisfying sex.

Thanks again for downloading this book, I hope you enjoy it!

Copyright 2016 - All rights reserved.

This document is geared towards providing exact and reliable information in regards to the topic and issue covered. The publication is sold with the idea that the publisher is not required to render accounting, officially permitted, or otherwise, qualified services. If advice is necessary, legal or professional, a practiced individual in the profession should be ordered.

From a Declaration of Principles which was accepted and approved equally by a Committee of the American Bar Association and a Committee of Publishers and Associations.

In no way is it legal to reproduce, duplicate, or transmit any part of this document in either electronic means or in printed format. Recording of this publication is strictly prohibited and any storage of this document is not allowed unless with written permission from the publisher. All rights reserved.

The information provided herein is stated to be truthful and consistent, in that any liability, in terms of inattention or otherwise, by any usage or abuse of any policies, processes, or directions contained within is the solitary and utter responsibility of the recipient reader. Under no circumstances will any legal responsibility or blame be held against the publisher for any reparation, damages, or monetary loss due to the information herein, either directly or indirectly.

Respective authors own all copyrights not held by the publisher.

The information herein is offered for informational purposes solely, and is universal as so. The presentation of the information is without contract or any type of guarantee assurance.

The trademarks that are used are without any consent, and the publication of the trademark is without permission or backing by the trademark owner. All trademarks and brands within this book are for clarifying purposes only and are the owned by the owners themselves, not affiliated with this document.

Chapter 1: Description and Benefits of Tantric Sex

Tantra, translated from Sanskrit to mean "tools for expansion", originated in India over 1,500 years ago and is essentially a set of practices and instructions designed to connect us with our inner energy and emotions, thereby allowing us to become more aware of the energy around us.  Tantra encourages us to explore sexual energy to meet these ends.

The goal of Tantric sex is not necessarily to achieve orgasm, but rather to enrich the entire sexual encounter by allowing us to experience more variety and depth in our sexuality.

Frequently, Western approaches to improving our sex lives encourage us to evaluate and alter external components of ourselves and our lives.  For example, we are constantly told through advertisements (frequently through sexual imagery) that we will be happier and more attractive, and, therefore, will have more fulfilling lives if we would just lose weight, gain muscle, drive a nicer car or buy a better perfume or cologne.  Tantric sex, in contrast, ignores all of those external, materialistic characteristics and encourages us to become better lovers and better partners, thus achieving more fulfilling sexual experiences through reciprocity of intention and desire to please.

The benefits to practicing Tantra can be phenomenal.  Some men are able to reach unlimited multiple orgasms in one encounter, as opposed to single ejaculations that signal the end of an interaction.  In fact, ejaculation as an end goal of sex can possibly become obsolete because so much pleasure is experienced during the act of making love in and of itself.  In this way, sex can last for several hours and the heightened emotional, physical and spiritual connection between lovers is amplified.

Some have reported being able to come to orgasm by simply looking at and thinking about the object of their affection -- touching is optional.  Still others have become so skilled in the art of Tantra that they have led completely fulfilled sex lives going months at a time without ejaculating, even while having sex every single day!

The more a person -- be they male or female -- engages in sex but refrains from ejaculating, the more energy they retain as opposed to experiencing the loss of energy that regularly occurs (especially for men) when ejaculate is released.  After Tantric sex, people report experiencing more energy and vitality and couples describe overall increased satisfaction with the duration, intensity and quality of their sex lives.  

Chapter 2: How Tantric Sex Differs from Other Kinds of Sex

A typical fantasy sex scene is conjured up in the mind.  The setting is perfect; soft lighting, light aromas.  A man may be muscle-bound, physically strong, tall and handsome, incredibly romantic, and a woman may be aesthetically beautiful, slim with perky breasts, smooth skin, soft hair, wet and waiting.  The sex itself is spontaneous and powerful.  He bursts through the door and she is waiting for him in nothing but one of his work shirts. He gingerly picks her up by the waist and she wraps her legs around him as he carries her to the bedroom to make love to her for hours, but they are so impassioned that they don't make it -- and wind up ripping into each other on the staircase on the way up.  They both achieve mutual simultaneous orgasm and collapse in a sweaty heap.

A typical run-of-the-mill sex scenario between a long-term married couple may be that one partner is stressed from a long day at work and wants to get some sexual release before heading to bed, while the other would rather just read their book in peace, go to sleep unbothered and worry about sex some other time when they are in the mood.  In order to avoid conflict and disappointment, one partner gives in to the others desires and the same old sex takes place in the same old bed underneath the same old covers in the same old boring positions; eyes closed and lights off... boring!

When sex becomes too boring and too routine, rather than being aroused and looking forward to pleasing and being pleased, people "give up".  They wonder how much longer they have to engage in foreplay before it is okay to get to the orgasm.  Sometimes people also take issues from outside the bedroom into it, maybe thinking "I'm still mad at him/her from earlier, why on Earth would I give sexual pleasure right now"?  Sometimes other insecurities and issues can come into play as well.  Maybe there is a problem with premature ejaculation so the other partner rarely reaches their peak, and the focus is just on "getting the job done" so they can move on to other more interesting and engaging activities (like sleep)!  Either way, if the sex exists at all, it is brief, goal (orgasm) oriented and is over as quickly as possible.

Tantric sex, however, differs in several ways.  First, a prior agreement is made that time and space will be created for the specific purpose of nothing other than connecting and being together at the moment.  Second, a conscious intention for reciprocal pleasure actually promotes excitement and increases sexual energy so right from the outset the mood is set and reinforces the outcome.  Third, being fully present in the moment and being confident that there is no rush allows space for spontaneity and creativity, reducing the likelihood of boredom.  Finally, caring communication enables vulnerability, which heightens closeness.

As there is no goal of orgasm, there is no pressure or pushing to reach the end of the session -- only the goal of creating intensity and pleasure together.  This can be whatever you desire; it can be gentle and soft, hot and passionate, earthy and primal or ethereal and magical.  The endless real possibilities here are far better than any unrealistic fantasy or run-of-the-mill sex session that sends long-term committed partners searching for that next fix to spruce up their sex lives.

Chapter 3: The Female Body

Many women are faced with societal pressures and social conditioning that can easily prevent them from connecting their sexual energy and engaging in sexual acts and behaviors solely for the purpose of fulfilling their own desires, rather than as an obligation to fulfill those of their partners.  When a woman begins to understand that her sexuality and sexual nature are beautiful, powerful and positive, she can enjoy being sexually stimulated and nurtured by her lover.  Helping her to realize her own orgasmic capacity and also be able to expand it, is one of the goals and outcomes of Tantric sex, and this chapter will explore Tantric methods and practices by which women can both be pleased by their partners.

The Yoni (Vagina)

"Yoni" (pronounced YO-nee) is the Sanskrit word for the vagina.  The vagina is sacred in Tantra, and thus must be treated with the utmost care and respect.  The Yoni massage is a sensuous technique that both emotionally and spiritually brings partners closer together, building trust and intimacy along the way.

How to Give a Tantric Yoni Massage

While the Yoni massage is definitely stimulating, remember that the main purpose is to relax both partners and encourage emotions to rise to the surface.  Women may experience a variety of sensations and feelings during this massage ranging from lust to anger, to excitement, or indifference and all of this is a good thing!  Remember, during the Yoni massage, there are no boundaries, as there is no focus on achieving any desired outcome other than to feel, observe, connect, and experience.  As your skills improve and you move toward mastery of the Yoni massage, your understanding of female sexuality will deepen and your sex life as a whole will be much improved.

Breathing is a Tantric foreplay activity that assists in building emotional and spiritual bonds between lovers.  Prior to beginning the Yoni massage, first spend some time increasing awareness of each others' essence and presence by gazing into each others' eyes, embracing, and engaging in deep, synchronized breathing. The giver of the upcoming massage should take the lead in the breathing exercise, but both the giver and receiver should remain focused and relaxed during the entire activity.  Should the receiver begin to stop, pause or take more shallow breaths, the giver should gently remind her of the pace and depth that she should be striving to meet.

When both parties feel sufficiently relaxed, comfortable and connected, the receiver should lie on her back with a pillow beneath her neck for comfort, and another underneath her hips, elevating her pelvis.  She pulls her legs up by bending her knees with her feet flat on the bed or floor, and opens her legs, exposing her Yoni, while the giver sits cross-legged in between her open legs, on a pillow or cushion if desired.

The giver should begin by massaging other parts of her body, encouraging relaxation.  Firmly and gently massage her arms, breasts, stomach, hips, and thighs before moving inward to her pelvic region.  Continue by massaging her pubic bone, working your way to the inner thigh.  Repeat this action, at least nine times, then use the right hand to apply a lubricant or oil to the top or mound of the Yoni, making sure that enough is poured so that the outer lips and outside of the Yoni are covered.

Rub the lubricant on the outer lips several times, as she will find this highly erotic and pleasurable.  With the thumb and index finger of each hand, apply light pressure and squeeze each of her Yoni lips, sliding your oiled fingers up and down the entire length of each one.  Once the outer lips are complete, repeat the process with each inner lip, paying close attention to her preferences, altering the pressure and speed according to her physical and audible cues.

The next step, clitoral stimulation, is optional and may or may not be possible, depending on her level of sensitivity to clitoral stimulation.  You will have to pay close attention to her cues and expressed desires before going too far into clitoral stimulation, but assuming that this is something that she enjoys, begin by stroking her clitoris in a gentle, circular motion.  Next, while squeezing her clitoris between your thumb and index finger, rotate your hand until your wrist faces upward, carefully and slowly insert your middle finger into her Yoni, and explore the inside of her with your finger.  Take your time and enjoy the way she feels.  With varying degrees of speed and depth, feel up, down, right and left until you reach her "sacred spot" -- her G-spot. 

Continue with the massage switching up the intensity, speed and direction.  Maintain the connectivity of deep breathing and looking into each others' eyes.  At this point, she may experience waves of powerful emotion, begin to shiver, shake and cry, but no matter what, keep breathing, keep encouraging her to breathe, and remain gentle.  If she does reach orgasm, ask her if she would like you to continue.  At this point, if you continue, she will likely have multiple orgasms in a row, each more intense than the last.  In Tantra, this exciting experience is known as "riding the wave", and many women -- even those who have never experienced orgasm before -- can learn to become multi-orgasmic when the Tantric Yoni Massage is correctly performed by a gentle, patient partner.

Your job is to keep massaging and enjoying the moment until she assures you that she is ready to stop.  At that time, allow her to relish the moment and enjoy the afterglow of the powerful orgasms you have given her while you enjoy the satisfaction of pleasing your woman and creating a special moment together. 

The Clitoris

The clitoris is positioned in between the labia above the vagina.  It consists of a two parts -- the rounded glans and the longer shaft -- which is covered by a "hood" of skin, the clitoral hood.   While most, if not all, women are capable of reaching orgasm from clitoral stimulation, as stated earlier in this book, some women are too sensitive in this area so it is always a good idea to check with the woman to see how much clitoral stimulation works for her.  Regardless, it is important to make sure that you use enough lubrication when venturing to manipulate any woman's clitoris.  You'll never want to touch that extremely sensitive area without adequate lubrication.

How to Give a Tantric Clitoral Massage

The purpose of the Tantric clitoral massage is to make the woman's clitoris the center of attention.  This massage can be given alone, as part of a Yoni massage, part of the G-spot massage (which will be covered in the next section), or part of a standard erotic massage.

If the Tantric clitoral massage is not an extension of another session where you have already set the mood, make sure to create a warming, inviting, special ambiance where your partner will feel relaxed and open.  Either ask her to undress, or slowly undress her yourself, and request that she lie face down once she is fully nude.  Give her a full body massage, starting on her back working your way from neck to toe.  After several minutes, turn her over, and then work your back up from her feet to her shoulders and neck.

Avoid massaging her breasts or genitalia for the time being in order to tease her and build momentum.  The goal here is to heighten her senses, keep her guessing, and to invite her to expect the unexpected.

After you have massaged every inch of her body except for her genitalia and are ready to begin the clitoral massage, gently touch either of her knees, sliding your hand up her inner thigh, continuing up to her vulva.  Depending on the size and sensitivity of her clitoris, you will be massaging it using between one and three fingers.  As a general rule:

If you can feel her clitoral shaft with your fingers, use your thumb and index finger (2 fingers).

If her clitoris is larger and more prominent, you can use your thumb, index finger, and middle finger (3 fingers).

On the contrary, if her clitoris is small and hidden, use either the tip of your index finger or your thumb (1 finger).

If you are only using one finger, place either the tip of your finger or your thumb atop her clitoris, move the skin underneath your finger either around in tiny circles or back and forth.  Even if her clitoris is small and hidden, you should be able to feel it hardening and becoming more erect as she becomes more aroused. 

If you are using more than one finger, lightly grasp the shaft with your thumb and index finger while gently sliding the tissue surrounding her clitoris back and forth in order to determine clitoral shape and firmness.  It is important to determine how much the tissue around her clitoris slides around because you do not want to apply too much pressure.  You want to avoid grasping the glans directly if possible, but the goal here is for the hood to slide back and forth as you manipulate the shaft, which will indirectly stimulate her glans.

Place your thumb and forefinger around the hood, lightly pinch the clitoris and gently roll it around between your fingers.  Pull the hood up so that the clitoris is exposed, and blow on it.  Use a heavily lubricated fingertip to gently tease it in different directions -- up, down, left, right, or in circles -- and pay attention to what she responds to best.  This action will bring blood to the surface and charge her nerve endings.

If she is enjoying herself, continue in a steady rhythm.  As her level of arousal increases, you can experiment with increasing pressure, but always remember to be gentle.  You can vary the speed of your strokes from very slow and methodic in the beginning, making them increasingly faster as she nears orgasm.

Once she reaches orgasm, move your fingers away from her clitoris and to her labia.  Maintain physical contact as she recovers from her orgasmic high.  Once she has recovered you can either start over again or stop, but please never stop the massage abruptly unless she expresses discomfort.  In this case, shift your focus to her vulva or other less sensitive areas in her pelvic region for a few minutes until she is ready to proceed. 

Although she may orgasm very quickly and easily, it may take some time for both of you to get comfortable with this technique.  The best way to figure out how to give and receive the Tantric clitoral massage is through keeping open minds and gaining experience through practicing together, which in itself can be a great bonding experience.

The Breasts:  How to Give a Tantric Breast Massage

The Tantric breast massage is a special ritual that allows a woman to receive sensual energy from her partner.  Massaging the breasts makes them firmer and healthier while maintaining the hormonal balance within a woman's body.  The Tantric breast massage is a way for one to please, heal and become more intimate with their partner, as the breasts need to be loved and honored first before other elements of her body will become free to open up.

Breast tissue is delicate, but with proper technique and moderate pressure, a Tantric breast massage can be simple and safe.  Make sure that the woman is in a warm, safe space before beginning, and verbally communicate to her that the massage is purely for her enjoyment and that she need not wonder about giving you pleasure at all.

Before beginning the massage, place one hand on her heart and the other on her Yoni and visualize energy moving from your heart into your hands and toward her heart and Yoni.  This visualization is connection and healing and an important part of this Tantric massage session. 

In order to avoid friction, apply massage oil onto the breast in circular motions going from the center of the chest into the underarm region.  Caress her breasts slowly and gently, brushing the palms of your hands over the entire breast.  Get into a rhythm, repeat your moves, at least twenty times at a consistent pace and pressure.  First try going clockwise on both breasts.  Then try the following move:

Place your palm over her entire breast with the nipple in the center.

Fan your fingers out, mimicking a wheel spoke.

Slowly bring your fingers in toward the nipple.

Finish with a slight (or firmer if you so desire) pinch.

Repeat.

After the above technique is applied, the second step is to gently knead the fully covered breasts by lifting them from the chest, pressing delicately.  Alternating breasts one after the other, methodically twist and wring each one in rhythmic fashion, at least twenty times.

The third step is to gently attempt to "scoop" the flesh with the flat of the fingertips; first clockwise, then counterclockwise.

Fourth, you will directly massage the nipples.  Place both thumbs on opposite sides of the nipple of one breast, starting at the outside edge of her areola (the dark, flat circle surrounding her actual nipple).  Slowly bring your thumbs together, squeezing the nipple between the thumbs, then pull outwards toward you.  Do this until a complete circle is made around her nipple, adjusting the pressure based on her reaction.  Repeat on the other breast.

Finally, during the "cooling down" phase of the massage, you will stroke and smooth her skin.  Take the fingertips of both hands toward the center of one breast and radiate them from the center outward toward the side.  Do this, at least ten times, and then repeat on the other breast. 

The breast massage ends the same way it began, with one hand on her heart and the other on her Yoni, visualizing warm energy moving from your heart into your hands and down into her heart and Yoni.  Breathe deeply and slowly together for several minutes, and then allow her to rest.

While the primary purpose of the Tantric breast massage is to please the receiver, it is enjoyable for the giver too.  It is not only emotionally and physically healing, but it provides relaxation and a sensuous form of foreplay.  It can be done alone or as the introduction to other Tantric massages such as the Yoni massage, clitoral massage, or G-spot massage.

The G-Spot

The G-spot (Grafenberg spot) is a tiny lima-bean shaped region located on the front (tummy-side) wall of the Yoni, two to three inches beneath the pubic bone.  This area is different in texture than the rest of the Yoni, in that it is spongier and coarse.  G-spot stimulation causes intense orgasmic feelings that are greater than in a normal sexual response.

How to Give a Tantric G-Spot Massage

In Tantra, the G-spot is known to store creative sexual energy, but also has another side; it stores sexual or emotional pain as well.  Therefore, the G-spot massage, when performed correctly, can be healing as it has the ability to remove blocks to sexual pleasure, replacing them with positive sensations.

Once the receiver of the massage is undressed and lying face down, begin by giving her a ten-minute full-body massage.  Once she is fully relaxed, ask her politely if you may massage her more intimately.  If she obliges, gently massage her pubic area including the lips of her Yoni with high-quality lubricant. 

Upon arousal, whisper in her ear that you are going to put your fingers inside of her.  Lubricate your first two fingers well, insert them as far into her Yoni as is comfortable for her, and move them in even circles all around.  Keep in mind that consistent, firm pressure along the entire of length of the vaginal walls normally feels best, but you'll have to take her physical and audible cues as guides, as every woman is unique in her preferences.  As a tip: pressing the palm of your other hand on the top of her pelvis can be very "grounding" for her.

Envision the G-spot as a clock.  Spend a little bit of time with your fingers at each position of the clock.  Pay attention to which "hours" feel best, which are numb, which may be painful, and which trigger some emotional reaction.  If you find a great spot, press gently and hold.  If any strong emotions arise such as anger, sadness or laughter, gently encourage her to describe anything she feels or "sees".  Allow the energy to discharge, for this release of energy is healing and makes her sexual energy more available.

As the massage develops, begin to concentrate on pleasing her rather than on the numb or painful places.  Another great way to stimulate the G-spot is by using the "press-and-release" technique:

Hook your fingers, pulling the G-spot upward.

Rhythmically press and release.

When the G-spot massage is finished, tell her that you are going to remove your fingers.  As you gently slide your fingers out of her, press the mound of her vagina with your free hand, thus sealing the end of the Tantric G-spot Yoni healing process.

As a word of caution, it is important not to have any expectations regarding the outcome of this massage.  Results may not be immediately visible and it may take a few tries before any emotions arise.  In the meantime, take pleasure in becoming more familiar with your partner's Yoni and building a stronger bond between the two of you.

G-Spot Orgasms

Two conditions must be met in order to stimulate the G-spot.  First, the woman has to be aroused and secondly, pressure must be applied on the upper vaginal wall.  Blood rushes to the G-spot similarly to how it does to the clitoris when a woman is sufficiently aroused, thus, any sexual position which places pressure on the area leads to greater chances of the woman experiencing the orgasm.  The following four positions increase likelihood that the G-spot orgasm will be experienced.

Rear Entry: When the penis rubs on the upper wall of the vagina, rear entry maximizes chances of achieving a G-spot orgasm.  The woman should kneel on all fours with her legs slightly spread apart.  It is important that she resist the urge to put her face down, instead keeping her back slightly arched with her elbows either bent or up a locked because when the woman leans forward, the entry angle changes dramatically and the G-spot is harder to reach.  As the man enters her from the rear, the sensation should be of tightness and full penetration.  Initially, the woman may uncomfortably feel the penis on the cervix, but the man can alter his aim toward the G-spot by pulling upward on her hips and thrusting in a downward motion.

The Fusion: The man sits on the bed or floor with his arms behind him and his legs extended in front of him.  The woman stands over him, facing him, and lowers herself onto his penis.  Her legs should be bent up near his chest and her arms should be trailing her, between his legs.  She uses her arms and legs to "rock" herself on his penis.  While this position may seem unlikely to produce a G-spot orgasm, the angle and seductive position make it erotic. 

The Flower Press: The Flower Press is great for people who may have challenges with other due to excess weight, pregnancy, or other body pains such as weak knees.  With the Flower Press, the woman lies on her back and allows the man to penetrate her as in missionary position, but once penetration has begun, she raises her legs upward and back until they are either on his shoulders or chest.  At this point, the man kneels up against her, using her things for support, and she grabs onto his hips, guiding him deeper into her.  This position is so effective because not only does it allow for extreme penetration, but his pelvis rubs against her clitoris while the penis stimulates the G-spot due to the height elevation of the man in comparison to the woman.

Rotated Woman: The Rotated Woman position offers excellent stimulation.  The man lies on the bed and the woman lowers herself onto him with her back facing him.  Once he is inside of her, she very slowly and carefully leans forward into she is lying on top of his with her legs outstretched and her hands near his feet.  She can slowly gyrate her hips into a "figure 8" motion, or just grab his ankles and use them as leverage to help slide herself upward and downward.  Her vagina is pulled in this position, causing the penis to rub the G-spot.  As a bonus, she also gets clitoral stimulation from his testicles and legs.  Here the woman is in total control, as she sets the pace and depth of motion.

Tantric sex not only enhances physical sensations but transforms them into mechanisms for insight.  Women feel G-spot orgasms deeper inside their bodies as opposed to the localized orgasms they experience with clitoral orgasms.  The full-body orgasm is an excellent technique for reaching a state of blissful ecstasy.

The Perineum

A simple way to spice up your love life may be to give your woman a perineum massage.  The perineum is a small area located between the vagina and anus and is packed with nerve endings.  The clitoris actually extends down through the labia, perineum, and anus, allowing her to feel pleasure in all of these areas simultaneously.  The perineum can be stimulated in two ways; during oral sex, and while having sex in the rear entry position, assuming her legs are spread enough to provide access.  This erogenous area is too often ignored; don't deprive it!  While it is less sensitive than the clitoris, some women find it to be incredibly receptive.

How to Give a Perineum Massage

Try these three techniques to give your woman an exciting Tantric perineum massage:

              1. The Black Lotus:  Perform oral sex on your woman as you usually would.  After several minutes, press gently on the perineum tissue and let go.  Repeat this many times, gradually increasing the pressure. 

              2. The Red Lotus: This is similar to the Black Lotus, but adds anal stimulation.  During the performance of the Black Lotus, insert the tip of one finger slightly into her anus, gently moving your finger in circles.  Be sure to ask permission before attempting this move, as not all women are receptive to anal stimulation.  If she liked the Black Lotus, she will be more receptive to this.  Make sure you use plenty of lubrication, go slowly, and gauge her cues.

              3. The Blue Lotus: During rear entry, when she is nearing orgasm, massage her perineum in a circular motion.  Rub her gently until she says she can't handle more, or until she climaxes.  Women differ in how much stimulation they can take, so make sure you pay attention to what is pleasurable to her.

As every woman is different, experimentation and practice are the best way to discover what makes your partner tick.  Some women report that a perineum massage assists them in releasing natural moisture, so less lubrication is needed.  As with all sexual exploration, communication, experimentation and patience are keys to having the best encounters.

Chapter 4: The Male Body

While it is widely held that women can have multiple orgasms whereas most men cannot, practicing Tantric techniques can, in fact, enable men to become multi-orgasmic, separating orgasm from ejaculation, thus extending lovemaking duration.  Men who practice Tantra also come to understand that they can both give and receive pleasure with or without an erection, and this is beneficial to the couple as a whole.  Through Tantra, men become empowered in their sexuality by mastering it, slowing down and not becoming ashamed of it.

The Lingam (Penis)

"Lingam" is the Sanskrit word for the penis and is literally translated to mean "wand of light".  In Tantra, the Lingam is viewed with respect and honored as a wand of light that channels energy and pleasure.  Orgasm may offer a pleasant side-effect to receipt of a Lingam massage, but it is never the goal.  The goal is to massage the organ, encouraging a man to relax and surrender to a deeper form of pleasure that he may not be used to.

Men must learn to relax and receive pleasure that is not goal (orgasm) oriented, as is common with traditional sexual expectation.

Taoist belief holds that the Lingam has reflex points similar to those in the feet or hands which when stimulated properly can affect the whole organ, allowing the massage to be both healing and sexual simultaneously.  Applying pressure to different pressure points in the Lingam disperses energy to the entire body, leading to a wave-like experience of pleasure.  This energy is dispersed all over the body, and then is built upon.  In this fashion, men are able to experience full-body orgasms, and this wave of pleasure can last for a much longer time than a regular orgasm.

How to Give a Tantric Lingam Massage

Prepare a quiet dim space with a bed, futon, or a blanket and pillows on the floor.  Make sure that the temperature is slightly warmer than normal, as you will both be nude.  Lighting candles is an excellent idea both for lighting and temperature regulation.  Your high-quality oils and lubricants should be within reach.  Using spill-resistant bottles and plastic instead of glass is advised.  And most of all make sure that you have a few hours of uninterrupted time so that you won't feel rushed.

Begin by standing or sitting face-to-face, and breathe deeply together.  Touch each other by embracing or holding hands while looking into each others' eyes, breathing rhythmically from the belly.  If he begins to hold his breath or lose focus, position one hand on his lower belly, and encourage him to breathe from that place and "fill his belly" with breath. 

Have him lie face down and give him a full-body massage for at least ten minutes.  Request that he turn over, and then continue his massage.  Advance the massage toward the inner thighs and pelvis until his entire body is relaxed. 

As a show of respect for his male power, ask for permission to touch his Lingam.  If he is familiar with Tantric terminology, ask "May I touch your Wand of Light"?  Otherwise asking "May I touch your Lingam?" or "May I touch your penis?" will suffice.  If he obliges, cover his Lingam and testicles with the oil or lubricant.  Rub the solution into his skin, starting at the top of his inner thighs, moving into the crease where his legs meet the pelvis.  Release tension as you work along the connecting tissue, bone and muscles using slow, steady motions.

Continue by massaging above the Lingam on the pubic bone.  Place one hand over this area, feeling the bone beneath the muscle.  Slowly work your way down to the scrotum, very gently pulling on his testicles.  It is important to pay attention to his physical and audible cues, as well as encourage him to let you know what feels right to him, as some men are averse to testicular pressure, while others very much enjoy stronger handling.  Begin gently and slowly build pressure until you find the perfect amount.

Finally, slowly place one hand on the Lingam with your right hand.  As you massage the shaft, squeeze the Lingam at the very bottom with your right hand, pull up, and slide completely off.  Then alternate hands.  Repeat this motion with each hand several times, and then switch direction -- slide alternating hands from the top back down to the base. 

Take the Lingam between both hands and rub your hands together quickly as if attempting to start a fire.  Hold the Lingam by the head and gently shake back and forth.  Massage the head, cupping it in your palm and turning your wrist as if juicing a lemon. 

If at any time he seems close to ejaculation, slow your movements and let him "cool down" before continuing.  If he is close but not past the point of no return, you may be able to delay ejaculation by squeezing the tip of the Lingam between the thumb and forefinger very firmly and holding it for about thirty seconds, encouraging him to take deep breaths the entire time. 

If you are successfully able to hold back his orgasm six times, tons of sexual energy will be stored.  He can then retain and circulate this energy throughout his body, or choose to release.  If he does choose to ejaculate, a much more intense orgasm than usual will be experienced.  Remind him to take deep, controlled breaths as he ejaculates.  Once the massage is complete, tell him that you will now remove your hands and allow him time to relax and enjoy the mind-blowing pleasure he has received.

The Testicles

Testicle massages can infuse the testicles with blood and clear out any blockages.  Massaging the testicles on a regular basis can improve erections, ejaculation volume, and sperm count.  The massage even has the potential to increase testicular size, making them fuller-feeling, lower-hanging, and more sensitive.

How to Give a Tantric Testicle Massage

Testicles are the most sensitive part of most men’s' bodies, as such, many women fear massaging the area for fear of causing pain.  The irony behind this is that it is exactly this sensitivity that incites pleasure once the area is stroked.  The testicles can be one of the most erogenous spots on his body if stimulated properly, and a good testicle massage can be an outstanding experience for a man if a lover is doing it.

Once a safe, warm, ambient place is set and your man is comfortable and ready, here are eight steps that you can try to give a pleasing Tantric testicle massage:

Trace circles around the base of the penis where the shaft is attached to the scrotum.

Very lightly pinch the scrotal skin, gently rolling the skin between your fingers, and monitor his response.

Very lightly run your fingernails across the skin of his scrotum, paying close attention to his reaction.  Some men absolutely love this sensation while others become nervous.  If he likes it, continue.  If not, stop.

With a firm grip, wrap your hands around his penis.  Slide one hand up over the head and the other down across the testicles.  This motion makes the penis feel big, expanding the sensation.

Cup the testicles and give them a gentle squeeze.  Monitor his reaction, making sure that you aren't squeezing too hard.

Placing your hand at the bottom of the testicles, run your fingers from the bottom of the scrotum all the way up to the head of the penis in one smooth motion.

Hold the penis up, exposing the testicles, and tap them lightly with your middle finger.

Hold the penis and testicles in between the thumb and forefinger of one hand.  Pull them both forward with your hand.  Do this at least ten times in each direction -- up, down, left, and right.

Chapter 5: Pleasing with the Lingam and the Yoni

4 Positions to Please Your Lover, even if You Have a Small Penis

Studies show that the average erect penis is 5.5 to 6.5 inches long and 4.5 to 5 inches in circumference, with a penis with an erect length of fewer than 5 inches considered to be small.   The Kama Sutra classifies men by penis size.  A man with a small penis is a "hare man" while a man with an average sized penis is a "bull man", and respectively, a man with a larger than average penis is a "horse man".  The following four variations of common positions will help ensure that even a "hare man" penetrates his woman as deeply as possible, providing the most satisfaction.

Man-on-top: In this position, the woman tilts her pelvis down so that her vaginal opening is aimed toward the mattress.  Her bent knees are held up toward her chest and her lead is propped up by pillows underneath.  This position increases pressure against her vaginal walls and shortens her vaginal canal, thereby giving a greater sensation of depth.

Woman Sitting:  The man stands or keels as the woman sits on the edge of a bed, couch or counter/table top.  This enables the man to enter her at a slightly upward angle so that he penis will hit the top of her vagina.  She'll feel a heightened sensation as he hits this area, and he'll feel pleasurable pressure and tightness.

Man sitting:  The man sits while the woman lies flat on her back with a pillow beneath her head and another underneath her hips.  The man brings her knees to her ears; she holds her legs in position while he enters her.

Woman Face Down:  The woman lies face down with her legs straight out and closed and a pillow placed under her hips if she so desires.  The man bends his knees but keeps his torso upright, places his penis just under the woman's butt and careful to avoid dropping his weight on her, makes his way inside.  The woman may need to slightly open her legs initially in order to let him in, but legs closed once inside provides the strongest sensation.

Sexual intercourse is an important aspect of intimate relations between a man and woman, and penis size need not affect the quality of the interaction.  These four positions allow the man who is less well endowed to give his woman the feeling of fullness she craves while feeling the sensation of tightness that he enjoys, leading to mutual satisfaction.

Pompoir: Milking the Lingam with the Yoni

Pompoir: The Art of Milking the Lingam

The art of "milking" the Lingam with the Yoni is called "Pompoir".  With both partners still, the woman grips and massages the Lingam with the pelvic floor muscles and rippling contractions of the pubococcygeus (PC) muscle.  This rippling effect, which also occurs during an intense female orgasm, causes a "milking" sensation that can be detected by the Lingam.

A woman who is trained in the art of Pompoir is called a "Kabbazah", which is translated to mean "one who holds".  Men report Pompoir feeling like having a velvety hand wrapped around the penis, gripping and stroking them into sexual nirvana. 

The Ten-Step Pompoir Technique:

Get into a position where the woman is on top or sitting, such as woman on top.

Make sure the man is relaxed and passive, with the woman doing all of the work.

Stimulate the man to erection, and then insert the Lingam into the Yoni.

Make sure that he does not thrust or move his Lingam at all of his own accord, and that he remains as still as he can.

Once the Lingam is inside and you are in proper straddling position, do not move your pelvis.  Your only movements should be contracting your Yoni using your Pompoir skills.

Kiss and caress each other freely, but absolutely no thrusting or rocking.  The purpose is to use your Yoni muscles to massage the Lingam.

Contract and release your PC muscles in differing patterns until you feel the Lingam begin to throb.  This should take place after about 10 or 15 minutes and is an indication of arousal.

Once you get a sense of the pattern of his throbbing Lingam, time your contraction and release with the throbbing.  As he nears ejaculation, speed up your contraction and release.

Continue to milk the Lingam as he reaches orgasm.  This sensation is such that he feels as though the ejaculation is being sucked right out of his body.

        Post-climax, continue contracting and releasing your muscles, building up your own orgasm.  Add additional stimulation to your clitoris if needed, and keep flexing until you are satisfied.

While being able to manipulate your man's Lingam without using your hands is enough reason to become trained in the art of Pompoir, developing the gripping PC muscles also increases a woman's orgasmic intensity and variety.  For most women, orgasm is achieved via clitoral stimulation, but with proper exercise, any woman can develop the ability to experience multiple vaginal orgasms.

Exercising the PC Muscle

The PC (pubococcygeus) and pelvic floor muscles must be strengthened in order to practice Pompoir.  Insert a clean finger into your Yoni and try to squeeze it with your vagina in order to first locate the PC muscles, making sure that you are not tensing any other muscles.  Then try these four exercises:

The Short Squeeze: Contract the PC muscles at a pace of one squeeze per second, for a total of ten seconds.  Begin with two sets of ten, and gradually build up to two sets of fifty per day.

The Long Squeeze: Hold the contraction for a count of three, relaxing between contractions.  Work up to holding and relaxing for ten seconds each.  Begin with two sets of ten, gradually building up to two sets of fifty.

Pull-in, Push-Out:  This exercise uses both the abdominal and PC muscles.  Pull the entire pelvic floor upward, imagining trying to suck water into the Yoni, and then bear down as if trying to push water out.  Do this five times in a row and build up to ten sets.

The Elevator: Envision an elevator in your pelvic region and that you'd like to raise it floor by floor.  Beginning on the ground, envision going up to the first, second, and third floors.  Holds for ten seconds on the third floor, then slowly allow the elevator to go down, again stopping at each floor.  Once you hit the ground floor, relax the muscles.  Start with one set of ten reps, and then build up to five sets of ten.

It is recommended to break up the exercises into two or more sessions daily.  You will get the same benefits no matter how the sessions are broken up as long as the total number of reps is maintained.  Try different positions like standing, kneeling, and sitting in order to completely exercise the muscles.  As you become more skilled at these exercises and your muscles become stronger, you may notice that you can isolate different groups of muscles.  Eventually, you can even isolate your clitoris, for example, and discretely stimulate yourself whenever you please.

Conclusion

Thank you again for downloading this book! 

I hope this book was able to help you to learn about the art of Tantric sex and improve your sex life.  Remember, the steps in this book are only effective if you actually try them out, so get started tonight!

Finally, if you enjoyed this book, then I’d like to ask you for a favor, would you be kind enough to leave a review for this book on Amazon? It’d be greatly appreciated!

Click here to leave a review for this book on Amazon!

Thank you and good luck!

About the Author

Charlotte Angeline Rose is a passionate wordsmith and entertainer.  She is on a mission to help people add spice and sparkle to their otherwise banal love lives through her writing.

Hailing from sunny Los Angeles, California, Rose earned undergraduate and graduate degrees in Sociology and Psychology while taking creative adult jobs on the side in order to help finance her educational pursuits.

A sexually fluid, open-minded, long-time lover of all things sensual and exciting, Rose is now ready to share her intimate knowledge of human sexuality, psychology and interpersonal relationships with the world through her ongoing series of books, first introduced to the general public in February of 2016.

Click Here to Check Out My Other Titles:

Discover How to Pursue and Maintain Polyamorous Relationships!

Before you read any further, answer these simple questions:

Have you finally grown tired of serial monogamy?

Do you ever wonder if there is any other way to have a more varied, fulfilling love life?

Have you been pondering the idea of openly and honestly developing relationships with more than one partner, but are worried about what others may think?

If you answered "yes" to at least one of the above questions, then this book is just what you need to get informed, grow confident, and take the steps necessary to get exactly what you want out of some of your most important relationships!

Polyamory Revealed: The Practical Dater's Guide to the Pursuit and Maintenance of Open Relationships was written with curious, open-minded, free-spirited individuals like you in mind.

In between these pages, you will veer beyond the taboo surrounding plural partnerships and gain a deeper understanding of what poly love is really all about.

You will learn about the different models of polyamorous love and the important poly lingo that every beginner should know.

You will discover the best ways to handle jealousy, insecurity, and all of the other problems encountered by poly folk. Because after all, free love does not equal carelessness!

But that's not all! You'll also receive answers to these burning questions:

How is polyamory different from cheating?

What are the benefits of being in a polyamorous relationship?

What are the most important rules to follow when engaging in polyamorous relationships?

And much, much more!

So what are you waiting for?

Click here, not now, but right now, to download this exciting roadmap to polyamorous dating!