MAKE HER NEVER FORGET THAT NIGHT

A Step-by-Step Guide on How to Bring a Woman to an Unforgettable Orgasm and Become the Best Lover in Her Life

by Jacob Fulton

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Table of Contents

INTRODUCTION

CHAPTER ONE: Step One: Maintain Good Hygiene

CHAPTER TWO: Step Two: Create a Positive Atmosphere

CHAPTER THREE: Step Three: Foreplay

CHAPTER FOUR: Step Four: Oral Sex

CHAPTER FIVE: Step Five: Choosing the Best Sex Position

CHAPTER SIX: Fetishism

CONCLUSION

INTRODUCTION

The word sex usually triggers a kaleidoscope of emotions and butterfly tingles, but sex, lovemaking, or intercourse (anyone you would like to call it) is far from perfect at all times. The feelings during intercourse range from love, excitement, and tenderness to longing, anxiety, and disappointment- all of these reactions vary greatly as sexual experiences.

The female orgasm is usually regarded as the epitome of a woman's sexual satisfaction and the utmost goal of sex. But not all women experience orgasm during sexual intercourse. According to a study of penile-vaginal intercourse involving a group of women in 2015, only 6 percent of them reported that they always have an orgasm during sex. 40 percent of them said that they reach orgasm most of the time they have sex, 16 percent said they have orgasm half of the time, while 38 percent have an infrequent orgasm. Out of all these figures, 14 percent of the women under the age of 35 said they had never had an orgasm from sexual intercourse.

There are so many factors that could contribute to the inability of a woman to reach orgasm during intercourse. A few of these factors include fatigue, stress, state of mind, their relationship with the man, and the sexual prowess of the man.

Even though every single one of these factors plays a vital role in determining if the woman would reach orgasm during intercourse, the onus always falls on the man to help the woman to achieve the epitome of sexual satisfaction. If you are a man, you would agree with me that this is not always an easy thing to do, and it can put the man under pressure. Women want a man who can please them in bed and fulfill their sexual desires. There is a saying that a woman would always return for more once the first sex is good.

I admonish you to put whatever you read into practice. Some tips might take more time to achieve than the other, but it is worth giving your best shot if you want to become the best lover in your woman's life. Complete attention was paid to every detail to arrive at this comprehensive, easy-to-understand guide.

There are five chapters in this book, and each of them is a guide that is further broken down into smaller steps to help you understand and ensure that each step is practical and achievable.

The perfect sex is not exclusive to specific people; you can also be the man of your woman's dreams. The key is in your hands.

CHAPTER ONE: Step One: Maintain Good Hygiene

The question that probably popped up in your mind when you read the first step is, what is the relationship between making a woman reach orgasm and good hygiene. Well, if that or a similar question popped up in your mind, then I am about to burst your bubble. Think of it as someone who has just finished smoking attempting to kiss a woman, horrible, right? I'm certain you don't want to try that.

Your sexual well-being is simultaneously related to your physical, mental, and as well, emotional health. As a result, indulging in healthy habits that help to keep your body in good shape is also essential in shaping your sex life. There are several healthy habits that you need to cultivate if you are not practicing them already. Only a healthy person can have perfect sex. Health, in this stance, indicates your physical, mental, and as well, your emotional health. I don't expect someone in a distressed state of mind to please a woman sexually, or even want to. They simply do not correlate. Hence, maintaining good hygiene is taking care of your physical health and your mental and emotional health.

In this chapter, I will discuss several tips that will help you maintain perfect health. From the very obvious tip of exercising to the not so obvious tip of brushing regularly, you are on your way to perfect health, and ultimately, perfect sex. This book is about bringing a woman to orgasm, but it is impossible to achieve that if you are not sexually healthy. Think of it like a gym instructor who is obese; what does that tell you? Of course, you need to be in the right shape, and that is why I would be discussing the following tips that would help you to stay in the right shape.

Exercise

The first and most important thing on the list of healthy habits that you need to cultivate for better sexual performance is engaging in physical activities. This is because physical arousal largely hinges on good blood flow, aerobic exercise (this bolsters your heart and blood vessels) is vital. Besides, exercise provides an array of other health benefits, which range from repelling heart disease, osteoporosis, and some types of cancer. It also contributes to enhancing your mood and the quality of your sleep. Do exercises that help to increase your strength as well.

Don't Smoke Before Sex

Smoking before sex is a big turn off for many women. No woman wants to be kissed with a mouth stinking of tobacco. If you must smoke, make sure that you do it several hours before sex and have a thorough mouth wash after that.

Besides smoking being a big turn off for women, it plays a big role in peripheral vascular disease, which restricts blood flow to the penis. If you intend to quit and are struggling with how to go about it, you should ask your doctor about the drugs that can help or try nicotine gum or patches.

Drink Alcohol in Moderation

Alcohol can suppress sexual reflexes by subduing the central nervous system. Taking large amounts over a long period can also damage the liver and increase estrogen production in men.

Although some men who have erectile dysfunction find that drinking alcohol can help them relax, this can lead to addiction, and heavy alcohol use can make matters worse. If you must drink alcohol, make sure you use it in moderation so that it doesn’t impair your sex life.

Eat Right

Taking too many fatty foods can result in high blood cholesterol and obesity—both of which are primary risk factors for cardiovascular disease. As well, being overweight can build up tiredness and give you a poor body image. By losing the extra pounds, you have the benefit of having an increased libido.

Major food that is friendly to your sexual health includes Spinach, which bolsters your testosterone levels, and it is also a great source of folic acid that can help to prevent erectile dysfunction. Coffee helps to boost your sex drive through caffeine, its major ingredient. Caffeine has been proven to improve blood flow by relaxing muscles and penile arteries, ultimately resulting in a stronger erection. Like spinach, it could also prevent erectile dysfunction.

Apples boast great all-around benefits for your health, but not many of us know that some of its benefits apply to the penis. In particular, apple peels contain ursolic acid, an active compound that various researches have proven to restrict prostate cancer cell growth. Grapes, turmeric, berries, and a few other fruits also have similar effects. Tomatoes can also prevent prostate cancer and boost sperm quality, morphology, and mobility.

Avocados are an exceptional source of vitamins, potassium, and healthy fats. It is also rich in vitamin E and zinc, both of which boost the male sex drive, increase the levels of free testosterone to the body, and improve the quality of sperm produced. Chili peppers have a similar effect as it increases the testosterone levels and triggers the release of endorphins-the 'feel-good' hormone that charges the libido.

Carrots help to improve sperm count and mobility, while oats are considered an aphrodisiac. The amino acid L-arginine present in oats helps the penile blood vessels to relax and promotes a lasting erection and an amazing orgasm.

I could go on and on, but that would be deviating from the primary purpose of this book; hence we would be stopping here. There are many materials online and many books that you can consult if you need further details on the food you should consume to bolster your sex life, but the ones listed here are a good start.

Make Use of It

When men go long periods without an erection, it could deprive the penis of a quota of the oxygen-rich blood that it requires to support perfect sexual function. Due to this, scar tissue can develop in muscle cells and interfere with the capacity of the penis to enlarge when blood flow is increased.

Kegel Exercises

As a man, your sexual fitness can be enhanced by exercising the pelvic muscles. Admittedly, a lot of people do not have an idea of how Kegel exercises are done. One way to perform Kegels is by stopping your urine mid-flow or tightening the muscles you would use if trying to stop your urine mid-flow. When you do this, hold the contraction in place for up to five seconds and then release it. You can do this up to ten times at a stretch and up to five different times a day. Kegels are not as difficult as some think, and in fact, they can be done almost anywhere, including when driving, sitting in front of your television at home, or when refueling at the gas station. Consider speaking to your doctor or a sex therapist if you think you need further help.

CHAPTER TWO: Step Two: Create a Positive Atmosphere

What happens after you have successfully taken the first step is that you have set the tone for a sexual encounter she would never forget. I know that taking this step just once is not enough; it is a continuous process. You should maintain these habits as long as you always want to have great sex.

The first step is a success, and we must move on to the next step. This is the night you've been waiting for, the woman is finally the one, and you want to give her the kind of sex that will make her reach orgasm and will make her come back for more. You want to be the best lover in her life. This will not happen if you are not ready. There are a few steps that you need to take so that you will put yourself in not only a better position but also the woman.

That's cool, isn't it? Read it carefully; you will be happy. The following are steps you can take to kick-start the process of preparation for a lovemaking session:

Create an Atmosphere of Love

Lovemaking is not limited to the physical aspect alone. You need to be in the right state too. Clear all thoughts of your boss or annoying secretary. Remember, stress and sex do not work together. If you are going to have good sex, it is important that you establish the right mentality for her by building a spirit of love. Assess her emotional level before requesting or starting a love session. Find out if you are sexually active, overweight, or tired. It is important to know their feelings so that you can start the evening right. If you do not know your partner's feelings, she may pass them on to you as an insensitive person, and she is probably not in the mood for action, let alone the climax of excitement or orgasm.

To create a romantic atmosphere, light candles, use fragrances and small lamps, among other things, to create a romantic and stress-free atmosphere at night. You can also give her a relaxing massage for a few minutes. This may seem like a big deal, but it's not a bad idea to help your lover relax and be in the right mood. Relationships are built on a lock of unconditional love - giving without expecting in return, and remembering love is a business word. So, don't just say how much you like it, show it!

Ease Her Mind

Every day, women go through a lot of stress managing daily affairs. It could be going to work, holding meetings, having trouble at work, or even hormonal changes. A lot of things could turn off a woman's sexual cravings.

As it could be something that is easy to understand, many men find it so hard to comprehend why stress would turn off a woman's sexual urge. In fact, some men think it is normal to always be ready to go all the way.

But it shouldn't be so. The first key to unlocking the desires in your woman is easing her mind and making her calm. Help her relieve the tension that has built up so high in her veins. Soothe her with words; make her feel relieved by your presence and constant reassurance.

The main thing to do is understand the cause of her stress, understand that she needs to be calmed; once you understand these, easing her mind will be very easy to achieve.

There are several ways to help her ease her emotions and soothe her to calm.

If she is a hugger, it is ideal that you give her a very long hug. All her worries, anger, tension, whatever emotion she's feeling will come crashing in an instant. The power of a long hug is highly potent and could undo a lot of emotional stress.

An act of service like offering to prepare her a meal, going to the grocery store, and so on would go a long way in helping her feel better and relieved. Remember, she's stressed and needs to be calm. So, helping her out in areas that would relieve her is a great way to make her feel better and loved.

Do What is Needed to Make Her Happy

Unlike men, women are impressed by what they see and prefer to live by word and deed. Do not underestimate the power of positive conversations in your bedroom. You need to commit to talking to her and offering reassurances on how much you love and cherish her.

Gently hold her in your arms and ask her how she is doing and how she spent her day. Grab her waist gently and look deeply into her eyes and then speak to her in a loving and reassuring manner. Don't overdo things and don't be too hard on her; otherwise, you risk putting her off.

Respect her decision and don't try to force her to stay if she decides to take a break

Assist Her to Get Ready for the Action

Women do not automatically get into the mood for sex, even when you think you've laid the perfect framework for lovemaking. This is the time for both of you to work hand in hand. At this point, you have to work on her so you can proceed to the next stage of the lovemaking session.

If you want to keep your woman for a longer period in bed, you should encourage her to do Kegels, strengthen her vaginal muscles, further prep her pleasure, and ease all pains related to sex.

Be gentle and considerate when handling your woman because women do not like to be coerced, bullied, or controlled. Instead, help her to feel relaxed and give her the permissions to express herself.

Talk to Each Other About Your Needs

Imagine if there was a universal way to bring all women to orgasm? That would make sense, right? But the truth is that no two women are exactly the same, and no two women want to be treated in the same way. Everybody is different and wants different things. Intimacy is enhanced by learning to know your partner and their preferences for sex.

You are not a man with superpowers to read minds. Have clear and concise communication about sex with your partner. This is good and necessary for good sex leading to orgasm. When asking your partner about their sexual desires and needs, make sure you really listen to the answers so that you can give her a lasting experience.

It is usually challenging for many partners to discuss sex, even during the moment for it. Sexual problems should be freely discussed, and it could result in one or both partners feeling hurt, ashamed, guilty, or angry if the problem is not properly discussed. Communication is the bane of healthy relationships and having healthy communication with your partner about sexual issues that affect both or either of you is vital to a great lovemaking session.

Make sure you schedule time to discuss it. Your sex-related conversations should be held in the bedroom and as well at anywhere of convenience for both of you. It is certainly appropriate to tell your partner how you feel in the midst of lovemaking. It is still better to wait until you are in a more neutral position to discuss serious topics such as sexual orientation or orgasm.

Help Her Relax and Refresh Her Mind

Women's orgasms are closely related to psychological and relationship factors. This means that most women usually have to think positively with someone who makes them comfortable so that they can bring themselves to orgasm.

Building strong relationships, spending time building your romantic connection, or just texting all day long can literally inspire excitement for what's to come! If she is thinking about sex but struggling to relax and be emotional, then she will not enjoy the sex if she eventually consents to it.

Stay Away From Criticism

Criticizing your partner can turn them off. Avoid making remarks that might not go down well with them. Do not make jokes about the prowess of their body; it could turn off a woman. If they are not getting something right, don't judge them or criticize them for it. Rather, help them to get it right and encourage them. Treat a sexual problem as a problem that needs to be solved, rather than a sexual routine.

Trust Your Partner When Changes Occur in Their Body

Women love men that they can trust them. A woman's body undergoes certain changes during various stages of their lives. Menstrual discharge, pregnancy, childbirth, and menopause are examples of stages that could force changes on a woman's physique. It is much better to know what is really going on than to interpret these body changes as uncomfortable. Accepting these changes as part of your woman will help build trust between you.

Be Honest

You may think that you are protecting your partner's feelings by hiding how naïve you are about pleasing her, but you're starting down a slippery slope. Although it is difficult to talk about sexual problems, the problem increases when the case is buried under lies, emotions, and anger.

                   Do Not Fall in Love With Sexual Fantasies

Create an atmosphere of care and gentleness; touch and reassure your partner regularly. Do not blame yourself or your partner for anything that goes wrong sexually. Focus on emotional and physical intimacy in your relationship; you need to focus on these instead of sexual fantasies. If you fall in love with sexual fantasies, you will be extremely disappointed if your woman does not measure up or if you are unable to please her as you have fantasized.

                   Use Self-Help Strategies

Dealing with sexual problems is now much easier than ever before. Drugs and trained sex therapists are available if needed, but you can solve small sexual problems by making sexual adjustments. Here are a few things to try at home.

Educate Yourself: There are many tools for all kinds of sexual problems. Browse the internet or your local bookstore; select resources you have used and helped you and your partner better understand the problem. If easy language is too difficult, you and your partner can access and discuss your favorite books.

Use the Internet: The internet is an important source of all kinds of information, including books and other products (like sex toys) that can enhance your sex life. While it may be obvious, never use a work computer to do this search, in the event your employer keeps track of your search history. Even people who feel uncomfortable using their home computers and credit cards to order sexually explicit information or products online can find it in a nearby store (especially in big cities).

Take Your Time: You and your partner can improve your chances of regular sexual success by finding a peaceful, comfortable, and free sexual environment. If you think about it, it's not bad to spend a lot of time having sex. Working through these physical needs in your sexual routine can open the door to a new sexual experience.

                   Relax With Her Erotic Reactions

Is your partner about to reach an orgasm? Did she start laughing out loud suddenly? If so, you are not alone. Many women experience intense emotional waves after orgasm. These feelings are sometimes expressed through tears, laughter, or trembling. Learn to be present and talk to them emotionally, and she will have a lot of confidence in you.

Just hold her tight, have quiet sex with her (or give her space if she wants to be alone). Let all her feelings rest in your bedroom so that you are not ashamed to hear the full range of her feelings. It enables her to release her beloved being and bring more to the fore for you, with much love and intimacy.

                   Create Variety

It is a medicine for life and a bedroom. I know many women have said that they always enjoy the position of the clergy, but this innovation attracts human biology. Often, women may not know what works best for them until they try it out. To be honest, women need a lot of warmth to get into the right sexual mood. The pace will reduce as you get closer, and you can get a much stronger sexual excitement. Give her a complete body massage to bring her whole body into a relaxed, open, and physical state.

Change Roles From Time to Time: Let her take control. Keep phone or video sex separate. Tie each other up or use blindfolds. Turn off the lights and have sex with candles. Play exciting instrumental music.

Create Sexual Interaction All Day Long: Lighting does not start in the room. It starts in the morning when she lay her body next to yours. As the afternoon goes on, send her nice and dirty game notes.

                   Be Strong

While this may not work for everyone, most women crave a famous person. Remember that rules and love are not compatible. Personally, I have never met a girl who does not want to be brought into the bedroom. Women do not want a shy man; they want a vibrant young man to have sex with them.

                   Know Her Body Language

Women have different ways they hint at a man on how they want to be treated. It could be a subtle body sign such as biting of the lips or the way they move their body, eyes, moan, or react. It is vital to study your woman and know her body language as it would help you to know what she wants.

CHAPTER THREE: Step Three: Foreplay

What is foreplay? It's a wide range of fun and exciting sexual acts. Have it at the back of your mind that vaginal penetration alone might not be enough to give an orgasm. You need to spend plenty of time foreplay. Foreplay is not a race, hence don't be in a hurry to finish and get to the end of the act. If you can perfect the art of arousing her slowly and consistently, she will probably last longer in bed and find the lovemaking experience to be more pleasurable and satisfying. Your hands and tongue are tools for foreplay. To help your woman reach orgasms, work to get her aroused with hand and oral stimulation. For a lot of ladies, oral sex is their ultimate way to reach orgasm, so get into the act before the real action.

Ensure that you know the tricks to make her get aroused naturally. You can use your index finger to stimulate her clitoris. The movements of your finger should be gentle and in circular motions. Listen to her feedback and take note of both her verbal and non-verbal cues. Her soft moans and inviting body language will give you a hint that you are on the right track. After you have stimulated her clitoris, you can move to the G-spot. The G-spot is believed to be located at the top of the vaginal cavity—more details on this later.

Have Little Pep-Talks: Most men are not good at conversations, but it isn't necessary to have deep and long conversations; just small talks or whispers in each other's ears will do in this scenario. That cool, heavy voice that rings out during such moments is what contributes to making the act a lot more sensual and intimate, both for you and your woman.

Conversations (not dirty) may be less enjoyable for you, but it can bring you closer with good results. "The feeling of intimacy can be a very attractive sport for some women," Martin explains. His work with clients includes "getting used to communicating when they share their wishes, concerns, and what they like about their partner.

Use Lubricant: For a woman to have orgasms, she has to be comfortable, and she must find the lovemaking experience pleasurable, more than painful. The vagina is highly sensitive; hence if you are going to make love to her more than a couple of times, then you can use a lubricant on the vagina. This will reduce the soreness of the vagina that could make intercourse so painful and may prevent her from reaching a single orgasm.

Slippery is good, but more slippery is better. Lubricant is great for women of any age, even if your partner doesn't have problems becoming lubricated naturally on her own. Some ladies become naturally lubricated on their own after becoming wet. Regardless, it is still advisable to use a high-quality lubricant to further lubricate her, especially if you plan on having penetrative sex with her.

Her natural lubricants or wetness will eventually wear off regardless of how turned on she was, and using a lubricant will help reduce frictions and avoid tears, which means that she will keep enjoying the session. Communication is another effective lubricant. Yes, you read that well. Talk sweetly and lovingly to her while the session lasts to make sure that she reaches a climax in the best possible state.

Change Positions During Penetration Sex: Get creative here. If you are in favor of the missionary position, don't suppose that she would like it. Instead, explore new positions. This will enhance the pleasure and keep the passion alive. It will also allow your partner to reach orgasm with the excitement and experimentation of a new love position.

Woman on top is the best sex position to maximize clitoral stimulation (especially if she touches herself while riding you). On the other hand, deeper penetration via the woman straddling or the man penetrating while she's lying down with her legs in the air can promote a strong cervical orgasm.

Take Short Breaks: Taking a break does not mean you should leave the bed. If you have reached the orgasm, but you plan to continue making love to her until she also reaches a climax, you can stay in bed. To enhance your energy levels, you should hug, cuddle, kiss, and talk., Keep in mind that lovemaking is not just a physical activity or just for passing the time, and it requires emotional bonding as well. Once you've reached an orgasm, don't turn your back on her or sleep off at the instant. Instead, stare deep into her eyes and offer reassurances about how attracted you are to her and how much you cherish your time together. Do this, and odds are you won't need to strive too hard to arouse her for another session of making love.

Kisses and Caresses are Powerful Tools: Kisses and caresses do many wonders as they go a long way to keep the fire within you at a peak while your lovemaking session is on. Kissing and caressing your partner ensures that you both are aroused enough to proceed further into the act.

Let Her Take the Lead: If you really desire that she reaches an orgasm, don't call all the shots. Let her take the lead as well and dictate the rhythm and flow of things. Give her a chance when you have stimulated her enough to get into the act. This will help her be in her best mood, and you would find the experience to be a lot more satisfying and intense than you could have imagined.

Appreciate Her Efforts: Tell her, literally tell her how amazing she is and how she makes butterflies build up in your stomach every time you set your eyes on her. By complimenting her performance in bed, she will be more interested and eager to sustain the act with vigor and passion.

Foreplay Tips That Lead to Orgasms

While it is widely accepted that foreplay should take place before sexual intercourse, how long it should take, how it could be enhanced, and how it takes place are different matters entirely. There are a lot of creative things to do in bed.

In a 2017 study conducted among 52,588 women to find the difference in the frequency of orgasms during sex, women were found to have a higher chance of orgasm when their last intercourse was accompanied by deep foreplay and then vaginal penetration. Here are tips for foreplays and ideas on how to satisfy your woman with it:

Do Not Consider Foreplay to be Just a Short Time Act

If you spend a few minutes in foreplay and then rush into vagina penetration before your partner is fully aroused, your partner will not only feel cheated, but they may also tell you that you are a libido killer.

The best form of foreplay is focused on 'play,' with side contact as the goal. "If you touch or seduce your partner and you think, 'I just did this so we could have sex,' you will end up disappointed. Having foreplay for just a few minutes is not a pleasant thing, and it can be a great turnoff.

Instead, engage in foreplay for as long as possible and enjoy the fun and feelings you both have. It does not work, mostly because we call it foreplay, but the most exciting things happen when you fully focus on pleasing your partner.

Broaden Your Definition of What Foreplay Means

Foreplay takes place every minute in the relationship between you and your partner as soon as you wake up. This is because anything that affects our mind also has the potential to affect our sexuality.

It may be most rewarding to help your partner wash or do laundry to creating a close-knit activity such as cooking. Anything that removes something from your partner's work schedule and makes them feel relaxed goes a long way when it's time to have sex.

Let Her Know How Much You Want Her

Giving your partner honest compliments lets her know how much you love and appreciate her. This can make her feel even more comfortable with you when it's time for sex. Tell her how much you like her and how good she is. Knowing that you really care about her is a great boost for most women.

If you are struggling to find the right words to compliment your partner, you can send them simple SMS during the day, such as "I cannot stop thinking of you." You can also ask them what kind of foreplay they like, and their answers will help you learn something about them and how to please them. You can always be a better lover, but you are not a mind reader. Without paying attention to their answers, it would be impossible to implement what they want.

Sex is Not Just About Penetration

According to research, only 25% of women can reach orgasm by penetration sex. For men, this is quite different. Penetration sex is what gives most men orgasm. Hence you must realize that your partner is not likely to reach an orgasm through penetration; you must look at other ways to bring her to orgasm; principal among these is foreplay. 75% of women can achieve orgasm through clitoral stimulation -this should be considered your primary method of pleasing her.

Use Sex Toys

Sex toys are also great. Start with something simple; forget about an eight-foot dildo!" And shop for the right toys together. A vibrator helps to speed up a woman's arousal and gives her a mind-blowing orgasm that finger or oral stimulation might not achieve. There are many sex toys in the market that you can try out to stimulate her clitoris before, after, or during lovemaking.

You can get her in the mood for sex before you get in the room by asking her to put on a panty vibrator or any other automatic sex product that you can operate via remote control or by using an app. You'll find connection and intimacy in this secret form of foreplay.

Put Your Hands to Good Use

Most women experience orgasm, not just through sex but through clitoral stimulation. Remember that the clitoris is a book that matches the shape of the penis. Imagine trying to reach an orgasm without touching your penis; this should make you understand the importance of clitoral stimulation.

Make your touch firm but tender. Usually, this is dependent on what she considered to be sensuous or tolerable. You are going to need to get touchy and focus on her erogenous zones. You should cut out the monotony of rushing into the holes. Take your time with a long, drawn-out erotic dance with the eyes, lips, and tongue. Spend hot, copious time making out with her.

Once you can touch her effectively at the right places with your hands, you can regularly bring her to orgasm. Give her first orgasms with your hands, and then you will continue to have sex. She will enjoy even more pleasures as you become a touch expert to warm her up.

Breath Work is Not Just Limited to the Yoga Class

If you have not heard of breathing exercises, it is defined as 'conscious and controlled breathing solely for relaxation, meditation, or therapeutic purposes.' It can help your partner (and you, if you are trying to play) reconnect with their body between life stress and anxiety.

It may seem strange to do breathe exercises as foreplay; but it works really well because it gets her out of their thinking, control, judgment, planning, and attitude of how she feels. Communicate and feel – it is a great way to have sex with so many women.

Know and Pleasure Her Erogenous Spots

A woman's orgasm is quite different from that man. While female orgasm lasts much longer than that of the man, it can be difficult to reach the climax, but unlike men, most women need a level of foreplay to reach their peak. Fortunately, certain pleasure points will help make the journey to orgasm a lot smoother.

In fact, a poll conducted by the Journal of Sex & Marital Therapy showed that 80 percent of women do not reach orgasm from penetrative sex. In other words, they can't reach orgasm without clitoral stimulation.

The Top Six Erogenous Points for Female Orgasm

The Clitoris

Instead of thrusting in and out of her mindlessly, I suggest letting your fingers do the work, exploring her clitoris. You can caress and play with it gently to help her reach orgasm as the clitoris is made up of about eight thousand sensitive nerve endings. Besides, the clit becomes erect while lovemaking (the same way a penis does), and it is a highly erogenous spot.

Stimulating the clitoris is key to making a woman reach orgasm. The average woman needs about twenty minutes of clitoris stimulation to reach climax. To stimulate the clitoris, it is advised to be slow, subtle, and soft. You have to let your partner guide you faster and harder if or when she's ready. Use your fingers, tongue, a vibrator to stimulate her clitoris. This can be done while penetrating her vagina, but always have it in mind that the external stimulation is more important.

One way to add excitement is to use the back of your hand to rub her clitoris. You may need to grab, stir, or push quickly. Do it gently or a little harder.

Use your fingers, tongue, toys, and your lips to work on the clitoris. Lick and kiss the clitoris and use your finger to work on the inside of her vagina while resisting the urge to dive between her legs. Use your lips to stimulate her clitoris to make her more excited and aroused.

Place your palm on the pubic wall and wrap all five fingers over the vagina.

Squeeze her vagina together to create warmth.

Rub slowly and gently at first and then increase the speed and pressure by following the rhythm of her hips.

Spread your palm wide on her vagina lips; during this process, open your fingers to form a W (or V) and scroll up and down, opening and closing your fingers. Use more lubricant to reduce the pressure and increase as the pleasure increases.

Touch every inch of her body to enhance pleasure

Start from her lips down to her neck and breast, do it with streaks, pressure, moisture, and movement across the surface of her skin. Once you have touched every inch of her body, wrap her in a hug before diving between her legs.

The Breasts

The woman's breasts are very sensitive to sexual stimulation, and women can be easily turned on when fondled properly. While some women can achieve orgasm only through breast stimulation, it can be a spasm for others. You have to find out what works perfectly for your woman and step up your game accordingly.

Treat the breasts with a touch of skill. Do not forget the breasts in the excitement of the whole adventure. Women's breasts are very pleasureful and exciting, but they are usually not touched with great care. Learn how to touch her breasts with massage-inspired techniques so you can incorporate more breast love in all phases of love.

The Nipples: The nipples are extremely sensitive body parts that induce sexual arousal. Play with her nipples, suck them, fondle them, flicker them with your fingers, bite or pinch them, as long as the intense feelings are mutual. There are sex toys are specifically designed for nipple play. And yeah! You can also use a vibrator to give her crazy nipple orgasm sensations to spice up your sex life.

The Nape of the Neck

The reason why shivers run down the 'back' and not your stomach is not far-fetched; the nape of your neck and back contain many nerve endings. A gentle, sensual touch around the neck is capable of getting things heated. You can give her soft kisses on the nape as it can help to fire arouse her tingling sensations.

The Inner Thighs

The inner thigh is an erogenous spot as well. Use your fingertips softly to brush across it and keep doing it until she becomes aroused. Before moving on to the delicate parts, make a point of pausing at her inner thighs and light the fires of passion in her.

The Lips

Explore new ways of kissing ahead of taking the usual route of kissing to initiate foreplay. You can start by caressing her lips and kissing them gently. A woman's lips can be one of the most sensitive zones, and to deliver an orgasmic kiss, add a different dimension to your kiss.

Do you know the first time you kissed? If you do, then you should know that kissing is the best chemical test and one of the fastest ways to bond with your sex partner. Relax enthusiastically as you push your whole body into her body. Let your body be in full contact with her body, paying attention to pressure, texture, temperature, and body line.

Use your mouth on her body (not as you think). Place your mouth on her skin and breathe on it or kiss and lick a sensitive part of her body, like the nape of the neck and gently inhale the scent of her warm skin.

Start from the neck and change the way you breathe to test the temperature. Your mouth should create warm air, and your lips should be cool on her skin. Work on the sides of her breast with your mouth, then suck and play with her nipples. Doing it slowly is the key here; if she does not ask you to move up, take your time as you go down between her legs. Keep using an air cushion to focus on every inch of her body.

The G-Spot

The G-spot, or Grafenberg spot, as named after the gynecologist who first identified it, is a mound of super-sensitive sponge-like tissue situated within the vaginal roof just inside the entrance. Stimulating the G-spot properly can result in intense orgasms. Due to its difficult-to-reach location and the fact that it is mainly successfully stimulated manually, the G-spot is not usually activated for most women during penetrative sex. While this has led people to doubt its existence, studies have shown that there is a different sort of tissue there.

Your woman must be sexually aroused for you to be able to locate her G-spot. To locate it, try rubbing your finger in a beckoning motion along the roof of her vagina while she's in a squatting or sitting position, or massage the upper surface of her vagina till you notice a specifically sensitive area. Some women are usually more sensitive, and their men can locate the spot easily, but it may be difficult for others.

Don't be bothered if you can't easily find it. During sex, many women believe that the G-spot can be most easily stimulated if the man penetrates from behind. For partners dealing with erection problems, foreplay that involves the G-spot can be a positive addition to lovemaking.

The vagina, on the other hand, has very few nerve endings. Hence, vagina penetration is not pleasurable enough for most women.

CHAPTER FOUR: Step Four: Oral Sex

You have probably heard of fellatio, cunnilingus, going down, rimming, blow job earlier? How did hearing that make you feel? Cringy? Did it make you feel hot? Or did it spark curiosity? That's most likely one of the reasons why you are reading this book right now. You should feel shy or negative about it. It is a sexual experience you would glorify when you get to know to do it in the right way. You should not even feel shy about that in the least. And because you are determined to give your partner her best night ever, oral sex cannot but be on the table.

For the records, so we don't mix things up, oral sex basically involves using your mouth, tongue, or lips to stimulate and arouse your partner through their sexual organs. This would mean the several ways of licking, tongue-flicking, suctioning, and sucking, and even occasionally, it may involve biting that induces sexual pleasure.

The vagina is graciously juicy, something we probably cannot say about penises. And while talking about the vagina, we should remember the holy grail of feminine pleasure points- the clitoris. It is basically the most sensual part of a woman's body. Although, not all women feel this, as some do not even have it (it's been cut off from the inhumane practice of female genital mutilation in some parts of the world). Those who have medical conditions like vaginismus have a great deal of difficulty having penetrative sex. This is because the muscles of the vagina involuntarily contract in such a manner that causes unbearable pain. This is usually a psychosomatic condition as it is not linked to any genital deformity whatsoever.

Before you agree to perform oral sex on anybody, make sure they do not have a sexually transmitted disease. It is highly advised that you only perform oral sex on your monogamous partner. Or rather get a tongue condom and make sure you have no cuts on your face.

Good Taste and Smell vs. Otherwise: It's fine for the vagina to have some smell. Just make sure the smell is fine. Regardless of how great your hygiene is, there will always be a smell down there. This should not discourage you from allowing yourself to indulge in the ecstatic pleasures of oral sex. If you are really worried about it, you might always want to take a warm shower before sex. If you cannot, using a non-fragrant wet wipe around your genital area will do the trick. It is fine for eliminating harmful bacteria that may be dangerous when it touches the tongue. Ensure it is something that will not mess up the vagina pH levels and cause serious health issues.

You may also want to shave or wax away your pubic hair. Although a few people like the hair, it may be a major source of the odor, just like the armpits.

The taste of the vagina or seminal secretions is another thing you should understand. It can have a natural tangy, metallic, sour, sweet, sharp, bitter taste depending on your diet. If your partner does not have health complications and sticks with a good diet, there should not be a problem, but if you are worried that your secretions are tasting particularly bitter, you might want to cut out garlic, cabbage, onions, asparagus, broccoli, and dairy products.

Keep Communication Flowing: It is exigent that when you wish to delight her, make sure you are both on the same mental page as to everything that will be going down. To be frank, you have to gain her enthusiastic permission for every different act and move you will be making. Not only is consent sexy, but it can also save you from a lot of legal and social battles that you might spend enormous time and resources fighting for the rest of your life. So, get that consent tang!!

First things first, set her in the mood for a long, steamy time with a hot make-out session. Do not take off her clothes without exploring all that is underneath it. Her body is the canvas, and you are Picasso; you will be doing great by picking that ass, ooh! This may be a wholly novel experience for you, so you should probably start with the basics.

Take Your Time and Relax: Make your woman relax as much as possible. When it comes to the not-so-mainstream areas of sex, it is normal that people might be a little uncomfortable initially. It might be due to a lot of factors like whether they are not comfortable enough in their own skin to allow someone to see their vaginas. You would be surprised at people who would have sex but always in the dark without allowing their partners to see their bodies or sex organs.

You should spend a lot of time kissing and massaging her body. Rub her thighs and kiss her neck down to her breasts and tummy and also, more passionately, her upper, inner thighs and the areas around her vagina. You should know the entire body of a woman is sensual, and you only need to unlock her sensuality. Rushing definitely is not the key.

Make Her Feel Relaxed About Getting Oral Sex: Typically, oral sex is the greatest way to make a woman reach an orgasm. Of course, the man has a lot to do when it comes to oral sex. The stimulation is usually more precise, and a man has to be gentle and patient.

There are women who are skeptical about receiving oral sex. They worry about the odor; they might be thinking that it is unhygienic, and for those with religious morals; it is something that is frowned upon. Reassure your woman and be slow and gentle when you begin. Don't rush; do it at her own pace to help her feel relaxed. Before the whole action starts, you can both have a shower together to prep her for what lies ahead.

Do you know how you can make good use of your penis? Good! Now add your mouth to the list. Most men want to please women and will do so much more than their partners allow! When it comes to oral sex, their ease and acceptance are just as important as your willingness to encourage them orally. But many women find it difficult to relax from the pleasure of cunnilingus. So, work with her to improve her comfort so that you can both enjoy oral sex.

Many women think they are outwardly disabled and hold back for fear of wanting to be natural or unwanted. Before you can fully enjoy oral sex, she must accept that she is happy between her thighs. The first step? Assure her that you like the look, smell, and taste of her vagina. Praise her and hold her closer to you.

Start Out With the Basics: Softly start a top-bottom flickering movement with your tongue and vary the speed and rhythm as she responds. You can also use your hand to rub her clitoris as you toy with your tongue over her vulva, outer labia, and inner labia. You should be able to give all her parts adequate sensual attention. If you are going to rub the clit, make sure your hands are not dry, or they may put her off. Though not everybody reacts to this, it's better you err on the side of caution, especially if it is your first time with her. You do not want to ruin things with a simple mistake. The butt hole is also an erogenous spot that would be needing your attention. That is if you happen to be on board with that. But as a novice at oral sex, you may want to stick to sensually squeezing her buttocks for now. You know, take things slowly.

Drag your lips over her labia majora back and forth while you make sure you graze her minora but not settle on it. You might need to get an anatomical diagram of the female organ to understand things. Put your middle and index fingers in and curve them inwards a little and push them upwards to locate her G-spot, which is about the top of the vagina behind her clitoris. Make a beckoning motion with your fingers. You may also wish to include sex toys like a tiny vibrator to imitate your fingering motions. This would have her reeling in ecstasy and help her achieve a mind-blowing orgasm.

Silence is Not Golden When it Comes to Oral: Ignorance is not bliss in the context of sex. You have to know what your partner likes, and you have to give it to them. The only way you are going to eliminate ignorance is to communicate effectively what each party wants. You are not an apocalyptic mind reader and neither partner. Subtle signs can be read, but they should be clearly discussed to prevent miscommunication, leading to disastrous outcomes. It is only logical that when your partner likes certain activities, she should talk to you about it to improve your performance of such acts. She should also tell you the ones she does not enjoy as much. Although sometimes, for some reason, people feel shy or defensive about certain activities, when you give a person access to do what they want with your body, you will be able to enjoy all that they will do with it. Otherwise, it becomes manipulative and mischievous.

Have a go at yourselves at turns. That way, you would make it a more immersive and interactive experience rather than just lie down there like a sack of tired potatoes. If eye contact can effectively communicate, then it should be used. Effective communication, especially with sex, can be highly subjective, and it differs from one couple to another. The most important things are to know what works for both of you, when it works for you, and how it does. You should pay close attention to each other's needs as much as possible.

Give Oral Sex Everything You’ve Got: You should know that what is regarded as penetrative sex, which is usually the penis-in-vagina activity, does not allow the vast majority of women to reach an orgasm. This is usually because the female body's main orgasm-inducing organ, which is the clitoris, is mostly neglected. In fact, in most cases, what we call sex is basically the man masturbating with the body of a woman. The woman feels no pleasure, and it is endured rather than enjoyed. A survey showed that as much as 92% of women have never experienced a coital orgasm. You honestly don't want your woman to become a statistic.

You should keep in mind that the clitoris is a lot like the male penis. It is a male penis that got mutated by the XX chromosome. It is twice as sensitive and smaller than the male penis. The whole female organ should be especially venerated if you want to give your girl the best sex she'll not be forgetting in a hurry. You need to make love to the entire organ. From the clitoris to its hood, the vulva, the labia, and the G and A spots. They should all be passionately sucked, licked, and stimulated respectively to give your lover a complete orgasm.

CHAPTER FIVE: Step Five: Choosing the Best Sex Position

When you bring something new and fascinating into the bedroom, you make up for an exciting experience and a wonderful ending. You share a lot in your passion and satisfaction with your partner.

It can also work wonders in your relationship. One of the biggest challenges for intimacy is the loss of freshness in the bedroom. Exploring on the bed increases emotional intimacy and stimulates the growth of love. New sexual positions will encourage you and your partner to be more vulnerable to each other in the bedroom. Beyond the bedroom, your relationship will eventually become enhanced.

In some cases, a position change may be necessary. Suppose you feel eager to have sex on the table. In that case, you could benefit from exploring a range of comfortable positions for people with different capacities, such as for people with chronic pain or incontinence pain. It is not the only option to have such a painless position. It's easy for it to become a regular habit once you get used to the relaxed and still burning atmosphere. Below are ten of the most popular sexual positions that can give orgasm:

Corkscrew

How to Do This: Move your partner near the edge of the bed or chair, let her relax her waist, stretch out her arms, and pinch her thighs together. Get on your feet and grind her from the back. Instead of doing all the work alone, ask your partner to push her hips slightly to match the rhythm.

Benefit: If she squeezes her legs with this sexual position, you will be able to exert more pressure on the wall of the vagina.

Face-Off

Where to Do This: Sit in a chair or on the edge of the bed, pull her closer, and let her sit on your lap. Let your fingers (and hands) be in use. After getting the positioning right, you can lay your hands over her body to keep things interesting.

Benefit: Through this sexual position, you control the angle and depth of penetration and focus. Sitting is extra support and is. therefore, ideal for marathon sex.

Doggy Style

How to Do This: Ask your partner to go on all fours, then you kneel behind her with your torso straight or slightly bent over her (you know, like a crawling dog). Hold her waist with one hand, or ask her to hold on firmly.

Benefit: This sexual position allows deeper penetration and easier movement of the G-spot.

Pretzel Dip

How to Do This: Kneel down while your partner lies to her right, stretch her right leg and bend her left leg to your left. Ask your partner to rub her clitoris while you penetrate.

Benefits: With this sexual position, you go deeper into the dog style and still make important eye contact. Or if it's not your thing to start, your partner can easily fight you with shared motivation.

Flatiron

How to Do This: Your partner will lie with her chest on the bed, her legs straight and her hips slightly raised. Ask her to take a few shallow breaths and deep breaths to keep her going for longer.

Benefits: This sexual position offers a light balance that makes your penis bigger than it actually is.

G-Whiz

How to Do This: Allow your partner to lie on her back and place her legs on your shoulders. Then move by running from side to side or from top to top. It should bring the penis as a belt in direct contact with the G-spot.

Benefit: This sexual position is good because if she lifts your legs, it lowers her vagina and helps it identify the G-spot.

Cowgirl's Helper

How to Do This: Let your partner kneel like a famous cattle girl, then press your chest and move her thighs up and down, but support her gravity to keep her hips or thighs in balance with her back. Thrust your penis slowly and deep to stimulate different parts of the vagina.

Benefit: This sex style puts pressure on your partner's leg and makes it easier to climb. It is the leading female position that slows down the climax - so everyone wins.

Wheelbarrow

How to Do This: Suspend the weight of your partner by resting her hand on the floor. Stand at her back and raise her legs and hips towards yourself. Then you can penetrate from the rear position.

Benefit: In addition to a great deal of pleasure, this sexual position provides women with deeper penetration.

Leapfrog

How to Do This: This is a personal doggy style. Ask your partner to sit on her hands and knees, then hold her buttocks up and rest her head and arms on the bed. Use your hands to stimulate the clitoris while you penetrate.

Benefit: This sexual position allows deep penetration - and gives you the opportunity to relax on the pillow.

                   Stand and deliver

How to Do This: Bend her at the waist while she's standing, and you are moving backward. Rub her clitoris with a free hand while you penetrate to get the best out of the sexual encounter.

Benefit: Bending during sex helps to make the walls of the vagina stronger and stronger.

CHAPTER SIX: Fetishism

A lot of people seem to think fetishes and kinks are dark, devilish no-go areas when we talk about sex. that is why the majority of people have a dull sex life; they usually feel nothing spectacular about sex. Your sex life should be satisfying and infinitely attractive. It should be like a daffodil's meadow in the middle of a warm summer. I want mine to be fiery, though. It is all a matter of personal desires, which kinks and fetishes are mostly about.

There is an ever-present hush-hush on the topic of sexuality in our societies that it is getting more uncomfortable the longer it lingers like a raunchy fart after a meal of eggs and baked beans. Despite the levels of sophistication and civilization we as a species lay claim to today, it is an increasingly deep feeling. I mean, sex is a biological need. Just like eating and shitting. Why do we have this drawn-out awkward silence around it? This creepy silence even compounds when it gets to topics about female sexuality and sexual pleasure that just feels so weirdly un-21st century-like.

It is normal that some men do not want to be termed as a sexual pervert; hence, they try to repress their sexual fantasies as much as they can even though they would like to explore beyond the usual sexual adventures widely accepted by society as normal. This involves sex previously seen as a chore or a physical activity rather than an amazing and thrilling experience.

In recent times, especially with the millennial generation, there is a better acceptance of sexuality. This even goes beyond the mainstream into accepting sexual spheres like pansexuality, homosexuality, and fetishism. Fetishism has always been around since forever. The word itself was taken from anthropological writings where "fetish" referred to objects thought to possess magical or spiritual powers. It was coined by Portuguese colonialists from West Africa who used it to describe the religious worship of objects that were found by the Africans. Its influence in the psycho-sexual domain is traced back to Sigmund Freud in his Three Contributions to the Theory of Sex. Fetishism is basically a psychological condition that explains why humans have the urge to attribute sexual fantasies to non-sexual objects or activities to achieve sexual gratification.

Although kinks and fetishes are getting a lot of general acceptance, they still feel like a taboo. A fetish technically refers to sexual attraction to an inanimate object, though this includes body parts, like the fingers and feet. (See what a foot fetish is). Usually, a fetish may be a form of kink. For the beginner, learning about what kinks and fetishes are might feel a bit queasy, but let me explain what kinks and fetishes are.

A kink is described as a sexual activity that falls outside of what society historically considers acceptable, and that may embody everything from role-playing to the objectification of your partner's body.

The Kunyaza: This is an ancient African straight sexual style whereby the man rubs the clitoris and the vulva walls of the woman with his erect penis without going inside. The vulva is the external walls of the genitals. You can rub her clit in a uniform, regular pattern and watch as she reacts through her breathing. You basically take charge and mount pressure on and off the clit and vulva. Stimulate her clitoris, give her nice, hot sensuous tapping, stroke on it and around it but do not penetrate her. As she nears orgasm, flick her nipples and nibble on them while bringing her closer to the convulsing peak.

The main idea of Kunyaza is to make your lover squirt without penetration. Literally, it means "to make piss" or "to squeeze the juice out of,"'…so you get the basic idea.

The Magic Mountain: This is a cocktail of mutual masturbation, cross masturbation, and dry humping, basically. Talk about exotic erotic. You sit across each other and inch nearer till your bodies are touching and are within reach of your partner. Make sure your bodies are in the full glare of each other's sight. Your ravenous eye contacts are constantly needed here. Make sure the genitals are facing each other. Let your sight soak in your lover's body. Visual stimulation is significant in getting you ready to go down. You can start by masturbating individually while taking cognizance of what styles are most appealing to your partner, then reach across and help her out. Nothing is as stimulating as when the person she loves helping her get off. Midway, don't restrict your hands to the vagina and explore other areas of her luscious body. Run your palms around her inner thigh while kissing her neck passionately. Rub her laps and squeeze her butt. You can as well add taps and spanks if she likes it a bit rough. You can grind on each other's bodies to culminate satisfaction.

CONCLUSION

A lot of men suck when they have sex. But to be honest, it's not all men's fault. The resources available for men's sexual grooming are often misleading or not adequate. Most men have the following as a sex guide:

Porn: Mostly absurd and unrealistic. A big hard penis thrusts for 15 minutes full of power, while the actress moans and will professionally fake an orgasm to complete the scene.

Friends: Often give bad advice because they do not know much better themselves. The advice is based on 'strategies' only. While some help, many are way off the mark or wrong. You do not need 43 ways to stimulate a clitoris.

They do not all have the true essence of a great lover. How can a woman feel the sexual climax that she desires? How can you turn her on until she has an orgasm? The more sexually enlightened you are, the more likely you are to bring your woman to orgasm. The good thing is that every man can learn to be better at sex, regardless of how bad they are at sex.

Now that you are done with this book, I can bet that you are raring to go at the moment. Remember achieving your aim of bringing her to orgasm may not happen within a day of reading this. You have to practice consistently what is written here for a significant result.

After that, I can assure you are on your way to becoming the best lover in her life.