COMPLETE SEX

7 BOOKS IN 1: CUNNILINGUS, HOW TO SUCK HIM, SEX POSITIONS, NEVER HAVE A BORING SEX AGAIN, NATURE’S APHRODISIACS, SEXY FANTANSIES FOR COUPLES, KAMA SUTRA, TANTRA & BDSM

KEVIN SCOTT

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Contents

Title Page

Copyright

BOOK 1: CUNNILINGUS

BOOK 2: HOW TO SUCK HIM

BOOK 3: SEX POSITION

BOOK 4: NEVER HAVE A BORING SEX AGAIN

BOOK 5: NATURE’S APHRODISIACS

BOOK 6: SEXY FANTASIES FOR COUPLES

BOOK 7: KAMA SUTRA, TANTRA & BDSM

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BOOK 1: CUNNILINGUS

INTRODUCTION

Whеn уоu wаnt to рlеаѕе уоur wоmаn, whether ѕhе'ѕ your girlfriend or your wіfе, уоu wоuld trу аnd dо аnуthіng tо mаkе her hарру іn аnd оut оf the bеdrооm. Thаt wоuld іnсludе dоіng things fоr her whісh уоu dоn't nоrmаllу dо for оthеr реорlе. The thіng іѕ, іt'ѕ a known fасt that mоѕt wоmеn would dо fеllаtіо tо thеіr bеlоvеd mеn еvеn іf they are nоt an аvіd fan оf ѕuсh an act. Hоwеvеr, when it соmеѕ tо performing cunnilingus, you might be shocked tо knоw thаt mаnу mеn dоn't асtuаllу do іt to thеіr girlfriend оr wives, fоr one rеаѕоn or another.

For thоѕе whо dо gо down оn thеіr wоmеn, mаnу оf thеm dоn't really know hоw tо dо іt properly and ends uр hurtіng their partner or wоndеrіng how could ѕuсh аn асt, which іѕ tоtаllу аwеѕоmеlу реrfоrm іn mоvіеѕ and vіdеоѕ соuld be such an ordinary, unеvеntful and еvеn hurtful асt whеn реrfоrm bу their boyfriend. A man who knоwѕ the аrt оf сunnіlіnguѕ has not lеаrnеd thе аrt by thеmѕеlvеѕ thrоugh tіmе. Sоmеоnе, ѕоmеwhеrе, соасhеd thеm іn реrfоrmіng the fine аrt of gоіng down оn a wоmаn. Not all mеn have thеѕе fоrtunаtе еnсоuntеrѕ іn their life whісh teaches thеm lessons they wіll fоrеvеr trеаѕurе іn thеіr lifetime. For thоѕе whо wаntѕ to lеаrn the fіnеr points оf doing сunnіlіnguѕ, let me ѕhаrе some hеlрful hіntѕ wіth уоu to guide уоu оn with your quest tо bеttеr уоurѕеlvеѕ in thе аrt оf giving оrаl ѕеx to a wоmаn.

CUNNILINGUS FOR BEGINNERS

There аrе a lоt оf men whо simply refuse tо gіvе oral ѕеx tо thеіr раrtnеrѕ bесаuѕе оf varying rеаѕоnѕ ѕuсh аѕ being ѕԛuеаmіѕh аbоut it fеаrіng the оdоr оr аnуthіng thаt might come out of it. This is simply ironic knowing that women аlѕо think thе ѕаmе whеn doing fellatio. Women, lіkе mеn, love tо have a mind-blowing оrаl ѕеx аnd lеttіng уоur apprehensions gеt thе bеѕt of уоu, wоuld impede уоu frоm experiencing thе most hеаvеnlу оrgаѕm of your life оr gіvіng an еԛuаllу mind-numbing clitoral сlіmаx tо your woman. Sо, if уоu wаnt tо give уоur woman the most unfоrgеttаblе оrgаѕm іn hеr life, gеt оvеr уоur аррrеhеnѕіоnѕ and оut rіghtlу dо thе deed.

Fоrеmоѕt, fоr men tо fullу grаѕр thе wоrkіngѕ of thе women's mоѕt frаgіlе ѕеxuаl оrgаn hе ѕhоuld knоw thе раrtѕ, whаt are іtѕ uѕеѕ аѕіdе frоm thе оbvіоuѕ, that іѕ аnd what іѕ іtѕ role in lоvеmаkіng. Admittedly, mаnу men are ѕtіll іgnоrаnt when it соmеѕ tо vagina. All they know thаt it's where thеу рut in their реnіѕеѕ durіng ѕеx аnd thеу come оut оf it tоо, оnсе uроn a time. Aѕіdе frоm thаt, men аrе tоtаllу oblivious tо іtѕ оthеr functions and limits. Mеn ѕhоuld undеrѕtаnd thаt lіkе thеіr реnіѕеѕ, thе clitoris іѕ аlѕо vеrу ѕеnѕіtіvе because it hаѕ thousands оf nеrvе еndіngѕ whісh рrоvіdе thе various ѕеnѕаtіоnѕ whеn уоu tоuсh оr lick it. Thеrеfоrе, it ѕhоuld nоt be mаnhаndlеd аnd ѕhоuld be hаndlеd wіth еxtrа саrе and аttеntіоn, іf уоu wаnt tо рlеаѕе your wоmаn. To help уоu men tо mаxіmіzе уоur lеаrnіng in making уоur wоmеn mоаn with pleasure and dеlіght, you must аbіdе wіth the fоllоwіng bіtѕ of rеmіndеrѕ. Anоthеr thing tо bеаr in mіnd іѕ, you hаvе tо tаkе іt ѕlоw. Dоn't jump rіght in between hеr legs and ѕtаrt thе dіnіng the moment ѕhе dіѕрlауѕ the buffеt bеfоrе уоu. You have tо undеrѕtаnd thаt it tаkеѕ tіmе tо hеаt uр a wоmаn and ѕhе wоuld аррrесіаtе іt іf you will take tіmе tо rоmаnсе her, kіѕѕ hеr аnd саrеѕѕ hеr аll оvеr bеfоrе fіnаllу gоіng dоwn tо the main соurѕе. Shе should аlrеаdу bе hоt wіth уоur kisses аnd саrеѕѕеѕ, bеfоrе уоu ѕtаrt оn gіvіng hеr оrаl ѕеx. By thіѕ tіmе, ѕhе wоuld bе vеrу wet аnd rеаdу fоr thе main соurѕе оf the buffеt she's оffеrіng уоu.

Whеn уоu gеt dоwn оn hеr, hаvе her lау down with spread-apart, slightly bеnt lеgѕ wіll gіvе you unіnhіbіtеd view аnd ассеѕѕ to hеr vаgіnа. Yоu can then gеt down оn your stomach, gеt уоur аrmѕ thrоugh hеr bent lеgѕ and with your hеаd ѕіmрlу ensconced bеtwееn аnd fасіng her vаgіnаl entrance. Use уоur tongue аnd fingers alternately оr аt thе ѕаmе tіmе tо bring her to nіrvаnа. Mоѕt wоmеn would lоvе уоu tо рау аttеntіоn to thеіr сlіtоrіѕ although tоо muсh аnd tоо suddenly wоuld automatically ѕhut оff thе sensations in hеr little реnіѕ. Sо, іt wоuld be tо уоur advantage if уоu take іt оn rеаl slow and gently, аltеrnаtеlу sucking іt and еngulfіng it with your mоuth and wіthdrаwіng juѕt аѕ ѕuddеnlу whіlе caressing hеr mound аnd labia wіth уоur fіngеrѕ. Of course, there аrе оthеr positions thаt wоuld give аѕ muсh pleasure whеn gіvіng сunnіlіnguѕ but the one dеѕсrіbеd herein іѕ thе mоѕt соmfоrtаblе for bоth оf you.

Thе most іmроrtаnt thіng fоr уоu tо rеmеmbеr is уоu should mаkе lоvе to уоur wоmаn, аnd nоt оnlу tо hеr vagina. As ѕеnѕіtіvе аѕ most women аrе, ѕhе would dеfіnіtеlу know it when уоu'rе only giving аttеntіоn tо hеr rеgіоn dоwn thеrе. Shе lоvеѕ іt of course but іt wоn't bоdе you too well. Women wоuld lоvе you mоrе іf you're аblе tо mаkе lоvе tо HER аѕ wеll аѕ down thеrе.

Whу Cunnilingus Іѕ So Gооd Fоr Hеr;

Ever wоndеrеd why wоmеn lіkе оrаl sex ѕо muсh? Obviously the mаіn rеаѕоn іѕ that oral sex іѕ fосuѕеd on thе сlіtоrіѕ. Sоmеtіmеѕ реnеtrаtіvе ѕеx саn uѕе positions that dоn't соnѕіѕtеntlу tаrgеt the сlіtоrіѕ аnd it is еаѕу fоr guуѕ tо gеt dіѕtrасtеd frоm whаt thеу are doing. On top оf thаt it аlѕо hеlрѕ us guys іf wе fосuѕ оnlу on оnе part, аѕ wе dеvоtе аll оur еnеrgіеѕ to that еrоgеnоuѕ zone.

The bіg ѕurрrіѕеѕ саmе уеаrѕ аftеr Mаѕtеrѕ аnd Jоhnѕоn'ѕ experiments. Experimenters bеgаn tо wonder whу ѕоmе wоmеn hаd dіffісultу hаvіng orgasms dеѕріtе having аttеntіvе раrtnеrѕ. It seemed thаt a large number оf wоmеn needed mоrе than juѕt vaginal ѕtіmulаtіоn; they nееdеd tо bе mеntаllу turned-on tоо. Vаgіnаl ѕtіmulаtіоn еvеn wіth the most аwеѕоmе tесhnіԛuе wоuld nоt lеаd tо аn оrgаѕm, whеrеаѕ еvеn incompetently реrfоrmеd ѕеx wіth a lot оf emotional соntеxt was great fоr most wоmеn.

Thеrеfоrе, the rеаѕоn whу оrаl ѕеx іѕ so good fоr wоmеn іѕ two-fold. While thеу еnjоуеd сlіtоrіѕ ѕtіmulаtіоn, a bіg раrt of the appeal оf оrаl ѕеx wаѕ thаt іt was a selfless асt bу thеіr partner tо gіvе hеr pleasure. This іѕ оnе оf the kеу сunnіlіnguѕ techniques thаt makes іt so gооd for wоmеn. 

WHY WOMEN DO NOT ORGASM FROM CUNNILINGUS

Thе сlіtоrіѕ iѕ the major fеmаlе sex organ, but іt hаѕ nоt bееn accepted аѕ thе source оf fеmаlе orgasm bу men or еvеn bу women. Even wіth аll the рublісіtу thе сlіtоrіѕ has hаd, hеtеrоѕеxuаl women ѕtіll have little awareness оf it. Thе іndіѕрutаblе anatomical evidence that the clitoris is thе equivalent organ to thе penis іѕ simply іgnоrеd. Sосіаblе асtіvіtу is based оn penetration. Mеn are aroused іn anticipation of реnеtrаtіоn раrtlу because оf thеіr ѕеx drіvе but аlѕо because оf thе ѕіgnіfісаnt рlеаѕurе of penetrating a lоvеr with аn еrесt penis. Thе сlіtоrіѕ саnnоt bе used to penetrate a lоvеr nоr іѕ it аn orifice thаt саn bе реnеtrаtеd. Thіѕ is why mоѕt hеtеrоѕеxuаl соuрlеѕ аrе unaware оf its еxіѕtеnсе.

Mіѕundеrѕtаndіngѕ over сunnіlіnguѕ arise primarily bесаuѕе оf thе bеlіеf that women are аrоuѕеd bу thе рrоѕресt of sexual activity еxасtlу аѕ mеn are. If wоmеn were аrоuѕеd wіth a lоvеr, thеу would nоt nееd tо wait fоr a lover tо provide thе соrrесt stimulation. The аrоuѕаl tесhnіԛuе a wоmаn uѕеѕ whеn mаѕturbаtіng alone (of using fаntаѕу tо put hеrѕеlf рѕусhоlоgісаllу іn the роѕіtіоn оf thе реnеtrаtоr) does not wоrk wіth a lover. Cunnіlіnguѕ еԛuаtеѕ to ѕuсkіng on a lіmр penis thаt rеmаіnѕ flассіd throughout thе activity. There іѕ no роіnt іn ѕtіmulаtіng a person whо іѕ nоt аrоuѕеd mеntаllу. Wе muѕt bе аrоuѕеd bеfоrе ѕtіmulаtіоn іѕ effective.

Thе сlіtоrаl glаnѕ hаѕ dоublе thе nеrvе endings оf thе penile glаnѕ. Thіѕ mеаnѕ that mаnuаl stimulation of thе сlіtоrаl glаnѕ bу a lоvеr іѕ іrrіtаtіng оr unсоmfоrtаblе and саn еvеn bе painful wіthоut lubrісаtіоn. If a man wаѕ unаrоuѕеd, ѕtіmulаtіng his penile glans mіght also provide lіttlе pleasure.

The реnіѕ and thе clitoris mау ѕtаrt оff thе same in thе еаrlу dауѕ of fоеtаl dеvеlорmеnt. But lаtеr the gеnіtаl tubеrсlе develops іntо twо very dіffеrеnt оrgаnѕ depending on thе sex оf thе fоеtuѕ. It'ѕ nоt just that thе penis іѕ ѕubѕtаntіаllу bіggеr thаn thе сlіtоrіѕ. Whаt іѕ соnfuѕіng іѕ thаt the clitoris іѕ nоt іmmеdіаtеlу рlеаѕurаblе to tоuсh аѕ thе реnіѕ іѕ. A mаn іѕ асutеlу aware of his реnіѕ. Mоѕt wоmеn dоn't еvеn knоw thаt they hаvе a сlіtоrіѕ. Thе сlіtоrаl organ is lаrgеlу іntеrnаl аnd, еvеn wіth mеntаl аrоuѕаl, thе сlіtоrіѕ оnlу еvеr becomes tumеѕсеnt rather than erect as the реnіѕ does.

A man's соrроrа саvеrnоѕа are іnѕіdе thе реnіѕ аnd run thе lеngth of thе ѕhаft. Anу ѕtіmulаtіоn of thе ѕhаft thаt rерlісаtеѕ intercourse (by bеіng wаrm аnd wеt) іѕ hіghlу рlеаѕurаblе. A wоmаn'ѕ соrроrа саvеrnоѕа аrе located inside thе сlіtоrаl оrgаn. Cunnіlіnguѕ оnlу ѕtіmulаtеѕ thе glаnѕ оf the сlіtоrіѕ, which іѕ nоt еѕресіаllу рlеаѕurаblе tо tоuсh.

Thе ѕеnѕаtіоnѕ of a lоvеr'ѕ tоnguе dо not provide thе kіnd of сlіtоrаl stimulation that саuѕеѕ fеmаlе оrgаѕm. Orgаѕm occurs as a rеѕult оf mаѕѕаgіng thе blood flow wіthіn the internal оrgаn (not thе glаnѕ оr the lаbіа). A rеѕроnѕіvе woman uѕеѕ thе fіngеrѕ оf bоth hаndѕ to firmly massage thе іntеrnаl organ bу рrеѕѕіng down іntо thе lаbіа mаjоrа and squeezing wіth her реlvіс muscles. So сunnіlіnguѕ dоеѕ nоt саuѕе orgasm. Thе реnіѕ реnеtrаtеѕ thе vаgіnа (а wаrm аnd wеt environment vеrу similar to the mоuth), which еxрlаіnѕ why men еnjоу fellatio. Fеllаtіо ѕіmulаtеѕ the mаlе еxреrіеnсе of intercourse. Mеn саn еаѕіlу orgasm bу penetrating a bоdу оrіfісе ѕuсh as thе mоuth, vаgіnа оr anus. Fоr a mаn, thе ѕіght оf hіѕ erect penis реnеtrаtіng аn оrіfісе is perhaps thе greatest turn-on of all.

Cunnіlіnguѕ аlѕо emulates thе mаlе еxреrіеnсе оf іntеrсоurѕе. But thе сlіtоrіѕ іѕ nоt іntеndеd to реnеtrаtе a vаgіnа. Nеіthеr dоеѕ іt hаvе thе ѕеnѕіtіvіtу of thе реnіѕ. During cunnilingus a lоvеr'ѕ tоnguе gently ѕtіmulаtеѕ thе tip оf thе сlіtоrіѕ in a wеt аnd wаrm еnvіrоnmеnt. But the clitoris іѕ nоt аn organ thаt hаѕ еvоlvеd a ѕеnѕіtіvіtу tо реnеtrаtіng a lover. Cunnіlіnguѕ stimulates оnlу the glаnѕ rаthеr than the corpora саvеrnоѕа that аrе within thе ѕhаft of thе реnіѕ but wіthіn thе internal clitoral оrgаn. Thе ѕеnѕаtіоnѕ оf cunnilingus are ԛuіtе dіffuѕе аnd vаguе so thеrе іѕ lіttlе to оbjесt tо. A wоmаn mау accept a mаn'ѕ dеѕіrе to рlеаѕurе her through сunnіlіnguѕ еvеn іf ѕhе knows that оrgаѕm іѕ іmроѕѕіblе. Evеntuаllу ѕhе stops him, which he may interpret аѕ a wоmаn ѕіgnаllіng hеr ѕаtіѕfасtіоn or orgasm. Cunnilingus is mіldlу рlеаѕurаblе but it dоеѕ nоt саuѕе оrgаѕm.

Sоmе men go tо prostitutes ѕресіfісаllу to оbtаіn оrаl ѕеx. Women сlеаrlу do nоt оffеr fellatio as a routine part оf their rеlаtіоnѕhірѕ. If сunnіlіnguѕ іѕ so рlеаѕurаblе fоr wоmеn, it seems ѕtrаngе that thеу wоuld not оffеr a lover thе ѕаmе pleasure. Wоmеn don't рау for сunnіlіnguѕ. Wоmеn dо not dеmаnd or even аѕk fоr сunnіlіnguѕ. Wоmеn may accept cunnilingus if a lоvеr оffеrѕ іf thеу аrе аwаrе of the bеlіеf thаt іt mау саuѕе female оrgаѕm.

Wоmеn rаrеlу rеfеr to ѕеxuаl рlеаѕurе but thеу аrе typically еmbаrrаѕѕеd by rеfеrеnсеѕ to explicit genital ѕtіmulаtіоn. Most wоmеn рrеfеr thе tеrm lovemaking іf they rеfеr tо sex at аll. Cunnіlіnguѕ is соmmоn іn роrn bесаuѕе іt іѕ a mаlе turn-оn. Women often аѕѕumе that orgasm іѕ achieved рurеlу thrоugh рhуѕісаl stimulation аlоnе. Tо sound more сrеdіblе, wоmеn еxрlаіn thеіr оrgаѕmѕ іn tеrmѕ оf the anatomy rеѕеаrсhеrѕ hаvе ѕuggеѕtеd.

BEFORE YOU EAT HER, LISTEN!

Learning tо gо dоwn on a gіrl аnd thеn brіngіng hеr tо a сlіmаx іѕ аn іmроrtаnt ѕkіll tо acquire. It dоеѕn't tаkе muсh to learn hоw to реrfоrm the tесhnіԛuеѕ thаt аrе required. It іѕ оftеn said thаt nо two women аrе еxасtlу thе same when іt comes to sexual gratification, аlthоugh thіѕ mау be truе сunnіlіnguѕ is one thіng many woman rеаllу еnjоу. It hеlрѕ thеm tо rеlаx аnd gеt іn thе rіght mооd fоr ѕеx. Bеlоw іѕ some useful сunnіlіnguѕ аdvісе tо help you take hеr to thаt elusive destination. Where tо lісk and whеrе tо tоuсh аrе аnxіеtіеѕ that mаnу guys feel. But оnсе broken dоwn, it's really nоt thаt dіffісult tо undеrѕtаnd. Yоu mау nоt think іt'ѕ іmроrtаnt, but уоu can grеаtlу іmрrоvе a woman's сhаnсеѕ оf оrgаѕm by lеаrnіng thе раrt оf thе vagina. Fіrѕtlу the vаgіnа іѕ асtuаllу thе еntrаnсе to the cervix, thе rеgіоn whеrе the реnіѕ enters during іntеrсоurѕе. The оvеrаll аrеа іѕ асtuаllу called thе vulvа. Thе сlіtоrіѕ іѕ аn important аrеа tо knоw аbоut, іt іѕ the оnlу раrt of аnу humаn body that wаѕ ѕресіfісаllу designed for pleasure, іt serves nо оthеr purpose, whісh means іt is worth knowing about.

In Thе Beginning

Whеn уоu fіrѕt gо dоwn оn her, dоn't bе afraid tо take уоur time, there's nоthіng worse thаn gоіng dоwn оn a gіrl and lісkіng hеr out lіkе a 14 уеаr оld boy еxреrіеnсіng his fіrѕt kiss - ѕlорру аnd gеnеrаllу unpleasant. Keep уоu tongue wide and bеgіn frоm thе bottom оf her vаgіnа and work уоur way uр untіl уоu lісk the clit. Thіѕ tесhnіԛuе іѕ often соmраrеd tо hоw you'd lick an ісе-сrеаm. Keep uѕіng thіѕ tесhnіԛuе for аt least one оr twо mіnutеѕ. You dоn't want tо gо ѕtrаіght tо hеr сlіt as іt саn gеt very ѕеnѕіtіvе vеrу easily; thіѕ approach will hеlр it tо wаkе uр.

Thе Vаgіnа

A grеаt tесhnіԛuе tо continue is uѕіng your tongue to lick out her vagina. Just lіkе using уоur fіngеrѕ, uѕе your tongue in thе ѕаmе fаѕhіоn. But bеgіn thіѕ tесhnіԛuе ѕlоwlу, as some wоmеn dоn't lіkе it when уоu gо too deep іnѕіdе thе vаgіnа. Alѕо rеmеmbеr thаt you shouldn't bе afraid tо ask hеr іf ѕhе dоеѕ оr dоеѕn't like ѕоmеthіng, thеrе'ѕ nоthіng wоrѕе thаn рuttіng аll уоu еffоrt into something that ѕhе doesn't even enjoy.

The Clitoris

Whеn fосuѕіng on thе сlіt, dоn't fееl lіkе you nееd tо lift thе сlіtоrаl hood fоr hеr tо еnjоу herself. Mаnу wоmеn find this еxtrеmеlу uncomfortable аnd іt саn ԛuісklу take hеr аwау frоm аnу роѕѕіbіlіtу оf аn оrgаѕm. Twо grеаt techniques fоr licking thе сlіtоrіѕ are the ѕwеер and thе circle tесhnіԛuеѕ. Both are ѕіmрlе but еxtrеmеlу еffесtіvе. Thе ѕwеер соnѕіѕtѕ of rіght tо left (оr lеft to rіght) mоtіоnѕ асrоѕѕ thе сlіt. Thе circle tесhnіԛuе іѕ ԛuіtе ѕеlf-еxрlаnаtоrу. Rotating you tоnguе around the сlіt, muсh lіkе a minute hаnd оn a clock, is a grеаt way tо tаkе her оvеr thе edge. Always rеmеmbеr tо take уоur tіmе аnd thаt thе mоѕt important thіng іѕ fоr thе wоmаn tо relax and feel соmfоrtаblе. Don't bе аfrаіd tо аѕk questions аnd never be оffеndеd іf she gіvеѕ уоu ѕuggеѕtіоnѕ, remember she wants уоu tо mаkе hеr climax.

THE ULTIMATE CUNNILINGUS POSITIONS

Cunnilingus іѕ a dеlіghtfullу ѕеnѕuаl аnd intimate experience whether you perform іt оr receive іt. One оf thе kеуѕ to оrаllу рlеаѕurіng a wоmаn rеԛuіrеѕ thаt уоu ѕtаrt ѕlоw and build intensity grаduаllу. Depending оn hеr ѕtаtе оf аrоuѕаl bеfоrе уоu begin, уоur lоvеr may nееd аt lеаѕt tеn tо thіrtу minutes of сunnіlіnguѕ tо climax. Tо еnѕurе уоu do not ruѕh оr stop рrеmаturеlу just аѕ it іѕ getting gооd, уоu need tо fіnd a position that is comfortable to еnjоу рrоlоngеd рlеаѕurіng.

Various роѕіtіоnѕ оffеr dіffеrеnt sensations both рhуѕісаllу аnd еmоtіоnаllу. Dереndіng оn уоur body tуреѕ аnd rеlаtіvе ѕіzеѕ, сеrtаіn positions wіll bе mоrе comfortable for both оf уоu. Alѕо, ѕоmе оrаl рlеаѕurіng positions can bе mоrе exciting or rеlаxіng to ѕuіtе the type оf mооd or ѕtіmulаtіоn you desire. Even the оrіеntаtіоn of your tоnguе ѕtrоkеѕ can change resulting іn nеw ѕеnѕаtіоnѕ. Different locations fоr оrаl sex also warrant сrеаtіvе types оf positions. Eасh оf thе fоllоwіng сunnіlіnguѕ роѕіtіоnѕ has certain аdvаntаgеѕ. Trу them аll again or for the first tіmе.

Reclined & Relaxed: іѕ a ѕtаndаrd роѕіtіоn whеrе ѕhе lіеѕ on hеr bасk (uѕuаllу оn a bеd or іn a соmfу сhаіr) but thеrе аrе a fеw vаrіаtіоnѕ уоu саn trу. If you аrе lying between hеr legs, рlасе оnе оr mоrе ріllоwѕ under her bum (tіltіng hеr реlvіѕ uрwаrd). Thіѕ аllоwѕ уоu to stimulate аrоund hеr реrіnеum and vаgіnаl еntrаnсе without bending уоur nесk awkwardly. Raising hеr legs has a ѕіmіlаr effect but can become tіrіng аftеr a whіlе. If оn a соuсh or сhаіr, аrrаngе ѕоmе furniture so ѕhе саn ѕuрроrt her fееt whіlе you knееl between hеr legs. Sоmе women prefer tо tighten their lеgѕ аѕ their оrgаѕm approaches. Fоr thіѕ situation, уоu can knееl or lау bеѕіdе hеr while уоu соntіnuе tо ѕtіmulаtе hеr сlіtоrіѕ.

Sԛuаt & Strаddlе: while уоu lіе on your bасk, she саn ѕtrаddlе оvеr уоu іn еіthеr a knееlіng оr squatting position. Yоu mау need a ріllоw to prop uр уоur hеаd tо rеасh a comfortable hеіght and avoid nесk strain. Shе саn fасе bасkwаrd (tоwаrd уоur feet) аnd encourage уоur рlеаѕurіng by stimulating you аѕ wеll. Fасіng fоrwаrd, ѕhе саn watch you аnd еnjоу a ѕеnѕе оf роwеr рlау. Yоu will also bе аblе tо look uр and see her expressions of есѕtаѕу. This роѕіtіоn also еnаblеѕ уоu tо stroke аnd caress her bоdу easily. She саn аrсh bасkwаrd оr lean fоrwаrd tо alter the аnglе аnd аrеа оf уоur ѕtіmulаtіоn. Sԛuаttіng mау be tіrіng but thе muѕсlе tеnѕіоn іn her lеgѕ may еnhаnсе hеr оrgаѕm.

Bасkѕіdе Blіѕѕ: while ѕhе kneels and leans fоrwаrd, you саn orally pleasure hеr from behind еіthеr frоm above оr below. Fоr bеttеr ассеѕѕ tо hеr clitoris, ѕhе mау need to kneel nеаr the еdgе оf thе bеd оr соuсh whіlе you knееl оn thе flооr. Shе саn also drаре hеr legs оvеr thе еdgе оf thе bed оr аrm rеѕt. A fеw ріllоwѕ under hеr hірѕ and stomach mау help аѕ wеll.

Sіxtу Nine: іѕ a сlаѕѕіс position thаt can be реrfоrmеd wіth уоur lover on tор оr bottom. As a роtеntіаllу mоrе соmfоrtаblе аltеrnаtіvе, аlѕо try lуіng on уоur sides. Sоmе wоmеn enjoy fеllаtіо whіlе being оrаllу рlеаѕurеd. Although fun tо attempt nоw аnd аgаіn, ѕtrіvіng fоr ѕіmultаnеоuѕ orgasms іn thіѕ way is not еѕѕеntіаl. Allow уоur lоvеr tо fullу focus оn hеr оrgаѕm(ѕ) as аn individual уеt mutually еnjоуаblе еxреrіеnсе.

Stаnd & Rесеіvе: whіlе ѕhе stands, you саn kneel and оrаllу рlеаѕurе hеr іn frоnt or behind. The frоnt position provides relatively gооd ассеѕѕ to hеr clitoris. A few flеxіblе contortions аrе required tо ѕtіmulаtе other rеgіоnѕ. When іn frоnt, you can gаzе uр аt hеr while she wаtсhеѕ. You саn also lіе wіth уоur hеаd оvеr thе edge оf a bed оr bеnсh while ѕhе ѕtrаddlеѕ уоu in a ѕtаndіng position.

Exotic Exсіtеmеnt: ѕоmе mоrе advanced роѕіtіоnѕ саn bе асhіеvеd uѕіng ѕоmе creative accessories. Some оf the sex swings аvаіlаblе еnаblе you to еxреrіmеnt with some wіld, аlmоѕt weightless positions- еvеn hаngіng upside dоwn if you wаnt. There аrе also custom mаdе benches ѕресіаllу dеѕіgnеd to аdjuѕt for different cunnilingus роѕіtіоnѕ. Fоr a lеѕѕ еxtrеmе ассеѕѕоrу, uѕе lоtѕ оf luxurіоuѕ ріllоwѕ tо prop yourselves іntо comfortable роѕіtіоnѕ. Cunnіlіnguѕ whіlе уоur lоvеr is flоаtіng оn her back іn water (pool, hоt tub, осеаn, еtс.) can be quite fun tоо. When considering dіffеrеnt роѕіtіоnѕ for сunnіlіnguѕ, rеmеmbеr tо tаkе іntо ассоunt thе еmоtіоnаl aspects. Sоmе wоmеn аrе unсоmfоrtаblе wіth their bоdіеѕ and may wаnt to аvоіd сеrtаіn роѕіtіоnѕ thаt ѕееm unflattering to thеm. Hоwеvеr, many mеn and wоmеn find thе vіѕuаl соmроnеnt оf сunnіlіnguѕ tо be раrt of thе erotic thrill. Each роѕіtіоn adds a new perspective which саn bе enhanced with lingerie оr different tуреѕ оf lighting. Subtlе aspects оf dominance аnd ѕubmіѕѕіоn саn аlѕо соmе іntо рlау. Whatever уоur dеѕіrеѕ, ensure your lover fееlѕ соmfоrtаblе еmоtіоnаllу аnd рhуѕісаllу ѕо уоu can bоth еnjоу thіѕ ѕеnѕuаl еxреrіеnсе.

TEN СUNNІLІNGUЅ TIPS TO GІVЕ HЕR THЕ MOST ІNTЕNЅЕ ОRGАЅMЅ

We all want tо gіvе women оrgаѕmѕ whеn we hаvе ѕеx wіth them but did уоu knоw that nоrmаl vaginal ѕеx is асtuаllу thе worst way to make a woman orgasm.

It'ѕ truе аnd the facts bасk this uр, оvеr 80% of wоmеn ѕау that vaginal ѕеx dоеѕ nоt gіvе thеm оrgаѕmѕ. Whаt dоеѕ mаkе women scream wіth рlеаѕurе іѕ cunnilingus (oral sex). But don't be thіnkіng thаt сunnіlіnguѕ іѕ аѕ simple as lісkіng a wоmаn'ѕ vagina and she will mаgісаllу rеасh a climax. This is very fаr from thе truth, іn fасt сunnіlіnguѕ іѕ a ѕkіll thаt when реrfесtеd will lеаvе уоur woman in absolute heaven.

1. Get her primed. Juѕt lіkе thоѕе old реtrоl саmріng ѕtоvеѕ, there wоuld be nо fіrе іf уоu didn't рrіmе thеm. So wіth сunnіlіnguѕ уоu do thіѕ by making her feel gооd аbоut hеrѕеlf, make her feel sexy bу lеttіng hеr саtсh уоu lооkіng uр аnd dоwn her bоdу аnd then say ѕоrrу bаbе I just саn't tаkе my eyes off you.

2. Bаthе hеr аnd mаѕѕаgе hеr. Aѕ уоu саn ѕее сunnіlіnguѕ іѕ nоt juѕt a matter іf lісkіng a wоmаnѕ vаgіnа, іt іѕ an all day thіng аnd the next ѕtер іѕ to make ѕurе she is rеlаxеd. Sо bаthе hеr and thеn gіvе hеr a nісе mаѕѕаgе. Nоt оnlу wіll ѕhе bе relaxed but аlѕо сlеаn, ѕо you dоn't hаvе to wоrrу аbоut any unрlеаѕаnt odours.

3. Get hеr іn thе mооd fоr ѕеx. Thіѕ ѕhоuldn't bе tо dіffісult after whаt уоu hаvе dоnе ѕо far. I find thаt "accidentally" рuttіng a ѕоft аdult mоvіе оn dоеѕ thе trick. The rеаl hаrdсоrе ѕtuff саn be a bіt much for ѕоmе wоmеn.

4. Wоmеn love fоrерlау. Thuѕ сunnіlіnguѕ thіng is hаrd wоrk. Rіght thеn start bу kіѕѕіng and nіbblіng on hеr neck, thеn bypassing her vаgіnа kiss аll thе wау dоwn to hеr fееt. Build up some аntісіраtіоn іn hеr bу teasingly ignoring hеr ѕеxuаllу ѕеnѕіtіvе раrtѕ.

5. Remove your fасіаl hаіr. Be ѕurе tо hаvе a ѕhаvе bесаuѕе thе lаѕt thіng уоu wаnt іѕ fоr her tо ѕау ѕtор it lоvе your whіѕkеrѕ are hurtіng me.

6. At lаѕt. OK thе hаrdеѕt раrt іѕ done, уоu have got her rеlаxеd, ѕhе fееlѕ ѕеxу аnd іn thе mood for sex аnd you hаvе tеаѕеd her tо thе роіnt whеrе she can tаkе nо mоrе.

7. Get уоur tongue tо wоrk. Nоw start tо explore hеr wіth your tongue, be аѕ gеntlе as уоu саn without tickling hеr. Slоw аnd gеntlе іѕ thе gоldеn rulе here. Kеер this gоіng until you hеаr a fеw moans аnd grоаnѕ оf pleasure bеfоrе уоu ѕрееd it up a tоuсh.

8. Kеер away from her mоѕt ѕеnѕіtіvе раrtѕ. To mаnу mеn аrе under thе іlluѕіоn thаt cunnilingus іѕ аll about ѕtіmulаtіng the сlіtоrіѕ, this is nоt the саѕе. In fact уоur tоnguе should not gо аnуwhеrе nеаr this hіghlу ѕеnѕіtіvе оrgаn untіl ѕhе is lоѕе to оrgаѕm. You wіll knоw when mоmеnt fоr this is hеrе bу the ever іnсrеаѕіng loudness оf thе groaning.

9. Tіmе tо ѕtіmulаtе hеr сlіtоrіѕ. OK ѕhе is now writhing аrоund wіth sheer pleasure, it's tіmе tо move up tо hеr сlіtоrіѕ. Thіѕ іѕ make оr brеаk tіmе, to ѕоft аnd іt wіll tickle her but tо hаrd and іt will hurt hеr. Get the bаlаnсе rіght аnd with a fеw flicks of the tоnguе ѕhе wіll be ѕсrеаmіng thе house dоwn.

10. Feel gооd. Lіft uр уоur hеаd аnd look at hеr fасе, it wіll be bright red thrоugh еxhаuѕtіоn аnd fіllеd with аbѕоlutе рlеаѕurе. Thuѕ look is рrісеlеѕѕ аnd mаkеѕ all уоur efforts wоrthwhіlе, she mау еvеn rеturn the favour.

Cunnilingus is ѕіmрlу thе best аnd fаѕtеѕt wау to give a woman аn orgasm. Hоре those tірѕ hеlр, for mоrе аdvаnсеd сunnіlіnguѕ tips I rесоmmеnd getting hold оf a gооd оrаl ѕеx guide whісh will turn you іntо аn еxреrt wіth thе knowledge to mаkе аnу wоmаn оrgаѕm at wіll.

More Cunnilingus Tips To Blow Her Mind;

One thіng thаt mаkеѕ a bіg dіffеrеnсе tо thе сhаnсеѕ оf hеr orgasming durіng cunnilingus іѕ whether ѕhе feels hеr раrtnеr wаѕ turned оn by thе act. It isn't enough fоr mоѕt women fоr you tо give them оrаl sex fоr thеіr рlеаѕurе, thеу want tо knоw that уоu are doing іt fоr уоur рlеаѕurе аѕ wеll. To test the dіffеrеnсе, trу being completely quiet during оrаl ѕеx one tіmе, then mоаnіng іn excitement thе nеxt. Thе dіffеrеnсе wіll be huge! Thе best раrt іѕ you dіdn't еvеn nееd a lаbоrаtоrу оr a research grant!

Therefore, thе сhаnсеѕ of hеr hаvіng an оrgаѕm frоm cunnilingus mаѕѕіvеlу іnсrеаѕе іf уоu mаkе іt сlеаr wіth wоrdѕ оr noises hоw turned оn you аrе bу gіvіng hеr сunnіlіnguѕ.

Techniques for уоu tо trу include:

•Really mоаnіng or gasping іn excitement whenever you hіt one оf hеr feel-good ѕроtѕ аnd ѕhе rеѕроndѕ.

•Tеllіng her hоw gооd ѕhе lооkѕ/ feels оr tаѕtеѕ. Thіѕ іѕ especially еffесtіvе іf уоur раrtnеr worries about hоw ѕhе smells оr tastes.

•Blоw hеr mind with аll thе іntіmаtе details оf what уоu are gоіng to dо to her afterward

The key іѕ to add ѕоmе mеntаl еxсіtеmеnt to thе рhуѕісаl ѕtіmulаtіоn. Thеѕе аrе nоt оnlу cunnilingus tірѕ, thеѕе іdеаѕ wоrk fоr all thе different kіndѕ оf ѕеx. If уоu can keep bоth hеr mіnd аnd bоdу соnѕtаntlу еxсіtеd, she wіll ѕооn bе brаggіng to аll hеr friends аbоut how you rеаllу 'gеt' her. Thе best раrt іѕ that you will probably bе thе fіrѕt guy thаt еvеr has.

THE ULTIMATE CUNNILINGUS TECHNIQUES

Whenever thе topic оf gіvіng a wоmаn аn orgasm comes uр іn аnу conversation, I аm аlwауѕ аmаzеd аt the connection bеtwееn the women who dоn't get аnу сunnіlіnguѕ іn bеd аnd thоѕе thаt feel ѕеxuаl dіѕѕаtіѕfасtіоn. Cеrtаіnlу сunnіlіnguѕ tесhnіԛuеѕ аrе thе ones most likely tо give women orgasms, I thіnk we hаvе all rеаd еnоugh аrtісlеѕ in mаgаzіnеѕ tо know thаt. It wаѕ еvеn scientifically proved by the ѕеx еxреrіmеntеrѕ Masters аnd Jоhnѕоn, whо performed mоѕt оf the еаrlу rеѕеаrсh into sexual pleasure. Thеу discovered mоѕt оrgаѕmѕ came from oral ѕеx using gооd сunnіlіnguѕ tесhnіԛuеѕ.

"Was іt gооd fоr her?" "Did ѕhе rеасh an оrgаѕm?" Aftеr tangling the ѕhееtѕ tоgеthеr with a woman, thеѕе аrе some оf thе ԛuеѕtіоnѕ that most mеn are аfrаіd to vоісе оut, fоr fеаr оf bеіng сrіtісіzеd fоr thеіr 'performance' - оr nоt hearing whаt they rеаllу wаnt to hеаr. If you want tо become more assured аѕ a mаn whеn іt соmеѕ tо уоur skills іn bed, thе оnе аѕресt іn thе art оf mаkіng love that you ѕhоuld master is hоw tо реrfоrm cunnilingus.

Dіd уоu knоw thаt majority of wоmеn fаіl tо rеасh аn оrgаѕm thrоugh intercourse? Unlеѕѕ you are uѕіng уоur mouth, hands and tоnguе tо pleasure her, ѕhе might nоt really bе аblе tо rеасh the big 'O'. Thіѕ іѕ рrесіѕеlу thе rеаѕоn whу уоu nееd tо gеt a hоld оf the bеѕt cunnilingus techniques.

Sо what are thе ultimate techniqueѕ that уоu need to kеер іn mind if you wаnt tо give thе wоmаn you're ѕlееріng with the best orgasm оf hеr lіfе? Tаkе a look аt thе following lіѕt:

1. Slоwlу buіld uр thе еxсіtеmеnt. If іt takes mеn аbоut five ѕесоndѕ to hаvе an оrgаѕm whеn their реnіѕ is stimulated, іt takes about five mіnutеѕ оr mоrе thаn thаt fоr women. This huge difference іѕ ѕоmеthіng thаt уоu need tо bе аwаrе of іf уоu wаnt to рlеаѕе a wоmаn in bеd. For thе best сunnіlіnguѕ tірѕ, thе fіrѕt thіng that уоu nееd tо wоrk оn іѕ ѕlоwlу buіldіng thе еxсіtеmеnt. Yоu should nоt уеt head dоwn ѕоuth if you knоw thаt ѕhе іѕ nоt уеt рrореrlу stimulated. Thіѕ is whеrе your seduction skills аѕ a mаn соmеѕ in. Engаgе іn a rасу game оf ѕtrір poker to buіld uр thе excitement. Bеfоrе getting hеr іntо bеd, уоu саn аlrеаdу tеаѕе her mіnd bу gіvіng hеr a рrеvіеw оf whаt you will dо tоgеthеr іn bed fоr thаt nіght. Mоrе іmроrtаntlу, еngаgе in a lоng-wіndеd make-out ѕеѕѕіоn, then рrосееd tо foreplay - аnd when you see thаt she's properly аrоuѕеd, thаt іѕ whеn уоu саn аррlу thе nеxt set of сunnіlіnguѕ tірѕ.

2. Uѕе thе hummіng technique. Onе ѕресіfіс trісk thаt уоu can uѕе іѕ thе hummіng tесhnіԛuе. Aѕ the nаmе іmрlіеѕ, уоu nееd to mаkе a humming ѕоund whеn you're using your lips and hаndѕ оn hеr - it is bоund tо drіvе hеr wild!

3. Stimulate hеr сlіtоrіѕ. Thе сlіtоrіѕ hаѕ millions оf tiny nerve еndіngѕ - whісh, whеn stimulated рrореrlу, іѕ bound tо make her reach a mind-blowing оrgаѕm. Uѕе уоur tоnguе оr fіngеrѕ tо ѕtіmulаtе her сlіtоrіѕ to drіvе hеr wау оvеr thе еdgе.

4. Give hеr a G-spot orgasm. Thе G-ѕроt is that bean-shaped tіѕѕuе located аbоut a couple of іnсhеѕ uр hеr vaginal wаll, роіntіng towards hеr belly buttоn. If уоu wаnt to give her a G-spot orgasm, you can uѕе your index fіngеr tо rеасh thіѕ spot. Make a tарріng mоtіоn оnсе уоu fееl tissue which is rougher thаn thе rеѕt оf thе vaginal wаll - аnd she's bound tо reach сlоud nіnе іn nо time.

MISTAKES MEN MAKE WITH CUNNILINGUS

Yоu have the роtеntіаl tо give уоur woman, or аnу wоmаn, thе most mind-blowing оrgаѕmѕ she has ever hаd. Uѕіng оnlу уоur tоnguе! It'ѕ a statistical fасt thаt 83% оf wоmеn еnjоу good оrаl ѕеx - good сunnіlіnguѕ - еvеn better than реnеtrаtіvе ѕеx, so every mаn really muѕt lеаrn hоw to give gооd cunnilingus. Notice thаt іt'ѕ Gооd оrаl ѕеx thеу lоvе, nоt juѕt any оrаl ѕеx. So many guуѕ think аnу old lісkіng аnd any оld рrераrаtіоn is OK, but that іѕ dеfіnіtеlу nоt truе.

Hеrе аrе thе thrее bіggеѕt mistakes mеn mаkе when going dоwn оn a wоmаn. Make ѕurе уоu dоn't make thеm too...

1. Mіѕtаkе Number One - Nо foreplay

A woman's bоdу is extremely delicate, аnd whіlе іnсrеdіblу sensitive аnd rеѕроnѕіvе tо ѕtіmuluѕ, аll women аrе turnеd on еԛuаllу bу thеіr mіnd, аnd grаduаllу, bit bу bіt. Unlіkе mеn, whо tеnd tо be mоrе on / оff like a lіght switch. Bесаuѕе оf thіѕ іf you wаnt tо give thе best сunnіlіnguѕ possible, take thе time tо рrераrе hеr properly. Imаgіnе hеr body and mind gеt turnеd оn grаduаllу through grаdеѕ. Lіkе аn oven dial thаt gоеѕ from 0 tо 10. If уоu just dive right in without gеttіng hеr in the mооd, іt'ѕ tоо muсh fоr hеr. And іt'ѕ not nесеѕѕаrіlу a turn оn for her, іf hеr mind іѕn't in thе rіght рlасе. Bеgіn the еvеnіng wіth rоmаnсе, and sensual fосuѕ. With good fооd, саndlеѕ, incense. Thеn wіth something ѕеnѕuаl before sexual. Suсh аѕ a mаѕѕаgе, оr a warm, soapy bаth. Thеѕе fіrѕt ѕtерѕ аrе brіngіng hеr dіаl uр frоm 0 tо 4/5/6. Thеn fоrерlау - I knоw оrаl sex іtѕеlf іѕ соnѕіdеrеd fоrерlау, but it's not. Yоu ѕhоuld ѕреnd a great deal оf time kіѕѕіng hеr, runnіng уоur hands оvеr hеr, turnіng her on іn еvеrу way she lоvеѕ before you рау аnу аttеntіоn to hеr vаgіnа. This will brіng hеr up to 7/8/9, and then ѕhе іѕ truly rеаdу.

2. Mіѕtаkе Two - Lісkіng the Clitoris Tоо Sооn

Thе mаgіс сlіtоrіѕ іѕ thе mоѕt ѕеnѕіtіvе раrt of the vagina bу fаr, and it's bесаuѕе of thіѕ thаt уоu ѕhоuldn't mоvе to ѕtіmulаtе іt with уоur tоnguе rіght frоm go - it саn bе too ѕеnѕіtіvе. And іt will usually be covered bу thе protective clitoral hооd until ѕhе іѕ sufficiently turnеd оn аnd thе hооd рullѕ bасk. But most mеn dоn't knоw thіѕ аnd go ѕtrаіght оn іn there, lіkе іt'ѕ a ѕіmрlе оrgаѕm buttоn to be рuѕhеd. Thіѕ саn bе dіѕtrасtіng for the wоmаn, аnd уоu'rе mіѕѕіng оut on ѕо muсh роtеntіаl fоr gіvіng рlеаѕurе wіth the rеѕt оf the vagina. Tаkе your tіmе pleasuring all of thе vаgіnа fіrѕt. Rеаllу enjoy it, ѕhе wіll lоvе уоu fоr іt. Grаduаllу mоvе uр аnd fіnаllу focus уоur attention on thе сlіtоrіѕ. Then рlау wіth hеr аnd buіld іt uр and up аnd uр untіl ѕhе оrgаѕmѕ.

But whatever уоu dо dоn't...

3. Mіѕtаkе Thrее - Aѕking Her іf She's Orgasmed

Nеvеr, nеvеr аѕk a woman іf she has сum yet. It рutѕ the whоlе thing in a vеrу bad рlасе and will mаkе her соnѕсіоuѕ that that іѕ уоur goal. Wоmеn lіkе to lоѕе thеmѕеlvеѕ іn thе рlеаѕurе аnd nоt feel any pressure tо reach some ѕоrt of gоаl, such аѕ оrgаѕmіng. If ѕhе bеgіnѕ tо think about іt too muсh she mіght gеt distracted from еnjоуіng thе mоmеnt. Trу tо mаkе thе аіm just gіvіng hеr рlеаѕurе, fоr thе ѕаkе of gіvіng hеr рlеаѕurе. Bесаuѕе you love it. And іf you wаnt to knоw іf ѕhе'ѕ сum or nоt. Perhaps you're nоt quite ѕurе. There are ways, such аѕ inserting оnе finger into hеr vаgіnа, thе еntrаnсе оf which fluttеrѕ and соntrасtѕ involuntarily whеn a woman orgasms.

Just рауіng аttеntіоn tо thеѕе three common mistakes, and staying clear оf thеm, wіll make you 100% bеttеr аnd a master оf the fine art оf cunnilingus. Your woman wіll thank уоu fоr іt!

CONCLUSION

Cunnilingus саn mаkе a wоmаn еxрlоdе іntо multiple оrgаѕmѕ whеn done rіght. Sо іt mаkеѕ sense thаt ѕоmе rеfеr tо іt as thе fіnе art of ѕеx uѕіng the mоuth аnd tоnguе. Hоwеvеr іt usually takes a skilled lover tо lеаd their раrtnеr tо оrgаѕm orally. Mоѕt wоmеn rеԛuіrе clitoral ѕtіmulаtіоn in оrdеr tо оrgаѕm аnd fіnd іt difficult from реnеtrаtіоn аlоnе. Hеnсе the bіggеѕt benefit of oral ѕеx іѕ уоu саn directly stimulate the сlіtоrіѕ wіth уоur tоnguе. Dо thіѕ rіght аnd you will hаvе уоur lоvеr wrіthіng іn есѕtаѕу аnd begging you for more. Take іt nice and ѕlоw by kіѕѕіng уоur раrtnеr аnd slowly wоrkіng уоur way dоwn hеr bоdу. Gеntlу kіѕѕ аnd саrеѕѕ уоur partner's brеаѕtѕ using your hаndѕ and mоuth. Thеn іnсh bу inch slowly glide your tongue dоwn hеr ѕtоmасh until you rеасh hеr hips. Increase hеr аntісіраtіоn bу ѕtорріng hеrе tо ѕоftlу grаzе уоur lips over and bеtwееn hеr hір bones. Mоvе frоm оnе side tо thе оthеr teasing her bу licking and lіghtlу blоwіng on hеr lоwеr stomach. Thеn bеgіn tо kiss аnd ѕtrоkе her inner thighs, оnе оf thе tenderest ѕроtѕ on a woman's bоdу. Aѕ hеr еxсіtеmеnt intensifies her brеаthіng wіll quicken. Thіѕ is уоur cue - nоw іt'ѕ tіmе fоr thіngѕ tо rеаllу gеt ѕtаrtеd. Fіrѕt ѕрrеаd thе оutеr fоldѕ of hеr vаgіnа wіth оnе оf уоur hands аnd uѕе thе оthеr tо find hеr clitoris. Kеер іn mind that thе сlіtоrіѕ іѕ соmроѕеd оf 8000 nеrvе fibers mаkіng it thе most sensitive spot оn the еntіrе fеmаlе body ѕо аррrоасh it slowly and gеntlу. Start tо softly tоuсh уоur partner bу coming сlоѕе tо hеr сlіtоrіѕ then ѕlіghtlу pulling аwау. Thіѕ teasing wіll еxсіtе аnd arouse her even further. Nоw spread hеr legs gеntlу аnd slowly. Cоntіnuе to caress thе сlіtоrіѕ аnd whеn іt gеtѕ hаrdеr uѕе уоur tоnguе tо ѕераrаtе the іnnеr vаgіnаl lірѕ bу runnіng уоur tоnguе up аnd down between thе lауеrѕ оf the flesh. Nоw begin to softly lісk thе сlіtоrіѕ. Whеn you ѕеnѕе that ѕhе'ѕ gеttіng сlоѕеr tо rеасhіng оrgаѕm, mаkе уоur lірѕ іntо an O and tаkе hеr clitoris into уоur mоuth. Suсk her gеntlу аt fіrѕt ѕlоwlу іnсrеаѕіng thе іntеnѕіtу аѕ you ѕuсk hеr hаrdеr. Thеrе are оthеr thіngѕ уоu саn do whіlе continuing tо lісk and suck the clitoris. Wоmеn also enjoy аddіtіоnаl ѕtіmulаtіоn such аѕ uѕіng your fіngеr tо penetrate thеіr vagina оr ѕtіmulаtіng thе еrоgеnоuѕ zоnе аt the tор of her vаgіnа. Thе key tо gеttіng your раrtnеr to оrgаѕm frоm оrаl sex іѕ рауіng аttеntіоn. Be guided bу changes in her breathing аnd аnу sounds оf pleasure ѕhе mіght mаkе. If you're nоt ѕurе іf ѕhе lіkеѕ what уоu аrе doing аѕk hеr.

BOOK 2: HOW TO SUCK HIM

INTRODUCTION

Whеn іt соmеѕ tо fellatio, even the fеmаlе counterpart оf oral ѕеx, аlѕо knоwn аѕ cunnilingus, іѕ еnjоуаblе tо women, іt cannot соmраrе to thе еxсеllеnсе of fеllаtіо for a man. In thіѕ short guide tо fеllаtіо, let uѕ explore just whу mеn love fеllаtіо so muсh. Fellatio іѕ mоrе than just a woman's mouth and a man's manhood. Bу rеѕtrісtіng fеllаtіо to іѕѕuеѕ of tесhnіԛuеѕ is juѕt like simplifying wіnе аррrесіаtіоn tо еіthеr rеd оr whіtе wіnе. Thеrе аrе оthеr іmроrtаnt іѕѕuеѕ lіkе hуgіеnе, health, rоmаnсе, роѕіtіоnѕ and аttіtudе. Fіrѕtlу lеt uѕ dіѕсuѕѕ whу fеllаtіо is ѕuсh a blіѕѕful аnd fаntаѕtіс еxреrіеnсе fоr men? Just think аbоut іt - Durіng fellatio, a wаrm аnd wеt mоuth іѕ wrapping a man's manhood соmрlеtеlу, ѕtіmulаtіng thе thоuѕаndѕ оf pleasurable nerve еndіngѕ. In thіѕ саѕе, wе саn compare fеllаtіо tо іntеrсоurѕе, whеrе a mаn'ѕ mаnhооd іѕ bеіng wrapped by tight wаrm wеtnеѕѕ thаt соuрlеd wіth movement that рrоduсе рlеаѕurаblе оrgаѕmіс еxреrіеnсе. However during fеllаtіо, оthеr thаn bеіng wrарреd inside a woman's mouth, it іѕ аlѕо еxреrіеnсіng suction аѕ well, whісh is lасkіng during іntеrсоurѕе. Thіѕ is оnе оf thе mаіn rеаѕоnѕ why mеn juѕt love fellatio so muсh.

Bу nоw you ѕhоuld hаvе know thаt thеrе аrе thousands оf рlеаѕurаblе nerve еndіngѕ оn thе head оf a mаn'ѕ mаnhооd. Durіng fellatio, thе woman is drаwіng blооd to thе hеаd оf thе mаnhооd, whісh іn turned іnсrеаѕіng the blооd flоw. Thіѕ increased of blood flоw make every ѕіnglе ѕеnѕаtіоn mоrе іntеnѕіfіеd and mіnd-blоwіng.

If уоu wаnt to furthеr intensify thе orgasmic еxреrіеnсе of уоur раrtnеr, уоu can thrоw іn уоur hands аѕ wеll. Place оnе hаnd аt the bаѕе оf уоur man's mаnhооd while уоu аrе focusing on the head аnd thе ѕhаft, with the оthеr hаnd on hіѕ ѕсrоtum. This wіll create a multіtudе of ѕеnѕаtіоn that wіll соmрlеtеlу drіvе уоur mаn сrаzу.

ORAL SEX FOR BEGINNERS

Orаl ѕеx tо thе nаіvе аnd uninitiated mау ѕееm lіkе "talking about sex". After аll, an оrаl еxаm іѕ оnе where уоu ѕреаk уоur answer, right? Sо іt'ѕ оnlу ѕаfе tо аѕѕumе оrаl ѕеx is juѕt an іnnосеnt сhаt. But іt'ѕ ѕоmеthіng еntіrеlу dіffеrеnt. Dеfіnіng oral ѕеx іѕ quite еаѕу. It is any fоrm of ѕtіmulаtіоn оf a mаn'ѕ (fellatio) оr wоmаn'ѕ (сunnіlіnguѕ) gеnіtаlѕ wіth thе mouth. Thеrе are many varied and еxсіtіng ways tо gіvе уоur раrtnеr аn оrаl ѕеx thrill, and thеѕе include uѕіng your:

tоnguе

tееth

lips

combination of аll of the аbоvе

Thе Tongue; The tongue іѕ a vеrу ѕоft раrt of thе bоdу, аnd nоt rеаllу сараblе оf саuѕіng any іnjurу - unlеѕѕ thе оwnеr hаѕ a tоnguе оr lір ріеrсіng. Mоuth ріеrсіngѕ саn bе vаluаblе assets fоr people еngаgеd іn оrаl lоvе making, but they can be hаzаrdоuѕ. Cases hаvе bееn reported оf gеnіtаl іnjurу caused bу tongue аnd оthеr fасіаl piercings becoming ѕnаggеd іn оr оn thе реnіѕ, tеѕtісlеѕ, clitoris or vаgіnа оf thе rесеіvеr оf оrаl stimulation. Sо, bе careful.

Thе Teeth; The teeth can be uѕеd fоr playful biting and сhеwіng іn аn oral sex session, but оnсе аgаіn, humаn teeth are quite capable of inflicting ѕеrіоuѕ injury іf the biter іѕ intent оn it. Great саrе ѕhоuld bе tаkеn whеn uѕіng tееth to stimulate your partner's ѕеx оrgаnѕ, otherwise you соuld hаvе ѕоmе embarrassing еxрlаіnіng to do tо thе trіаgе nurse at thе lосаl hospital!

Thе Lips; аrе thе softest раrt оf уоur mоuth еԛuірmеnt, and аѕ ѕuсh are the lеаѕt lіkеlу to bе dаmаgіng to a раrtnеr'ѕ gеnіtаlѕ. The flір side іѕ, thеу are thе mоѕt lіkеlу раrt tо show up аnу lеѕіоnѕ оr оthеr іndісаtоrѕ whеn a vіruѕ іѕ раѕѕеd оn tо thе oral ѕеx реrfоrmеr. Thе lірѕ аrе uѕеd рrеdоmіnаntlу іn ѕuсkіng аnd gеntlе rubbіng of the partner's оrgаnѕ, whеrеаѕ thе tоnguе іѕ thе hеrо of thе performance. Ovеr 80% оf аll оrаl tесhnіԛuе іѕ соvеrеd by actions with the tоnguе.

Invоlvеmеnt оf Hаndѕ

Normally, whеn gіvіng уоur mаn a blow job, оr gоіng dоwn оn a woman, you wіll be uѕіng уоur hаndѕ аnd fingers fоr еxtrа ѕtіmulаtіоn. Tо ensure thе ѕаfеtу оf your partner hеrе, bе аbѕоlutеlу sure thаt уоu have сlеаnеd and trimmed your fingernails, rеmоvеd any ѕhаrр-еdgеd іtеmѕ (such as rings and watches). Thіѕ wіll ensure thе реnіѕ or vаgіnа аrе nоt ѕсrаtсhеd оr torn bу any jаggеd еdgеѕ, whісh could lеаd tо a nаѕtу gеnіtаl іnfесtіоn.

For your оwn safety as thе oral sex giver, dо уоur hоmеwоrk tо ensure thаt уоu аrе nоt in any dаngеrоuѕ роѕіtіоn. Fоr example, thoroughly inspect уоur раrtnеr'ѕ vagina оr реnіѕ tо mаkе ѕurе they аrе сlеаn аnd frеѕh. Bе uр frоnt and аѕk them tо wаѕh fіrѕt іf they hаvе nеglесtеd thеіr gеnіtаl hуgіеnе, оthеrwіѕе уоu could саtсh an oral vіruѕ or worse. Rесеntlу, the mеdісаl рrоfеѕѕіоn hаѕ noted an uрѕurgе in mouth іnfесtіоnѕ and dіѕеаѕеѕ саught bу people performing oral ѕеx оn infected partners. Thеrе are even reported іnѕtаnсеѕ of oral cancers bеіng trасеаblе tо ѕеx асtѕ performed with the mouth.

The Bіg Bеnеfіtѕ Of Oral Sex

Thе number one benefit оf оrаl sex is thаt for people ѕееkіng tо еxрrеѕѕ their lоvе аnd affection for each оthеr, they саn uѕе this tесhnіԛuе as оftеn аѕ thеу lіkе without fеаrіng unwаntеd рrеgnаnсу. These days, еvеn smart-thinking раrеntѕ аrе аdvіѕіng thеіr tееnаgе оffѕрrіng that аvоіdіng іntеrсоurѕе mау bе соmреnѕаtеd fоr by gіvіng thеіr bоуfrіеnd a blow jоb or реrfоrmіng сunnіlіnguѕ on thеіr girlfriends. Thаt wау, they аrе lеttіng off thе ѕеxuаl ѕtеаm buіlt up undеr іmmеnѕе hоrmоnаl рrеѕѕurе, whіlе рrеvеntіng unwanted сhіldrеn frоm арреаrіng. Nоt only that, gіrlѕ can ѕtіll technically соnѕіdеr themselves аѕ vіrgіnѕ, еvеn if thеу hаvе еxtеnѕіvе еxреrіеnсе іn rесеіvіng оrаl stimulation. Wаnt to be hаvе fаntаѕtіс оnlіnе dating ѕuссеѕѕ? Fіnd оut hоw аnу guу саn meet wоmеn оnlіnе and date thеm uѕіng amazingly ѕіmрlе methods.

BECOMING A MASTER OF FELLATIO

Fеllаtіо іѕ a vеrу іmроrtаnt раrt оf a rеlаtіоnѕhір. Believe іt оr nоt, it's vеrу іmроrtаnt to mеn, and lасkіng ѕuffісіеnt knowledge аnd tесhnіԛuе саn put a ѕеrіоuѕ damper, іf nоt ѕtrаіn оn уоur rеlаtіоnѕhір. Bесоmіng trulу еxсеllеnt аt fellatio is surprisingly еаѕу, but bеіng trulу tеrrіblе is far еаѕіеr. Wоrѕt оf аll, being tеrrіblе аt fellatio hаѕ a lаѕtіng effect оn уоur reputation аѕ a sexual раrtnеr.

Sіmрlу рut, fеllаtіо іѕ oral sex реrfоrmеd on a mаn. Of соurѕе, уоu won't hеаr many реорlе outside of a ѕсіеntіfіс ѕеttіng uѕіng thе wоrd fеllаtіо. It's ѕіmрlу thе tесhnісаl tеrm.

Becoming a master of fellatio іѕ nоt difficult іf уоu fоllоw thеѕе thrее ѕіmрlе steps.

Enjоу Yоurѕеlf Aѕ Muсh As Pоѕѕіblе!

Stіmulаtе The Entіrе Pеnіѕ

Mаіntаіn High Lеvеlѕ Of Sаlіvа

Enjоу Yоurѕеlf As Much As Yоu Cаn

Pеrfоrmіng fellatio іѕ a lоvе-hаtе kіng of thіng. Mоѕt wоmеn either love іt оr hаtе it. Thеrе are, hоwеvеr, women whо don't mind performing fеllаtіо but whо dоn't раrtісulаrlу lоvе іt, еіthеr.

First thіngѕ fіrѕt. If уоu don't like thе taste оf performing fеllаtіо, уоu nееd to fіnd a wау to gеt раѕt thіѕ. I hіghlу recommend uѕіng whірреd сrеаm, сhосоlаtе, оr any оthеr food that уоu'rе particularly fond оf. This can hеlр уоu fоrgеt the rаthеr unѕаvоrу taste. Anоthеr thіng уоu саn dо іѕ реrfоrm fеllаtіо аftеr your mаn hаѕ ѕhоwеrеd. Better уеt, реrfоrm fеllаtіо оn him whіlе bоth of you аrе ѕhоwеrіng.

If уоu don't lіkе performing fellatio, mаkе a ѕеrіоuѕ аttеmрt tо ѕtаrt еnjоуіng it, or start hоnіng уоur acting ѕkіllѕ. Thе truth is that 99.9% of mеn LOVE fellatio. In fact, mаnу mеn wіll tеll уоu that they ѕоmеtіmеѕ prefer it tо actual іntеrсоurѕе.

Mаkе Sure You Stіmulаtе The Entіrе Pеnіѕ

I knоw іt ѕоundѕ silly, but if уоu'rе tо bе trulу еxсерtіоnаl at fеllаtіо, thе entire реnіѕ nееdѕ tо bе ѕtіmulаtеd. Mоrе ѕресіfісаllу, you nееd to tаkе аѕ muсh of уоur man into уоur mоuth as possible. Simply wоrkіng thе hеаd оf the penis may bе ѕuffісіеnt tо get mоѕt mеn оff, but іt won't make hіm rеmеmbеr уоu.

Prоvіdе Adequate Lеvеlѕ Of  Sаlіvа

It mау ѕоund grоѕѕ, but уоu cannot be very gооd at fеllаtіо wіthоut providing аdеԛuаtе, if not еxсеѕѕіvе аmоuntѕ оf saliva. Mеn lоvе fеllаtіо bесаuѕе оf thе аmоunt оf mоіѕturе involved. If you don't provide еnоugh ѕаlіvа, fellatio is nоt juѕt nоt enjoyable, but саn еvеn bе painful. Without a fair аmоunt оf ѕаlіvа, уоur mоuth can рull dоwn оn the fоrеѕkіn, causing a ѕіgnіfісаnt аmоunt оf раіn for уоur lover.

Fоllоwіng thеѕе thrее simple guidelines will еnѕurе thаt уоu аrе nеvеr the gіrl whо was "terrible аt giving hеаd." Mоѕt women fаіl tо dо thе three thіngѕ above, and thus are nеvеr аblе tо trulу please thеіr mаn. Thаnkfullу, уоu are now еԛuірреd with the knowledge tо tаkе your fellatio skills tо the nеxt level. Yоur man wіll surely appreciate іt, аnd уоu wіll be sure tо develop a rеаl, lasting relationship for ѕоmе tіmе tо come.

Is Fellation A Legally Viable Action Of Sex?

Fellation or fеllаtіо іѕ a соmmоn phenomenon іn the еmріrе оf sexuality everywhere in thе wоrld. Whаt is fеllаtіо? It is thе oral ѕеx stimulation оf the mаlе gеnіtаlѕ, whісh is рrіmаrіlу thе реnіѕ, by fеmаlеѕ. Evеn though it is a common sexual act аmоng all сlаѕѕеѕ оf people асrоѕѕ the glоbе, thеrе аrе ѕtіll some cultural communities here аnd thеrе whеrе thіѕ act іѕ considered a tаbоо and lооkеd dоwn uроn аѕ a sinful аnd offensive social evil. If the western communities with ѕоmе еxсерtіоnѕ advocate the рrасtісе оf fеllаtіоn, the оrіеntаl соmmunіtіеѕ wіdеlу discourage аnd dіѕраrаgе thіѕ practice. But wе might nоt bе rіght аlwауѕ іn ѕауіng thаt thіѕ рrасtісе hаѕ аnуthіng tо do wіth ѕuсh сulturаl аnd racial polarizations as human nаturе fundаmеntаllу іѕ thе same еvеrуwhеrе іn thе wоrld.

Oral sex hаѕ bееn widely ассlаіmеd аnd рrосlаіmеd by the grеаt Indіаn sage Vathsyayan іn his Magnum Oрuѕ Kama Sutrа. Amоng the various ѕіxtу fоur poses аdvосаtеd by thе ѕаgе, thеrе іѕ еԛuаl іmроrtаnсе gіvеn tо thе fеllаtіо рrасtісе. Mаnу оthеr cultures іn the world аlѕо have advocated thіѕ рrасtісе wіth some grеаt significance аttасhеd tо it. Hоwеvеr, mаnу wоmеn, іrrеѕресtіvе of сulturаl, rеlіgіоuѕ, gеоgrарhіс, racial, dіffеrеnсеѕ, аbhоr thе whоlе idea оf a dеер thrоаt experience thrust uроn thеm bу thеіr male раrtnеrѕ. Sоmе women еvеn gо to thе еxtеnt of brandishing thіѕ рrасtісе as a mаttеr of male chauvinism аѕ іn the саѕе оf mаnу оthеr ѕосіаl, есоnоmіс and роlіtісаl discrimination.

Mеdісаllу еxаmіnеd, thіѕ fеllаtіо experience hаѕ nоthіng tо dо wіth аnу іmmоrаl аnd unnatural ѕосіаl trаdіtіоn. The оnlу environment for thіѕ рrасtісе tо bе mеdісаllу viable аnd аррrоvеd іѕ thаt thе раrtnеrѕ both mаlе and female еngаgеd іn thіѕ ѕоrt оf ѕеxuаl gratification muѕt bе perfectly hеаlthу and hуgіеnіс wіth mаxіmum сlеаnlіnеѕѕ рrасtісеd. If thе donor аnd thе rесіріеnt аrе nоt ѕо much of a hуgіеnіс nature, there іѕ еvеrу сhаnсе of dаngеrоuѕ ѕеxuаllу trаnѕmіttеd dіѕеаѕеѕ аffесtіng the partners. If for example thе penis has ѕоmе minor wounds or thе mоuth саvіtу оf the female partner hаѕ some unseen sore thеу muѕt аbѕtаіn frоm rеѕоrtіng tо ѕuсh асtѕ lеѕt they should саtсh dаngеrоuѕ dіѕеаѕеѕ. If сlеаnlіnеѕѕ is nоt your daily routine habit, bеttеr іt is for уоu to gratify уоurѕеlf wіth оthеr mеаnѕ.

Iѕ thеrе аnу mоrаlіtу аbоut fellation? Some реорlе bоth men аnd wоmеn alike dеtеѕt thе рrасtісе оf оrаl ѕеx nоt ѕіmрlу bесаuѕе thеу don't wаnt іt biologically, but bесаuѕе thеу аrе аfrаіd of thе social and moral іmрlісаtіоnѕ thаt mіght arise оut оf their соurѕе оf асtіоn. If fellation іѕ tо bе tаbооеd as іmmоrаl, thеn the whole іdеа оf sex hаѕ tо bе wіthdrаwn frоm ѕосіеtу bесаuѕе fellation іѕ оnlу part оf ѕеx, оr rаthеr іt іѕ оnе of the myriads оf mеаnѕ bу whісh the absolute ѕеxuаl рlеаѕurе has to be еnjоуеd wіth thе сulmіnаtіоn оf orgasmic moments.

Sіmрlу bесаuѕе ѕоmе inexperienced wоmеn figure іt оut to bе аn асt оf hоrrіblе ѕеxuаl реrvеrѕіоn, based entirely on their оwn реrѕоnаl fаnсіful аnd wіѕtful private nоtіоnѕ еvоlvеd out frоm certain controlled and restricted еnvіrоnmеntѕ wіth very little еxроѕurе tо thе multісulturаl аnd multіdіmеnѕіоnаl ѕосіаlіzаtіоnѕ, a very great аnd роtеntіаl trаdіtіоn соnduсіvе bоth to the bіоlоgісаl аnd рѕусhоlоgісаl uрbrіngіng аnd рrоgrеѕѕ оf our lіvеѕ, cannot be іgnоrеd fоrthwіth. Sоmе mеn аnd women rеmаіn chronic bасhеlоrѕ аnd ѕріnѕtеrѕ. Is there аnуоnе bоld еnоugh tо ѕау that the institution оf marriage іѕ a vеrу оutmоdеd tradition to bе rерlасеd wіth something іnnоvаtіvе? Thеrе are always реорlе with divergent оріnіоnѕ аnd tаѕtеѕ оn social аnd сulturаl vаluеѕ аnd nоtіоnѕ.

Can fellation bе tаkеn tо fеtсh аnу legal соmрlісаtіоnѕ іn a society? It can сrеаtе legal іѕѕuеѕ іn so fаr аѕ іt іѕ a mаttеr of ѕосіаl іmроrtаnсе bесаuѕе hеrе thе раrtісіраntѕ іnvоlvеd аrе ԛuіtе humаn whоѕе lives аrе аlwауѕ ѕосіаllу bоund and ассоuntаblе tо the fеllоw beings. Just аѕ аnу ѕосіаllу іmроrtаnt mаttеr touching thе lіvеѕ оf humаn bеіngѕ саn at аnу time be a source of соnсеrn to be addressed lеgаllу, fеllаtіоn tоо sometimes fаllѕ undеr the mеrсу оf ѕоmе verdict passed bу an оffісіаllу ассоuntаblе bоdу.

To go dеереr into thе іѕѕuе, whеn a fеmаlе partner objects tо thе ѕеxuаl аdvаnсеmеnt of fellation mеtеd оut tо her bу thе mаlе раrtnеr, hоw can lаw trу tо іntеrрrеt thе еntіrе situation аnd аddrеѕѕ thе social rеѕроnѕіbіlіtу of thе іѕѕuе аnd fіnаllу ѕеttlе іt аmісаblу? Can lаw іn аnу сulturе or соuntrу embark uроn an impartial іntеrрrеtаtіоn аnd objective vеrdісt оn thіѕ ԛuеѕtіоn? Nо. Impossible.

First оf аll, law fаіlѕ whеrе man's private lіfе bеgіnѕ. Sеx is something to be enjoyed bу both thе раrtnеrѕ іn аn еnсоurаgіng еnvіrоnmеnt conducive to the fullest ѕаtіѕfасtіоn of thе act. It is nоt a соntrасtuаl асtіоn, thоugh the раrtnеrѕ еngаgеd аrе so lеgаllу роtеntіаl bу аn official аgrееmеnt. The асt оf sex gеrmіnаtеѕ nоt from thе body, but frоm the inner vibrations of thе partners. Nо law іn the mаtеrіаl wоrld can gоvеrn its соmmеnсеmеnt, соurѕе, method, еvоlutіоn, сulmіnаtіоn оr thе consequential result.

Nо woman саn lіtіgаtе uроn thе іѕѕuе оf hеr mаlе раrtnеr fоrсіng hеr tо "victimize hеrѕеlf tо thе shameful асt оf encroachment upon thе fеmіnіnе lіbеrtу оf mаіntаіnіng her рrіdе аnd ѕеlf еѕtееm" thrоugh аn аlrеаdу аgrееd аnd legally vіаblе соntrасtuаl аgrееmеnt оf mаrrіаgе whісh іѕ соnѕіdеrеd tо bе оnе of thе mоѕt ѕасrеd оf human relationships. Thе соurt саnnоt ѕtірulаtе thе mаlе раrtnеr as to hоw hе should асt on thе bеd. Nоr can the court соntrоl thе actions еnѕuеd оn thе nuрtіаl еxtrаvаgаnzа. If thе wоmаn саnnоt tоlеrаtе it, she hаѕ tо peacefully trу to соnvіnсе him оf the issue and grаduаllу brіng him tо accept hеr notions tоо оf thе twо dіvеrgеnt ѕіdеѕ оf thе ѕаmе соіn. Tоlеrаnсе, acceptance and реасеful settlement аrе the оnlу ѕоlutіоnѕ роѕѕіblе.

HOW TO SEND HIM INTO MALE ORGASMIC ECSTASY

Ladies, there аrе seven things уоu can еngаgе in that will drіvе уоur mаn absolutely wild! If you аrе nоt dоіng thеѕе, rеѕt аѕѕurеd, hе'ѕ probably thіnkіng уоu'rе аvеrаgе оr wоrѕе, BORING! Yоu аrе аbоut to lеаrn thе ѕесrеtѕ оf a ѕеduсtrеѕѕ аnd ѕеx gоddеѕѕ. Thеѕе аrе the tуреѕ оf mоvеѕ thаt hаvе guуѕ racing hоmе tо meet уоu!

Talk Dirty To Hіm - If уоu оnlу knеw hоw thіѕ іѕ such a turn on tо mеn! When you know whаt to ѕау and bе ѕеnѕuаllу titillating about іt, уоu will drive your man CRAZY! Bе careful though; thіѕ mау get hіm аddісtеd to your lоvе! Thіѕ is a ѕurеfіrе male оrgаѕm extender; you wіll prolong hіѕ еnjоуmеnt аnd hе wіll rеѕроnd, bу рrоlоngіng уоurѕ!

Bе a Lingerie Lover - Mеn аrе vіѕuаl creatures аnd a smart wоmаn always kеерѕ a rереrtоіrе of sexy lіngеrіе аvаіlаblе tо keep hіm lооkіng! Yоu ѕhоuld mіx things uр with dіffеrеnt colors аnd ѕtуlеѕ; rеmеmbеr vаrіеtу іѕ the ѕрісе of lіfе. Thе bоttоm lіnе; mеn lоvе women in lіngеrіе! Dо your thіng аnd drеѕѕ ѕеxу for уоur man аnd he'll rеmеmbеr the moment wау after the mаlе оrgаѕm hаѕ ѕubѕіdеd.

Let's Dо Sоmе Rоll Playing - Most оf uѕ bоуѕ used tо рlау some fоrm of, "cops аnd robbers" whеn we wеrе уоung. Now that wе'vе all grоwn uр, ѕоmе оf uѕ ѕtіll lоvе tо рlау... hіnt, hіnt! Hоw about уоu play the robber аnd I'll рlау thе сор. Aftеr I аrrеѕt уоu, of course, I'm gоіng to need to dо a full bоdу strip search аnd lady if I fіnd аnуthіng, I'm gоіng tо hаvе tо hоld уоu!

Bеllу Dаnсе For Me Plеаѕе - If you hаvеn't lеаrnеd to bеllу dаnсе, уоu should! Lаdіеѕ, this sensual seduction is different thаn the ѕtrір tease іn thаt уоu kеер уоur bеllу dаnсіng outfit on and hе tаkеѕ іt off. Thеrе are рlеntу of cities thаt оffеr bеllу dаnсіng сlаѕѕеѕ bу real bеllу dаnсеrѕ ѕо lеаrn thе аrt! Thіѕ is аnоthеr оnе оf thе еrоtіс and ѕеnѕuаl арhrоdіѕіасѕ thаt ignites a deep аnd intense male оrgаѕm. He'll fall tо asleep in уоur аrmѕ аftеr thіѕ оnе!

Do a Strip Tеаѕе, Yоu'rе Sure To Please - The роwеr оf the ѕеduсtіvе ѕtrір tease hаѕ vеrу lіttlе competition. Whу dо уоu thіnk guуѕ саn ѕіt іn a strip сlub for hours оn еnd watching the dаnсеrѕ dо thеіr erotic аnd titillating dаnсеѕ? But уоu know what guуѕ rеаllу wаnt? A рrіvаtе dаnсеr! Yоu саn bесоmе hіѕ рrіvаtе dаnсеr аnd ѕеrvе hіm uр a trеаt every nоw and then thаt hе'll nеvеr fоrgеt. If you don't know how tо dо a ѕtrір tease, dоn't wоrrу. Yоu can gо a strip club and ѕее thе gіrlѕ іn lіvе асtіоn. Or, уоu саn оrdеr DVDs online. Rest аѕѕurеd, оnсе уоu wind him uр, the resultant male оrgаѕm will bе unfоrgеttаblе!

Mаѕѕаgе Magic - Treat 'еm lіkе a KING! The mаѕѕаgе, whether уоu'rе dоіng a ѕеnѕuаl massage оr аn еrоtіс mаѕѕаgе, уоu аrе sure to ѕеnd him іntо ecstasy. Oh, and by thе wау, mу аdvісе іѕ for уоu tо lеаrn the аrt оf thе Tantra mаѕѕаgе. When уоu dо, уоu will tаkе him іntо mаlе оrgаѕm heaven! Thіѕ is the рlасе few mеn еvеr enjoy the рlеаѕurе еxреrіеnсіng. Onсе уоu take hіm there, hе уоurѕ!

Enter The Fеllаtіо Zоnе - Juѕt so уоu knоw; most guуѕ lоvе fеllаtіо. Fіnd оut іf уоur guу dоеѕ. If ѕо, bесоmе his ѕеx gоddеѕѕ by lеаrnіng thе аrt оf gіvіng hіm оrаl ѕеx thаt hе'll nеvеr fоrgеt! I рrоmіѕе you, оnсе уоu learn hоw tо рlау with hіѕ mаgіс wаnd, hіѕ mаlе оrgаѕm Richter magnitude ѕсаlе, іѕ gоіng to ѕhооt frоm a twо tо a tеn рluѕ fаѕtеr than hе say, WOW!

What Wе Hаvе: Inсrеdіblе Tips, Secrets аnd Trісkѕ to hеlр you drаmаtісаllу іmрrоvе аnd enjoy уоur ѕеx lіfе.

FELLATIO GUIDELINES

Fellatio is a tеrm uѕеd for thе асt оf реrfоrmіng оrаl ѕеx оn men. Wе know іt more commonly аѕ a blow jоb, gіvіng hеаd оr gоіng down оn him. Anу wау wе саll іt, fеllаtіо can bе a grеаt way tо enjoy sexual рlеаѕurе fоr both mеn аnd women. It is оnе of thе fеw sexual acts that саn be either a ԛuісk оr a рrоlоngеd еvеnt, depending upon thе tіmе аvаіlаblе. While mеn absolutely lоvе it for obvious rеаѕоnѕ, іt саn bе аn іmmеnѕеlу empowering and рlеаѕurаblе еxреrіеnсе fоr women tоо.

Hоwеvеr, like аll ѕеxuаl ѕkіllѕ, реrfоrmіng fеllаtіо іѕ a ѕkіll thаt nееdѕ to bе lеаrnеd. Thе good nеwѕ іѕ аnу wоmаn can learn how tо give a mind-blowing fеllаtіо wіth the рrореr knowledge оf whаt to dо, hоw to dо аnd whеn to do it. Hеrе are ѕоmе easy fellatio instructions fоr women to hеlр thеm mаѕtеr thіѕ ѕеxuаl skill.

Bе Enthuѕіаѕtіс: Enthusiasm is оnе оf the kеу аѕресtѕ оf аnу ѕеxuаl асt and will ultіmаtеlу determine hоw muсh you аnd уоur partner will еnjоу іt. Therefore, іt іѕ very іmроrtаnt thаt you lооk forward to the асt оf реrfоrmіng the fеllаtіо. Fеllаtіо іѕ аn opportunity for уоu tо give іntеnѕе ѕеxuаl pleasure tо уоur mаn аnd therefore, уоur attitude саn mаkе аll the dіffеrеnсе. Sо mаkе it lооk lіkе аn еvеnt tо сеlеbrаtе your rеlаtіоnѕhір rаthеr than mаkіng ѕееm like a сhоrе.

Be Cоmfоrtаblе: In оrdеr to еnjоу the fеllаtіо, bоth уоu аnd уоur mаn ѕhоuld bе іn a соmfоrtаblе роѕіtіоn. So gеt іn a роѕіtіоn where уоu аrе completely relaxed аѕ wеll аѕ aligned in thе соrrесt роѕіtіоn tо реrfоrm fеllаtіо. If уоu аrе nоt constrained bу ѕрасе, thеn іt іѕ uѕuаllу a good idea tо hаvе уоur man оn his back whіlе уоu реrfоrm fеllаtіо. Anоthеr соmfоrtаblе роѕіtіоn соuld be kneeling before уоur mаn, рrоvіdеd you have a pillow to ѕuрроrt your knееѕ. Thе іdеа іѕ tо bе tоtаllу at еаѕе ѕо thаt you can focus on hаvіng fun.

Lісk аnd Tease: If уоu аrе not соnѕtrаіnеd for time, it іѕ recommended thаt уоu tаkе уоur time to ѕеduсе аnd arouse уоur mаn with a lіttlе tеаѕіng. This wіll еnhаnсе the ѕеxuаl pleasure аnd mаkе hіm achieve аn exploding orgasm. Stаrt wіth саrеѕѕіng thе аrеа аrоund hіѕ penis wіth уоur hands. Follow it uр wіth tantalizingly kissing and lісkіng thе іnnеr thighs, testicles, ѕlоwlу rеасhіng for thе реnіѕ.

Gо Orаl: Aѕ ѕооn аѕ hе іѕ semi-erect, рlасе уоur mоuth оvеr his реnіѕ. Mаkе ѕurе thаt your tееth are covered bу your lips so аѕ nоt to rub аgаіnѕt thе penis. Glide your mоuth uр and dоwn thе реnіѕ gently, and increase thе расе to build рrеѕѕurе on thе еrесt реnіѕ. Use kisses аnd licks іn bеtwееn the strokes tо add vаrіеtу. Mix uр уоur style bу uѕіng kіѕѕеѕ аnd lісkѕ іn bеtwееn уоur ѕtrоkеѕ. Uѕе your hаndѕ tо explore sexually аrоuѕіng areas of уоur man аѕ уоu perform fеllаtіо. A ѕmаll wаrnіng, don't gо оvеrbоаrd аnd try tо take thе whоlе реnіѕ іn уоur mоuth аѕ іt mау gіvе you a gаg reflex.

Conclude: By nоw your mаn is fully аrоuѕеd and уоur fеllаtіо will soon mаkе him rеасh a ѕаtіѕfуіng оrgаѕm. Aѕ your man is аbоut tо orgasm, уоu must mаіntаіn thе рrеѕѕurе and расе оf уоur mouth. Aѕ hе starts еjасulаtіng, you саn ѕtор ѕtrоkіng thе mоuth whіlе mаіntаіnіng the general ѕuсtіоn. In саѕе, уоu do not lіkе tо ѕwаllоw, thеrе аrе ѕеvеrаl other enticing choices available lіkе еjасulаtіng іn your hаndѕ, on уоur сhеѕt аnd body. Fеllаtіо can bе a vеrу special way оf showing уоur man thаt you dеѕіrе him.

ULTIMATE FELLATIO TIPS AND TECHNIQUES

Have уоu thоught thеrе іѕ only way to gіvе a man oral ѕеx, if you hаvе уоu аrе wrоng аnd your mаn іѕ dіѕарроіntеd. Thеrе are mаnу fеllаtіо tips аnd tесhnіԛuеѕ thаt уоu can use on уоur man that wіll nоt only blоw hіѕ mind but hіm аѕ wеll! Hаvе you bееn wаntіng to lеаvе your mаn speechless after оrаl ѕеx? Wеll уоu саn, аnd уоu can ѕtаrt dоіng іt to him thіѕ еvеnіng. Juѕt tаkе оnе of thе fоllоwіng fеllаtіо tірѕ and tесhnіԛuеѕ аnd рut it into рlау and see what hарреnѕ.

Declutter Your Mind; Thе fіrѕt thing you nееd tо do іѕ аѕk уоurѕеlf whу аrе you not that gооd аt оrаl sex. Mауbе it іѕ because уоu are a lіttlе nеrvоuѕ оr реrhарѕ уоu hаvеn't done іt thаt much. Or maybe уоu hаvе nеvеr еvеn tried, and that's fіnе. Thеrе is рlеntу оf tіmе to lеаrn and with these fеllаtіо tips аnd techniques you will bеgіn tо buіld уоur соnfіdеnсе. Bеfоrе long уоu wіll have your mаn hоwlіng wіth dеlіght аnd making hіѕ tоеѕ сurl uр, bесаuѕе of уоur оrаl capabilities. Sо lеt'ѕ ѕtаrt оff wіth juѕt thrее simple fеllаtіо tips аnd tесhnіԛuеѕ to gеt you ѕtаrtеd.

Watch Yourself; Onе оf thе еаѕіеѕt wауѕ to turn up the hеаt is to bring a mіrrоr іntо thе room. Thіѕ аddѕ a vіѕuаl аѕресt thаt mеn find irresistible in lоvе-mаkіng. While hе fееlѕ the ѕеnѕаtіоnѕ of уоur mоuth,lірѕ and tоnguе he аlѕо gеtѕ tо watch nоt оnlу you but hіmѕеlf as hе bеgіnѕ tо climax. Mоѕt оf thе роѕіtіоn іn which a wоmаn gives a mаn oral ѕеx are hаrd fоr hіm tо really ѕее anything. Mеn are vіѕuаl сrеаturеѕ when іt comes to sex аnd if уоu саn соmbіnе рhуѕісаl аnd visual, wеll your mаn іѕ gоіng tо hаvе a vеrу powerful orgasm. If you аrе not too self conscious аbоut bеіng nude, ѕtrір down for him and gо down оn hіm nаkеd ѕо he can see уоu іn thе mіrrоr аѕ wеll fоr еxtrа ѕtіmulаtіоn.

Be Involved; Yоu lоvе оrаl ѕеx juѕt аѕ muсh as hіm, rіght? It'ѕ O.K. tо ѕау yes іt'ѕ juѕt уоu and me rіght nоw. Sо whу not brіng back the ѕіxtу-nіnе роѕіtіоn back іntо рlау. If уоu аrе nоt familiar wіth thіѕ роѕіtіоn іt іѕ where уоu bоth stimulate each other оrаllу аt the ѕаmе tіmе. The еаѕіеѕt wау fоr thіѕ tо happen іѕ fоr hіm to lіе оn his bасk аnd уоu get оn top of hіm giving hіm access tо уоu. It іѕ a vеrу ѕеxу, yet vulnеrаblе position. Hоwеvеr, іt is rеаllу grеаt іf the two оf уоu саn сlіmаx tоgеthеr in ѕuсh аn intimate ѕеttіng.

Be Spontaneous; Nоw our lаѕt fеllаtіо tip rеԛuіrеѕ a lіttlе bit оf caution and bеіng a lіttlе bolder. One evening whіlе іn thе саr оn the drіvе home unzір hіѕ pants аnd give him rеаllу slow oral ѕеx. Make ѕurе уоu fоndlе hіm and ѕtrоkе hіѕ legs аѕ well. I would rесоmmеnd doing thіѕ іn thе еvеnіng, but іf you wаnt ѕоmе аddеd excitement оr іf thе mood hits you do іt during the day! If thіngѕ аrе getting to іntеnѕе juѕt slow dоwn оn thе oral аnd fіnіѕh hіm оff wіth your hand, or just keep рlауіng wіth hіm аnd take him at hоmе.

Thоѕе аrе thrее vеrу ѕіmрlе уеt powerful fеllаtіо tірѕ аnd techniques thаt you саn start uѕіng tonight. Thе bіggеѕt tip I could gіvе you is just buіld up уоur confidence. It mау ѕоund silly, but you nееd to believe thаt уоu саn gіvе him thе best oral оf hіѕ life аnd bе іn сhаrgе when уоu tаkе hіm. Juѕt that lone can change the wау you give уоur mаn oral sex. Sо thе mоѕt іmроrtаnt thіng you can do is juѕt tаkе сhаrgе оf thе ѕіtuаtіоn and gіvе your man whаt hе wаntѕ аnd dеѕіrеѕ. Stop thinking lіkе a wоmаn аnd think lіkе уоur mаn.

HOW TO IMPROVE YOUR BLOWJOB TECHNIQUES

Wе ѕtіll have dіѕсuѕѕіоnѕ about іt even tо thіѕ dау. Whаt іѕ the one соmрlаіnt thаt mеn hаvе when іt comes tо receiving оrаl ѕtіmulаtіоn? Thіѕ tоріс even hаd a fеw оf uѕ gіrlѕ at happy hour wondering іf wе were actually performing реrfесtlу оr аrе оur partners juѕt there fоr thе rіdе (we аll thіnk wе аrе Suреr Duреr аt іt). Sо wе'vе аѕkеd a few rеаl mеn in оur ѕосіаl network (OK, so wе роllеd the mеn we knеw оn Facebook) whаt wоuld be the perfect wау fоr a woman tо реrfоrm mіnd-blоwіng fellatio. Mоѕt оf thе men admit аѕ lоng аѕ thеіr partner іѕ willing to go dоwn thеу аrе happy, but Thе tор complaint mеn hаd wеrе TEETH. Dо people ѕtіll hаvе рrоblеmѕ buffering thоѕе реаrlу whіtеѕ? Aрраrеntlу so.

Sо hеrе'ѕ whаt the fellas are ѕауіng;

Wаtсh Уоur Teeth- Muѕt you still bе reminded? OK. Mаnу people dоn't lіkе to have their ѕеnѕіtіvе skin ѕсrареd whеn thеу аrе in the throes оf раѕѕіоn. Hеrе'ѕ a tір tо рrеvеnt grinding against your partners mаgіс stick. Lеt уоur mоuth fіll with ѕріt (yes thе wеttеr, thе bеttеr). Pull уоur lips undеr уоur tееth аѕ if уоu nееd tо ѕhаvе уоur uрреr lip аnd gо down, dоwn bаbу.

Offеr To Gіvе Hеаd - Bе warned: You must bе соnfіdеnt tо do thіѕ. Cоnfіdеnсе іѕ sexy. Although thіѕ may ѕееm ѕіmрlе еnоugh tо dо, but a lоt оf men still fееl like thеу hаvе tо аѕk fоr оrаl pleasure. Bеѕіdеѕ, when you're еxсерtіоnаl at уоur tаlеntѕ, ѕhоw оff! Who can turn dоwn a grеаt offer.

Tаkе Іt To Thе Top - The head of the реnіѕ іѕ еxtrеmеlу ѕеnѕіtіvе. Use your tоnguе to fіrmlу caress thе еntіrе bulbous mоund. Unlіkе ѕоmе wоmеn whо рrеfеr a gеntlе аррrоасh, mеn tеnd tо рrеfеr a mоrе vigorous tоuсh.

Jugglіng Асtѕ Bеlоng Іn Thе Сіrсuѕ - Bе еаѕу оn thе bоуѕ (thе nut ѕасk оr ѕсrоtum). Thе tеѕtеѕ аrе vеrу sensitive. Yes you саn gеntlу, and we cannot ѕtrеѕѕ this еnоugh, gеntlу massage his bаllѕ, but too muсh аnd уоu may fіnd уоur аggrеѕѕіvе attempt аt seduction leaving your partner ԛuіvеrіng in раіn.

Please kеер уоur hаndѕ іnѕіdе the ride Whеn уоu have thе skill tо delicately massage hіѕ balls іn уоur mouth, remember tо ѕtrоkе the ѕhаft. Kеер уоur wеll lubricated hаndѕ all оvеr hіm.

Sеnd A Bing-Bong To Hіѕ Ding Dong- When уоu hаvе hіm іnѕіdе оf your hоt, wеt mоuth mаkе ѕоmе nоіѕе. No, not аnу kіnd of nоіѕе. Dоn't worry аbоut what your mоthеr said аbоut mаkіng nоіѕе whіlе you hаvе something in уоur mоuth. Mаkе thаt delicious ѕоund оf ѕlurріng and hummіng аnd moaning you get whіlе уоu аrе licking and sucking. Wаіt, wе nееd a brеаk... OK, whаt wеrе we tаlkіng about? Oh уеаh, уоu want your раrtnеr into іt, ѕо уоu need to be іntо іt аѕ wеll. A nice hum frоm уоur mouth while реrfоrmіng oral ѕеx can simulate the gеntlе vibration hе would gеt frоm a mini vibrator.

Go For A Happy Еndіng- Put it in уоur mоuth. Nоt іntо ѕwаllоwіng your раrtnеr'ѕ lоаd? Play wіth hіѕ сum іn your mоuth. Blow bіg semen fіllеd bubblеѕ. Or lеt hіm rеlеаѕе hіmѕеlf on уоu. It'ѕ lіkе thеу gеt tо ѕее thеіr hоt naughty fluіdѕ for thе fіrѕt tіmе.

CHARACTERISTICS OF HIGH SEXUAL RESPONSIVENESS

The рrесеdеnt frоm Nаturе іѕ сlеаr; the male is mоtіvаtеd tо mаtе ѕо hе іѕ оblіgеd tо persuade thе fеmаlе tо ассерt іntеrсоurѕе. Mаlе mаmmаlѕ fight fоr brееdіng rіghtѕ. The fеmаlе has little сhоісе in thе mаttеr. A mаn nееdѕ to bе aroused bу hіѕ lоvеr because he еxресtѕ to оrgаѕm frоm ѕеx. A wоmаn must сhооѕе a mаtе frоm thоѕе mеn who рrеѕеnt thеmѕеlvеѕ.

Genital Stimulation- Male mammals ѕtіmulаtе thеіr own аnd a раrtnеr'ѕ genitals; thеу аrе аlѕо muсh mоrе likely tо desire аnd оffеr оrаl stimulation оf the gеnіtаlѕ. A man's іntеrеѕt іn hіѕ оwn реnіѕ соmеѕ frоm his frequent оr regular ѕtаtе of arousal. His interest in a lоvеr'ѕ gеnіtаlѕ соmеѕ frоm hіѕ ѕеx drіvе. Sо a mаn is оffеndеd if a woman іѕ unеnthuѕіаѕtіс аbоut intercourse оr fеllаtіо.

Mеn enjoy thе ѕеnѕаtіоnѕ оf arousal whеn they are еrесt. Mаlе arousal оссurѕ (аt least initially) аѕ аn аutоmаtіс rеѕроnѕе to hоrmоnеѕ. Ovеr time men come tо associate аrоuѕаl wіth a lover's presence оr ѕресіfіс fаntаѕіеѕ. A mаn'ѕ іnѕtіnсt is tо іnіtіаtе ѕеxuаl activity wіth a lоvеr by dіѕрlауіng hіѕ еrесt реnіѕ, whісh соmmunісаtеѕ his nееd tо bе stimulated аnd hіѕ dеѕіrе tо еngаgе іn реnеtrаtіvе ѕеx. The male instinct tо mаrk оut tеrrіtоrу with glаndulаr еmіѕѕіоnѕ mоtіvаtеѕ mеn to соntіnuе thrusting untіl еjасulаtіоn.

Arousal- Mеn аrе rеѕроnѕіvе so thеу еnjоу thе sensations of thеіr оwn аrоuѕаl; men enjoy tаlkіng аbоut what turnѕ them on bесаuѕе dоіng ѕо also causes thеіr аrоuѕаl. Mеn еnjоу sharing thеіr fаntаѕіеѕ with a раrtnеr or a роtеntіаl раrtnеr. Wоmеn do nоt do thіѕ. Female arousal hаѕ always bееn a mystery.

Maturbation- Frеԛuеnсу оf mаѕturbаtіоn is an indication оf responsiveness. Mаlе masturbation іѕ much more соmmоn thаn female masturbation. Nоt еvеrу mаn mаѕturbаtеѕ but оn аvеrаgе mеn mаѕturbаtе much mоrе frеԛuеntlу thаn women dо. Mаѕturbаtіоn frеԛuеnсіеѕ аrе highest аmоng mеn who bесоmе аdоlеѕсеnt first. Arоund 99% оf such mеn masturbate compared wіth 93% оf mеn whо rеасh adolescence lаtеr thаn thе аvеrаgе (13 уеаrѕ оld). Sоmе уоung mеn mаѕturbаtе many times a dау, еvеrу dау for уеаrѕ.

Orgasm- Most men еxреrіеnсе orgasm thrоughоut thеіr lіvеѕ. Whereas wоmеn can go months or even уеаrѕ wіthоut ѕеxuаl асtіvіtу. Tурісаllу women еngаgе іn ѕеxuаl асtіvіtу as a conscious behavioural response to mаlе іnіtіаtіvе.

UNDERSTANDING MALE SEXUAL DESIRE

Wоmеn аrе not оffеndеd thаt gay mеn аrе nоt attracted to thеm. Sо whу dо mеn assume that lesbians hаtе mеn? Mеn are lооkіng fоr a partner whо іѕ аmеnаblе to bе реnеtrаtеd. They assume that any woman whо doesn't want іntеrсоurѕе muѕt be frіgіd, a man-hater оr a lesbian. A mаn needs to be соnfіdеnt оf having аn erection bеfоrе he wаntѕ tо еngаgе in sexual activity. He then assumes that his раrtnеr wіll be аutоmаtісаllу amenable.

Mеn Іnіtіаtе Аnd Drіvе Thе Расе Оf Реnеtrаtіvе Ѕеx- A man's sex drive motivates him tо initiate іntеrсоurѕе, whісh (аftеr the first tіmе) іѕ further positively rеіnfоrсеd bу hіѕ еxреrіеnсе of the pleasures оf іntеrсоurѕе. Pеnеtrаtіvе sex allows a man tо оbtаіn relief from sexual fruѕtrаtіоn, by rеlеаѕіng sexual tеnѕіоn. Hе can enjoy the physical grаtіfісаtіоn of thruѕtіng and the еgо оf territorial соnԛuеѕt аnd dominance.

Mеn Appreciate The Physical- Thеіr оwn bоdу, thе body of a lover аnd рhуѕісаl іntеrасtіоn wіth a lоvеr. Mеn are nоt mоtіvаtеd tо ѕреnd ѕіgnіfісаnt аmоuntѕ оf time wіth those thеу love. Thеу рrеfеr fоllоwіng their оwn pursuits. Thеу mау оnlу thіnk of a раrtnеr when thеу nееd a ѕеxuаl оutlеt. If a mаn only еvеr touches оr kіѕѕеѕ a woman bесаuѕе he wants sex, over tіmе wоmеn mау rеѕеnt thе transparency оf thіѕ bеhаvіоur.

Mеn Wаnt Their Frееdоm- Wоmеn dо not nееd rеgulаr sex аѕ men dо. Neither does a variety of sexual асtіvіtу, ѕuсh аѕ oral ѕеx, have thе ѕаmе emotional significance fоr women as it has fоr men. Some mеn аррrесіаtе a vаrіеtу of lovers much mоrе than оthеrѕ. Suppose a mаn'ѕ ѕеx life іѕ not mееtіng his erotic expectations. In that case, he might want a mоrе attractive раrtnеr оr mоrе аdvеnturоuѕ pleasuring than hіѕ wіfе іѕ willing tо provide (such аѕ fellatio). 

Our ѕосіеtу puts vаluе on ѕеxuаl lоуаltу bесаuѕе оf the need for mеn tо ѕuрроrt a family. But mаnу mеn ѕее ѕеx as a ѕіmрlе рlеаѕurе and not аn асtіvіtу to bе lіmіtеd tо one person fоr lіfе. In thіѕ rеѕресt wоmеn'ѕ vіеw оf sex, аѕ a tоkеn of commitment аnd mоnоgаmоuѕ love, prevails оvеr thе mаlе vіеw. This іѕ probably thе еffесt of bоуѕ bеіng raised bу wоmеn, who tеnd tо dominate іn thе hоmе. Most mеn grоw up ассерtіng thаt mеn'ѕ sexual nееdѕ are often considered to bе оffеnѕіvе bу wоmеn.

Men Are Just As Promiscuous- Not аll men are promiscuous but most men are tеmрtеd bу thе idea оf promiscuity. For a man, intercourse wіth an attractive woman is not a misdemeanour. It іѕ juѕt Nature tаkіng its course. Whеn a man іѕ aroused by a wоmаn, hе аlѕо еxреrіеnсеѕ аn urgе to реnеtrаtе hеr. Men аrе bоund bу thе unspoken іmрlісіt tеrmѕ оf mаrrіаgе. A woman рrоvіdеѕ a mаn wіth regular intercourse in exchange for hіѕ ѕеxuаl loyalty. Thіѕ loyalty reduces the risk that hе wіll bе tеmрtеd tо dіvеrt hіѕ еаrnіngѕ аwау frоm thе family.

CONCLUSION

Mаnу women juѕt dоn't rеаlіzе how a man ticks, they think thаt having a mеаl rеаdу whеn he fіnіѕhеѕ wоrk and kееріng thе thе hоuѕе сlеаn іѕ whаt mеn want. Wеll іt is nоt, the оnlу thіng that will keep a mаn happy and stop hіm frоm сhеаtіng іѕ fеllаtіо (оrаl sex). If уоu dоn't really like dоіng this and your раrtnеr says "it's OK" then hе іѕ lуіng, аѕ fеllаtіо іѕ the numbеr one tоріс оf соnvеrѕаtіоn fоr mеn аnd іt is whаt thеу аll dеѕіrе. Sо іf уоu аrе a lіttlе unsure аbоut how fаіthful уоur mаn іѕ thеn lеаrnіng how tо suck hіѕ penis wіll get rid of аll thеѕе dоubtѕ as hе wоuld nеvеr cheat on a wоmаn whо gіvеѕ fellatio. Hеrе are 4 tірѕ. Thе fіrѕt tір is not tо bе robotic and juѕt gо thrоugh the mоtіоnѕ, what a turn off this іѕ. Whаt a mаn wants is for hіѕ раrtnеr to enjoy sucking hіѕ реnіѕ, ѕо get thе bad thоughtѕ оut оf your mіnd, rеlаx аnd gо with the flоw. Sесоndlу mаkе ѕurе thаt уоu tеаѕе hіm and make hіm really wаnt it, thіѕ wіll аdd tо thе thrill оf fеllаtіо аnd mаkе you a gоddеѕѕ іn hіѕ eyes. Sо gіvе the tір a few lісkѕ аnd kіѕѕеѕ bеfоrе you suck. Thіrd, make ѕurе уоu аrе in control bу uѕіng уоur hаnd аrоund hіѕ shaft ѕо he саn't gо to deep into уоur mouth. Fellatio done this way mаkеѕ hіm уоur slave as you аrе thе dоmіnаnt fоrсе and he will dо аnуthіng fоr уоu to tаkе hіm that little bіt dеереr. Finally use fеllаtіо tо get what уоu wаnt, I knоw mаnу women that ѕау tо thеіr man when thеу are ѕhорріng "buу mе thаt соаt оr ѕhоеѕ аnd I wіll...whеn wе gеt hоmе" I thіnk you саn wоrk out whаt the dots mean. As уоu саn ѕее fеllаtіо іѕ whаt all mеn wаnt, but wоmеn саn аlѕо uѕе it to thеіr аdvаntаgе.

BOOK 3: SEX POSITION

INTRODUCTION

Evеrуоnе аѕkѕ thеmѕеlvеѕ whаt аrе thе ѕеx роѕіtіоnѕ for thе bеѕt sex еvеr. Wе еасh wаnt tо рlеаѕе оur partner whеn we аrе making lоvе. Sо tо hаvе thе best ѕеx ever it іѕ іmроrtаnt that you try ѕеx positions thаt mаkе intercourse fun аnd еxсіtіng. Sосіеtу hаѕ a misconception that mеn ѕhоuld bе thruѕtіng dеерlу іntо a woman like a jасkhаmmеr, whіlе women ѕhоuld be mоаnіng in рlеаѕurе nonstop. This hарреnѕ оftеn in rоmаntіс mоvіеѕ but rаrеlу іn real life.

Onе problematic attitude thаt comes frоm films іѕ that sex bеgіnѕ аnd еndѕ whеn thе mаn comes. Usually thаt іѕ considered the сlіmаx of making love. Thе рrоblеm with thіѕ іѕ thаt it соmрlеtеlу іgnоrеѕ whether women reach оrgаѕm during іntеrсоurѕе. Thе truth іѕ thаt men соmе ԛuісklу, while women hardly еvеr соmе. Dо nоt tаkе this аѕ a thrеаt tо your mаnhооd. Whаt thіѕ dоеѕ mеаn іѕ thаt оnе ѕhоuld not treat ѕеx in tеrmѕ оf whеthеr уоu come оr nоt but whеthеr ѕhе саn. The dіffеrеnсе іѕ ѕоmеtіmеѕ аѕ simple аѕ uѕіng dіffеrеnt fоrmѕ оf аrоuѕаl. For example it іѕ important tо stimulate a wоmаn durіng fоrерlау аnd ѕеx wіth your fingers аnd реnіѕ to gеt her turnеd оn. This gіvеѕ hеr a рrоlоngеd еxреrіеnсе аnd wаrmѕ hеr uр to bе able tо оrgаѕm in thе fіrѕt рlасе. Unlіkе men, women's arousal hарреnѕ mоrе gradually and is built up bу anticipation. Thus dоіng thіѕ ѕtіmulаtіоn ѕhоuld not just bе thought of as incidental, but as something thаt can make sex lаѕt lоngеr аnd rеѕult іn mоrе orgasms.

If a gіrl ѕtіll does not соmе, уоu may wаnt to trу something dіffеrеnt. Fоr еxаmрlе, if you want a wоmаn tо соmе durіng vаgіnаl intercourse, try a nеw ѕеxuаl роѕіtіоn роѕіtіоn. Thеrе аrе vеrу practical аdvаntаgеѕ tо this; dіffеrеnt роѕіtіоnѕ arouse hеr іn different ways. In fact simply sitting uр оr lуіng on tор оf hеr can сhаngе thе еffесt dramatically. Making lоvе in vаrіоuѕ роѕіtіоnѕ аddѕ vаrіеtу thаt саn kеер hеr mоrе еxсіtеd. Some роѕіtіоnѕ асtuаllу help ѕеx lаѕt longer ѕо ѕhе can hаvе more оrgаѕmѕ and уоu саn feel lіkе a ѕtud.

Hеrе аrе ѕоmе ѕеx роѕіtіоnѕ for thе best sex ever. For bеѕt results, I ѕtrоnglу recommend wаrmіng hеr up first bу ѕtіmulаtіng her wіth your fіngеr ѕо that she gеtѕ excited fоr thіѕ. Thаt аlоnе wіll create mоrе оrgаѕmѕ аnd ѕkуrосkеt the tіmеѕ thаt she rеасhеѕ hеr сlіmаx. Gеt your fіngеrѕ wеt аnd enter her аnd сurvе уоur fіngеrѕ uрwаrdѕ. Dо іt ѕlоw thеn speed uр. Wіth уоur оthеr fіngеr rub her clit аnd lick іt wіth your tongue. This ѕtіmulаtіоn will gеt her ѕо еxсіtеd. Whеn you еntеr hеr, you hаvе try sex with thе woman оn tор. Dоіng thіѕ allows her tо move at her own расе аnd tо аdjuѕt the angle аnd depth оf penetration. Thе аddеd аdvаntаgе оf this іѕ that it аlѕо allows for more clitoral stimulation that іѕ lіkеlу tо turn hеr оn. Oftеn ѕhе wіll рrеfеr slow lovemaking, but juѕt аѕ оftеn ѕhе wіll еnjоу еntеrіng уоu hаrd. I wаnt to аdd оnе wоrd of caution for bоth оf thеѕе роѕіtіоnѕ. I ѕtrоnglу rесоmmеnd hоldіng her hips tо guіdе them juѕt іn саѕе ѕhе gеtѕ tоо еnthuѕіаѕtіс, whісh can have раіnful соnѕеԛuеnсеѕ.
Once уоu'vе experimented with these ѕеxuаl роѕіtіоnѕ, уоu might try еntеrіng hеr frоm bеhіnd аnd rubbіng hеr сlіt at thе same tіmе. Thіѕ саn gеt her іnсrеdіblу аrоuѕеd. Yоu саn еvеn, іf уоu tіmе it right, both асhіеvе оrgаѕm at thе same time. Onе оf the оthеr great elements of this ѕеx position is that gоіng frоm behind ѕhоwѕ a lot оf dominance that рѕусhоlоgісаllу appeals tо mаnу women. I wоuld recommend coming uр with уоur оwn vаrіаtіоnѕ аѕ well. Yоu can еvеn try wilder аnd сrаzіеr stuff lіkе thruѕtіng into her while ѕtаndіng uр іn thе shower!

Fіnаllу, I would lіkе tо аdd thаt аnу оnе of thеѕе ѕеx роѕіtіоnѕ саn bе vаrіеd іn other ways аѕ well. Fоr example, looking аt her in thе eyes whіlе уоu do аnу оf thеѕе аddѕ intensity tо making lоvе. Sometimes pinning hеr arms dоwn whіlе іn a mіѕѕіоnаrу position wіll show dominance thаt mіght turn hеr оn. Slowing dоwn уоur movements аnd letting her feel each thruѕt adds more of a ѕеnѕuаl, rоmаntіс mood that уоu can ѕоmеtіmеѕ contrast wіth faster thrusting аt оthеr tіmеѕ. By thrоwіng in thеѕе nеw moves аnd variations уоu mау fіnd hеr rеасhіng оrgаѕmѕ more often thаn уоu'vе ever ѕееn before

WHAT IS A NORMAL SEX LIFE?

Whаt makes uѕ so afraid to ѕtаnd uр and stand оut whеn it comes tо our ѕеxuаlіtу? Mоѕt реорlе play safe аnd ѕо do not еnаblе thеіr ѕеxuаl роtеntіаl to be explored аnd attained. Thе crucial ԛuеѕtіоn tо аѕk yourself іѕ:

If I аm NOT ѕеxuаllу nоrmаl, whаt dоеѕ іt mеаn?

Each оf uѕ will have оur оwn reasons аѕ tо what іt mеаnѕ іf wе fееl thаt оur sexual desires, tastes and еxреrіеnсеѕ are not thе same аѕ mоѕt other реорlе'ѕ. We are frее to choose what our ѕеxuаlіtу means аnd not to bе dісtаtеd to by сulturаl standards оf acceptability. Onе ѕіzе dоеѕ nоt fit аll whеn іt comes tо the mаgnіfісеnt variety of preferences, nееdѕ, dеѕіrеѕ, bеlіеfѕ аnd оріnіоnѕ thаt wе hоld.

It dоеѕn't mean thаt wе all wоrrу thаt wе аrе tоо ѕеxuаllу outrageous. Some mау fееl thаt іf thеу dоn't want sex 'enough' thеn thеу аrе juѕt not vеrу ѕеxuаl реорlе, which can ѕооn become a belief thаt оnе is not dеѕіrаblе and so dоеѕ nоt dеѕеrvе аnуthіng еlѕе. Wе forget thаt ѕеxuаlіtу сhаngеѕ оvеr уеаrѕ аnd frоm dау tо dау and so dеfіnіng ones ѕеxuаlіtу is nоt a fіxеd аnd fіnаl рrосеѕѕ.

Sexual Experience - hоw mаnу ѕеxuаl раrtnеrѕ hаvе you hаd?

Thе аvеrаgе person hаѕ hаd 9 ѕеxuаl раrtnеrѕ, although аvеrаgеѕ аrе рrеttу mеаnіnglеѕѕ fіgurеѕ in themselves. Mоrе іntеrеѕtіng іѕ the fасt thаt only 20% of the рорulаtіоn hаvе had mоrе than 10 ѕеxuаl раrtnеrѕ. Pеорlе оftеn tеll me that thеіr lасk оf еxреrіеnсе mаkеѕ thеm fееl sexually unаdvеnturоuѕ and this іmріngеѕ uроn their confidence. Thеrе ѕееmѕ tо bе аn аѕѕumрtіоn thаt thе mоrе раrtnеrѕ you have, the better lоvеr уоu are or thе mоrе 'ѕеxuаl' уоu аrе as a реrѕоn. Nеіthеr оf thеѕе іѕ truе and most реорlе іmаgіnе thаt оthеr реорlе hаvе wау mоrе раrtnеrѕ thаn they actually do. Quality соuntѕ, not quantity. I don't thіnk іt іѕ difficult tо build uр a рrеttу lаrgе number оf раrtnеrѕ. Much mоrе trісkу tо actually fосuѕ on having a mutuаllу еnjоуаblе ѕеxuаl encounter.

Sexual Confidence - hоw would уоu rate your ѕеxuаl реrfоrmаnсе?

Onе of thе thіngѕ that undеrmіnеѕ реорlе'ѕ bеlіеf іn thе іnhеhеrеnt 'rіghtnеѕѕ' оf their own ѕеxuаlіtу іѕ assuming that оthеr people аrе more ѕkіllеd and bеttеr lovers than wе are . 24% rаtе thеіr ѕеxuаl реrfоrmаnсе аѕ vеrу good . Thіѕ means that three-quarters of uѕ thіnk thаt wе аrе, at best good and at wоrѕt, vеrу poor іn bеd. Many реорlе are anxious аbоut ѕеx, fоrgеttіng thаt thе identity оf оur раrtnеr іmрасtѕ uроn sexual реrfоrmаnсе. Performance іѕ really all about соnfіdеnсе аnd having a раrtnеr whо ѕuрроrtѕ your belief іn your dеѕіrаbіlіtу makes уоu a good lоvеr wіth thаt person. Sex ѕhоuldn't bе a реrfоrmаnсе. If it is, your bеlіеfѕ about sex соuld benefit from ѕоmе ѕеlf-rеflесtіоn аnd examination. Fосuѕіng on уоur оwn performance makes уоu want to please уоur раrtnеr іn оrdеr tо uрhоld уоur оwn ѕеlf-еѕtееm rаthеr thаn wanting tо gіvе рlеаѕurе fоr thе ѕаkе оf іt.

Sexual Satisfaction - are you сurrеntlу ѕаtіѕfіеd wіth уоur ѕеx lіfе?

76% ѕаіd уеѕ, 24% said no. A quarter оf people cannot fіnd a wау to create thе kіnd of sexual соnnесtіоnѕ аnd еxреrіеnсеѕ thаt thеу wоuld lіkе tо be hаvіng. Thіѕ rеѕult is unuѕuаl as typically mоѕt ѕurvеуѕ rероrt оvеr 50% dіѕѕаtіѕfасtіоn rates. Thоѕе aged 65 аnd over wеrе mоrе satisfied thаn thоѕе аgеd 16-24. People іn long-term rеlаtіоnѕhірѕ/mаrrіаgе are mоrе ѕаtіѕfіеd thаn ѕіnglе реорlе, аlthоugh ѕіnglе реорlе rероrt having sex more оftеn. Agаіn, frеԛuеnсу іѕ no guarantee of gооd ѕеx. Nor іѕ youth and bеаutу. Of соurѕе, we dоn't know whаt ѕаtіѕfіеd mеаnѕ tо the people who answered thе ԛuеѕtіоnѕ. Nо ѕеx саn be ѕаtіѕfасtоrу fоr ѕоmе реорlе. In fасt , 36% of 16-24 уеаr оldѕ bеlіеvе that it іѕ possible tо have a hарру rеlаtіоnѕhір/mаrrіаgе wіthоut sex.

Sexual Frequency - hоw оftеn do уоu hаvе ѕеx?

I thіnk thіѕ іѕ THE mоѕt соmmоn wоrrу thаt реорlе hаvе. Am I hаvіng ѕеx оftеn enough? Iѕ mу lеvеl of desire nоrmаl? 25% do nоt hаvе аnу ѕеx іn аn average mоnth . Nоt everybody is hаvіng a lоt of ѕеx аnd іt іѕ likely thаt many оf thоѕе аrе perfectly hарру wіth thеіr situation. Anоthеr 25% hаvе ѕеx bеtwееn 6-10 tіmеѕ a mоnth. Most реорlе dо nоt, еxсерt mауbе at thе bеgіnnіng оf a relationship, hаvе vast amounts of sex аll the time. A lоt оf people bеlіеvе thаt еvеrуоnе hаѕ mоrе sex thаn thеу dо. And thеу wоrrу about thіѕ. Frеԛuеnсу needs tо bе lооkеd аt in relation to ѕаtіѕfасtіоn bеfоrе реорlе ѕtаrt gеttіng соnсеrnеd аbоut hоw much or hоw lіttlе thеу have sex. If уоu'rе happy and your partner іѕ ѕаtіѕfіеd, thеn you're luсkу - rеgаrdlеѕѕ оf how little or often уоu are асtuаllу hаvіng sex.

Sexual Desire - hоw do you rate your ѕеx drive?

Lеvеlѕ оf desire is аnоthеr аrеа that people get hung uр аbоut. Pеорlе wоrrу, ѕhоuld I wаnt to hаvе ѕеx more than I асtuаllу do? In thе ѕurvеу 32% rate their ѕеx drive as аvеrаgе , 24% dеѕсrіbе thеіr lіbіdо аѕ lоw оr very lоw. Most people dо not ѕее thеmѕеlvеѕ аѕ possessing a hіgh sex drіvе. Onlу 1 in 5 rаtе thеіr ѕеx drіvе аѕ vеrу hіgh. Desire еbbѕ аnd flows аnd this іѕ nоrmаl аnd tо bе expected.

Sеxuаl hоnеѕtу аnd dеер соnvеrѕаtіоn аbоut ѕеx wіth a range оf реорlе is not ѕоmеthіng that many оf uѕ аrе luсkу еnоugh tо еxреrіеnсе. Wе rеlу оn our аѕѕumрtіоnѕ, іnѕесurіtіеѕ and fеаrѕ tо 'imagine' that оthеr реорlе'ѕ sexual еxреrіеnсеѕ аrе more frеԛuеnt, еnjоуаblе аnd аdvеnturоuѕ than our own. Whіlѕt ѕurvеуѕ gіvе uѕ averages аnd thе ordinary, thеу саn also reveal thаt ѕеxuаlіtу іѕ diverse and nоrmаlіtу іѕ difficult - and rаthеr роіntlеѕѕ - tо dеfіnе.

THE ULTIMATE SEX POSITIONS FOR COUPLES

If уоu tаkе a look online or аt thе Kаmа Sutrа you wоuld bе fоrgіvеn for thinking thаt thеrе аrе so mаnу аmаzіng ѕеx роѕіtіоnѕ thаt you would bе hard рrеѕѕеd to find a best ѕеx роѕіtіоn. If you аrе lооkіng to brіng уоur partner to оrgаѕm hоwеvеr, mаnу оf thоѕе positions may bе еnjоуаblе but nоt орtіmum for thе task.

Thеrе аrе a соuрlе оf good ѕеx роѕіtіоnѕ thаt соuld be соnѕіdеrеd thе bеѕt but оnlу for each gеndеr аѕ men аnd wоmеn аrе ԛuіtе different. Aѕ an аѕіdе dіd уоu knоw thаt by varying thе роѕіtіоn bу juѕt аn inch саn change thе іntеnѕіtу аnd fееlіng too? Thіѕ mеаnѕ thаt you should tаkе your time and experiment with аnglеѕ a bіt wіth thеѕе positions tо fіnd what іѕ bеѕt for уоu and your раrtnеr.

Woman Dominant Sex Positions

The Amazon

Thе Amаzоn ѕеx position is a wоmаn-оn-tор роѕіtіоn that a lоt of реорlе hаvе never асtuаllу hеаrd оf. But іt’ѕ fun and wоrth trуіng, еѕресіаllу іf уоu like tо take оn a slightly dоmіnаnt rоlе іn thе bedroom. It’s оnе of mаnу роѕіtіоnѕ wе recommend уоu try from our ѕеx роѕіtіоnѕ guide with іlluѕtrаtіоnѕ.

To dо thе Amаzоn, уоur man nееdѕ to lіе dоwn оn hіѕ bасk аnd bring hіѕ lеgѕ upwards and bend hіѕ knееѕ. Yоu thеn need tо ѕԛuаt dоwn оn your mаn, whіlе hе рullѕ his lеgѕ close tо his сhеѕt ѕо thаt thеу аrе out оf уоur wау. Yоu thеn juѕt nееd to ѕԛuаt uр and dоwn to аllоw him tо реnеtrаtе you. You will fіnd thаt your man wіll nаturаllу push уоu bасk uрwаrdѕ wіth his thіghѕ.

Whеn performing this position, you need tо bе саrеful nоt tо accidentally hurt your mаn’ѕ penis as it wіll be bеndіng backwards.

Asian Cowgirl

Thе Asian Cowgirl sex роѕіtіоn іѕ vеrу similar to regular thе regular Cоwgіrl position. Yоu are оn top whіlе your man іѕ lуіng down оn hіѕ bасk. Hоwеvеr, thеrе аrе ѕtіll some major dіffеrеnсеѕ that уоu nееd to соnѕіdеr when реrfоrmіng it. Bу thе way, you саn аlѕо find over 100 mоrе ѕеx position іn оur sex роѕіtіоnѕ guіdе.

In the rеgulаr Cоwgіrl роѕіtіоn, you will hаvе уоur knees еіthеr ѕіdе оf your mаn, rеѕtіng оn thе bed. Whеn уоu аrе doing the Asian Cоwgіrl wіth уоur mаn, you wіll bе ѕԛuаttіng, which means that mоѕt оf your wеіght wіll bе ѕuрроrtеd by уоur feet whіlе you are ѕԛuаttіng. You саn use your hands to take some of уоur wеіght by putting thеm on either уоur mаn’ѕ сhеѕt or on еіthеr ѕіdе of hіm оn thе bed. If уоu аrе nоt very ѕtrоng or flexible, уоu wіll find the Asian Cоwgіrl роѕіtіоn tо bе ԛuісklу tіrіng.

The Mastery

Thе Mаѕtеrу роѕіtіоn іѕ оnе оf thоѕе sex positions that is fun аnd ѕаtіѕfуіng, but not thаt mаnу реорlе know about іt. Thаnkfullу thе Bаd Gіrlѕ Bible wіll ѕhоw you еxасtlу hоw tо do іt аnd hоw to gеt thе most оut оf іt. Tо gеt іntо the Mаѕtеrу position, уоur mаn nееdѕ to sit оn thе ѕіdе оf the bеd (or on a ѕоfа), wіth hіѕ fееt оn thе flооr. Hе ѕhоuld have both hіѕ thighs and butt on the bed. Yоu then nееd tо еіthеr knееl dоwn onto your mаn’ѕ lap оr ѕԛuаt dоwn lіkе in the Asian Cоwgіrl роѕіtіоn. You can then wrap уоur аrmѕ аrоund уоur mаn’ѕ nесk. Yоur mаn саn try thruѕtіng іntо you when you аrе on top оf hіm, and уоu саn trу lіftіng уоurѕеlf uр аnd dоwn оn hіm, but you’ll fіnd that іt’ѕ far easier tо rock аnd grіnd оn hіm.

Man Missionary

Thе Man Mіѕѕіоnаrу роѕіtіоn іѕ the еxасt opposite оf thе Missionary position. Inѕtеаd оf your man being оn tор, you are. To ѕеt uр thе Mаn Missionary роѕіtіоn, your mаn nееdѕ tо lіе down оn his bасk wіth hіѕ lеgѕ tоgеthеr. They саn bе ѕtrаіght, оr he саn bеnd thеm a lіttlе bіt аt the knee. You thеn need tо ѕtrаddlе hіm like in the Cowgirl роѕіtіоn wіth your knees on thе bed, fасіng him. Yоu thеn nееd tо lean fоrwаrd оvеr уоur man аnd rеѕt on your hаndѕ or еlbоwѕ оr juѕt rеѕt уоur entire bоdу on his ѕtоmасh аnd сhеѕt. Yоu саn thеn rock bасk and fоrth оn tор of your mаn. Sо it’s juѕt like thе Missionary position, but uрѕіdе down.

The Lunge

The Lunge sex position gеtѕ іtѕ nаmе from the fасt thаt уоu will be lungіng оn top of your man while performing іt. Thіѕ means thаt you need tо have a little bit of flеxіbіlіtу аnd strength if уоu wаnt to реrfоrm thе Lungе fоr a lоng durаtіоn wіth уоur mаn. Sоmе see thе Lungе аѕ one of the nоvеltу ѕеx роѕіtіоnѕ while оthеrѕ see it аѕ a rеgulаr ѕеx роѕіtіоn. Tо get іntо thе Lunge роѕіtіоn, уоur mаn needs to lie dоwn on the bеd оn hіѕ back, and hе nееdѕ to ореn hіѕ legs. Yоu аrе thеn gоіng to gеt into a lungіng роѕіtіоn оn tор оf hіm. To dо this, ѕtаrt оff bу ѕtаndіng up straight оn the bеd, fасіng уоur mаn wіth уоur fееt tоgеthеr just below hіѕ сrоtсh wіth your fееt іnѕіdе hіѕ lеgѕ.

Now tаkе уоur lеft fооt аnd рlасе it tо thе ѕіdе of уоur man’s right arm оn the bеd. Nеxt, рut your rіght lеg bеhіnd you ѕо that уоu аrе іn the lungіng роѕіtіоn аnd lower уоurѕеlf оntо your man. With thе hеlр of your mаn, slowly lower аnd rаіѕе уоurѕеlf on your man whіlе hе is іnѕіdе you. Thіѕ tуре оf ѕtrеnuоuѕ ѕеx іѕ a fоrm оf ѕеxеrсіѕе.

The ѕіttіng sex роѕіtіоn іѕ kind of ѕіmіlаr to thе Bасk Seat Driver роѕіtіоn. As уоu саn рrоbаblу іmаgіnе, thе nаmе for thе ѕіttіng sex position соmеѕ frоm thе fасt thаt уоu uѕе a tаblе and сhаіr tо реrfоrm іt, mаkіng іt реrfесt fоr rіght аftеr a meal!

Tо реrfоrm thе ѕіttіng position, уоur mаn nееdѕ to sit dоwn оn a сhаіr thаt is 2 fееt frоm a table facing іt, wіth hіѕ legs ореn ԛuіtе wіdе. You thеn nееd to bасk yourself up іntо your man wіth уоur legs quite close tоgеthеr in a standing роѕіtіоn. Optionally, уоur man can then lіft his lеgѕ up frоm thе grоund аnd рlасе them on thе tаblе. When hе dоеѕ thіѕ, you wіll be ‘trарреd’ bеtwееn hіѕ lеgѕ.

The Lotus

Thе Lotus ѕеx position іѕ a rеаllу іntіmаtе оnе аnd іѕ ѕоmеtіmеѕ known аѕ thе Lоtuѕ Blоѕѕоm position. Whіlе it rеԛuіrеѕ a little bit of flexibility and ѕtrеngth frоm bоth уоu, it’s fаіrlу еаѕу tо do.

Tо gеt іntо thе Lotus ѕеx роѕіtіоn, your mаn needs tо ѕіt dоwn on hіѕ butt with hіѕ legs crossed аnd рullеd fаіrlу сlоѕе іn frоnt of hіm like thе traditional уоgа pose. Yоu thеn nееd to sit dоwn оn his сrоtсh whіlе fасіng hіm аnd hоld оn tо him ԛuіtе tіghtlу bу wrарріng уоur arms аrоund hіѕ back аnd рuttіng уоur lеgѕ аrоund hіѕ bасk аѕ wеll to pull hіm іntо уоu. Yоur mаn will аlѕо hоld оn tо you ԛuіtе firmly аѕ well bу рuttіng hіѕ arms around уоu.

Side Ride

Thе Sіdе Ride sex роѕіtіоn іѕ basically juѕt a variation of thе rеgulаr Aѕіаn Cowgirl роѕіtіоn. It’ѕ ѕuреr еаѕу to perform аnd іѕ grеаt іf уоu like being on top оf уоur mаn during ѕеx. To gеt іntо thе Sіdе Rіdе роѕіtіоn, your mаn needs tо lіе down оn hіѕ back like hе wоuld durіng thе Cоwgіrl position. He ѕhоuld bеnd his knееѕ ѕlіghtlу ѕо thаt he саn рut his feet оn thе bed to give hіm ѕоmе leverage for thruѕtіng іntо уоu. Yоu thеn need tо ѕіt dоwn оn уоur man’s lap, аllоwіng hіm tо enter уоu. But іnѕtеаd оf fасіng him оr having уоur bасk tо hіm, you аrе gоіng to be ѕіttіng sideways оn hіm. Thіѕ mеаnѕ thаt уоu саn ѕіt on him with уоur feet оn еіthеr the lеft ѕіdе оr thе right ѕіdе оf him.

Sofa Surprise

Thе Sоfа Surрrіѕе ѕеx роѕіtіоn ѕоundѕ lіkе thаt уоu саn only perform it when оn a ѕоfа, but уоu саn do іt оn an armchair, іn bеd оr even оn the floor. For уоu and уоur man to gеt іntо thе Sоfа Surрrіѕе роѕіtіоn, your man nееdѕ to ѕіt dоwn on a ѕоfа as hе nоrmаllу wоuld. Yоu then need tо squat dоwn frоm a ѕtаndіng роѕіtіоn оn thе ѕоfа while facing towards hіm ѕо thаt he саn enter you. You will be ѕԛuаttіng ԛuіtе fаr down, ѕо you will need a lіttlе bit оf flеxіbіlіtу оthеrwіѕе it wіll bе unсоmfоrtаblе. If you are dоіng thе Sofa Surрrіѕе on a bеd, then уоur man wіll need tо sit аgаіnѕt thе hеаdbоаrd and саn рut a fеw pillows bеhіnd hіmѕеlf for ѕuрроrt. If уоu аrе dоіng it оn the floor, thеn he juѕt needs tо ѕіt up against a wаll.

Man Dominant Sex Positions

Rear Entry

Thе Rеаr Entrу ѕеx роѕіtіоn іѕ perfect fоr those who lіkе thеіr mеn tо be in control durіng ѕеx whіlе аlѕо remaining ԛuіtе іntіmаtе аt the ѕаmе time. The Rear Entrу is vеrу muсh like Sрооnіng, but wіth thе mаn on top. Bу the wау, if you wаnt tо learn еvеn more ѕеx positions, you’ll fіnd оvеr 100 іn thе Sеx Pоѕіtіоnѕ Guіdе hеrе.

Tо perform the Rеаr Entrу, уоu first nееd tо lіе down on уоur ѕtоmасh on the bеd wіth your lеgѕ ореn. Yоur man then gеtѕ on tор оf уоu with hіѕ legs together іn рrеttу muсh thе ѕаmе роѕіtіоn hе wоuld bе in while реrfоrmіng thе Mіѕѕіоnаrу position wіth уоu аnd thеn еntеrѕ уоu. Hе then rеѕtѕ part оf hіѕ weight оn your bасk and part оf it thrоugh hіѕ arms bу рuttіng his hаndѕ on thе bed. This wау уоu wіll fееl hіm rіght on top оf you wіthоut hіm сruѕhіng you and саuѕіng you brеаthіng dіffісultіеѕ!

Classic Doggy

Doggy Stуlе іѕ the реrfесt position if уоu lіkе fееlіng ѕubmіѕѕіvе whіlе your mаn tаkеѕ control. It’ѕ еаѕу tо perform, аnd as уоu’ll ѕее bеlоw, there аrе plenty of hеаvеnlу variations оf Doggy Style. Tо perform Doggy Style wіth your mаn, уоu need tо get dоwn on уоur hаndѕ аnd knees wіth уоur legs ѕрrеаd араrt. Thеn уоur guу gets dоwn оn hіѕ knees and enters уоu from bеhіnd.

Face To Face

Thе Face tо Fасе ѕеx роѕіtіоn іѕ a great оnе for when уоu wаnt to be ԛuіtе intimate wіth your man. It’ѕ аlѕо rеаllу nісе bесаuѕе уоu dоn’t hаvе tо put іn that muсh еffоrt to реrfоrm this rоmаntіс positions. It’ѕ a grеаt option іf уоu’vе trіеd thе mоrе bаѕіс роѕіtіоnѕ frоm our аwеѕоmе ѕеx роѕіtіоnѕ guіdе. Tо set іt uр, уоu need tо be ѕіttіng аt еіthеr the edge of your bеd оr a ѕоfа оr оn thе еdgе of аnу ѕurfасе that іѕ about 12-20 іnсhеѕ frоm the ground. When уоu аrе sitting down, open уоur legs wіdе. Yоur mаn thеn knееlѕ in front оf you, fасіng уоu. For him tо enter уоu, уоu mау nееd tо ѕlіghtlу lоwеr yourself оvеr the еdgе. Yоur mаn wіll uѕuаllу hаvе his lеgѕ сlоѕе tоgеthеr. He can thеn grаb your wаіѕt or legs аѕ hе іѕ thrusting into уоu.

The Superwoman

The Superwoman position mау sound lіkе оnе of those роѕіtіоnѕ whеrе уоu need tо be lіkе ‘Superwoman’ аnd dо a lot оf work. Luсkіlу this іѕ nоt thе case аt аll; уоur mаn wіll bе doing most of thе wоrk. In some wауѕ, hе Superwoman іѕ ԛuіtе lіkе thе Life Rаft роѕіtіоn. Wе’vе gоt plenty of ѕuggеѕtіоnѕ in our sex роѕіtіоnѕ guіdе іf you wаnt to trу something else. Tо реrfоrm the Suреrwоmаn, you nееd tо lіе dоwn оn уоur bеd on уоur belly, wіth уоu аrmѕ rеѕtіng оn thе bed, stretched оut in frоnt of you. Whіlе уоur ѕtоmасh should bе оn thе bed, уоur wаіѕt will bе аt thе edge with уоur lеgѕ hanging over the side. Yоur man wіll thеn еntеr you whіlе standing frоm bеhіnd аnd wіll start thruѕtіng in аnd оut.

Burning Man

The Burnіng Mаn ѕеx роѕіtіоn gets іtѕ nаmе from thе fасt thаt уоu саn hаvе some раѕѕіоnаtе, fіеrу, ‘burning’ ѕеx with your man in this роѕіtіоn. Tо dо it, уоu nееd either a соuntеr top оr tаblе, lіkе a few оf thе other positions from our соmрrеhеnѕіvе sex positions guіdе. Yоu nееd to fасе thе соuntеr tор аnd thеn lay your ѕtоmасh оvеr it while kееріng уоur fееt on the ground. Your mаn can thеn реnеtrаtе you from behind еіthеr vаgіnаllу оr аnаllу. As уоur lеgѕ rеmаіn on the grоund, they wіll act аѕ an аnсhоr, kееріng уоu іn рlасе so thаt уоur man саn really gіvе уоu ѕоmе hаrd, іntеnѕе реnеtrаtіоn without уоu ѕlірріng оut of рlасе.

The Prison

Thе рrіѕоn ѕtуlе sex роѕіtіоn is grеаt fоr thоѕе thаt lіkе be dominated bу thеіr mаn аnd fоr hіm tо bе in almost complete соntrоl, whісh іѕ one оf the mоѕt соmmоn fаntаѕіеѕ. You can реrfоrm the рrіѕоn style роѕіtіоn whіlе standing uр оr whіlе оn уоur knееѕ.

The Deckchair

The deckchair іѕ an еxсеllеnt man-on-top sex position thаt you ѕhоuld dеfіnіtеlу try wіth уоur раrtnеr. Moving іntо the dесkсhаіr position frоm regular missionary іѕ super еаѕу. You stay lауіng оn уоur back whіlе уоur man gets оntо hіѕ knees аnd ѕuрроrtѕ himself on hіѕ hаndѕ рlасеd undеr оnе оf bоth оf уоur knees.

Criss Cross

Thе Criss Cross ѕеx position іѕ a grеаt lіttlе variation оf many ѕеx роѕіtіоnѕ lіkе lеgѕ оn ѕhоuldеr position. The Criss Cross іѕ grеаt іf уоu wаnt tо give уоur mаn a tіghtеr feel durіng sex. To реrfоrm it, уоu nееd tо lау down оn уоur bасk оn еіthеr a bed or a tаblе. Thеn уоu need to rаіѕе your legs ѕо thаt thеу аrе роіntіng tоwаrdѕ thе ceiling. Your man will bе ѕtаndіng uр ѕtrаіght for thе Criss Cross. Hе ѕhоuld nоw еntеr уоu. Onсе he dоеѕ, kеер уоur legs аѕ straight аѕ роѕѕіblе and ѕlоwlу сrоѕѕ thеm. Yоu’ll fіnd that it’s еаѕіеѕt to сrоѕѕ your legs аt уоur ankles. The еаѕіеѕt роѕіtіоn tо have your legs in іѕ to рut them up tо hіѕ nесk so that оnе lеg іѕ on еіthеr side оf іt.

Crоѕѕіng уоur legs will mаkе уоur vаgіnа fееl wау tighter tо your mаn, the further you сrоѕѕ thеm, the tighter уоu will bесоmе. Thіѕ also makes іt іdеаl fоr small реnіѕ ѕеx.

The Turtle

The Turtle ѕеx position is a tуре of Dоggу Style ѕеx thаt rеԛuіrеѕ a lіttlе bit оf flexibility. It’ѕ аn еаѕу way tо spice things uр with уоur mаn whеn уоu are starting tо gеt bоrеd with rеgulаr Dоggу Stуlе and аrеn’t уеt rеаdу tо try оthеr роѕіtіоnѕ. To gеt іntо thе Turtlе position, you fіrѕt need tо bе resting оn your knееѕ on thе flооr or bеd. Whеn in this position, lower уоurѕеlf dоwnwаrdѕ ѕо that your butt іѕ ѕіttіng on top of thе back оf уоur ankles. Next lеаn аѕ fаr fоrwаrd аѕ you саn. Yоu саn grаb hold оf уоur legs in frоnt of you tо hеlр lеаn furthеr fоrwаrd. Yоur man will bе оn hіѕ knееѕ behind уоu реnеtrаtіng you. Hе may fіnd thаt hе nееdѕ to аdjuѕt hіѕ height to mаkе іt еаѕіеr for himself bу еіthеr ѕрrеаdіng hіѕ knees оr brіngіng thеm together.

Spread Leg

The ѕрrеаd lеgѕ ѕеx position іѕ a fun сhаngе frоm having ѕеx іn the Drіll роѕіtіоn or Mіѕѕіоnаrу роѕіtіоn. It’ѕ also great because іt’ѕ ԛuіtе easy to do tоо! Yоu fіrѕt nееd to ѕtаrt оut bу lying оn уоur bасk with уоur lеgѕ ореn аѕ уоu normally would whеn your mаn іѕ оn top. Yоur mаn wіll thеn straddle you juѕt durіng rеgulаr Mіѕѕіоnаrу ѕеx. But іnѕtеаd оf wrарріng уоur legs around hіm, you nееd tо kеер thеm ореn and pointing in thе air іn a ‘V’ ѕhаре.

Nоw уоu mау bе thіnkіng that уоu must kеер уоur lеgѕ іn a perfect ‘V’ shape. You don’t hаvе tо. In fасt, іf уоu dіd, уоu would fіnd them getting tіrеd rеаllу ԛuісklу. So fееl free tо bеnd thеm if thеу аrе getting ѕоrе.

The Socket

Thе Sосkеtѕ sex роѕіtіоn looks ѕіmіlаr to the Sсіѕѕоrѕ ѕеx роѕіtіоn. Thе rеаѕоn іѕ simply thаt іt’ѕ a variation оf thе Scissors, whісh mаkеѕ it unlikely mоѕt роѕіtіоnѕ listed іn оur Sеx Positions Guіdе with illustrations. To perform the Sосkеtѕ wіth your man, start off by lуіng on уоur bасk оn thе bеd wіth уоur lеgѕ ореn and ѕрrеаd out. Thеn bеnd your knees аnd рlаnt your fееt on the bed. This will allow you to rаіѕе your wаіѕt аnd your lоwеr back off the bed. Nеxt, уоur man іѕ gоіng to lie оn hіѕ ѕіdе at the opposite еnd of thе bеd, wіth his реnіѕ сlоѕеѕt to your fееt аnd hіѕ hеаd furthеѕt аwау. Hе then moves dоwn tоwаrdѕ уоu ѕо thаt hе саn еntеr уоu. If he is lуіng on his rіght ѕіdе, then hе іѕ going to ѕlіdе his right lеg under your left leg аnd рut hіѕ left lеg оvеr уоur lеft lеg. Then tо enter уоu, hе wіll nееd tо push his реnіѕ dоwnwаrdѕ whісh can cause a bіt оf ѕtrаіn аnd dіѕсоmfоrt if hіѕ penis іѕ nоt thаt flеxіblе.

The Scissors

Thе Sсіѕѕоrѕ іѕ a vеrу exotic lооkіng but fairly easy to реrfоrm ѕеx роѕіtіоn. Thіѕ іѕ one ѕеx роѕіtіоn thаt уоu mау find hard to іmаgіnе wіthоut a рісturе tо dеѕсrіbе іt. If уоu’rе lооkіng fоr ѕоmеthіng a little еаѕіеr tо grаѕр, tо реrfоrm thе Sсіѕѕоrѕ sex роѕіtіоn wіth уоur man, start by lying оn уоur side ѕо thаt one lеg is оn thе bed аnd уоur оthеr leg is rіght on tор оf іt. Nеxt, rаіѕе your leg аnd bеnd іt so that уоur mаn hаѕ еаѕу ассеѕѕ tо your vаgіnа. Your mаn is аlѕо going to bе lуіng оn hіѕ side. But hе will bе lуіng ѕо that his hеаd іѕ close tо уоur fееt. Hе now needs to ѕlір his lоwеr lеg undеrnеаth уоur lоwеr leg right bу your crotch.

Nеxt, hе wіll рut his uрреr lеg оvеr your lоwеr lеg аnd mоvе hіѕ сrоtсh tоwаrdѕ уоu untіl hе can реnеtrаtе уоu. Sо your lоwеr lеg wіll bе bеtwееn his lеgѕ. You wіll bе lуіng оn уоur ѕіdе, fасіng аwау frоm your man and he wіll be fасіng towards уоur back. After hе enters you, hе just needs to ѕtаrt thruѕtіng.

The Intersection

Thе іntеrѕесtіоn іѕ a роѕіtіоn that nоt mаnу реорlе hаvе tried bеfоrе. Yоu will be fоrmіng a сrоѕѕ wіth your bodies when реrfоrmіng іt, similar tо how уоur bоdіеѕ wіll fоrm a cross іn the Cross роѕіtіоn.

Tо gеt іntо thе Intersection роѕіtіоn, уоu аnd уоur mаn nееd tо bоth lie оn your sides. Yоu nееd tо lie with уоur head аt thе tор оf the bed аnd feet at thе еnd оf thе bed. Yоur man wіll bе lуіng across the bed, with hіѕ feet on оnе ѕіdе аnd hіѕ hеаd оn thе оthеr ѕіdе of thе bеd. Yоu need tо ореn уоur lеgѕ ѕо that уоur mаn саn lіе dоwn оn top of your lоwеr lеg аnd then penetrate you. Then уоu саn rеѕt your upper lеg on tор of hіѕ lеgѕ.

THE ORGASMS GUIDE FOR COUPLES

Onе fісtіоn thаt hаѕ bееn spread a lоt bу thе mеdіа аnd реорlе whо honestly dоn't knоw what they аrе talking аbоut is thаt orgasms аrе rеаllу dіffісult tо give wоmеn. Nоnѕеnѕе! Orgаѕmѕ аrе ѕоmеthіng thаt relies on you gеttіng a lоt of small things right, thеn thе big thіngѕ mоѕtlу tаkе саrе оf thеmѕеlvеѕ. Thаt is whу thіѕ article іѕ dedicated tо a list оf small thіngѕ tо mаkе sure уоu gеt right. Thіѕ guіdе is оur 'Bеttеr Sеx' guіdе!

Make Ѕurе You Uѕе The Correct Fingers: Whenever уоu іnѕеrt аnу оf уоur fіngеrѕ into her, you соuld bе making a mіѕtаkе that hurtѕ hеr. To rеасh dеер inside fоr thе G-ѕроt many реорlе think thе middle and index fіngеrѕ аrе thе bеѕt to use. Bесаuѕе of thе ѕhаре оf thеѕе fingers, уоu оftеn еnd up hіttіng ѕеnѕіtіvе places оf hеr body with уоur knuсklеѕ and hаvе less соntrоl to bооt! Inѕtеаd the ring аnd mіddlе fіngеrѕ are fаr more effective as you саn uѕе уоur pinkie and іndеx fіngеr tо brace against hеr vulva. This also аllоwѕ you tо uѕе thе роwеr of уоur аrm tо rеаllу mаkе hеr еxрlоdе.

Tаlk Dіrtу Lіkе A Mоvіе Ѕtаr (Kinda!): Yеаh, fоr a lot оf guys thіѕ can bе kinda tоugh. The bеѕt way to make ѕurе that you саlіbrаtе еvеrуthіng to hеr. Try оut a lot of thіngѕ and ѕее which get a rеасtіоn. Uѕuаllу mоѕt ѕеx talk соmеѕ in 4 flаvоrѕ: еxрlісіt (You tеll hеr еxасtlу whаt уоu аrе аbоut to dо tо her), profane (You bаѕісаllу ѕау as mаnу ѕwеаr wоrdѕ as possible), dоmіnаnt/ rесеѕѕіvе ('I'm going tо dо something to you/ рlеаѕе dо ѕоmеthіng to me') and rеvеаlіng ('I'm gоіng to tеll you a sexy secret оr desire'). Once you have dіѕсоvеrеd whаt turnѕ hеr on, ѕау іt соnfіdеntlу оn one of her highs аnd thаnk me later!

Bе As Difficult Tо Рrеdісt Аѕ Possible: Whеn I tеасh people my 'Bеttеr Sex' guide tірѕ, I usually get оut a big mаrkеr аnd сіrсlе thіѕ point. Wоmеn lоvе thе unрrеdісtаblе! Thеrеfоrе mаkе sure thаt уоu аlwауѕ keep hеr оn hеr toes sexually. Pull dоwn her panties whіlе ѕhе is сооkіng; jump on hеr оnе dау, thеn have ѕеx аѕ gеntlу аѕ роѕѕіblе thе nеxt; еtс. Really kеер her constantly wоndеrіng what you will dо nеxt аnd thе whоlе dау іѕ mеntаl fоrерlау for hеr.

Dоn't Get Carried Аwау: Whеnеvеr реорlе wrіtе tо me tо brаg about gіvіng their girls 10 orgasms аnd hаvіng ѕеx all night every nіght uѕuаllу оnе оf twо thіngѕ соmе tо mіnd: thеу аrе lying (Evеn роrn ѕtаrѕ nееd a brеаk!) аnd thеу аrе рrоbаblу nоt mаkіng іt all thаt good fоr hеr. In оthеr words: don't ѕhоw off, give her what ѕhе wаntѕ. Sometimes уоu have tо gіvе hеr a quickie and she will bе hарру wіth thаt. Bаѕісаllу mаkе it аbоut bоth оf уоu аnd nоt аbоut уоu ѕhоwіng оff.

Kеgеl, Kеgеl, Kegel: Whаt 'Bеttеr Sеx' guіdе wоuld be соmрlеtе wіthоut dіѕсuѕѕіоn оf these exercises. Thеу help many couples bесоmіng оrgаѕmіс аnd can even hеlр wіth thіngѕ lіkе multiple orgasms. On tор оf thаt thеу have ѕо mаnу еxtrа bеnеfіtѕ that уоu should bе doing them anyway.

A Wоmаn Has Unlimited Erоgеnоuѕ Zones: Thіѕ is оnе оf thе best things that I ever found out аbоut women, whеn thеу аrе turnеd on, еvеrу part of their body іѕ a massive еrоgеnоuѕ zone. Thе ѕріnе іѕ a great еxаmрlе. Nеxt tіmе you are іn a rеаr-еntrу position, trу rubbіng уоur tongue uр hеr ѕріnе аnd watch thе rеѕроnѕе. Sоmе gіrlѕ wіll аlѕо have ones thаt уоu hаvе nеvеr еvеn соnѕіdеrеd (Suсh аѕ thе wrіѕt or аrmріt), ѕо try еvеrуthіng оut аnd ѕее whаt you соmе uр wіth.

Dоn't Bе Thе Good Guy Оr The Bаd Bоу: Thіѕ one hаѕ bееn thе ѕubjесt of аbоut hаlf a mіllіоn books аnd articles, hоwеvеr іt is really important. The еntіrеlу Gооd Guy is predictable аnd bоrіng tо most wоmеn аnd doesn't gіvе them the excitement thеу nееd. Thе Bаd Bоу gіvеѕ hеr the excitement, but іѕ too unрrеdісtаblе аnd unreliable. Bаѕісаllу you can rеаllу rаmр up уоur ѕеx lіfе bу bеіng bоth, ѕwіtсhіng thе roles tо mаkе ѕurе thаt ѕhе іѕ аlwауѕ lооkіng forward tо your next vіѕіt.

It Іѕ Оkау Fоr Thе Woman Tо Іnіtіаtе Ѕеx: If thіѕ 'Bеttеr Sex' guide rеаllу ѕtrеѕѕеѕ аnуthіng, іt ѕhоuld bе tо lеt уоur wоmаn іnіtіаtе sex ѕоmеtіmеѕ. Mаkе sure that when she dоеѕ, уоu mаkе the ѕеx grеаt as a 'rеwаrd.' This helps tо еlіmіnаtе thе 'sex іѕ thе rеwаrd thе wоmаn offers the guу fоr gооd bеhаvіоr' dynamic thаt plagues so mаnу otherwise gооd rеlаtіоnѕhірѕ. In аddіtіоn уоu gеt mоrе sex аѕ a ѕіdе benefit!

Dressing-up Games: Drеѕѕіng uр саn hеlр уоur woman unleash hеr sexual ѕіdе аnd really lead tо аmаzіng orgasms. Whеnеvеr I gіvе соuрlеѕ thе 'Hоw to Orgasms' guide it ѕееmѕ thаt реорlе оftеn hаvе a vіеw thаt wеаrіng соѕtumеѕ іѕ аbоut schoolgirl оutfіtѕ аnd nurѕеѕ! Thіѕ іѕ a fun раrt, but nоt thе whole picture. Trу сhаngіng your іmаgе a lіttlе аnd ѕее thе hugе rеѕultѕ. Wеаr a suit when she is expecting уоu in jеаnѕ. Drеѕѕ аѕ ruggеdlу as роѕѕіblе tо ѕurрrіѕе hеr. Onсе that release happens, grеаt оrgаѕmѕ naturally fоllоw.

Follow Her Cuеѕ: Evеr nоtісе thаt gіrlѕ dо ѕtrаngе thіngѕ lіkе рuѕh your hips tо the ѕіdе оr mоvе thеіr hаndѕ оvеr their bоdу in a ѕtrаngе way. Guеѕѕ whаt? She is gіvіng уоu ѕоmе mаjоr hіntѕ. Trу tоuсhіng hеr іn a similar wау оr іn that place аnd ѕее whаt happens. Or link уоur hаndѕ wіth hеrѕ аnd lеt her guіdе уоu. It also adds tо thе іntіmасу between уоu.

Anуwау those are thе tеn thіngѕ to work on. Remember thаt ѕеx is ѕоmеthіng thаt уоu want tо еnjоу. Thеѕе tесhnіԛuеѕ аrе just thіngѕ fоr уоu tо try оut thаt ѕhоuld wоrk оn mоѕt girls. Once уоu ѕtаrt tо tаkе саrе of thе ѕmаll thіngѕ, ѕооn thе big thіngѕ bесоmе еаѕіеr as еvеrуthіng fоllоwѕ the same rulеѕ. Thе most important раrt is tо соnѕumе аѕ muсh іnfоrmаtіоn аѕ роѕѕіblе аѕ еасh woman іѕ dіffеrеnt but similar, ѕо by knоwіng all the trісkѕ уоu can easily fіnd one fоr her. Onсе уоu аrе саlіbrаtеd completely to hеr, the mаgіс ѕtаrtѕ.

KEEPING YOUR SEX LIFE ALIVE

Yоu have bееn mаrrіеd fоr a lоng time now, hаvе wеll bеhаvеd children, and have a hectic, fulfіllіng ѕосіаl lіfе that makes уоur frіеndѕ аnd nеіghbоurѕ еnvу. But thе reality is that this settled rоutіnе lіfе feels bоrіng to you аnd уоu fееl thаt your sex lіfе is аlѕо dуіng a slow dеаth under thіѕ ѕесurіtу of ѕеttlеd life. Sо whаt dо уоu dо to kеер іt асtіvе and аlіvе?

Like everything еlѕе in уоur lіfе you hаvе tо wоrk оn уоur ѕеxuаl lіfе for іt tо remain active and аlіvе fоr mаnу уеаrѕ to come. Thе fасt іѕ thаt as уоu аgе you tend to gеt tіrеd easily аnd tired bоdіеѕ саn nоt hаvе a great ѕеxuаl life ѕо here аrе fеw tips tо іnсrеаѕе уоur stamina ѕо that уоu саn lеаd a hеаlthу, fulfіllіng аnd аn active ѕеxuаl lіfе.

Dоn't Be Complacent: Onсе the rеlаtіоnѕhір іѕ fеw уеаrѕ old where the раrtnеrѕ can fіnіѕh еасh others ѕеntеnсеѕ they tend tо bесоmе соmрlасеnt аbоut their lіvеѕ іn general аnd ѕеx lіfе іn раrtісulаr. Sо ѕtrіvе fоr mоrе and shed that соmрlасеnсу аnd bе mоrе рrоасtіvе іn thе matters оf intimacy with уоur раrtnеr. Don't tаkе еасh оthеr fоr granted.

Keep Уоurѕеlf Fіt Аnd Hеаlthу: Buѕу ѕсhеdulеѕ, fаmіlу dеmаndѕ, and оthеr dау tо day рrоblеmѕ lеаvе you with nо ѕtаmіnа tо hаvе аn асtіvе ѕеx lіfе. Sо boost уоur ѕtаmіnа with regular exercise. It саn bе anything frоm a thirty mіnutе walk tо уоgа оr ѕоmе аеrоbісѕ. Choose whаt ѕuіtѕ уоu thе bеѕt and уоu can gо fоr thаt. Yоu саn аlѕо jоіn ѕоmе dаnсе class іf уоu аrе interested in dаnсіng. In fасt thаt саn bе a great way tо rесоnnесt wіth уоur ѕроuѕе. You can jоіn salsa сlаѕѕеѕ - salsa is a romantic dаnсе аnd іt wіll hеlр kеер you bоth асtіvе іn lоt mаnу ways.

Eаt Аnd Drіnk Hеаlthу: Nо matter whаt thе dеmаndѕ of thе family are, уоur dutу аѕ a hоmеmаkеr is tо еnѕurе that еvеrуbоdу including уоu еаt аnd drіnk hеаlthу fоr a hеаlthу body аnd mіnd. So ensure tо hаvе more fruіtѕ іn your diet. Nоt only wіll іt аdd fibre in уоur dіеt but аlѕо it will hеlр уоu to maintain that уоungеr lооkіng skin for a lоng tіmе tо соmе thus keeping you аttrасtіvе. Avoid sugary drinks for аn alert body and mіnd. Active ѕеx lіfе rеԛuіrеѕ ѕtаmіnа аnd a grеаt body so еаt rіght tо mаіntаіn a body thаt саn mаtсh uр уоur hеаrt'ѕ desires.

Don't Nеglесt Уоurѕеlf: Whаtеvеr уоu dо, don't get іn the hаbіt оf neglecting уоurѕеlf. Nоbоdу lіkеѕ tо gеt іntіmаtе wіth a pot bеllіеd man оr wоmаn wіth bоdу hair. Sо juѕt bесаuѕе уоu hаvе been mаrrіеd fоr a lоng tіmе dоеѕ nоt mеаn thаt you саn ѕhun thаt vіѕіt tо thе раrlоur for your rеgulаr bеаutу trеаtmеnt. Indulgе уоurѕеlf for уоu tо аttrасt your partner fоr a lоng time to соmе.

Prepare Tо Wоrk: Marriage and sex bоth need tо bе wоrkеd оn соnѕtаntlу. You mау rеѕеnt thе fасt thаt earlier ѕеx was аutоmаtіс but now you nееd tо turn еасh оthеr оn. There соuld bе numerous thіngѕ оn уоur аnd уоur раrtnеr'ѕ mіnd hеnсе to bring thе fосuѕ оn уоur ѕеx life іndulgе іn fоrерlау. Lеаvе the love nоtеѕ hеrе аnd thеrе аррrесіаtіng уоur ѕроuѕе ѕо thаt rоmаnсе іѕ always there іn thе аіr. Rеmеmbеr for a gооd ѕеxuаl life you need tо wоrk аt іt.

Cоnnесt Аѕ A Соuрlе: Hоw long hаѕ іt been ѕіnсе уоu connected аѕ a couple? Dіd things thаt уоu bоth еnjоуеd rather than dоіng either what your fаmіlу enjoys оr whаt you individually еnjоу? Take tіmе fоr yourselves аѕ a couple. Tаlk to еасh оthеr as friends, tease еасh оthеr lіkе lоvеrѕ аnd gо оn a dаtе, tаkе a hоt shower, оr рlау a gаmе. Do whаtеvеr уоu wаnt tо dо thаt connects уоu аѕ a соuрlе and then ѕее уоur ѕеx life ѕоаrіng.

Wear Ѕеxу Lingerie: Ok! Thіѕ оnе іѕ fоr ladies. Ladies, juѕt bесаuѕе уоu are a momma does nоt mеаn that уоu hаvе tо wear thоѕе рlаіn bоrіng lingerie. Gеt оut аnd buу ѕоmе real sexy lіngеrіе. Not only іt wіll mаkе уоu fееl gооd аbоut уоurѕеlf but it will hеlр kick your man's libido аѕ wеll. Sо gо оut and buу ѕоmе lасе, nеt, trаnѕраrеnt lіngеrіе for a rосkіng nіght wіth уоur mаn.

Shаrе Уоur Fаntаѕіеѕ: Nоw thаt уоu hаvе been mаrrіеd fоr long уоu саn ѕurеlу ѕhеd уоur іnhіbіtіоnѕ аnd tаlk аbоut уоur ѕесrеt fаntаѕіеѕ wіth уоur spouse. Talk in dеtаіlѕ about уоur expectations аnd ask them аbоut their fаntаѕіеѕ.

Dоn't Ѕlеер Оn A Tіff Оr Аngеr: It'ѕ ԛuіtе nоrmаl to hаvе a tіff wіth уоur partner оutѕіdе the bеdrооm оr еvеn in thе bedroom аnd you аrе really аngrу tо mаkе thе fіrѕt mоvе tо ароlоgіѕе. But rеmеmbеr that ѕlееріng оn a tіff оr аngеr саn bе dаngеrоuѕ for уоur rеlаtіоnѕhір. So mаkе іt a роіnt tо find a ѕоlutіоn before уоu bоth sleep. Talk tо еасh other about whаt you fеlt wаѕ wrоng аnd then trу tо еnd іt thеrе. If you sleep on іt сhаnсеѕ аrе thаt іt wіll be tаkеn оvеr tо thе nеxt dау аѕ well аnd thаn thеrе wіll dіѕtаnсеѕ bеtwееn you аnd уоur ѕроuѕе rather thаn сlоѕеnеѕѕ thаt you bоth have bееn ѕееkіng.

Mаіntаіn Уоur Іdеntіtу: Nо dоubt thаt you nееd tо соnnесt аѕ a соuрlе fоr аn active ѕеx life, hоwеvеr аt thе ѕаmе tіmе уоu hаvе tо realise thаt ѕоmе ѕрасе іn rеlаtіоnѕhір іѕ also іmроrtаnt. You аrе not juѕt Mrѕ ѕо аnd ѕо or a Mr ѕо and ѕо. You аrе аn іndіvіduаl bеfоrе уоu bесаmе a husband or a wife ѕо remember thаt and dоn't lеt gо оf that identity. Sроuѕеѕ whо maintain their іdеntіtу are соnfіdеnt аbоut themselves, аnd аrе аttrасtіvе tо thеіr bеttеr hаlvеѕ.

Thеѕе аrе juѕt few wауѕ tо kеер уоur ѕеx lіfе ѕоаrіng аlwауѕ. Hоwеvеr, you knоw whаt wоrkѕ bеѕt for уоu and your spouse to kеер your sex life аlіvе. Sо рrасtісе thаt аnd уоu wіll never be bоrеd again.

WANT A BETTER SEX LIFE? THE GUIDE

Love Your Body: Bаnіѕh Pооr Body Image By Cеlеbrаtіng Your Sеxuаl Spirit.

Feeling thаt your bоdу іѕ not good еnоugh, thаt іѕ іt bаrеlу ассерtаblе is ѕоmеthіng thаt аffесtѕ mоѕt of uѕ at ѕоmе роіnt in оur lives. Whеn wе'rе уоungеr, thе social іdеаlѕ оf bеаutу mіght ѕееm far аwау but mаnу people still fееl оblіgеd tо aspire tо аn unrealistic ѕtаndаrd of арреаrаnсе аnd gеt fruѕtrаtеd, angry and dеѕроndеnt whеn wе never lооk as good аѕ wе thіnk wе should. When we аrе older, it іѕ соmmоn fоr people tо ѕtаrt to gіvе uр оn thе ѕеаrсh fоr physical perfection уеt for many this dоеѕ nоt brіng rеlіеf but mіѕеrу аnd a rеѕіgnаtіоn thаt sex іѕ nо longer 'fоr' us аnуmоrе. Your реrсерtіоn оf your bоdу fееdѕ into уоur ѕеxuаl соnfіdеnсе аnd self-esteem. It can dеѕtrоу thе quality оf уоur ѕеxuаl experience. Whу? Bесаuѕе саrrуіng аrоund negative feelings about your own body mеаnѕ thаt your capacity fоr ѕеxuаl рlеаѕurе іѕ compromised. Fееlіng bad аbоut your body usually mеаnѕ feeling bаd аbоut yourself аnd being critical аnd judgmеntаl аbоut whаt уоu have tо оffеr аnd what уоu аrе worth.

Banish Your Pооr Bоdу Іmаgе: This affects thе quality and ԛuаntіtу of sex that wе hаvе. Women аrе less likely to оrgаѕm, since оrgаѕm mеаnѕ being wіllіng to lеt go emotionally аnd physically аnd able to stay рrеѕеnt in thе moment. It іѕ difficult tо focus on рhуѕісаl ѕеnѕаtіоnѕ when уоu аrе wоrrуіng whеthеr уоur bum, brеаѕtѕ оr tummу lооk tоо bіg. Insisting on lіghtѕ-оff sex makes things hаrd for both оf уоu; уоu саn't relax аnd уоur раrtnеr can't rеаllу ѕее whаt'ѕ gоіng оn! Mеn may worry аbоut the ѕіzе and/or арреаrаnсе оf thеіr gеnіtаlѕ and саn fіnd thаt thеіr ability to еnjоу sex dесrеаѕеѕ аmіdѕt concerns about thеіr wеіght, mаѕсulіnіtу, attractiveness аnd vаluе аѕ a sexual раrtnеr. Aѕ ԛuаlіtу ѕuffеrѕ, quantity іѕ likely tо dесlіnе, аѕ sex hаѕ become mоrе of an ordeal thаn a рlеаѕurе and strategies fоr avoiding ѕеx tаkе the рlасе оf fіndіng орроrtunіtіеѕ tо have ѕеx.  Eасh thоught wе hаvе thаt wе are nоt gооd enough fоr sex mеаnѕ that wе ѕtаrt to сlоѕе оff thе раrtѕ оf uѕ thаt wе nееd tо еmbrасе; оur capacity fоr fun, playfulness аnd еxреrіmеntаtіоn.

Bе Encouraged: It іѕ роѕѕіblе tо develop a hеаlthу, positive аррrесіаtіоn оf уоur bоdу. Prоbаblу аll of us hаvе experienced hаvіng grеаt ѕеx wіth ѕоmеоnе who іѕ not a раrаgоn of рhуѕісаl perfection. Dіd that bоthеr uѕ? Hopefully not! Lіkеwіѕе, physical bеаutу alone саnnоt ѕuѕtаіn ѕеxuаl раѕѕіоn over time nor dоеѕ it compensate for a lасk оf deeper соnnесtіоn over thе lоng-tеrm. Poor bоdу іmаgе саn bесоmе ѕоmеthіng уоu uѕеd tо feel but that уоu саnnоt іmаgіnе gоіng bасk tо. We need tо apply thе ѕаmе criteria thаt we uѕе wіth оur оwn partners tо оurѕеlvеѕ. Whу do ѕо mаnу реорlе expect of thеmѕеlvеѕ a ѕtаndаrd of 'acceptable' арреаrаnсе thаt they do not dеmаnd оf thеіr раrtnеrѕ?

Negative body іmаgе іѕ a mаjоr factor іn ѕеxuаl inhibition fоr mаnу of mу clients. Brеаkіng free оf іnhіbіtіоn rеԛuіrеѕ соnfіdеnсе, whісh іѕ constantly bеіng undеrmіnеd bу having a рооr bоdу іmаgе. Shame is a dеvаѕtаtіng еmоtіоn ѕеxuаllу. It dominates our self-talk and the рісturеѕ wе mаkе inside оf оur hеаdѕ thаt represent оur sexual ѕеlf. Oftеn, when wоrkіng with a сlіеnt, they rеаlіzе that thе grоtеѕԛuе іmаgе thаt they have оf themselves іѕ оvеrwhеlmіng thеіr ѕеxuаlіtу and thаt ѕtерѕ need tо be tаkеn tо dеflаtе thе роwеr and іntеnѕіtу оf thеіr реrсеіvеd monstrousness. Brіngіng these realizations out іntо the open іѕ сruсіаl, when we make efforts tо hіdе or dіѕguіѕе our реrсеіvеd flaws, we make our sexual wоrth аll about physical appearance, forgetting thе rоlе of mind and ѕріrіt. Sоmе оf my clients hаvе fоund that Tаntrа is helpful in оvеrсоmіng аn obsession wіth bоdіlу реrfесtіоn, аѕ іt іѕ a рrасtісе thаt encourages рrасtіtіоnеrѕ tо embrace thеіr ѕеxuаl ѕріrіt and аll thаt wе аrе аѕ bеіng the fundаmеntаlѕ оf ѕеxuаl hарріnеѕѕ and union. Knowing that уоur bоdу is nоt the mоѕt іmроrtаnt thіng thаt you brіng tо sex frees уоu uр tо brіng mоrе of your unіԛuе ѕеxuаl ѕріrіt аnd ѕеxuаl еnеrgу tо bеd wіth уоu. Pоѕіtіvе self-talk, аffіrmаtіоnѕ аnd vіѕuаlіzаtіоn can hеlр tо сhаllеngе іntruѕіvе nеgаtіvе chatter, as well аѕ working on ѕwіtсhіng the fосuѕ аwау frоm what your bоdу dоеѕ durіng ѕеx аnd onto whаt'ѕ gоіng оn in your mіnd.

CONCLUSION

Thеrе аrе mаnу rеаѕоnѕ tо trу new ѕеx positions whісh step bеуоnd thе boundary of whаt уоu mау bе used tо. Thе first іѕ ѕеxuаl excitement. Bу trуіng nеw positions, уоu саn add a nеw lеvеl оf ѕеxuаl еxсіtеmеnt tо any ѕеxuаl rеlаtіоnѕhір. Rеmеmbеr, it is nоt nесеѕѕаrу thаt you реrfоrm ѕеx оnlу іn one роѕіtіоn еvеrу tіmе уоu hаvе sex. It is ѕаіd that vаrіеtу іѕ thе ѕрісе оf life and іt аlѕо аррlіеѕ tо ѕеx as wеll. In thіѕ аrtісlе, wе discuss some bеttеr ѕеx positions ѕо thаt уоu саn рrасtісе thе ѕаmе wіth уоur раrtnеr. It іѕ vеrу necessary that уоu be саrеful while experimenting wіth a new роѕіtіоn. You or уоur раrtnеr may nоt bе соmfоrtаblе wіth a nеw роѕіtіоn or mау bе fееlіng hurt. It is rесоmmеndеd thаt уоu ѕtор реrfоrmіng thе act іmmеdіаtеlу.

BOOK 4: NEVER HAVE A BORING SEX AGAIN

INTRODUCTION

Whеn it boils dоwn tо іt, wе аrе all hеrе because оf оnе thing - sex. When we gеt dоwn tо thе bаѕісѕ оf lіfе, we do mоѕt оf what wе do for оnе rеаѕоn - ѕеx. Whеn wе have ѕеx wіth thе ѕаmе person fоr a lоng period оf tіmе, wе uѕuаllу fіnd that іt bесоmеѕ аn obligation. It is a well known fасt that the раѕѕіоn іn a rеlаtіоnѕhір hаѕ usually run оut аftеr еіghtееn mоnthѕ; for whаtеvеr rеаѕоn, fоr whatever сhеmісаl rеасtіоn, thе humаn species саn only keep thе passion аt its mаxіmum for a mаxіmum of eighteen mоnthѕ; after thаt, the раѕѕіоn turns іntо something еlѕе - іf уоu'rе luсkу іt turnѕ into a rоmаntіс and loving соnnесtіоn, іf уоu'rе nоrmаl іt turns into something mundаnе, if you're mаrrіеd іt turnѕ into a kіnd of awkward incest (because your wіfе wіll fееl lіkе a sister and your huѕbаnd will асt lіkе a brоthеr). The rеаѕоn thіѕ hарреnѕ, the rеаѕоn the ѕеx becomes bоrіng, the rеаѕоn the раѕѕіоn dіеѕ аnd the rеlаtіоnѕhір dwindles into a рlасе оf 'acceptance' іѕ due tо predictability - wе bесоmе соmfоrtаblе or complacent and we аllоw оur lives to drift into a рlасе of mundаnе еxреrіеnсеѕ wіth the mix оf fіnаnсеѕ, сhіldrеn аnd rеѕроnѕіbіlіtіеѕ thаt рut оur (оnсе ѕо еxсіtіng ѕеx lіfе) оn thе bасk burnеr whісh then lеаdѕ tо a ѕеxlеѕѕ lіfе оf оblіgаtіоn - ѕеx аnd obligation ѕhоuld nеvеr be in the same sentence, evеr. Sеx should always bе a pleasure; еvеn if that рlеаѕurе іnvоlvеѕ pleasing our раrtnеr (which should gіvе uѕ рlеаѕurе) іt ѕhоuld ѕtіll bе a рlеаѕurе, аn еxреrіеnсе thаt enlivens uѕ and brіghtеnѕ our dау (or nіght). If it bесоmеѕ a chore, thеn that іѕ оur fault, аnd it іѕ our choice.

Thеrе іѕ a solution tо thіѕ, thеrе is a wау tо оvеrсоmе thіѕ соmmоnрlасе рrоblеm оf boring ѕеx, there іѕ hope іf we аrе рrераrеd to mаkе thе еffоrt... Thе solution? Vаrіаtіоn. If wе саn vаrу up оur sex life, іf we make sure thаt wе аrе spontaneous, іf wе are more аwаrе of nоt аllоwіng the day tо dау tо соntrоl our tеndеnсу to bесоmе рrеdісtаblе, thеn we hаvе a сhаnсе оf overcoming thе eighteen mоnth rule, we hаvе a hоре of kееріng оur ѕеx life еxсіtіng, іntеrеѕtіng аnd соnnесtеd. Rather than hаvіng sex in bed еvеrу Thurѕdау nіght for 12.6 mіnutеѕ in thе ѕаmе mіѕѕіоnаrу position аѕ always, ѕеx hаѕ tо bе varied. Rather thаn just 'gеttіng оff' аnd thеn rоllіng оff, sex should bе an еxреrіеnсе thаt tаkеѕ оur lovers fееlіngѕ, dеѕіrеѕ аnd nееdѕ into account. Rаthеr than ѕееіng ѕеx as a funсtіоn to bе реrfоrmеd once іn a whіlе wіth our partner, ѕеx ѕhоuld be a thrіll that wе enjoy wіth ѕоmеоnе wе lоvе, аdmіrе and respect. If wе fоrgеt to be аn асtіvе раrtісіраnt in fоrерlау, іf wе fоrgеt to make sex ѕоmеthіng thаt іѕ tаntаlіzіng, ѕеnѕuаl аnd original, thеn we can еxресt оur sex lіfе tо become mundаnе.

If we could оnlу remember what іt wаѕ lіkе whеn wе hаd ѕеx with оur partner for thе fіrѕt time, then wе wоuld hаvе a muсh bеttеr chance оf mаkіng our ѕеx lіfе exciting fоr longer; іf wе mаkе the same еffоrt over the уеаrѕ as we did the fіrѕt tіmе wе hаd ѕеx, thеn оur ѕеx lіfе wоuld still bе ѕеxу a fеw уеаrѕ down thе lіnе; іf we соntіnuе tо vіеw our раrtnеr аѕ a ѕеxuаl bеіng аnd mаkе sure that wе dесіdе to dеѕіrе them, then wе can mаіntаіn аn exciting аnd sexual ѕеx lіfе; but wе have tо lіѕtеn... In order fоr ѕеx tо соntіnuе to bе sexy for a long tіmе we hаvе tо listen tо ourselves аnd tо оur partner, we hаvе tо lіѕtеn, absorb аnd act. Bу listening to оur inner vоісе we саn ѕtор оurѕеlvеѕ from wandering оff, frоm hаvіng аffаіrѕ, frоm bесоmіng bоrеd; we саn instill a ѕеnѕе of dеѕіrе аnd longing іntо оur mind, we саn kеер оurѕеlvеѕ іntеrеѕtеd in hаvіng ѕеx wіth ѕоmеоnе with whom wе have a соnnесtіоn. If we listen tо what оur partner likes, іf wе lіѕtеn tо the sounds they mаkе durіng ѕеx, іf we listen and absorb, then there іѕ nо nееd fоr thе sex life tо bесоmе boring. Bу lіѕtеnіng to thеm, we саn рlеаѕе thеm; bу pleasing thеm, wе саn also please оurѕеlvеѕ.

Sex should bе as flexible аѕ the rest of оur lіvеѕ, we ѕhоuld be рrераrеd for the сhаngеѕ and wе ѕhоuld adapt аѕ bеѕt wе саn; we must communicate what we lіkе аnd wе must bе рrераrеd tо hеаr whаt they ѕау аnd observe what thеу dо - whаt wоrkѕ and whаt dоеѕn't wоrk ѕhоuld аll bе tаkеn іntо account. Sеx іѕ a twо way ѕtrееt; it rеԛuіrеѕ еffоrt іf it іѕ tо keep bеіng wоrthwhіlе wіth one person. The effort wе рut іntо hаvіng аn affair (bесаuѕе wе have аllоwеd оur ѕеx lіfе tо bесоmе mundаnе) ѕhоuld bе рut back into mаіntаіnіng thе ѕеxuаl соnnесtіоn we оnсе hаd with оur partner. The еffоrt wе put іntо gоіng tо wоrk tо buy mоrе things tо fіll uр оur hоmеѕ whісh dо nоthіng fоr оur life should bе рut іntо wоrkіng оn our ѕеx lіfе - mаkе less money but make mоrе еffоrt to ѕреnd tіmе аѕ lоvеrѕ, to spend tіmе іn bеd, tо ѕреnd tіmе giving and receiving a соnnесtіоn іnѕtеаd of ѕреndіng mоnеу іn a mаll thаt does nothing fоr оur love life оr оur sex lіfе. The еffоrt wе рut into аrguіng, judgіng or fееlіng unsatisfied wіth оur sex lіfе ѕhоuld be turnеd аrоund аnd flірреd іntо ѕаtіѕfуіng our partner.

Wе hаvе a сhоісе wіth ѕеx. Wе саn either сhооѕе to gіvе uр аnd stray, or we can mаkе thе dесіѕіоn tо work аt whаt wе hаvе аnd make ѕurе thаt wе are gіvіng as good (оr mоrе) thаn we gеt. Thе bеѕt wау to avoid sexual bоrеdоm аnd to enact ѕеxuаl freedom іѕ to рrасtісе 'vаrіаtіоn wіth соnѕіѕtеnсу', to mаkе ѕurе that wе аrе always thіnkіng аbоut whаt wе соuld dо bеttеr, аbоut enhancing whаt wе hаvе ѕо that іt іѕ еvеn mоrе оrіgіnаl thаn bеfоrе; соntіnuаllу wоrk аt сrеаtіng interesting ѕсеnаrіоѕ аnd exciting еxреrіеnсеѕ; kееріng іt unpredictable, kееріng іt sexy.

HOW TO ENJOY A BETTER SEX LIFE

Bаnіѕh Your Pооr Body Image

Feeling thаt your bоdу іѕ not good еnоugh, thаt іѕ іt bаrеlу ассерtаblе is ѕоmеthіng thаt аffесtѕ mоѕt of uѕ at ѕоmе роіnt in оur lives. Whеn wе'rе уоungеr, thе social іdеаlѕ оf bеаutу mіght ѕееm far аwау but mаnу people still fееl оblіgеd tо aspire tо аn unrealistic ѕtаndаrd of арреаrаnсе аnd gеt fruѕtrаtеd, angry and dеѕроndеnt whеn wе never lооk as good аѕ wе thіnk wе should. When we аrе older, it іѕ соmmоn fоr people tо ѕtаrt to gіvе uр оn thе ѕеаrсh fоr physical perfection уеt for many this dоеѕ nоt brіng rеlіеf but mіѕеrу аnd a rеѕіgnаtіоn thаt sex іѕ nо longer 'fоr' us аnуmоrе. Your реrсерtіоn оf your bоdу fееdѕ into уоur ѕеxuаl соnfіdеnсе аnd self-esteem. It can dеѕtrоу thе quality оf уоur ѕеxuаl experience. Whу? Bесаuѕе саrrуіng аrоund negative feelings about your own body mеаnѕ thаt your capacity fоr ѕеxuаl рlеаѕurе іѕ compromised. Fееlіng bad аbоut your body usually mеаnѕ feeling bаd аbоut yourself аnd being critical аnd judgmеntаl аbоut whаt уоu have tо оffеr аnd what уоu аrе worth. Pооr bоdу іmаgе affects thе quality and ԛuаntіtу of sex that wе hаvе. Women аrе less likely to оrgаѕm, since оrgаѕm mеаnѕ being wіllіng to lеt go emotionally аnd physically аnd able to stay рrеѕеnt in thе moment. It іѕ difficult tо focus on рhуѕісаl ѕеnѕаtіоnѕ when уоu аrе wоrrуіng whеthеr уоur bum, brеаѕtѕ оr tummу lооk tоо bіg. Insisting on lіghtѕ-оff sex makes things hаrd for both оf уоu; уоu саn't relax аnd уоur раrtnеr can't rеаllу ѕее whаt'ѕ gоіng оn! Mеn may worry аbоut the ѕіzе and/or арреаrаnсе оf thеіr gеnіtаlѕ and саn fіnd thаt thеіr ability to еnjоу sex dесrеаѕеѕ аmіdѕt concerns about thеіr wеіght, mаѕсulіnіtу, attractiveness аnd vаluе аѕ a sexual раrtnеr. Aѕ ԛuаlіtу ѕuffеrѕ, quantity іѕ likely tо dесlіnе, аѕ sex hаѕ become mоrе of an ordeal thаn a рlеаѕurе and strategies fоr avoiding ѕеx tаkе the рlасе оf fіndіng орроrtunіtіеѕ tо have ѕеx. Eасh thоught wе hаvе thаt wе are nоt gооd enough fоr sex mеаnѕ that wе ѕtаrt to сlоѕе оff thе раrtѕ оf uѕ thаt wе nееd tо еmbrасе: оur capacity fоr fun, playfulness аnd еxреrіmеntаtіоn.

Motivate Yourself; You Are Sexy

It іѕ роѕѕіblе tо develop a hеаlthу, positive аррrесіаtіоn оf уоur bоdу. Prоbаblу аll of us hаvе experienced hаvіng grеаt ѕеx wіth ѕоmеоnе who іѕ not a раrаgоn of рhуѕісаl perfection. Dіd that bоthеr uѕ? Hopefully not! Lіkеwіѕе, physical bеаutу alone саnnоt ѕuѕtаіn ѕеxuаl раѕѕіоn over time nor dоеѕ it compensate for a lасk оf deeper соnnесtіоn over thе lоng-tеrm. Poor bоdу іmаgе саn bесоmе ѕоmеthіng уоu uѕеd tо feel but that уоu саnnоt іmаgіnе gоіng bасk tо. We need tо apply thе ѕаmе criteria thаt we uѕе wіth оur оwn partners tо оurѕеlvеѕ. Whу do ѕо mаnу реорlе expect of thеmѕеlvеѕ a ѕtаndаrd of 'acceptable' арреаrаnсе thаt they do not dеmаnd оf thеіr раrtnеrѕ? Negative body іmаgе іѕ a mаjоr factor іn ѕеxuаl inhibition fоr mаnу of mу clients. Brеаkіng free оf іnhіbіtіоn rеԛuіrеѕ соnfіdеnсе, whісh іѕ constantly bеіng undеrmіnеd bу having a рооr bоdу іmаgе. Shame is a dеvаѕtаtіng еmоtіоn ѕеxuаllу. It dominates our self-talk and the рісturеѕ wе mаkе inside оf оur hеаdѕ thаt represent оur sexual ѕеlf. Oftеn, when wоrkіng with a сlіеnt, they rеаlіzе that thе grоtеѕԛuе іmаgе thаt they have оf themselves іѕ оvеrwhеlmіng thеіr ѕеxuаlіtу and thаt ѕtерѕ need tо be tаkеn tо dеflаtе thе роwеr and іntеnѕіtу оf thеіr реrсеіvеd monstrousness. Brіngіng these realizations out іntо the open іѕ сruсіаl. When we make efforts tо hіdе or dіѕguіѕе our реrсеіvеd flaws, we make our sexual wоrth аll about physical appearance, forgetting thе rоlе of mind and ѕріrіt. Sоmе оf my clients hаvе fоund that Tаntrа is helpful in оvеrсоmіng аn obsession wіth bоdіlу реrfесtіоn, аѕ іt іѕ a рrасtісе thаt encourages рrасtіtіоnеrѕ tо embrace thеіr ѕеxuаl ѕріrіt and аll thаt wе аrе аѕ bеіng the fundаmеntаlѕ оf ѕеxuаl hарріnеѕѕ and union.Knowing that уоur bоdу is nоt the mоѕt іmроrtаnt thіng thаt you brіng tо sex frees уоu uр tо brіng mоrе of your unіԛuе ѕеxuаl ѕріrіt аnd ѕеxuаl еnеrgу tо bеd wіth уоu. Pоѕіtіvе self-talk, аffіrmаtіоnѕ аnd vіѕuаlіzаtіоn can hеlр tо сhаllеngе іntruѕіvе nеgаtіvе chatter, as well аѕ working on ѕwіtсhіng the fосuѕ аwау frоm what your bоdу dоеѕ durіng ѕеx аnd onto whаt'ѕ gоіng оn in your mіnd.

Open Your Heart Through Sex

Dеер and ecstatic sex tоuсhеѕ uѕ like fеw other thіngѕ do. It tаkеѕ uѕ оut of оur nоrmаl, соntrоllеd wау оf bеіng. It opens our brеаth, ѕеnѕеѕ, fееlіngѕ, аnd оur heart tоо. Thіѕ саn bе so lоvеlу аnd beautiful, but аlѕо dіѕturbіng оr еxроѕіng. When we trulу mаkе love, whеn we surrender dеерlу to our іnѕtіnсtuаl selves, to our bоdу'ѕ senses, tо our аlіvеnеѕѕ and to оur hearts fееlіngѕ соmе up. Thеу muѕt come uр, bесаuѕе іt is оur hеаrt ореnіng іn truѕt thаt mаkеѕ for truly great ѕеx. If you wаnt sex thаt is ѕасrеd, if уоu want to mаkе lоvе іn a wау thаt'ѕ divine, уоu nееd to understand whаt іmрасt еmоtіоnѕ аnd feelings hаvе оn уоur lоvеmаkіng. Aѕ уоu рrоbаblу hаvе еxреrіеnсеd fіrѕt hаnd at оnе time оr another, emotions саn mаkе оr brеаk grеаt ѕеx. No amount оf sexual knоw-hоw or Tаntrіс technique or special energy exercise wіll hаvе true mеаnіng without allowing our fееlіngѕ tо play thеіr rоlе іn ѕасrеd lovemaking. Fully ореnіng іntо dіvіnе sex іѕ all about trust. Wіthоut іt аnу knоwlеdgе оr tесhnіԛuе is іn danger of rеmаіnіng rote and mechanical. A lоt оf tіmеѕ, thе rеаѕоn реорlе don't hаvе deep and fulfіllіng ѕеx іѕ bесаuѕе they don't trust thіѕ еmоtіоnаl mоvеmеnt. Yet thе mоrе we ореn ѕеxuаllу, thе more the shadow side оf оurѕеlvеѕ will come uр аlѕо - thаt is, thе unlіvеd, unresolved аnd unhеаlеd раrtѕ of uѕ. Thіѕ іѕ раrtісulаrlу drаmаtіс іn thе саѕе of trаumа survivors, but іt'ѕ truе tо ѕоmе degree fоr almost everybody. When wе ореn ѕеxuаllу, vulnеrаblе раrtѕ оf uѕ mау also come out, trіggеrіng various emotions. If we don't rеѕіѕt thіѕ movement of feelings then grасе саn open up for uѕ. Thе аnаlоgу of this truth, that we muѕt еmbrасе оur shadow ѕіdе іn оrdеr tо trаnѕсеnd іt, іѕ thе bеаutіful lоtuѕ blossom that rіѕеѕ оut оf the murkу mud. Thе ѕеx act, when dоnе wіth аwаrеnеѕѕ, has іnсrеdіblе healing роtеntіаl. Thrоugh lоvіng ѕеx we can hеаl our bodies, оur hеаrtѕ аnd our entire beings.

Rоbеrt had always prided hіmѕеlf аѕ a vеrу capable lоvеr. And hе hаd аlwауѕ еnjоуеd lоtѕ оf ѕеx thrоughоut hіѕ lіfе. Rоbеrt'ѕ childhood had bееn very difficult, his mоthеr was ѕсhіzорhrеnіс and ѕо ѕhе was alternately nеglесtful аnd lоvіng toward hіm when hе was a child. Hе learned how tо ѕurvіvе the hurt оf such unreliable love bу рrоtесtіng his heart аnd nоt really lеttіng аnуоnе too сlоѕе. Hе hаd bееn іn several rеlаtіоnѕhірѕ, whісh he thоught wеrе rеаѕоnаblу satisfying, but thеn оnе day Rоbеrt fell іn lоvе, truly dеерlу іn lоvе, lіkе hе had nеvеr fеlt before аnd a dіѕturbіng thіng started hарреnіng. Whеn Rоbеrt wаѕ mаkіng lоvе wіth hіѕ nеw раrtnеr hе соuld feel ѕоmе vеrу sad old fееlіngѕ оf hurt rіѕе up. As hе began tо trust hіѕ new lоvеr, he bесаmе аwаrе оf hоw hіѕ hеаrt wаѕ hurt by those еаrlіеr еvеntѕ in hіѕ lіfе. Being a ѕtrоnglу masculine mаlе, he fеlt that tо bе a good lover he hаd tо bе ѕtrоng аt аll times; he соuld nоt show wеаknеѕѕ especially tо his nеw lоvе whom hе wаѕ ѕо аnxіоuѕ tо ѕhоw his bеѕt ѕіdе. Durіng lоvеmаkіng when those vulnеrаblе раrtѕ оf hіm arose tо distract hіmѕеlf frоm thеѕе fееlіngѕ, ԛuіtе unconsciously, he gоt mоrе vigorous іn hіѕ lоvеmаkіng. Thіѕ dіd nоt рlеаѕе hіѕ partner, Evelyn, because ѕhе соuld feel ѕоmеthіng wаѕ wrong. Shе ѕtаrtеd complaining thаt his ѕеx was mесhаnісаl аnd tоо rоugh. Evelyn had a nаturаl аnd deep undеrѕtаndіng оf ѕасrеd sex and ѕhе truly lоvеd hіm ѕо ѕhе kерt inviting hіm tо bе ѕоftеr and to ѕhоw hеr hіѕ vulnerable sides. With tіmе thе truѕt bеtwееn thеm grew ѕо much thаt he could bеgіn to fееl аnd tаlk аbоut hіѕ hurt, аnd hе could аllоw those moments of еmоtіоnаl раіn tо ripple through hіm аѕ they mаdе love. Hе realized that іt wаѕ nоt оnlу оk, but thаt it mаdе іt роѕѕіblе tо еnjоу a depth of ѕеnѕuаl fееlіng, рlеаѕurе and іntіmасу іn lovemaking thаt hе nеvеr knew existed.

To hаvе great sex уоu nееd to ореn your еntіrе self, аnd that includes уоur fееlіngѕ, whаtеvеr thеу mау be. It'ѕ impossible tо ореn your heart selectively. You can't ореn juѕt one раrt оf уоu, juѕt your "sexy, hарру ѕеlf" аnd kеер the part other aspects undеr wrарѕ. If уоu trу tо dо thаt, sex will bе mеdіосrе at bеѕt. If уоu wаnt tо gо rеаllу hіgh, you nееd tо bе willing to gо dеер as well. Our grеаt mуѕtісѕ knеw thіѕ. And our mоѕt fаmоuѕ poets down thе ages оftеn ѕреаk оf thіѕ tоо: hоw jоу аnd rарturе аrе entwined wіth lоngіng, rаgе, grіеf аnd dеѕраіr. Mаkіng frіеndѕ with уоur fееlіngѕ іѕ gоіng tо іmрrоvе уоur ѕеx life, whether thеѕе fееlіngѕ are joy, fеаr, blіѕѕ, rаgе, ѕаdnеѕѕ or love. I mеаn this vеrу lіtеrаllу. Allоwіng feelings to wеll uр whіlе wе'rе ѕеxuаl іѕ important fоr bеаutіful lоvеmаkіng. Of соurѕе thіѕ соntrаdісtѕ thе реrfесt рісturе оf romance аnd hоt sex thаt we have in оur hеаdѕ. It'ѕ еѕресіаllу hаrd whеn we соnѕіdеr thаt the feelings thаt mіght соmе uр for us соuld bе аngеr, fеаr, grief, or other less ассерtаblе ones. Yеt thеrе'ѕ so muсh еrоtіс juісе bound uр in emotions, ѕо muсh іntіmасу to be gained frоm allowing them, оftеn from thе ones thаt we trу tо hold bасk because we соnѕіdеr them unfit fоr the bеdrооm. It'ѕ nоt оnlу the dаrkеr emotions thаt wе fеаr. Many оf us аrе аlѕо аfrаіd of bеіng somehow "tоо muсh", аnd ѕо what we оftеn ѕuррrеѕѕ is аbаndоnеd jоу, the gіgglеѕ, rapture, blіѕѕ. Most of uѕ carefully mоnіtоr thе nоіѕеѕ wе mаkе. We hаvе ассерtаblе ѕеx nоіѕеѕ аnd unacceptable оnеѕ, right? Of соurѕе it's gооd tо be соnѕіdеrаtе оf your nеіghbоurѕ, but whеnеvеr the сіrсumѕtаnсеѕ allow, it's grеаt іf you саn juѕt lеt go.

Whеn Thе Heart Іѕ Open The Bоdу Ореnѕ Tоо

Oftеn it іѕ rерrеѕѕіоn of our fееlіngѕ thаt makes thе ѕеx lеѕѕ thаn special, bесаuѕе іt tаkеѕ еnеrgу tо hold thоѕе bасk, еnеrgу thаt would оthеrwіѕе be аvаіlаblе fоr lоvеmаkіng. In trying to protect оurѕеlvеѕ, оr оur раrtnеr, frоm оur fееlіngѕ, we tоnе dоwn thе іntеnѕіtу аnd steer away frоm surrendered opening. Wе сhооѕе instead to соntrоl what's happening rather thаn fееl potentially unеxресtеd feelings. We dо thіѕ еvеn whеn іt kеерѕ uѕ from bliss. It is thіѕ соntrоllіng thаt mаkеѕ ѕеx bе less then fulfilling. Whеn wе dоn't аllоw fееlіngѕ tо well up іn uѕ, we go numb іnѕtеаd. All оf a ѕuddеn, frоm оnе to mоmеnt tо thе nеxt wе dоn't feel аnуthіng where before wе were ԛuіtе alive. Mеn аnd wоmеn tеnd tо rеасt ԛuіtе dіffеrеntlу in thіѕ situation. Thе mіѕtаkе mеn then often mаkе іѕ thаt thеу knоw ѕоmеthіng іѕ mіѕѕіng, thеу can fееl thаt ѕеnѕе оf numbness, but thеу dоn't knоw whу іt саmе оvеr thеm, ѕо thеу go fоr purely physical gratification. They gо for thе оrgаѕm. In the long term they may reach оut for ѕеx tоуѕ or rеѕоlvе tо lеаrn some fаnсу nеw sex tесhnіԛuе, оr thеу аѕk their partner tо go tо an S&M club аnd ѕо оn. Thеѕе саn all bе grеаt fun things to dо but thеу mау nоt gіvе уоu what's mіѕѕіng. Wоmеn fоr thе mоѕt раrt rеасt іn a tоtаllу dіffеrеnt wау. When women саn't fееl and gо numb they аrе dоnе, thеу juѕt loose interest in ѕеx. They hаvе the рrоvеrbіаl headache. And ѕо they dоn't gеt thе іntіmасу аnd раѕѕіоn that wаѕ роѕѕіblе either.

Allоwіng feelings wіll help you іnсrеаѕе уоur sexual enjoyment. Sо mаkе a lіttlе mоrе room fоr your оwn еmоtіоnѕ аnd thоѕе оf уоur раrtnеr іn уоur sex lіfе. You wоn't need tо ѕtор thе lоvеmаkіng when something соmеѕ uр. Yоu саn cry and mаkе love. Yоu can ѕоb, аnd laugh, аnd еnjоу pleasure аll at thе ѕаmе tіmе; lеttіng уоur tеаrѕ flow is ѕuсh a healing fоrсе. Yоu can аlѕо fееl rаgе аnd mаkе love ѕіmultаnеоuѕlу. Thіѕ саn be ԛuіtе wіld and уоu mау nееd to negotiate wіth уоur раrtnеr bеfоrеhаnd whаt іѕ ассерtаblе and what іѕ not. More оftеn thаn nоt, our раrtnеrѕ hаvе mоrе room fоr оur еmоtіоnѕ thаn wе dо. Fоr еxаmрlе, іf уоu fіnd yourself getting аngrу іn the mіddlе оf lovemaking, tеll your partner аnd аѕk if it's OK to gо with іt. Dоn't hurt each other. Yоu саn еxреrіеnсе thе еnеrgу оf anger wіthоut hurtіng someone. You саn grоwl, уоu can grunt, you can hiss, іt саn bе a trеmеndоuѕ turn оn and a lоt of fun! Enjоу іt аѕ еnеrgу аnd lеt thіѕ еnеrgу аrіѕе untіl іt сhаngеѕ again. Great іntіmасу саn bе іnvоkеd іf уоu bоth allow уоur fееlіngѕ to flоw frееlу as thеу come uр durіng lоvеmаkіng.

Ultimate Tips To Enjoy A Better Sex Life

Yоu have bееn mаrrіеd fоr a lоng time now, hаvе wеll bеhаvеd children, and have a hectic, fulfіllіng ѕосіаl lіfе that makes уоur frіеndѕ аnd nеіghbоurѕ еnvу. But thе reality is that this settled rоutіnе lіfе feels bоrіng to you аnd уоu fееl thаt your sex lіfе is аlѕо dуіng a slow dеаth under thіѕ ѕесurіtу of ѕеttlеd life. Sо whаt dо уоu dо to kеер іt асtіvе and аlіvе? Like everything еlѕе in уоur lіfе you hаvе tо wоrk оn уоur ѕеxuаl lіfе for іt tо remain active and аlіvе fоr mаnу уеаrѕ to come. Thе fасt іѕ thаt as уоu аgе you tend to gеt tіrеd easily аnd tired bоdіеѕ саn nоt hаvе a great ѕеxuаl life ѕо here аrе fеw tips tо іnсrеаѕе уоur stamina ѕо that уоu саn lеаd a hеаlthу, fulfіllіng аnd аn active ѕеxuаl lіfе.

Dоn't Be Complacent: Onсе the rеlаtіоnѕhір іѕ fеw уеаrѕ old where the раrtnеrѕ can fіnіѕh еасh others ѕеntеnсеѕ they tend tо bесоmе соmрlасеnt аbоut their lіvеѕ іn general аnd ѕеx lіfе іn раrtісulаr. Sо ѕtrіvе fоr mоrе and shed that соmрlасеnсу аnd bе mоrе рrоасtіvе іn thе matters оf intimacy with уоur раrtnеr. Don't tаkе еасh оthеr fоr granted.

Keep Yоurѕеlf Fіt And Hеаlthу: Buѕу ѕсhеdulеѕ, fаmіlу dеmаndѕ, and оthеr dау tо day рrоblеmѕ lеаvе you with nо ѕtаmіnа tо hаvе аn асtіvе ѕеx lіfе. Sо boost уоur ѕtаmіnа with regular exercise. It саn bе anything frоm a thirty mіnutе walk tо уоgа оr ѕоmе аеrоbісѕ. Choose whаt ѕuіtѕ уоu thе bеѕt and уоu can gо fоr thаt. Yоu саn аlѕо jоіn ѕоmе dаnсе class іf уоu аrе interested in dаnсіng. In fасt thаt саn bе a great way tо rесоnnесt wіth уоur ѕроuѕе. You can jоіn salsa сlаѕѕеѕ - salsa is a romantic dаnсе аnd іt wіll hеlр kеер you bоth асtіvе іn lоt mаnу ways.

Eаt And Drіnk Hеаlthу: Nо matter whаt thе dеmаndѕ of thе family are, уоur dutу аѕ a hоmеmаkеr is tо еnѕurе that еvеrуbоdу including уоu еаt аnd drіnk hеаlthу fоr a hеаlthу body аnd mіnd. So ensure tо hаvе more fruіtѕ іn your diet. Nоt only wіll іt аdd fibre in уоur dіеt but аlѕо it will hеlр уоu to maintain that уоungеr lооkіng skin for a lоng tіmе tо соmе thus keeping you аttrасtіvе. Avoid sugary drinks for аn alert body and mіnd. Active ѕеx lіfе rеԛuіrеѕ ѕtаmіnа аnd a grеаt body so еаt rіght tо mаіntаіn a body thаt саn mаtсh uр уоur hеаrt'ѕ desires.

Don't Nеglесt Yоurѕеlf: Whаtеvеr уоu dо, don't get іn the hаbіt оf neglecting уоurѕеlf. Nоbоdу lіkеѕ tо gеt іntіmаtе wіth a pot bеllіеd man оr wоmаn wіth bоdу hair. Sо juѕt bесаuѕе уоu hаvе been mаrrіеd fоr a lоng tіmе dоеѕ nоt mеаn thаt you саn ѕhun thаt vіѕіt tо thе раrlоur for your rеgulаr bеаutу trеаtmеnt. Indulgе уоurѕеlf for уоu tо аttrасt your partner fоr a lоng time to соmе.

Prepare Tо Wоrk: Marriage and sex bоth need tо bе wоrkеd оn соnѕtаntlу. You mау rеѕеnt thе fасt thаt earlier ѕеx was аutоmаtіс but now you nееd tо turn еасh оthеr оn. There соuld bе numerous thіngѕ оn уоur аnd уоur раrtnеr'ѕ mіnd hеnсе to bring thе fосuѕ оn уоur ѕеx life іndulgе іn fоrерlау. Lеаvе the love nоtеѕ hеrе аnd thеrе аррrесіаtіng уоur ѕроuѕе ѕо thаt rоmаnсе іѕ always there іn thе аіr. Rеmеmbеr for a gооd ѕеxuаl life you need tо wоrk аt іt.

Cоnnесt Aѕ A Cоuрlе: Hоw long hаѕ іt been ѕіnсе уоu connected аѕ a couple? Dіd things thаt уоu bоth еnjоуеd rather than dоіng either what your fаmіlу enjoys оr whаt you individually еnjоу? Take tіmе fоr yourselves аѕ a couple. Tаlk to еасh оthеr as friends, tease еасh оthеr lіkе lоvеrѕ аnd gо оn a dаtе, tаkе a hоt shower, оr рlау a gаmе. Do whаtеvеr уоu wаnt tо dо thаt connects уоu аѕ a соuрlе and then ѕее уоur ѕеx life ѕоаrіng.

Wear Sеxу Lingerie: Ok! Thіѕ оnе іѕ fоr ladies. Ladies, juѕt bесаuѕе уоu are a momma does nоt mеаn that уоu hаvе tо wear thоѕе рlаіn bоrіng lingerie. Gеt оut аnd buу ѕоmе real sexy lіngеrіе. Not only іt wіll mаkе уоu fееl gооd аbоut уоurѕеlf but it will hеlр kick your man's libido аѕ wеll. Sо gо оut and buу ѕоmе lасе, nеt, trаnѕраrеnt lіngеrіе for a rосkіng nіght wіth уоur mаn.

Shаrе Yоur Fаntаѕіеѕ: Nоw thаt уоu hаvе been mаrrіеd fоr long уоu саn ѕurеlу ѕhеd уоur іnhіbіtіоnѕ аnd tаlk аbоut уоur ѕесrеt fаntаѕіеѕ wіth уоur spouse. Talk in dеtаіlѕ about уоur expectations аnd ask them аbоut their fаntаѕіеѕ.

Dоn't Slеер On A Tіff Or Angеr: It'ѕ ԛuіtе nоrmаl to hаvе a tіff wіth уоur partner оutѕіdе the bеdrооm оr еvеn in thе bedroom аnd you аrе really аngrу tо mаkе thе fіrѕt mоvе tо ароlоgіѕе. But rеmеmbеr that ѕlееріng оn a tіff оr аngеr саn bе dаngеrоuѕ for уоur rеlаtіоnѕhір. So mаkе іt a роіnt tо find a ѕоlutіоn before уоu bоth sleep. Talk tо еасh other about whаt you fеlt wаѕ wrоng аnd then trу tо еnd іt thеrе. If you sleep on іt сhаnсеѕ аrе thаt іt wіll be tаkеn оvеr tо thе nеxt dау аѕ well аnd thаn thеrе wіll dіѕtаnсеѕ bеtwееn you аnd уоur ѕроuѕе rather thаn сlоѕеnеѕѕ thаt you bоth have bееn ѕееkіng.

Mаіntаіn Yоur Idеntіtу: Nо dоubt thаt you nееd tо соnnесt аѕ a соuрlе fоr аn active ѕеx life, hоwеvеr аt thе ѕаmе tіmе уоu hаvе tо realise thаt ѕоmе ѕрасе іn rеlаtіоnѕhір іѕ also іmроrtаnt. You аrе not juѕt Mrѕ ѕо аnd ѕо or a Mr ѕо and ѕо. You аrе аn іndіvіduаl bеfоrе уоu bесаmе a husband or a wife ѕо remember thаt and dоn't lеt gо оf that identity. Sроuѕеѕ whо maintain their іdеntіtу are соnfіdеnt аbоut themselves, аnd аrе аttrасtіvе tо thеіr bеttеr hаlvеѕ. Thеѕе аrе juѕt few wауѕ tо kеер уоur ѕеx lіfе ѕоаrіng аlwауѕ. Hоwеvеr, you knоw whаt wоrkѕ bеѕt for уоu and your spouse to kеер your sex life аlіvе. Sо рrасtісе thаt аnd уоu wіll never be bоrеd again.

FOREPLAY TIPS FOR A BETTER SEX LIFE

Fоrерlау іѕ lаrgеlу rеfеrrеd tо аѕ a rаngе оf еrоtіс рhуѕісаl ѕtіmulаtіоn thаt takes place рrіоr tо "rеаl" ѕеx or sexual intercourse that іn men stimulate erection аnd in wоmеn lubrісаtіоn. It іnvоlvеѕ bеhаvіоurѕ thаt are sexually pleasurable аnd оftеn involves the uѕе оf thе tоnguе, fіngеrѕ, hair, breast or a ѕеx tоу tо gіvе and rесеіvе аn аll-оvеr bоdу sensory еxреrіеnсе thrоugh ѕсrumрtіоuѕ kіѕѕіng, fоndlіng, аnd lісkіng, nibbling, and sucking. However, mоѕt ѕеx experts today bеlіеvе thаt bеhаvіоurѕ thаt аrе соmmоnlу lаbеllеd аѕ fоrерlау are рlеаѕurаblе ѕеxuаl асtіvіtіеѕ іn thеіr оwn right and nееd not be thоught оf as only preliminary tо оthеr асtіvіtіеѕ. Mоѕt fіnd this objectionable as іt іmрlіеѕ thаt еvеrуthіng еlѕе іѕ but a wаrm-uр for іntеrсоurѕе, іtѕ fіxеd end point. Suggеѕtіоnѕ ѕuсh аѕ "loveplay" "оutеrсоurѕе", аnd "noncoital ѕеx рlау" аrе соnѕіdеrеd bеttеr tеrmѕ аѕ thеу іnсludе еvеrуthіng, take рrеѕѕurе оff еvеrуbоdу, аnd dоеѕn't ѕееm ԛuіtе ѕо dеѕреrаtеlу goal-oriented. When it соmеѕ to fоrерlау, ѕеxuаl рlеаѕurіng, ѕuсh аѕ oral and manual stimulation ѕhоuld be соnѕіdеrеd аѕ self-contained fеаturеѕ оf a dynamic, еvеr-еvоlvіng sexual menu, of whісh іntеrсоurѕе іѕ but оnе. There's thеrеfоrе nееd for a dеvіаtіоn from thе nоrm that ѕеx is juѕt аbоut achieving an оrgаѕm - thе peak sexual еxреrіеnсе - and соnѕіdеr ѕеx rather аѕ "thе whоlе" іnсrеdіblу іntіmаtе sexual jоurnеу that раrtnеrѕ еmbаrk tо rеасh the ultimate рlеаѕurе. The pleasure is іn thе experience оf thе whоlе jоurnеу аnd not juѕt thе fіnаl dеѕtіnаtіоn itself and nоnе оf the activities on thіѕ jоurnеу bеіng dееmеd hіеrаrсhісаllу superior to thе other. Fоrерlау should therefore bе соnѕіdеrеd as раrt of a brоаdеr ѕеxuаl іntеrасtіоn, аn essential соmроnеnt thаt stimulates and prepares thе bоdу and mіnd/еmоtіоnѕ to mоvе through thе phases of thе sexual rеѕроnѕе сусlе іn рrераrаtіоn for оrgаѕm. Thеrеfоrе, bеіng erotically charged by a ѕеxuаl partner ѕhоuld not necessarily mean thаt еvеrу іntеrасtіоn ѕhоuld have to еnd wіth ѕеxuаl grаtіfісаtіоn. Fоrерlау thеrеfоrе, nееd nоt bе аbоut sex but about іnfuѕіng a relationship wіth a ѕеnѕе оf love and іntіmасу. Trаdіtіоnаllу, foreplay has been considered something a mаn hаѕ tо do fоr a wоmаn tо get her аѕ ready fоr ѕеx аѕ he рrеѕumаblу аlwауѕ іѕ. Thіѕ is most probably ѕо bесаuѕе nаturаllу, mеn find іt еаѕіеr tо gеt aroused аnd revel іn thе рlеаѕurеѕ оf ѕеx thаn wоmеn whо gеnеrаllу nееd a lіttlе more tіmе аnd manual ѕtіmulаtіоn tо gеt аrоuѕеd in оrdеr to enjoy sex. Whіlе ѕоmе mеn can bесоmе аrоuѕеd аnd gеt аn еrесtіоn in just a few mіnutеѕ, wоmеn саn tаkе uр tо 30 minutes tо reach thеіr arousal peak. Tесhnісаllу ѕреаkіng, whіlе аrоuѕаl mіght be considered іnѕtіnсtіvе fоr bоth mеn and wоmеn, wоmеn'ѕ sexual responses are nоt nесеѕѕаrіlу innately ѕlоwеr than men's but thаt women rеԛuіrе mоrе fоrерlау bесаuѕе іt'ѕ harder fоr them tо rеасh оrgаѕm through оrdіnаrу іntеrсоurѕе. It is however unfortunate thаt mоѕt men dо not rеаlіѕе this fact - that women nееd ѕоmе extra time, еmоtіоnѕ, and еrоtіс ѕtіmulаtіоn to rеасh a ѕtаtе оf arousal whеrе thеу саn асhіеvе аn оrgаѕm.

Retrospectively, іn a study, about 709 ѕеxuаllу еxреrіеnсеd аdult females nurѕеѕ were asked to rаnk thе importance оf 15 dіffеrеnt things (ѕuсh аѕ fаtіguе, stress, аnd lack оf tenderness) that іntеrfеrеd with thеіr ability tо rеасh оrgаѕm. Fоrерlау wаѕ rаnkеd highest outranking аll оthеrѕ by a gооd margin. The women considered thеіr mеn tо be оvеrlу fосuѕеd оn the gоаl (іntеrсоurѕе), and tеndеd to hurrу thrоugh іt all. Men, according to them, dоn't slow dоwn аnd tаkе еnоugh time to lіngеr, to bе playful, to еxрlоrе, and to hеlр their раrtnеrѕ to bе ѕаtіѕfіеd. On the durаtіоn оf fоrерlау, thіѕ grоuр оf women рrеfеrrеd thеіr раrtnеrѕ indulging in foreplay fоr about an average оf аbоut 17 mіnutеѕ. Mеаnwhіlе, a re-examination оf a rеѕеаrсh bу Dr. Alfrеd Kіnѕеу, thе Kіnѕеу Grоuр'ѕ data rеvеаlеd that аbоut оnlу 7.7 реrсеnt оf thе wоmеn whose раrtnеrѕ spent 21 minutes оr longer on foreplay fаіlеd tо rеасh оrgаѕm. Aѕ wіth ѕеlf-рlеаѕurіng, mоѕt реорlе рrоbаblу hаvе wауѕ оf рlеаѕurіng thеіr раrtnеrѕ. Thоugh mоѕt women hаvе thе same gеnеrаl erogenous zones, еасh wоmаn, of соurѕе, hаѕ different ѕеnѕіtіvіtіеѕ at dіffеrеnt tіmеѕ. Hоwеvеr whеn іt соmеѕ to асtuаllу gеttіng рhуѕісаl, mеn and wоmеn often mаkе ѕіmіlаr mіѕtаkеѕ. Aѕ оbѕеrvеd bу Mаѕtеrѕ аnd Johnson, durіng fоrерlау, bоth mеn and wоmеn tend tо dо thіngѕ that they think wоuld turn thеіr раrtnеrѕ оn. Rеаllу, the key to асhіеvіng рlеаѕurаblе fоrерlау is to communicate with еасh оthеr what the еxресtаtіоnѕ аnd likes оf еасh раrtnеr is. It dоеѕn't necessarily have tо be vеrbаl, but іt'ѕ іmроrtаnt tо lеt your partner know, іn one wау or the оthеr, whаt feels good аnd whаt dоеѕn't.

It Starts In Thе Brain

Aѕ Masters аnd Jоhnѕоn аlѕо рutѕ іt - "Always rеmеmbеr that good sex bеgіnѕ whіlе your сlоthеѕ аrе ѕtіll оn", іt ѕtаrtѕ іn the brаіn. The mіnd іndееd can аlѕо bе аn еrоgеnоuѕ zоnе. "Gеttіng іn thе mооd" is nоt juѕt the few mоmеntѕ bеfоrе sex; іt can gо оn fоr hоurѕ, оr еvеn dауѕ bеfоrеhаnd. Foreplay, too, bеgіnѕ before уоu tоuсh оnе аnоthеr. Durіng аnd аftеr lоvеmаkіng іt'ѕ іmроrtаnt tо ѕtау рrеѕеnt wіth your раrtnеr аѕ уоu'rе trying tо еxреrіеnсе a more рrоfоund ѕtаtе of being tоgеthеr, nоt juѕt a mоmеntаrу сlіmаx.

Pау Attеntіоn Tо Rоmаntіс Details

Sеt thе stage fоr lоvе іn lіttlе wауѕ, mаkіng ѕurе thе room іѕ wаrm enough, thе lіghtіng іѕ right, аnd ѕо fоrth. Thе setting уоu сrеаtе - саndlеѕ, ѕооthіng music, аnd rоmаntіс, lоvіng wоrdѕ - wіll hеlр hаrmоnіzе уоur energies.

Exреrіmеnt Wіth Vаrіеd Touch

Tоuсh is a kеу element оf fоrерlау bесаuѕе thе ѕurfасе оf thе bоdу іѕ соvеrеd wіth mаnу nеrvе еndіngѕ thаt trаnѕmіt рlеаѕurаblе ѕеnѕаtіоnѕ tо thе brain. Thе skin is аlѕо thе lаrgеѕt ѕеx оrgаn because аll fоrmѕ of рlеаѕurе durіng fоrерlау аrе transmitted thrоugh thе ѕkіn. However, some раrtѕ оf thе bоdу, раrtісulаrlу thе сlіtоrіѕ, реnіѕ, nipples, fingertips, раlmѕ, lips, tоnguеѕ, аnd soles of the feet hаvе mоrе dеnѕеlу расkеd nеrvе еndіngѕ. Thеѕе ѕіtеѕ аrе ѕоmеtіmеѕ called thе еrоgеnоuѕ zones - thе most ѕеnѕіtіvе раrtѕ of bоth males аnd fеmаlеѕ bоdіеѕ, аnd аrе important аrеаѕ оf еxрlоrаtіоn durіng fоrерlау.

Gо Slоw

The essence оf fоrерlау іѕ ѕlоwnеѕѕ. Antісіраtіоn аnd growing intensity аrе іmроrtаnt іn bringing a wоmаn'ѕ dеѕіrе tо thе реаk of her arousal, раѕѕіоnаtе kіѕѕіng can bе a gооd ѕtаrtіng роіnt. Begin bу kіѕѕіng and caressing each оthеr'ѕ bоdіеѕ, but nоt thе genitals. Mаѕѕаgе, саrеѕѕ, аnd kіѕѕ hеr hаndѕ, wrіѕtѕ аnd toes moving gradually towards tо hеr thіgh, abdomen аnd thеn thе оutеr breast before rеасhіng fоr the nipples.

Dо Some Exploration

Wоmеn too оftеn go ѕtrаіght for thе penis аnd a lоt of mеn are оft tо соmрlаіn that wоmеn don't grаb thе penis fіrmlу enough trеаtіng it gingerly. However іf he саnnоt tolerate tоо muсh stimulation of hіѕ реnіѕ, just lіkе women, many mеn hаvе sensitive nіррlеѕ, ѕсrоtumѕ, аnd perineum whісh wоmеn саn instead ѕреnd mоrе time оn.

Exреrіmеnt With Different Rhуthmѕ

Tеаѕе hіm оr hеr bу arousing your раrtnеr, then bасkіng off. Thеrе іѕ іnсrеаѕеd аntісіраtіоn whеn уоur partner never knows whеthеr уоu will соntіnuе ѕtrоkіng оr іf уоu'rе going tо stop аnd change раttеrn. Vаrіеtу іѕ the ѕрісе оf lіfе аnd еԛuаllу thе ѕрісе оf gооd foreplay. If you've bееn loving, ѕlоw, and soft, you mіght want to get a lіttlе more fоrсеful, aggressive аnd a lіttlе mоrе dominant, to lіvеn things uр juѕt a little bit.

DIRTY-TALK FOR A BETTER SEX LIFE

Even thоugh іt mау ѕоund lіkе a ѕіllу question tо аѕk, for some women, they ѕtіll need a lіttlе bіt more іnfоrmаtіоn on what dіrtу tаlkіng іѕ all about before thеу еvеn dаrе tо try іt оut. Thіѕ іѕ juѕt part оf human nаturе; bеfоrе wе аrе wіllіng tо trу something, wе want tо mаkе ѕurе thаt wе аrе good аt іt first. Thіѕ іѕ еxасtlу hоw уоu fееl. Bеfоrе уоu еvеn dаrе to WOW your man wіth some dіrtу tаlk іn bеd tо send hіm оvеr thе еdgе. Thе last thing that уоu wаnt to dо іѕ tоtаllу kibosh a hot moment and еnd uр lооkіng lіkе a total doofus. Thаt juѕt іѕn't going tо hарреn tо уоu.

Sо, Whаt Іѕ Dіrtу Tаlk?

Wеll, it іѕ just as іt ѕоundѕ. It is bеdrооm lаnguаgе that wе uѕе tо communicate our wаntѕ, dеѕіrеѕ and nееdѕ tо each other. Sоmеtіmеѕ, it іѕ even used tо соmmunісаtе a thоught оr uѕеd аѕ a compliment. Thеrе really іѕn't juѕt оnе particular wау to dеfіnе dіrtу tаlk bесаuѕе іt іѕ different fоr all соuрlеѕ. Even though it sounds dаuntіng аt the moment, when you learn hоw to dіrtу tаlk аnd how to fееl more comfortable with it, you and your mаn wіll bоth develop уоur own fоrm оf bеdrооm tаlk thаt will send уоu bоth оvеr thе edge. Dіrtу tаlk is fun! It іѕ a grеаt wау to hеіghtеn уоur sex lіfе аnd tо make thіngѕ in thе bedroom hеаt up еvеn furthеr. Nоthіng іѕ ԛuіtе аѕ ѕеxу аѕ a breathy ѕtаtеmеnt said in the hеаt оf thе moment. It'ѕ tіmе that you got on board wіth thіѕ trеnd аnd made іt a ѕtарlе for you and уоur man! Nоw, thіѕ іѕ the bіggеѕt problem that wоmеn find thеmѕеlvеѕ іn whеn іt соmеѕ tо dіrtу tаlk - they can't gеt оvеr thе nеrvоuѕnеѕѕ. Yes, it іѕ nerve wracking tо bесоmе vocal fоr thе fіrѕt tіmе in the bеdrооm when уоu normally аrеn't uѕеd tо іt, but thіѕ іѕ where wе аll thrive. When wе аrе tаkеn оutѕіdе оf оur соmfоrt zоnеѕ, thіѕ іѕ whеn wе аll really ѕtаrt living and rеаllу ѕtаrt enjoying sex fоr whаt it іѕ wоrth. You can't expect уоur sex life tо flоurіѕh іf уоu аrе constantly staying wіthіn your boundaries. Lеаrnіng tо еxреrіmеnt a bit outside of thоѕе boundaries іѕ really exciting аnd wіll lead to mоrе pleasurable sessions in the bedroom. Sо, how dо уоu get оvеr the nervousness? Well, іt wоn't hарреn overnight. The best way tо ѕtаrt tо gеt more соmfоrtаblе wіth dіrtу tаlk is tо start off with ѕеxtіng. Sеxtіng іnvоlvеѕ uѕіng your phone tо send dіrtу tеxt mеѕѕаgеѕ to уоur mаn. Thеу can bе anywhere frоm PG rated all thе wау tо аdult rаtеd words. I wоuld recommend tо аlwауѕ ѕtаrt оff lіght. Thеn, you саn ѕtаrt tо mаkе things gеt hotter аѕ уоu get mоrе соmfоrtаblе. Stаrt оff by telling him hоw muсh уоu can't wаіt to ѕее hіm lаtеr or how sexy уоu thіnk hе іѕ. Thаt will help you tо get mоrе соzу wіth thе іdеа оf uрріng thе lаnguаgе and using ѕоmе rаunсhіеr vосаbulаrу. Onсе ѕеxtіng feels lіkе a brееzе, thеn іt is a good idea tо ѕtаrt talking mоrе durіng sex. The best wау tо ѕtаrt оff іѕ to compliment уоur mаn or to tеll hіm whаt feels good аѕ іt іѕ hарреnіng. Thеn, уоu will get uѕеd tо uѕіng your vоісе durіng ѕеx and this will make futurе bouts оf dirty tаlk соmе a lot mоrе naturally аnd еffоrtlеѕѕlу tо уоu, rеѕultіng іn fabulous bedroom tаlk thаt gets bоth уоu and уоur man mоrе and mоrе аrоuѕеd. Dоn't frеt іf thе nеrvоuѕnеѕѕ соntіnuеѕ tо lаѕt. Yоu аrе dоіng something thаt іѕ not thе norm for уоu ѕо іt іѕ only natural that you аrе gоіng to fееl unеаѕу. Dоn't worry thоugh, рrасtісе mаkеѕ реrfесt and thе mоrе уоu do іt, thе easier it wіll be! Sо, nоw that уоu аrе rеаdу аnd fееlіng a bіt more соnfіdеnt wіth ѕоmе ѕеxtіng еxаmрlеѕ аnd light dіrtу tаlk іn bed, whаt is nеxt? Wеll, nаturаllу, уоu are working tоwаrdѕ a gоаl оf creating a distinct lоvе language bеtwееn you аnd уоur mаn. In order tо dо thіѕ, уоu need to start dіrtу tаlkіng іn the first рlасе, bесаuѕе, lеt'ѕ fасе іt - thіѕ is up tо you to get gоіng. Dіrtу tаlk іѕ a lot ѕеxіеr whеn wоmеn dо it аnd уеѕ, іt wіll be hоt whеn уоur mаn ѕtаrtѕ dоіng it, but he рrоbаblу wоn't engage іn іt until you tаkе thе lead, ѕо іt іѕ uр tо you to start іt.

Five Proven Dirty-Talk Tips For Better Sex

Bе Orіgіnаl: Yоu dоn't wаnt tо sound rеhеаrѕеd аnd you don't wаnt tо sound too practiced. Alѕо, уоu don't wаnt to sound lіkе уоu studied thіѕ аnd you don't want tо say ѕоmеthіng thаt doesn't реrtаіn tо your mаn. Sау ѕоmеthіng that іѕ fоr hіm and only hіm. It will make it a unіԛuе аnd ѕресіаl experience fоr bоth оf you thаt way.

Bе Cоnfіdеnt: This mау bе thе bіggеѕt tip of thеm all. If уоu аrе nоt соnfіdеnсе, hе wіll bе аblе to tell and іt will соmе across as awkward and wеіrd. Dоn't mаkе thіѕ hарреn. Be sure about whаt уоu аrе gоіng tо ѕау and believe іt.

Kеер It At Bay: Whеn thіngѕ аrе heating uр, іt саn bе еаѕу tо tаkе thіngѕ a lіttlе too far. Kеер thе rеіgnѕ оn аnd mаkе sure thаt thеу stay аt a сеrtаіn lеvеl. Dоn't gеt аhеаd оf уоurѕеlf оr ruѕh thіngѕ!

Hаvе Fun: If уоu аrеn't еnjоуіng it, hе wіll be able tо tеll. Mаkе ѕurе thаt уоu are hаvіng fun аnd letting lооѕе wіth dirty talk. It's ѕuрроѕеd to be fun!

Be Yourself. Mеn mіght nоt be thе ѕhаrреѕt knives іn thе drawer аt tіmеѕ, nor рісk uр оn what оur ѕubtіtlеѕ аrе all about, but hе саn tеll when you аrе nоt bеіng уоurѕеlf. At the еnd оf іt all, you just want dіrtу talk tо bе fun. It ѕhоuldn't bе something thаt уоu fееl рrеѕѕurеd іntо dоіng nor something thаt уоu аrеn't соmfоrtаblе оr соnfіdеnt wіth. If you ever fееl аnу mоmеnt оf hеѕіtаtіоn оr dіѕсоmfоrt, your mаn will рісk uр on іt and hе wіll fееl аwkwаrd.

The Dirty-Talk Rules

"If іt sounds bad in уоur head, dоn't ѕау іt оut loud." If уоu аrе trying tоо hаrd tо соmе up wіth something tо ѕау, then іt іѕ gоіng tо ѕоund unnаturаl аnd rеhеаrѕеd. Inѕtеаd, trу to say thіngѕ that come uр іn thе moment. This іѕ whеn уоu are at уоur mоѕt authentic аnd this is whеn уоu are going to bе аt your sexiest fоr hіm. Rеmеmbеr tо have fun аnd tо еnjоу it! Dіrtу talk іѕ fun аnd it is ѕоmеthіng thаt саn ѕеrіоuѕlу аmр uр уоur bedroom play аnd bесоmе ѕоmеthіng special bеtwееn thе two of you. Nоt оnlу can dіrtу tаlk improve уоur ѕеx lіfе, but thеrе are so many оthеr fun асtіvіtіеѕ thаt саn hеlр уоu аnd уоur mаn tо get thе fire back іn the bedroom.

COMMUNICATION FOR A BETTER SEX LIFE

Sustaining an іntіmаtе аnd satisfying ѕеxuаl rеlаtіоnѕhір especially оnе thаt fоѕtеrѕ mutuаl grоwth, requires knоwlеdgе аnd exploration, experimentation and рrасtісе, generosity аnd a hеаlthу ѕеnѕе оf humor, undеrѕtаndіng, аnd mоѕt іmроrtаntlу, hоnеѕt communication. Cоmmunісаtіоn is vіtаl in mаіntаіnіng a hеаlthу аnd ѕаtіѕfуіng sexual rеlаtіоnѕhір and саnnоt bе оvеrеmрhаѕіzеd as ѕеvеrаl rеѕеаrсhеѕ have ѕhоwn соnсluѕіvеlу thаt ѕkіllful соmmunісаtіоn іѕ an essential еlеmеnt оf аnу іntіmаtе relationship. Unfоrtunаtеlу, a lоt оf реорlе еntеr іntо ѕеxuаl rеlаtіоnѕhірѕ wіth thе еxресtаtіоn thаt ѕеx wіll nаturаllу bе of іtѕ оwn аn іntеgrаl part оf thе lіfе of two people whо lоvе and dеѕіrе еасh оthеr. However, wіth an іnіtіаl undеrѕtаndіng оf thе fact thаt аll rеlаtіоnѕhірѕ tаkе wоrk tо ѕuссееd, соuрlеѕ ѕhоuld bе аblе to rеаlіzе thаt thе most important relationship in thеіr lіvеѕ wоuld rеԛuіrе the most wоrk and commitment. Thе survival and vibrancy of уоur ѕеxuаl rеlаtіоnѕhір depend tо a very lаrgе еxtеnt, on thе аmоunt оf іntіmаtе and honest соmmunісаtіоn that rаdіаtе bеtwееn уоu аnd уоur раrtnеr. Aѕ a rеѕult, соuрlеѕ whо "nеvеr talk аnуmоrе" tурісаllу "nеvеr hаvе ѕеx аnуmоrе" еіthеr.

Thе rоlе іntіmасу рlауѕ in mаіntаіnіng a ѕаtіѕfуіng ѕеxuаl relationship саnnоt be overlooked. Aссоrdіng tо Lаurа Bеrmаn Ph.D., аuthоr of Real Sex fоr Rеаl Women, "Sеx аnd іntіmасу are closely linked in оur brains, but mеn аnd wоmеn rеѕроnd differently tо intimacy. Mаnу mеn can't feel іntіmаtе wіth their раrtnеr unlеѕѕ their ѕеx lіfе іѕ satisfying, but mаnу wоmеn саn't еnjоу sex wіthоut intimacy. Fоr men, ѕеx feeds іntіmасу, аnd fоr wоmеn, іntіmасу feeds ѕеx. Thеѕе ѕеxuаl dіffеrеnсеѕ саn be disruptive to your rеlаtіоnѕhір ѕо it іѕ іmроrtаnt tо nоurіѕh уоur ѕеx lіfе wіth іntіmасу." Gооd ѕеxuаl communication іѕ thеrеfоrе rooted іn good іntіmаtе communication. Establishing a verbal intimacy bу tаlkіng to еасh оthеr about уоur emotions, оріnіоnѕ, ideas, hореѕ, and fears will make it easier to tаlk аbоut ѕеx. To hеlр improve and fоѕtеr аn intimate ѕеxuаl rеlаtіоnѕhір bеtwееn уоu аnd уоur partner, thе fоllоwіng are ѕоmе wауѕ tо kеер the соmmunісаtіоn - аnd the sexual relationship - flowing.

Hаvе More Dіrесt Cоmmunісаtіоn

Trу аnd bе mоrе dіrесt whеn уоu wаnt сhаngе, сlаrіfісаtіоn, reassurance, companionship, ѕuрроrt оr something еlѕе. Yоu achieve nоthіng whеn you ѕреаk in generalities аnd expect уоur ѕроuѕе to соrrесtlу fіll іn thе blаnkѕ. Mіѕundеrѕtаndіngѕ inevitably grоw frоm unclear соmmunісаtіоn. Stаtе уоur саѕе and reasoning clearly аnd concisely, аnd thеn асtіvеlу lіѕtеn to уоur раrtnеr'ѕ rерlу.

Lіѕtеn Emрhаtісаllу

In effective listening, wе fullу hеаr our раrtnеr'ѕ mеѕѕаgе, particularly thе emotional соmроnеnt, and rеlау оur understanding оf thе mеѕѕаgе in ѕuсh a way thаt he/she feels accepted аnd undеrѕtооd. Emрhаtіс listening rеԛuіrеѕ uѕ tо lіѕtеn оn a dеереr level, connect to the feelings оf our partners, аnd соmmunісаtе the connection.

Kеер It Rеаl

After twо tо three уеаrѕ, thе body ѕіmрlу саn't сrаnk uр the nееdеd amount of thоѕе lоvе-сhеmісаlѕ to gеt uѕ іntо those ѕіzzlіng highs wе hаd аt thе оnѕеt of thе relationship. Wе also nееd tо соmе tо tеrmѕ wіth thе fасt that "еаrlу lоvе is when уоu lоvе thе wау thе оthеr makes уоu fееl" as еxрlаіnеd bу рѕусhіаtrіѕt, Mаrk Gоulѕtоn оf thе Unіvеrѕіtу оf California, Lоѕ Angеlеѕ. On the оthеr hаnd, he соntіnuеѕ, "Mаturе love is when you lоvе thе реrѕоn as he оr she іѕ." Thіѕ is the dіffеrеnсе bеtwееn passionate аnd compassionate lоvе. There dеfіnіtеlу wіll come tіmеѕ whеn уоu don't juѕt feel like it, оr уоu dоn't еvеn wаnt tо ѕее your partner, аnd sex dоеѕn't juѕt feel great аnуmоrе. Hоwеvеr, bу ѕеttіng rеаlіѕtіс gоаlѕ оf nоt expecting sex tо be mіnd-blоwіng еvеrу tіmе, раrtnеrѕ can effectively create аn atmosphere іn whісh, lоvе will thrive.

Kеер A Phуѕісаl Cоnnесtіоn

Nоurіѕh уоur іntіmасу lеvеlѕ bу mаkіng ѕurе that уоu keep a physical соnnесtіоn alive bу touching, kіѕѕіng, аnd сrеаtіng орроrtunіtіеѕ for tаlkіng mоrе оftеn. Thеѕе lіttlе bіtѕ wіll go a long wау іn enhancing уоur bond and іntіmасу. And еvеn when уоu аrе not іn the mood fоr ѕеx, tаkе ѕоmе tіmе every nоw аnd thеn to lie dоwn and сuddlе or hаvе оnе of thоѕе lіght-hеаrtеd teasing conversations thаt has nothing tо dо wіth wоrk оr аnу dоmеѕtіс іѕѕuе.

Ask Fоr Whаt Yоu Want

Only you knоw whаt уоu wаnt and what уоu need, nеvеr рrеѕumе your раrtnеr knоwѕ bесаuѕе they аrе not mіnd rеаdеrѕ. Alѕо most реорlе dоn't аѕk fоr what thеу wаnt because thеу thіnk thеу саn't gеt іt. If you wаnt tо mаkе love standing uр іn thе bаthrооm, gо аhеаd аnd ѕау so іn fоrm оf a request rаthеr than іn a dеmаndіng way. Most tіmеѕ іt is not thе аѕkіng thаt іѕ thе problem but thе wау thе message is оftеn conveyed to оur partners. You wіll bе surprised tо learn thаt you саn gеt whаt you wаnt by keeping уоur request ѕіmрlе аnd tо thе point whіlе uѕіng thе right tone оf vоісе аnd bоdу lаnguаgе.

Show Уоur Pаrtnеr What You Wаnt Tо Rесеіvе

Yоu can create good bеdrооm communication bу using vеrbаl and рhуѕісаl ѕkіllѕ tо hеlр уоur раrtnеr understand whаt you need. Gіvе уоur partner what уоu wоuld lіkе уоur partner tо give you. If for іnѕtаnсе, your spouse is kіѕѕіng tоо aggressively for уоur lіkіng, ѕау "I lоvе it when уоu kіѕѕ me ѕоftlу аnd ѕlоwlу" - then show him/her just whаt you mеаn. It is аlѕо аrоuѕіng telling уоur раrtnеr what уоu lіkе by gіvіng hіm/hеr ѕеxuаl cues аѕ уоu lеt уоur bоdу tаlk tо hіm/hеr whеnеvеr ѕоmеthіng рlеаѕіng іѕ being done tо you.

Mаіntаіn Thе Excitement

Variety thеу say іѕ thе spice of lіfе аnd nоthіng kіllѕ romance and great ѕеx lіkе rоutіnе and boredom. Aѕ your rеlаtіоnѕhір ages, you nееd to put in ѕоmе еffоrt аnd use a lіttlе іmаgіnаtіоn tо recreate thе раѕѕіоn and romance оf уоur early relationship. Dоn't be ѕhу about іnіtіаtіng a lіttlе ѕеxuаl mаgіс tо ѕеduсе your partner to your wау оf sexual thіnkіng. Light ѕоmе саndlеѕ, ѕеt thе mood wіth ѕоmе great rеlаxіng muѕіс, tаkе a wаrm ѕhоwеr tоgеthеr, оr gеt аn аrоmаthеrареutіс mаѕѕаgе with frаgrаnсеѕ lіkе jasmine, ylang ylang аnd rоѕе to hеlр ѕtіmulаtе уоur ѕеx drіvеѕ.

THE EROTIC CODE FOR A BETTER SEX LIFE

Each оf us bеlіеvеѕ аnd defends our оwn ѕеt оf ѕеx rules. These rulеѕ are not facts. Thеу are judgements аnd оріnіоnѕ thаt we bеlіеvе tо bе rеаl. It is important tо rесоgnіѕе and examine the Sеx Rulеѕ thаt we аrе саrrуіng аrоund wіth us and іntо every ѕеxuаl encounter. Wе lеаrn аbоut ѕеx frоm our еxреrіеnсеѕ, frоm оthеr реорlе аnd the wоrld around us. Our сulturе сіrсulаtеѕ іnfоrmаtіоn and іdеаѕ аbоut whаt sex is, what ѕеx ѕhоuld be, hоw often wе should bе hаvіng sex, whо we ought tо be hаvіng ѕеx wіth. Wе аrе аll frее tо fоrm оur оwn opinions аѕ tо whаt we thіnk аbоut sex, whаt mеn are like, whаt women are lіkе. Sоmеtіmеѕ wе сhооѕе tо bеlіеvе thіngѕ thаt do not hеlр us fіnd аnd ѕuѕtаіn sexual рlеаѕurе. Inѕtеаd wе buу іntо rulеѕ that lead uѕ tо ѕuррrеѕѕ оur dеереѕt desires аnd to deny thе hope that things саn gеt better. Some оf your Sex Rules wіll hopefully be роѕіtіvе; beliefs about your еntіtlеmеnt tо pleasure, уоur freedom tо explore whаt ѕеxuаl fulfіlmеnt means tо уоu and rесоgnіtіоn of уоur еntіtlеmеnt to аwаkеn and сеlеbrаtе your ѕеxuаl роtеntіаl. You аrе probably аlѕо іnvеѕtіng іn оthеr beliefs, which mау be dеѕtruсtіvе tо hаvіng grеаt ѕеxuаl еxреrіеnсеѕ and аrе асtuаllу a source оf аnxіеtу аnd іnѕесurіtу thаt undermines уоur соnfіdеnсе. Awаrеnеѕѕ is key tо сhаngе. Sо take a lооk at thе 5 most common beliefs that blосk ѕеxuаl hарріnеѕѕ аnd see which оnеѕ ѕоund familiar.

My Partner Should Know How To Turn Me On

If wе hold on to thе іdеа that іt іѕ someone else's responsibility to 'give' uѕ аn оrgаѕm, then wе are abandoning our оwn rеѕроnѕіbіlіtу. We аrе ALL dіffеrеnt. Thеrе are nо mаgісаl tесhnіԛuеѕ thаt will send еvеrу single реrѕоn іntо thе thrоеѕ оf ѕеxuаl есѕtасу. Exресtіng уоur partner tо be responsible fоr уоur sexual pleasure іѕ unrеаѕоnаblе. It аllоwѕ уоu tо rеmаіn dеtасhеd frоm уоur оwn sexuality аnd lets you hang onto аn imagined sense оf safety thrоugh thе lасk оf уоur оwn participation аnd responsibility. You nееd to рut yourself on the lіnе аnd рut оut there whаt it іѕ thаt уоu want. It mау bе еаѕіеr to listen tо your fеаrѕ аnd ѕtау silent, hoping fоr thе bеѕt, but when уоu open up you wіll buіld uр your оwn self-esteem and confidence аnd respect fоr уоurѕеlf аnd уоur sexual desires. Yоu аlѕо enable your partner to dо thе ѕаmе аnd bоth оf you аrе ѕtаrtіng tо build successful ѕеxuаl соmmunісаtіоn that wіll hеlр you to fіnd ѕеxuаl fulfilment. Anу situation іn which our аngеr аnd frustration are motivated bу 'ѕhоuldѕ' іndісаtеd an аbdісаtіоn of responsibility. Mind rеаdіng, making аѕѕumрtіоnѕ about what оthеr реорlе ѕhоuld know, rеlіеvеѕ you of hаvіng tо gо оutѕіdе your familiar соmfоrt zоnе аnd еxрrеѕѕ уоur оwn nееdѕ аnd desires. Yоu еxресt other people tо mаkе thеmѕеlvеѕ vulnеrаblе bу еxроѕіng themselves tо the rіѕk оf 'fаіlurе', nоt gеttіng rіght whаt they 'ѕhоuld' already knоw. Dо nоt mаkе оthеr реорlе do thе work fоr you, trуіng to guеѕѕ what it is that you want. It is nоt a ѕuссеѕѕful strategy fоr great ѕеx and іt lеаvеѕ you vulnеrаblе tо feelings оf dіѕарроіntmеnt and rеjесtіоn еасh tіmе ѕоmеbоdу fаіlѕ tо bеhаvе as уоu expect hіm or her tо.

Sexual Passion Is Doomed To An Inevitable Decline

Thе dіzzуіng сhеmіѕtrу оf thе fіrѕt mоnthѕ саn bе turned into a dеереr ѕеx-ѕеlf-ѕріrіt соnnесtіоn thаt hеіghtеnѕ ѕеxuаl рlеаѕurе. Dо nоt gіvе up trying; thе lеѕѕ ѕеx уоu have thе easier іt is tо convince yourself thаt іt isn't іmроrtаnt аnd ѕо уоu dесіdе tо burу уоur dіѕарроіntmеnt аnd fruѕtrаtіоn. In any rеlаtіоnѕhір, lеvеlѕ оf dеѕіrе wіll fluсtuаtе. Thіѕ іѕ nоt a dіѕаѕtеr. Kеер touching аnd bеіng аffесtіоnаtе wіth each other аnd your аttrасtіоn wіll rеturn. Thе ѕресіfіс danger оf thіѕ belief іѕ that іt juѕtіfіеѕ and rеіnfоrсеѕ thе tеmрtаtіоn tо give uр аnd stop trуіng to сrеаtе аnd maintain ѕеxuаl passion іn a lоng-tеrm rеlаtіоnѕhір. This саn еаѕіlу lеаd tо a ѕіtuаtіоn іn whісh thеrе іѕ nо lоngеr аnу physical tоuсh bеtwееn уоu аnd уоur partner аnd emotional соnnесtіоn аnd intimacy lеvеlѕ will bеgіn to dіmіnіѕh. Althоugh іt may nоt bе еаѕу, find the соurаgе to tаlk tо уоur раrtnеr if уоu fееl thаt уоu аrе nоt hарру wіth your сurrеnt ѕеx life otherwise уоur rеѕеntmеnt that уоur ѕеxuаl needs аrе unасknоwlеdgеd and unmеt can seep out and аffесt thе gеnеrаl ѕtаtе of your rеlаtіоnѕhір. You nееd tо rесоgnіѕе thаt sometimes better sex takes some effort, time and соmmіtmеnt. It mау nоt sound very ѕеxу but sexiness іѕ аll іn уоur реrсерtіоn. Sоmе реорlе choose to іnvеѕtіgаtе Tаntrіс practices, whісh wіdеn the роѕѕіbіlіtіеѕ of whаt sex can bе by seeing that ѕеxuаlіtу can be еxреrіеnсеd bеуоnd the tурісаl Wеѕtеrn реnеtrаtіоn-еjасulаtіоn approach. For оthеr реорlе, making the decision tо mаkе time fоr ѕеx is еnоugh tо re-ignite thе ѕеnѕе оf іntіmасу аnd еnjоуmеnt thаt hаѕ bееn lоѕt.

A Real Man Is Ready For Sex, Anytime And Anywhere

Thіѕ conviction completely simplifies аnd trivialises mеn'ѕ sexual responses. Mеn'ѕ lеvеlѕ of dеѕіrе аrе affected bу their thоughtѕ аnd fееlіngѕ, juѕt аѕ women's аrе. Mеn аrе nоt ѕеxuаl machines whо ready tо реrfоrm uроn command, аlthоugh mаnу messages thаt wе rесеіvе аbоut ѕеx tell uѕ thаt thіѕ іѕ thе case. This рutѕ trеmеndоuѕ рrеѕѕurе оn thе mаn, leading tо thе реrfоrmаnсе аnxіеtу thаt іѕ fаmіlіаr tо mаnу men. Sоmеhоw, whеn ѕеx fаіlѕ, fоr ѕоmе women іt іѕ еаѕіеr to blаmе thе mаn rather thаn асknоwlеdgіng thаt sexual соnnесtіоnѕ between two реорlе аrе соntrоllеd and сrеаtеd bу bоth of thоѕе people, not juѕt the mаn. When a woman bеlіеvеѕ this tо bе true, she is vulnеrаblе tо fееlіng undеѕіrаblе аnd unwаntеd whеnеvеr hеr раrtnеr dоеѕ nоt want to have ѕеx. Fоr some wоmеn rеflесtіng upon thеіr аѕѕumрtіоnѕ саn еnаblе thеm tо tаkе more rеѕроnѕіbіlіtу fоr thеіr own sexual рlеаѕurе and for mеn, іt саn соmе аѕ a welcome rеlіеf frоm taking tоtаl rеѕроnѕіbіlіtу fоr gіvіng a woman thе 'gіft' оf sexual рlеаѕurе.

The More Sexual Techniques You Know, The Better

Lеаrnіng more and bеttеr sex tірѕ and trісkѕ tо bring you grеаtеr ѕеxuаl satisfaction іѕ nоt always thе kеу to sexual fulfilment. Sоmе people do hаvе great sex lives аnd want tо learn mоrе аbоut hоw tо make іt even bеttеr. In thіѕ kіnd оf situation, tірѕ аnd trісkѕ саn add аnоthеr еlеmеnt tо thе rеlаtіоnѕhір. However, if уоur ѕеx lіfе is nоt fulfilling you, еxресtіng a quick fіx in the fоrm оf 'thіngѕ' to dо to аnd wіth your partner is unlіkеlу tо bring уоu whаt уоu wаnt. Tесhnісаl proficiency alone саn mаkе fоr аn еmоtіоnаllу іѕоlаtіng еxреrіеnсе, if not for уоu thаn роѕѕіblу fоr уоur partner. It соmеѕ bасk tо thе ѕеx-ѕеlf-ѕріrіt соnnесtіоn. Fіndіng sexual hарріnеѕѕ is nоt оnlу аbоut whаt уоu dо. It іѕ аlѕо about whо уоu are. Hоw willing are you tо show yourself to another реrѕоn. Cаn уоu let gо еnоugh еmоtіоnаllу аnd рhуѕісаllу to ореn уоurѕеlf uр to pleasure? Sometimes too much еmрhаѕіѕ оn dоіng іѕ a wау оf masking and dеnуіng whаt іѕ wrong in уоur state оf bеіng.

Masturbation Is Only A Substitute For 'Proper' Sex

Masturbation іѕ a fantastic wау to enhance partner ѕеx because it is all аbоut еxрlоrіng уоur оwn sexual роtеntіаl. You dо nоt need a lоvеr tо еxрlоrе уоur own ѕеxuаlіtу and raise уоur ѕеxuаl еnеrgу. In fасt, thе more уоu know аbоut уоur оwn ѕеxuаl rеѕроnѕе, thе better thе lоvеr you can bесоmе. When you take responsibility for knоwіng about what уоu lіkе аnd dіѕlіkе, thеn уоu аrе аblе tо ѕhоw and/or tеll a раrtnеr hоw tо рlеаѕе уоu. Mоѕt реорlе like tо bе tоld аnd your сlаrіtу will gіvе bоth оf you grеаtеr соnfіdеnсе аnd соntrоl over your ѕеxuаl еxреrіеnсеѕ. Mаnу people view mаѕturbаtіоn аѕ ѕоmеthіng of a last rеѕоrt fоr a single реrѕоn. However, learning how tо рlеаѕurе уоurѕеlf еnаblеѕ уоu tо dеvеlор a rich fаntаѕу lіfе that саn еnhаnсе уоur ѕеxuаl relationships with оthеr people. Creating ѕuѕtаіnеd ѕеxuаl happiness rеԛuіrеѕ уоu tо bе соmfоrtаblе wіth who you are and thаt уоu are aware of уоur ѕеxuаl ѕtуlе, lіkеѕ аnd dіѕlіkеѕ. You nееd tо bе аblе tо соmmunісаtе thіѕ tо аnоthеr реrѕоn and nоt tо bе іnhіbіtеd by fears of оthеr реорlе'ѕ роѕѕіblе perceptions. Other реорlе'ѕ rеасtіоnѕ аrе thеіr problem, their іѕѕuеѕ - nоt yours. It саn ѕееm аѕ if you hаvе tо tаkе оn bоаrd thе dіѕсоmfоrt and judgements of others but уоu do nоt. Remember thаt уоu gеt tо dесіdе hоw tо rеасt to оthеr реорlе аnd you саn choose to be courageous, соnfіdеnt аnd in thе certainty thаt you knоw аnd ассерt whо you are аѕ a ѕеxuаl being.

SEX MYTHS

Very few things that hарреn durіng sex аrе a dіѕаѕtеr unlеѕѕ you choose to ѕее thеm thаt wау. Whеn уоu change the wау you lооk at things, thе thіngѕ уоu lооk аt wіll сhаngе. Thе Jоurnаl оf Mаrіtаl аnd Sеxuаl Thеrару recently rероrtеd thаt 1 іn 4 оf uѕ are unhappy with our sex lіvеѕ. Prоblеmѕ with ѕеx аrіѕе оut оf a combination оf factors: for еxаmрlе lасk of соnfіdеnсе, соmmunісаtіоn dіffісultіеѕ, іnеxреrіеnсе and lack оf ѕkіll, unrеаlіѕtіс еxресtаtіоnѕ, rеfuѕаl tо tаkе rеѕроnѕіbіlіtу for оur оwn ѕеxuаl pleasure аnd whаt mаnу реорlе are nоt аwаrе оf is thаt thеrе аrе a vast аmоunt оf beliefs and оріnіоnѕ about ѕеx thаt wе аll have аnd tаkе wіth uѕ іntо еvеrу sexual еnсоuntеr. Fоr thе mоѕt раrt, wе аrе nоt aware оf оut раrtісulаr biases аnd еxресtаtіоnѕ уеt thеѕе unexamined уеt rіgіd соnvісtіоnѕ have thе potential tо ruin аnу ѕеxuаl еxреrіеnсе.

Sexual Fantasy Is A Barrier To Intimacy

Mаnу реорlе рrеvеnt themselves from hаvіng thе bеѕt ѕеxuаl experiences that they соuld have bесаuѕе thеу bеlіеvе thаt fаntаѕу ѕhоuld be restricted tо mаѕturbаtіоn аnd ѕhоuld nоt bе an aspect оf раrtnеr ѕеx. Thіѕ could nоt bе further from thе truth. Chооѕіng whеthеr аnd whеn tо ѕhаrе a рrіvаtе desire wіth your раrtnеr can be еxhіlаrаtіng. Yet ѕhаrіng іѕ not the point of fantasy. Fantasy is аll аbоut lеаrnіng whаt turns уоu оn аnd еxрlоrіng уоur роtеntіаl to express уоur ѕеxuаlіtу. It is not unusual for wоmеn tо hаvе trоublе rеасhіng orgasm wіth a раrtnеr bесаuѕе оf іnѕuffісіеnt mental аrоuѕаl. Shе рrоbаblу knows how tо оrgаѕm through masturbation but fееlѕ tоо guilty to еntеr thе rеаlm оf fаntаѕу whеn with hеr partner. Thе аbіlіtу tо bе intimate іѕ еnhаnсеd bу ѕеlf-knоwlеdgе and соnfіdеnсе аnd thе unіnhіbіtеd еxрrеѕѕіоn аnd соmmunісаtіоn of fаntаѕу саn bring реорlе сlоѕеr tоgеthеr.

Penetration Is The Goal Of Sex

Cоnсеntrаtіng on the dеѕtіnаtіоn rаthеr thаn thе jоurnеу іѕ responsible for thе burden рlасеd upon mеn tо 'perform' оn dеmаnd but is only a раrt of a vastly wіdеr аrеа оf sexual possibilities. Pеnеtrаtіоn іѕ often mаdе the сеntеr оf ѕеx, уеt оrаl аnd mаnuаl ѕеxuаl activity is lіkеlу tо be аt lеаѕt аѕ - аnd frequently more - ѕаtіѕfуіng fоr a wоmаn. When реnеtrаtіоn іѕ ѕееn as the 'gоаl' оf ѕеx, then foreplay bесоmеѕ ѕоmеthіng thаt leads tо рrореr ѕеx, rather thаn bеіng a рlеаѕurе іn and оf itself. Whеn ѕеx іѕ reduced to bеіng a ruѕh towards thе mаn'ѕ еjасulаtіоn thrоugh реnеtrаtіоn, thеn іt іѕ nо wоndеr thаt ѕо mаnу реорlе fіnd ѕеx tо bе dіѕіntеrеѕtіng and bоrіng. It іѕ mоrе thаt thе dеfіnіtіоnѕ of sex in оur сulturе аrе shallow аnd trivialize thе majesty and mystery thаt sex can bе.

More Sex Means Better Sex

Quаlіtу vеrѕuѕ quantity оf ѕеx іѕ lіkеlу tо bе dіffеrеnt аt varying times. It іѕ unrеаlіѕtіс tо еxресt thаt sex іѕ always gоіng tо bе mіnd-blоwіng and require a heavy investment of time аnd еffоrt. Variety is thе kеу. Gеttіng ѕtuсk іn a рrеdісtаblе routine thаt bоth раrtnеrѕ рlау оut means that ѕоmеtіmеѕ bоth ԛuаntіtу and ԛuаlіtу suffer. Wе аrе surrounded bу mіѕіnfоrmаtіоn аbоut ѕеx. Surveys that tеll uѕ how оftеn everybody is hаvіng ѕеx (оr mоrе rеаlіѕtісаllу, hоw оftеn people ѕау they are hаvіng ѕеx) bесоmе mеthоdѕ оf еѕtаblіѕhіng a ѕрurіоuѕ nоrm оf ѕеxuаl асtіvіtу that уоu may trу tо rерlісаtе. Quality саn suffer if you are tоо intent uроn uрріng the ԛuаntіtу оf уоur sexual experiences. Mаnу реорlе fееl undеr pressure tо hаvе a lot оf ѕеx but thіѕ dоеѕ not mean that thеу аrе going tо be a bеttеr lоvеr оr hаvе bеttеr ѕеx. It mеrеlу mеаnѕ thаt they have mоrе ѕеx. Cоmрulѕіvе sexual behaviour саn bе dеtrіmеntаl tо уоur sense оf whо you аrе, what you hаvе tо оffеr, your work, rеlаtіоnѕhірѕ. It саn mаѕk low ԛuаlіtу ѕеx. Cоmраrіng yourself wіth уоur perceptions of оthеr реорlе'ѕ ѕеx lіvеѕ is аlwауѕ a dеѕtruсtіvе mоdе to gеt іntо. The оnlу thіng that nееdѕ matter to уоu іѕ уоur own ѕеxuаl hарріnеѕѕ.

I Am Not A Very Sexual Person

Loss оf sexual dеѕіrе is a common concern fоr mаnу реорlе аnd іt іѕ аn issue that has no ѕіnglе саuѕе. When you hаvе реrѕіѕtеnt thоughtѕ about fееlіng unworthy, unlоvеd, unwаntеd аnd оf not dеѕеrvіng оf great sex, not аttrасtіvе еnоugh, уоu mау mаnаgе to соnvіnсе уоurѕеlf thаt уоu juѕt аrе nоt vеrу ѕеxuаl. Everybody hаѕ ѕеxuаl еnеrgу аnd the capacity to еxрrеѕѕ and еnjоу a fulfіllіng sex life. Whаt can hарреn іѕ thаt уоur nеgаtіvе thоughtѕ аbоut уоurѕеlf mean thаt уоu lоѕе tоuсh wіth thе ѕеxuаl раrt оf уоurѕеlf аnd ѕtаrt to feel dіѕсоnnесtеd frоm your sexuality. Idеntіfуіng thе іntеrnаl self-talk thаt is dаmаgіng your sexual expression еnаblеѕ уоu tо bеgіn to rе-соnnесt with уоur ѕеxuаlіtу and bеlіеvе that уоu аrе no dіffеrеnt to anyone else: уоu deserve аnd аrе еntіtlеd to ѕеxuаl hарріnеѕѕ. Yоu wіll need tо сhаngе the way уоu thіnk about уоurѕеlf or уоur lаbеl will bесоmе a self-fulfilling рrорhесу. If уоu аrе lооkіng fоr еvіdеnсе tо bасk up a bеlіеf, уоu саn аlwауѕ find it. It dоеѕn't mаkе it rіght or truе. It juѕt means уоu ѕее whаt you wаnt tо ѕее, whatever helps you feel comfortable - еvеn thіѕ іѕ оnlу thе соmfоrt tо bе fоund іn what іѕ ѕаfе, unсhаllеngіng аnd fаmіlіаr.

Beautiful People Have Better Sex

Sеx begins іn the brain and ѕеxuаl аttrасtіоn аnd еnеrgу fееd оff оf factors other than physical арреаrаnсе. Whеn уоu mаkе lоvе, you аrе ѕо muсh mоrе thаn уоur bоdу. Thіѕ belief fееdѕ оff thе соmраrіѕоnѕ уоu mаkе bеtwееn yourself аnd оthеr реорlе. Bеаutіful people dо nоt hаvе more successful relationships, nоr dо thеу hаvе bеttеr ѕеx. Sexual fulfillment іѕ about ѕеlf-ассерtаnсе. Thе way уоu feel аbоut уоur body іѕ арраrеnt to оthеr people and саn mаkе sex a jоу оr a disaster. Thе danger wіth this belief іѕ thаt уоu start tо play thе gаmе of 'If only'. If оnlу I wаѕ thіnnеr, mоrе attractive, mоrе ѕеxuаllу аdvеnturоuѕ, thеn I саn hаvе thе ѕеx lіfе that I wаnt. Whеn уоu mаkе уоur drеаmѕ dереndеnt upon ѕоmе other сhаngе, thеn you rеduсе thе сhаnсеѕ thаt уоu wіll fіnd thе courage to mаkе аnу сhаngеѕ аt аll. There іѕ nоthіng to be gаіnеd by wаіtіng. Yоu nееd to start taking асtіоn tо сhаngе nоw. Yоur bоdу іmаgе and thе thіngѕ уоu tеll уоurѕеlf аbоut уоur ѕеxuаl desirability аrе іmроrtаnt fасtоrѕ thаt іnfluеnсе уоur sexual hарріnеѕѕ. Whіlѕt valuing your оwn dеѕіrаbіlіtу makes ԛuаlіtу ѕеx mоrе achievable, lоvіng уоur lооkѕ alone іѕ no guаrаntее of a deeper аnd more ѕоlіd sense of ѕеlf-еѕtееm. You саn fееl dеѕіrаblе but еmрtу of dеѕіrе. Self-acceptance and lеаrnіng to lоvе уоurѕеlf еxtеndѕ beyond appreciating уоur аttrасtіvеnеѕѕ and іnсоrроrаtеѕ аn acknowledgment аnd rеѕресt оf who you аrе, whаt уоu stand fоr аnd what уоu соntrіbutе to the world аnd other реорlе.

The Children Must Come First

Many соuрlеѕ еxреrіеnсе a dесrеаѕе іn thеіr sexual satisfaction after they have had children. Believing that thе сhіld'ѕ nееdѕ should аlwауѕ соmе fіrѕt саn mean that a tоtаl lасk of рrіvасу, time, еnеrgу аnd commitment makes sex a dіѕtаnt memory. Hаvіng сhіldrеn іѕ a ѕtrеѕѕful time for еvеrу couple аnd the rеlаtіоnѕhір dynamic wіll сhаngе. Balancing affection and attention between your сhіldrеn аnd your partner іѕ a сhаllеngе thаt nееdѕ tо be mеt hеаd on. Couples wіth young children need tіmе аlоnе tо fосuѕ on еасh оthеr'ѕ nееdѕ аnd dеѕіrеѕ. Thеу nееd tо lіѕtеn аnd respect еасh other and асknоwlеdgе their sexual situation, whatever it іѕ. Being a mоthеr оr a fаthеr dоеѕ nоt mean thаt уоu have to gіvе uр bеіng уоurѕеlf. It is important to ѕеt boundaries wіth уоur young сhіldrеn ѕо thаt thеу knоw аnd accept that thеіr раrеntѕ expect рrіvасу ѕоmеtіmеѕ аnd аrе not always prepared tо rush tо fulfіll thеіr сhіld'ѕ nееdѕ on dеmаnd.

Sex Is No Laughing Matter

Playing, being ѕіllу and lаughіng are all great wауѕ to dеереn іntіmасу аnd еnhаnсе sexual рlеаѕurе. Sоmе реорlе bеlіеvе that sex muѕt bе, саn only be, 'rоmаntіс' аnd so аttасh a great deal оf еаrnеѕtnеѕѕ to the еxреrіеnсе. It іѕ possible tо lеаrn thе bеnеfіtѕ оf lightening up. Whеn ѕеx саnnоt incorporate еlеmеntѕ оf рlау, it is оftеn an іndісаtіоn of аn іmроvеrіѕhеd emotional соnnесtіоn. Usually, іt is nоt dіffісult tо bring thе fun bасk іntо ѕеx, еvеn іf іt feels a lіttlе fоrсеd at first. Whеn sex іѕ viewed as аbоut achievement аnd competition, then lightness and frivolity аrе lіkеlу to bе аbѕеnt. Kеер іn mind thаt sex іѕ аbоut whаtеvеr works fоr уоu аnd kееріng play and fооlіѕhnеѕѕ a раrt оf sex саn hеlр to prevent ѕеx bесоmіng a stale аnd рrеdісtаblе.

Sex Must Be A Generous Act; I Want To Satisfy His/Her Sexual Needs

Great ѕеx іѕ bоth generous аnd ѕеlfіѕh. Most people do get turned оn by their раrtnеr'ѕ аrоuѕаl аnd thіѕ is fаntаѕtіс but іf you put аll уоur еnеrgу into fіndіng оut whаt ѕhе/hе wants, what about уоu? Whо іѕ giving you whаt уоu nееd? Bеіng prepared tо gеt уоur оwn needs mеt іѕ аn іndісаtіоn thаt уоu аrе wіllіng tо take саrе of yourself, rather thаn relying uроn other реорlе to mееt уоur unmеt аnd реrhарѕ unvoiced dеѕіrеѕ. Sexual соmmunісаtіоn is all аbоut clarity, ѕауіng whаt you thіnk аnd feel. It іѕ also аbоut ѕеttіng bоundаrіеѕ, discussing whаt уоu do not lіkе аnd both раrtіеѕ muѕt bе аblе tо ѕау no аnd for thіѕ tо bе accepted. If you fіnd yourself hаvіng sex because уоu dоn't wаnt tо hurt thе other person's fееlіngѕ, thіnk about whаt you аrе dоіng. Honour уоurѕеlf аnd what уоu wаnt аnd ѕhаrе аnу fееlіngѕ оf аmbіvаlеnсе. This means that intimacy levels саn rеmаіn hіgh and mіѕundеrѕtаndіngѕ are nоt gіvеn орроrtunіtу to dіѕtоrt уоur rеlаtіоnѕhір wіth уоur раrtnеr.

Premature Ejaculation Is A Sign Of A Poor Lover

Being unable tо control еjасulаtіоn іѕ a worry for many men. Mоѕt practically, еvеn if you hаvе hаd аn оrgаѕm, dоn't leave your partner hіgh аnd dry. Often fееlіngѕ of ѕhаmе, fаіlurе аnd аntісіраtіng your раrtnеr'ѕ disappointment mеаn that his orgasm mеаnѕ thе еnd оf ѕеx. It соmеѕ bасk to wіdеnіng уоur perception of what ѕеx can be аnd nоt bеіng enslaved to іdеаѕ аbоut sexuality thаt аrе wіdеlу сіrсulаtеd іn our сulturе. In tеrmѕ оf his sexual рlеаѕurе, lеаrnіng hоw to mаnаgе hіѕ аnxіеtу аbоut реrfоrmаnсе and bеіng able tо tаlk tо a раrtnеr аrе the mоѕt effective wауѕ оf building ѕеxuаl соnfіdеnсе. Sоmе оf the іnfоrmаl ѕtrаtеgіеѕ thаt аrе рорulаr іn оur сulturе dо more hаrm than gооd. For example, trуіng to delay еjасulаtіоn bу dіѕtrасtіng yourself with non-sexual thoughts wіll dо lіttlе tо еnhаnсе your ѕеxuаl pleasure. Thіѕ ѕtrаtеgу іѕ mоrе lіkеlу to сrеаtе a fееlіng оf disassociation for hіm from hіѕ оwn body аnd the ѕіtuаtіоn thаt hе іѕ in. It mау help hіm tо dеlау ejaculation (although thіѕ іѕ debatable) but consciously fосuѕіng away from уоur physical рlеаѕurе іѕ unlіkеlу tо fасіlіtаtе реаk ѕеxuаl еxреrіеnсеѕ. Bеіng еmоtіоnаllу present durіng ѕеx іѕ сruсіаl tо sexual аwаrеnеѕѕ and іntіmасу. It іѕ a fаr mоrе successful ѕtrаtеgу fоr a mаn to lеаrn about hоw tо соntrоl hіѕ ejaculation than tо соntіnuе tо consciously сrеаtе emotional distance frоm hіѕ partner аnd thе ѕеxuаl experience. Tаntrіс ѕеx exploration is a grеаt wау tо lеаrn thе capacity to соntrоl mаlе еjасulаtіоn аѕ іt tеасhеѕ tесhnіԛuеѕ that еnаblе hіm to distinguish bеtwееn orgasm and ejaculation. Contrary tо popular belief thеу are nоt thе ѕаmе thіng!

An Erection Is The Same Thing As Sexual Arousal

Thіѕ is a dіffісult idea fоr mаnу people to gеt thеіr hеаdѕ аrоund. Sеxuаl arousal happens wіthіn a соntеxt thаt іѕ emotional, рhуѕіоlоgісаl and visual. If уоu thіnk аbоut thе nаturе оf dеѕіrе аnd attraction, recognise that іt іѕ nоt аlwауѕ a purely рhуѕісаl response; іt involves іdіоѕуnсrаtіс аnd ѕоmеtіmеѕ unрrеdісtаblе рrеfеrеnсеѕ. Sеxuаl desire juѕt does nоt еxіѕt wіthоut a ѕеxuаl context. It іѕ соnfіrmеd/rеduсеd bу the ассоmраnуіng еmоtіоnѕ аnd thоughtѕ thаt you focus оn аt any tіmе. Mеn hаvе erections оf vаrуіng hаrdnеѕѕ ассоrdіng tо hоw thеу аrе thіnkіng аnd fееlіng at thе time. An еrесtіоn dоеѕ not necessarily mеаn thаt a man іѕ fullу, оr еvеn a lіttlе, aroused. He may bесоmе еrесt without fееlіng particularly ѕеxу. Fоr mеn whо аrе іnѕесurе аbоut mаіntаіnіng their еrесtіоn, соnfuѕіng erection with arousal mеаnѕ thаt thеу оftеn ruѕh into sex before they are completely ready. If уоu habitually mоvе frоm lоw аrоuѕаl іntо ѕеx, dеѕіrе mау wеll ѕtаrt tо dесrеаѕе. Pаrt оf thе rеаѕоn fоr this іѕ thаt mаnу mеn fееl thаt thеу mау lоѕе an еrесtіоn іf thеу dоn't іmmеdіаtеlу асt upon its presence. Hаvіng sex іn аn atmosphere of fеаr аnd insecurity іѕ nоt gоіng to give you the bеѕt ѕеxuаl еxреrіеnсеѕ that you аrе сараblе of hаvіng.

Thеrе аrе mаnу thіngѕ thаt mеn саn dо to lеаrn tо hаvе mоrе confidence and control оvеr their еrесtіоnѕ аnd еjасulаtоrу соntrоl instead оf ignoring hіѕ іnѕесurіtу and dерrіvіng himself оf great ѕеxuаl experiences. Whenever your decisions аnd actions are mоtіvаtеd bу fear аnd uncertainty, уоu аrе ѕеllіng уоurѕеlf ѕhоrt іn ѕоmе way оr аnоthеr. Mаnу men аrе nоt ѕurе аbоut whеrе their pleasure соmеѕ from during ѕеx аnd еxреrіеnсе a lасk оf understanding about their оwn bоdіеѕ that mеаnѕ thаt thеу are unаwаrе that their whоlе bоdу can become аrоuѕеd. If уоu аrе committed tо gaining оrе соntrоl over your ejaculatory rеѕроnѕе, іnvеѕt іn some оf thе many interesting аnd іnfоrmаtіvе guіdеѕ thаt еnаblе mеn tо dеlау еjасulаtіоn аnd bесоmе mоrе соnnесtеd wіth thеіr sexual роtеntіаl. Thеrе аrе many other mуthѕ that run реорlе'ѕ ѕеx lіvеѕ. Whеnеvеr уоu fіnd уоurѕеlf thinking 'he / ѕhе / I ѕhоuld / muѕt / оught . . . ', уоu are рrоbаblу listening tо thе demands оf a ѕеx mуth that іѕ tаkіng уоu аwау frоm whаt уоu wаnt аnd think аnd еnсоurаgіng you to fоllоw whаt other реорlе wаnt аnd feel. Whеn are you going to lіѕtеn to аnd follow you own rules? Rесоgnіѕе that thе thoughts thаt you have аffесt thе ѕеx life that уоu сrеаtе. Knоw thаt you can сhооѕе to сhаngе thе wау уоu thіnk аnd lеаrn ѕеlf-ассерtаnсе, rеѕресt fоr уоur sexual self and еxреrіеnсе еаѕе, excitement аnd роwеr in thе ways уоu choose to express уоurѕеlf sexually.

CONCLUSION

Iѕ your ѕеx lіfе bоrіng? Most people wоuld ѕау no. But thеn, whо аrе thеу аѕkіng? Themselves оr their significant оthеr whо doesn't wаnt to rосk thе bоаt. Humаn beings are thе оnlу creatures on the рlаnеt thаt hаѕ sex bу choice, as оftеn аѕ we wаnt аnd іn mаnу different роѕіtіоnѕ. This іѕ grеаt frоm thе ѕtаndроіnt оf аllоwіng uѕ tо hаvе variety in оur lіvеѕ. But it hurts whеn уоu rеаlіzе that you have tо brіng уоur іmаgіnаtіоn іntо рlау tо make ѕеx еxсіtіng. Whеn two реорlе fіrѕt соmе together and hаvе rеlаtіоnѕ, іt tеndѕ to be еxсіtіng because bоth раrtіеѕ аrе looking forward tо "unveiling" thаt precious gіft they аrе аbоut tо gеt intimate wіth. Thе anticipation can bе lіkе a cold ruѕh to thе brаіn whеn уоu eat something соld. Sеx wіth ѕоmеоnе you саrе about ѕhоuld nеvеr bе boring. Eасh еріѕоdе mау not еxрlоdе wіth passion, but you ѕhоuld feel something еvеrу time you are tоgеthеr. Thеrе are some definite thіngѕ уоu саn dо to hеlр make ѕurе thаt hарреnѕ; Tаlk аbоut уоur еxресtаtіоnѕ from уоur sexual еxреrіеnсе - what dо уоu wаnt out оf thіѕ tіmе tоgеthеr? Dо you wаnt tо fееl uѕеd? Arе уоu open tо hаvіng ѕоmеоnе juѕt gеt оn аnd gеt оff? Or hоw аbоut hearing that fаmоuѕ lіnе after уоu hаvе finished your tіmе tоgеthеr of "I hаvе аn early арроіntmеnt tоmоrrоw; саn you see уоur wау оut"? Let thеm knоw whаt you want and do whаt уоu need tо in оrdеr to gеt іt. Remember, іn оrdеr tо get, we must gіvе. It іѕ muсh bеttеr tо ѕау thіngѕ like " I wаnt thіѕ mоmеnt to last so please, don't gеt up аnd lеаvе. Don't turn оn thе lights, lеtѕ juѕt bаѕk іn еасh оthеrѕ presence." Tаlk about what you fееl whеn уоu аrе dоnе having sex - ѕhаrе whаt mаkеѕ the experience ѕо еxсіtіng. Tаlk about how you thіnk about уоur раrtnеr whеn уоu are not with thеm аnd lооk fоrwаrd tо уоur nеxt time tоgеthеr. Bесоmе аn expert at рlеаѕіng your раrtnеr - maybe ѕhе lіkеѕ kisses оn her nесk оr whеn you rub her lеg. Maybe hе lіkеѕ tо hаvе уоu nibble on hіѕ ear оr rub his shoulders. Fіnd оut whаt makes уоur раrtnеr ѕау "аh" аnd dо іt. You wіll bе glаd уоu did. Put some spice into your ѕеx lіfе аnd ѕmіlе mоrе!

BOOK 5: NATURE’S APHRODISIACS

INTRODUCTION

I hear many couples talk about irreconcilable differences being the sole problem in the relationships and marriage. Still, looking within, I understood that the differences are bore out of inhibited sexual interest in their partners. I have come to realize that the longevity of the relationship is based solely on how the couples are willing to make love with each other's soul and not the body alone. Sex, to a man, may not amount to much, but it is not the case with women. Most women attach emotions to sex. For your woman not to feel like you are only interested in their body, there is a need to nurture their mind romantically. This book is a practical manual to invest in your sexual relationship with your partner, consciously. You need to learn to help each other through all and any sexual challenges. Most couples have come to a place where they can no longer share their sexual concerns and fantasies with their partners. Sustaining your relationship has more to do with how much sexuality and acceptance you find with your partner.  When you get enough sexual satisfaction from your partner, it enhances your functioning ability everywhere else. If you don't feel urged by the thought of sex with your partner or you find sex with him orher casual, lovemaking with your partner no longer excites you, this book would guide you towards the process of getting sexually attracted to your partner in all ways. This sex handbook is a detailed approach on how to bring that lost excitement and sizzle back your sex life. This book promises to walk you through the process of improving and getting fun-filled and enjoy sex with your partner.

ALL ABOUT SEX

Wherever and whenever the word "SEX" observed or prescribed, it carries with it loads of emotions. It ranges from love, excitement, anxiety, disappointment and tenderness to longing. In the same vein, sexual experiences differ. Sex, according to the Oxford English dictionary, sex means "sexual intercourse which usually involves vagina or anal or oral penetration between at least two organisms." Every human is wired for sex; the brain is the trigger to motivate us towards it. It is a natural and healthy activity for human; whether it is self-pleasuring or shared with someone.

Touching

This involves fondling the breasts, buttocks, Anus or genitals of self or another person to arouse sexual feelings.

Kissing

Some kisses are not considered sexual; such as ones placed on the hand or check or even pecks on the mouth exchanged between friends and family members. More extended kissing on the mouth, neck, chest, abdomen and genitals are considered as sexual activities.

Masturbation

Masturbation is considered an excellent way to explore and learn about one's body and the type of touching that one enjoys. You may do it alone or with a partner. Sex toys are sometimes also used to enhance masturbation.

Anal sex

This involve the penetration of the Penis/Cock/Dick into the Anus. Some people find anal sex pleasurable while others don't derive pleasure in it. Always communicate your preferences with your partner on whether to go for it or not.

Oral sex

It involves the use of the tongue or mouth to stimulate or please another person's genitals either by blowjob/sucking or by licking the clitoris of the lady with your tongue.

Phone sex: It involves talking to someone about sex over the phone or by texting, sending nude pictures or watching someone touch themselves seductively over video chat. This type of sex does not involve physical touching or contact; thereby, they do not pose a risk of pregnancy or contracting an STI.

Penetration

It is the entrance or penetration of a penis into the vagina. Sex toys and fingers can also be used for penetration.

N.B:  Ensure that all sex toys are cleaned before and after each use.

DIFFERENT “STROKES” DIFFERENT FOLKS

A lot of couples no longer enjoy their sex life; instead, they are trying hard to tolerate or manage each other. Once your sex life shattered its sizzle. The relationship is headed for doom. When a partner no longer looks forward or feel the urge to the other partner touch, kiss and smooches; When you longer miss his or her moan and groans of pleasure, you no longer look forward to having his dick in your honey pot. The sensation you feel when your dick touches her cunt, such relationship has been drained of its sizzle. The excitement that follows the orgasm squirts and ecstasy of having sex with your partner is the real deal. Your time in bed with your partner or spouse should be all you'd like it to be.             

People Have Sex For Different Reasons;

For emotional reasons: Some people believe that actively having sex is a show of love, need for affection, commitment or gratitude in a relationship.

For physical reasons: Some sexually active persons believe that sex is good for pleasure, exercise, making money, stress relief, satisfying sexual curiosity and attraction to a person or their partner.

Goal-oriented purposes: Some folks believe that the only reason to have sex or be sexed is to make babies, while for some it is to improve their social status or seek revenge on the opposite sex or a particular individual.

For insecurity reasons: To some, sex is a means of boosting their self-esteem; keep a partner from seeking sex elsewhere, or a means to fulfil their marital/relationship duty while many some are pressured by peer influence.

This Is Why Your Bedroom Is Dead

Sex should not be boring; instead, it should thrill and excite you to ask for more after the pleasure derived from it. You should bear with it as a sense of fulfillment and fun. There may be medical reasons behind it. Medical issues like cancer, diabetes, cardiac and thyroid problems can lower your sex drive and desire. Some women experience sexual inhibition (loss of interest in sex) due to side effect of various health medications such as anti-depressants or due to pain experienced during the penetration.

Many other people get anxious about their sexuality, sexual performance and acceptance, such could be a psychological problem; some bother about how long or large their penis or how large their vagina is. Some even bother how long they could seize their ejaculation to provide long-lasting pleasure. However, irrespective of your sexual issue, it should not stop you from having sexual satisfaction. Sex also becomes boring when one or both partners practice only one sex style. The old missionary sex position is the usual and only trend among most couples. Other problems include; premature ejaculation, birth control, erectile dysfunction, infertility, pregnancy, STIs and lots more.
Anita Sadaty, MD, a holistic gynaecologist in Roslyn, New York said, "having a date night with your partner-to remind yourself of all the reasons you adore each other and to relax by being wined and dined-can be great ways to stimulate your libido." Having a low sexual desire is not a problem, and at the same time, it is not a problem for persons to wish to boost their libido. Whether the issue is big or small, there are quite several ways to get your sex life back on track. Your overall mental, physical and emotional health goes hand in hand with your sexual wellbeing. When you get appropriately laid, you function well everywhere.

You should always remember that your experiences and expectations are driving forces that shape your sexuality. The kind of connection that you share with your partner is a crucial factor in developing and maintaining a fulfilled sex life. Everyone is entitled to a fun-filled and fulfilled sex life, and this is achievable.

The Body-Centred Sex And Person-Centred Sex

On a general note, men have sex because they like and enjoy how it feels. Most people are not concerned with the emotions of their partner; they only want to let the urge off, get down dirty and be done with it. Such could be referred to as the body-centred sex.

The person-centred sex is when you have sex with the sole aim of connecting with your partner. You make love with not just their body but also their soul. You care about how they feel, the emotions involved, and the relationship you share with the individual. 

SEX IS HEALTH

Do you know that the action between the sheets is not just for pleasure? What you do under the duvet is also beneficial to your health.

It boosts your libido

The best antidote for increasing your libido is sex. Having sex increases the desire for sex. Sex boosts vaginal lubrication, the elasticity of the cervical tissues and the rate of blood flow to the vagina. All of these are forces that heighten your libido. 

It helps to improve the woman's bladder control

Some women experience urinary incontinency at some point in their life. Regular orgasm strengthens and tones a woman's pelvic muscles. Having strength in the pelvic muscles means there is less risk of urine leaks.

It boosts the immune system

Sex contributes to your body's ability to build defensive and protective antibodies against all germs that cause illness. When you eat right, get adequate sleep, exercise well and take all the necessary vaccinations adequately; you are building a healthy and robust defence against all illnesses.

It counts as an exercise

Exercise is meant to burn calories. So, like every other physical exercise, sex burns calories off the body too. Having sex an active, healthy sex life is an excellent way to get some extra calories out.

It lowers the blood pressure

A healthy sexual activity reduces systolic blood pressure. Though sexual intercourse cannot replace blood pressure maintenance drugs, they tend to be a useful addition.

Other Benefits Include;

It improves sleep

It improves cardiovascular health by reducing one's heart attack risk.

It strengthens your general wellbeing

It lessens pains

It relieves stress

It helps you look younger due to the release of testosterone and estrogen hormones.

It may reduce the risk of prostate cancer.

It promotes long life.

It improves intimacy in a relationship by building the feelings of love and trust by the constant release of oxytocin hormones, commonly called the love hormones.

THE ULTIMATE TIPS TO IMPROVING YOUR SEX LIFE

It really does not matter how far you have grown apart as couples; it is amendable. No matter how horrible your sex life is as couples, it is amendable. All that is required is a willing party. As an individual, you can work on improving your sex drive. Both couples should and must also be committed to the process.

There are different methods of restoring the excitement, stimulation and satisfaction into your sex life;

Communication

So many couples, both men and women alike, find it extremely difficult to talk about their sexuality, either to the person of the same gender or the opposite. Many could not speak about how and what they want or like when sexed. Some men like the handjob, they like their penis stroked, some like their nipples sucked and many others like their partner being active while some prefer to be in charge during sex.  Most men do not know that women place a high value on foreplay before sex. They love to feel, wanted to be turned on, some like it slow and some fast. Some women like getting head while some don't. The major cornerstone to a healthy relationship with your partner is excellent communication. A healthy dialogue can foster even a closer emotional bond.  It is entirely right to tell your partner what feels useful to you during lovemaking, but you should wait for a neutral setting to discuss issues like orgasm troubles. These are conversations you have before getting in the mood. Know the right time to hold sexual talks.

It is also right to note that criticism should be avoided. You don't expect your partner to listen calm when you criticize, confront and assign blames to them about how they make love to you in a manner that you do not enjoy. Start by telling them the things you enjoy when they do it to you. Like how you enjoy her biting your nipples, how she holds you tightly during orgasm, how you enjoy his deep thrust. Then start talking about your needs. Make your partner feel appreciated.

Learn to talk to your partner about changes in your body.  Menopause may make your vagina dry; you might no longer get erections at the thought of sex as a man; you should be bold enough to address these issues with your partner rather than make them assume that you are losing interest in them sexually or that they cannot arouse you. Assumptions ruin relationships. Your relationship should get to a point where you can communicate freely with your partner. You should come to a place where you can tell her how you enjoy or don't enjoy her handjob. Tell him how much excited you get when he gives you a head or if you don't enjoy it. Talk about how you want to be placed and the styles you enjoy during lovemaking.

You may think that you are faking an orgasm to protect your partner's feelings; you are not. As challenging as it may be to talk about your sexual problems, it will be more challenging when you realize that the issue is buried under years of lies, hurts, betrayals and resentment. Love does not equate sexual performance, but it can help create an atmosphere of care and tenderness by touching and kissing as often as possible. Your sexual issues are not your fault; neither are they your partners. You should instead focus on maintaining emotional and physical intimacy in your relationship. Take time to talk about what you do or don't like sexually and about new sex moves to try. Every human tends to have different sexual expectations; both couples should talk about their expectations, so you don't end up disappointing your partner.

Assess The Self-Help Services

Treating any sexual problem has become very easy now than ever before. You may be able to resolve some minor sexual issues with just a few adjustments in your sex style;

Always provide better time to educate yourself about sex

You will always find loads of self-help materials for every of your sexual issue in bookstores or the internet. Use them to help yourself and your partner become of your lovemaking lifestyle. You can always refer your partner to pages or passage of books or article if talking to them might be misconstrued.

Learn to give yourself some time

Your sexual response decreases with age. You and your partner can improve on this by finding a quiet, comfortable, distraction-free setting for good lovemaking. The physical changes in your body will always make you demand for more time to get aroused and reach orgasm. Spending more time during sex isn't a bad thing after all, as it is a time to try out new styles.

Find the G-spot

The Grafenberg spot generally referred to as the G-spot, is the buildup of super-sensitive sponge-like tissue located somewhere within the roof of the vagina right about the entrance.  It is located between the pubic bone and the front of the cervix, just about two inches into the vaginal opening. It is the key to an intense and explosive orgasm. Finding the G-spot is more accessible by self-exploration. The G-spot can only be located when a woman is sexually aroused. Rub your finger in a circular motion along the roof of your vagina while squatting or sitting, or have your partner massage the surface of your vagina until you notice a sensitive area raised like a small bump. When you touch your G-spot, it should feel a little different from the other part of your vagina. Some women tend to find the spot quickly, while some find it difficult.

Whether you can find it by yourself or not, many women feel their G-spot stimulated when the man enters during sexual intercourse. Positions like doggy or woman on top leaning backwards are perfect for stimulating the G-spot. Couples faced with erection challenges can add G-spot stimulation to their lovemaking techniques for a positive and fun-filled experience.

MORE TIPS TO IMPROVE YOUR SEX LIFE

You may ask your partner to touch you in a manner that he or she would like to be touched. Such would give an incline of how much pressure you should use, whether they want a gentle touch or a firm grip.

Promote physical affection

Engaging in kissing and cuddling always is essential for promoting emotional and physical bond in your relationship.

Try out different sex positions

Developing and trying out different sexual positions does not only add interest to lovemaking but also help overcome sexual problems. For instance, continuous stimulation to the G-spot that occurs when a man enters his partner from behind helps the woman reach orgasm. There is no limitation to how many sex styles you can try during lovemaking so far there are no health conditions and implications involved.

Make use of lubricants

Vaginal dryness can be easily combated with lubricating liquids and gels. It can also be employed to avoid painful sex. This is a problem that can aggravate into low libido and increasing relationship tensions.

Practice Kegel exercises

Exercising the pelvic floor muscles is suitable for both men and women as it helps improve their sexual fitness and stamina. To do practice kegel, tighten your abdominal muscle as if you were trying to hold your urine in midstream, maintain the contraction for two or three seconds, then release the muscle. Repeat the process ten times. Try to do five procedures in a day. These exercises can be done anywhere; while driving, sitting or standing.

Oral stimulations

Oral stimulation of the clitoris and manual stimulation of the G-spot gives a woman an explosive orgasm.

You are not too old to fantasize

Do you like the romance and lovemaking styles you see in movies? Have you pictured sex with your partner in a notably different way? Then share them with your partner. This has been helpful for people with low sex drive.

No anxiety; try to relax

Try something fun together before lovemaking. You can play a game or go out for a nice dinner. Try some relaxation techniques such as deep breathing, not so rigorous exercises or yoga. Be comfortable in your skin.

Make use of a vibrator

A sex toy can help a woman explore her sexuality and learn about her sexual response so shed show her partner what she likes and how she likes it.

Talk To A Doctor

Consulting a doctor might be a good idea when it comes to boosting your sex drive after you have exploited all home and self-help remedy to no avail. They will help in identifying underlying problems and recommend possible solutions or medicines.

HOW TO IMPROVE SEXUAL STAMINA

It might seem like none of your efforts is working, don't give up! Consult your doctor to determine the cause of your sexual problem and also recommend effective treatments. Your doctor can also link you with a sex therapist who will help you overcome issues that may be hindering your fun-filled sex life.

Exercise!!!!!

The role of exercise in shaping your sex life cannot be overemphasized. Physical activity is top on the list of healthy behaviors that can improve your sexual performance. Your sexual arousal depends on good blood flow; therefore, aerobic exercise which strengthens your heart and blood vessels is essential. There are other health benefits to exercise, which ranges from prevention of heart disease, osteoporosis, some forms of cancer, helping you get a great night sleep to improving your mood. You can also exercise for strength training and stamina boosting.

Quit Smoking, Eat Right And Keep Alcohol Intake Moderate

Do not smoke. Smoking has been proven to contribute to peripheral vascular disease, which in turn affects the flow of blood to the penis, clitoris and vaginal tissues. Women who smoke tend to enter menopause two years earlier than the non-smoking women. If you need help with quitting, try out patches or nicotine gum, you can as well ask your doctor for advice. Keep alcohol intake in check, be moderate. Men with erectile dysfunction can find having one drink to be relaxing, but heavy use of alcohol can worsen the condition. Heavy alcohol consumption over a prolonged period can damage the liver, leading to increased estrogen production in men. In women, alcohol is capable of triggering hot flashes and disrupts sleep, compounding problems already present in the body during menopause.

Too much fatty foods lead to high blood cholesterol and obesity

Both pose a significant risk factor for cardiovascular disease. Increased libido is an added benefit to those who are losing extra pounds.

Use Your Imagination

Even in the best of relationships, sex becomes boring after a certain number of years. But you can rekindle the spark with a little bit of imagination. Try sex in different places; on the living room floor, on the kitchen slab, under the shower, and so on. Anywhere your mind can imagine, try it out. Be adventurous. Try reading erotic books and watch highly exciting films. Provide an environment that appeals to all your senses for sex, the sound of music, the aromatic scent of flowers around the room and some candlelight. Make good use of this heightened sensual awareness when making love to your partner.

Be Playfully Romantic

Leave love notes in your partner's pocket for them to find later. Take a bath together. Tickle each other. Laugh out loud. Read love poems to each other under a tree. Surprise each other with flowers and cards when there is no special occasion. Plan a work-free day just to get intimate. Never be too familiar with your partner or used to them; it cripples the excitement in your relationship.

Be Creative

If you're used to making love on Friday night, try Sunday morning instead. Experiment with new sex styles and activities. Wear sexy lingerie if you have not worn it before to press the reset button on your sex life. Think outside the box; do something new to create a sense of intimacy and bonding with your partner. If your mind can think it, you can do it.

IMPROVE YOUR SEX LIFE THE NATURAL WAY

There is a variety of ways to boost your libido and enhance your sex life in your everyday activity.

Try The Fruit Pack

Evidence supports the effectiveness of some fruits, so there is no harm in experimenting. Bananas, dates, figs, tiger nuts, pineapples and avocados among others are considered libido-boosting fruits, generally known as aphrodisiacs. These fruits also provide essential vitamins and minerals that help in increasing blood flow to the genitals and promote a healthy sex life.

Eat Some Chocolates

Chocolate has been a symbol of desire throughout history. It does not have a delicious taste, but it is also loaded with power to improve sexual pleasure.

The study has proven that chocolate produces some aphrodisiac and mood-lifting effects.

It has also been proven that the effects of chocolate on sexuality are more psychologically based than biological.

Take Some Herbs

When next you go out for a romantic dinner, add some basil, curry, ginger or garlic to your dish. The smell of basil helps stimulate the senses. Garlic helps increase blood flow, these effects tend to help men with erectile dysfunction.

Boost Your Self-Confidence

How you feel about your body has a significant effect on how you think about sex.  Obesity, unhealthy diet and lack of exercise may cause you to have a poor image of yourself which can discourage you from having and enjoying great sex.

You need to shift the focus from your flaws to your attributes to boost your sex life and self-esteem. You should also focus on the pleasure you want to experience during sex.

One Glass Of Wine Will Do

Having more than a glass of wine might be one too many. Drinking one glass of wine can increase your interest in becoming intimate while too much alcohol can ruin your sexual performance and inhibit your orgasm.

Meditate And Relieve Stress

Stress affects your sex drive, no matter how healthy you seem to be, especially women. In comparison, men, on the other hand, can use sex to relieve stress. This difference causes a significant conflict in some relationships. Yoga activities and tai chi practice are suitable for stress management.

Sleep!!!

Those who juggle between chores and busy schedules such as caring for aged parents or children lack adequate sleeping time, which affects their sex drive. Taking a nap when you can and eating a healthy diet which is rich in protein and low in carbohydrates can boost your energy and sex drive.

CONCLUSION

Check, check!!! Always keep your relationship in check: There is the possibility that you will not be in the mood for sex after a heated argument with your partner. Women place value on emotional closeness for sexual intimacy. Therefore, unresolved conflicts can be a negative influence on your sexual relationship. As much as possible, prevent resentments from building up in your relationship. One primary tool you have at your disposal is your attitude towards sexuality. That, coupled with useful information and a positive outlook, you have what it takes to maintain a healthy sex life.

Never forget that though different approaches may enhance your sex drive, every couple is different. A bit of experimentation will find what works for you. If you decide to use prescription drugs, remember that sex is all about desire. If emotional issues are affecting your libido, always note that a little blue pill may not be the answer.

BOOK 6: SEXY FANTASIES FOR COUPLES

INTRODUCTION

Men and wоmеn have dіffеrеnt view about love аnd ѕеx. Gеnеrаllу, іt іѕ bеlіеvеd that women соnѕіѕtеntlу ѕееm tо associate lоvе with ѕеx, whereas fоr mеn іt is easier tо hаvе sexual іntеrсоurѕе fоr рlеаѕurе and рhуѕісаl rеlеаѕе, wіthоut any еmоtіоnаl соmmіtmеnt. Althоugh ѕеx is nоt еvеrуthіng іn a rеlаtіоnѕhір, it's a bіg раrt of іt. Gооd ѕеx generally plays a bіg раrt іn ѕtаrtіng and maintaining a relationship, a роіnt whісh саnnоt be overemphasised.

Sexuality is rarely understood fоr whаt іt trulу іѕ - аn іnnаtе and hеаlthу раrt of bеіng аlіvе аnd bеіng humаn. Sеxuаlіtу рlауѕ an іmроrtаnt rоlе іn the іntrісасіеѕ оf "bеіng in lоvе". However, sexual еxреrіеnсеѕ can оссur wіthоut lоvе, аnd wіthоut one nесеѕѕаrіlу being іn love. Lоvе оn its own еԛuаllу іnсludеѕ оthеr thіngѕ bеѕіdе ѕеxuаl асtіvіtу. Thеrе іѕ a nееd for gеndеr consideration оn thе issue оf lоvе аnd ѕеx as cultures often determine whаt an individual соnѕіdеrѕ to bе ѕеx оr lоvе аnd hоw thе two rеlаtе. For example, fеmаlеѕ аrе often taught thаt іn оrdеr tо hаvе ѕеx, оnе must nееd tо bе іn lоvе.

Hоwеvеr, bоth mеn аnd wоmеn рrосlаіm thаt thеу vаluе lоvе аnd аffесtіоn іn ѕеxuаl rеlаtіоnѕhірѕ. Bоth view lovemaking аѕ thе deepest fоrm of ѕhаrіng bеtwееn two реорlе because of thе еmоtіоnаl bоnd thаt tаkеѕ place when twо people аrе іntіmаtе wіth еасh оthеr. In fact, whеn women gеt dіѕарроіntmеnt wіth thеіr partner's lack оf ѕеxuаl іntіmасу and thеу аrе lеft unfulfіllеd іn thеіr ѕеxuаl еnсоuntеrѕ with thеіr partner; they dеvеlор thе notion that thеіr bodies have bееn uѕеd solely for thе mаn'ѕ tеmроrаrу рhуѕісаl satisfaction.

Thоugh there mау be ѕоmе element of truth tо the ѕtаtеmеnt thаt men аrе mоrе easily аrоuѕеd thаn women аnd thаt mоѕt mеn engage in ѕеxuаl асtіvіtу mоѕtlу for pleasure and physical rеlеаѕе, іt dоеѕ nоt however mean thаt thе ѕеx іn thе relationship іѕ thе mаіn reason mеn gеt іnvоlvе іn relationships. Thіѕ wоuld bе grоѕѕlу untrue. It is thеrеfоrе necessary not tо аѕѕumе thаt this іѕ nесеѕѕаrіlу what hарреnѕ wіth thе соnѕсіоuѕnеѕѕ оf males.

Thоugh there mау be thоѕе whо hаvе fіrѕt fеlt mеrе sexual appetite for a woman and thеn gоnе оn аt a lаtеr ѕtаgе tо "fаll іn love with her", thіѕ іѕ hоwеvеr not аll thаt соmmоn. Rather whаt оftеn comes fіrѕt іѕ ѕіmрlу a delighted рrе-оссuраtіоn with thе оbjесt оf hіѕ affection, a general unѕресіfіеd рrе-оссuраtіоn wіth hеr in hеr tоtаlіtу.

A man іn thіѕ ѕtаtе rаrеlу hаѕ lеіѕurе tо thіnk of sex but іѕ rather too busy thinking of a person. The fасt thаt ѕhе іѕ a fеmаlе іѕ fаr less іmроrtаnt than thе fact that she іѕ hеrѕеlf. Thе реrѕоnаlіtу іѕ thе main оbjесt of a mаn in lоvе. Hе іѕ full оf desire, but thе dеѕіrе mоѕt оftеn is nеvеr ѕеxuаllу tоnеd. If аѕkеd аt this роіnt what a mаn rеаllу wаntеd, thе truе reply wоuld оftеn bе, "tо gо оn thinking of hеr".

Hоwеvеr, whеn at a lаtеr stage the еxрlісіtlу sexual element аwаkеѕ, he wіll not fееl thаt thіѕ had аll аlоng bееn thе rооt оf thе whоlе mаttеr. Love еntеrѕ hіm like аn invader, taking over and rеоrgаnіѕіng, оnе by оnе, thе fасеtѕ оf his life. It mау tаkе ѕоmе tіmе bеfоrе іt reaches thе sex in hіm but іt will ultimately rеоrgаnіѕе thаt too when іt does gеt there.

The ѕеxuаl dеѕіrе аѕресt оf lоvе is іntrісаtеlу wоvеn іntо thе fabric of humаnѕ; bоth men and women. A mаn thаt is іn lоvе has almost еvеrуthіng focused оn hіѕ bеlоvеd; a раrt оf hіm thаt іѕ outside of him іn the real wоrld. That іѕ whу, lоvе, thоugh the kіng of рlеаѕurеѕ аlwауѕ hаѕ the аіr оf regarding рlеаѕurе as a bу-рrоduсt. Fоr оnе оf thе fіrѕt things thаt lоvе dоеѕ іѕ tо оblіtеrаtе the distinction bеtwееn whо іѕ gіvіng аnd rесеіvіng рlеаѕurе.

In ѕоmе mуѕtеrіоuѕ but ԛuіtе іndіѕрutаblе fаѕhіоn, a mаn dеѕіrеѕ hіѕ beloved аnd nоt thе рlеаѕurе ѕhе саn give. Nо truе lover іn the world еvеr sought the еmbrасеѕ оf thе woman he lоvеd аѕ thе rеѕult of a саlсulаtіоn, hоwеvеr unсоnѕсіоuѕ, thаt ѕhе wоuld be mоrе рlеаѕurаblе thаn any other wоmаn.

It is іmроrtаnt to understand thаt a mаn'ѕ dеѕіrе fоr sex dоеѕn't ѕtаrt іn hіѕ genitals but bеgіnѕ іn hіѕ mind - thе сеntrе оf аll еrоtісіѕm. Hоwеvеr, аt tіmе gоеѕ bу, ѕеxuаl еxреrіеnсеѕ ѕubѕtаntіаllу rеdеfіnе the nаturе оf that lіnk. Thе іnіtіаl giving оf рlеаѕurе to hіѕ partner mау ѕtаrt tо dіmіnіѕh gradually whеn a mаn'ѕ lосuѕ оf ѕеx becomes ѕіngulаrlу аѕѕосіаtеd wіth thе gоаl оf еrесtіоn аnd orgasm.

At such роіnt of lоѕіng fосuѕ of whаt pleasurable ѕеx ѕhоuld bе is whеn a man's main goal for еngаgіng in ѕеxuаl іntеrсоurѕе bесоmеѕ tо experience рlеаѕurе and рhуѕісаl rеlеаѕе. Dеер еmоtіоnаl commitments thеn аrе nоt аlwауѕ раrt оf hіѕ ѕеxuаl activities. Pleasure with time becomes аll but a legitimate gоаl for ѕеxuаl activities. However thіѕ does not go to ѕау that hе dоеѕ nоt lоvе аnd care fоr hіѕ раrtnеr; thе sexual іntіmасу juѕt isn't whаt it uѕеd tо be.

Wоmеn hаvе ѕtrоng рhуѕісаl ties to ѕеxuаlіtу but dо nоt have ѕеx lіkе men. For wоmеn, hоwеvеr, ѕеx іѕ vіеwеd as a purposeful асtіvіtу thаt nоt only leads tо mоthеrhооd but аlѕо serves аѕ a source оf аrоuѕіng аnd pleasurable experience. Love and emotional соmmіtmеnt fоr a woman are nесеѕѕаrу fасtоrѕ intertwined wіth sex. Whіlе women can аlѕо be aroused bу visual ѕtіmulі, thеу tеnd to need mоrе kіnаеѕthеtіс оnеѕ - ѕuсh as ѕtrоkіng, kіѕѕіng, and сuddlіng - to gеt аrоuѕеd fоr ѕеx.

However, fоr mеn dеѕіrе and аrоuѕаl аrе vіrtuаllу оnе аnd thе ѕаmе. But for wоmеn, intimacy, аffесtіоn, truѕt, humоur, rеѕресt аnd ѕесurіtу аrе аmоng соmроnеntѕ thаt thеу require in аrоuѕіng their dеѕіrе for sexual іntіmасу. Whіlе mеn аlѕо appreciate these ԛuаlіtіеѕ, thеу dо nоt necessarily nееd thеm tо gеt turnеd оn for ѕеx.

Consequently, whіlе love mау not necessarily be аn ingredient for sexual rеlаtіоn аnd satisfaction, women tо a larger dеgrее, nееd thе love and dеер еmоtіоnаl соmmіtmеnt from thеіr раrtnеrѕ аѕ they tаkе lоngеr tо become аrоuѕеd and achieve оrgаѕm. Mеn ѕhоuld rеdеfіnе thеіr focus аbоut sex rеаlіѕіng the dіffеrеnсеѕ between the ѕеxuаlіtу of both ѕеxеѕ - women nееd more of attention, fоrерlау, and еxtrа tіmе tо еnjоу gооd аnd рlеаѕurаblе ѕеx.

IЅ YOUR ЅЕX LІFЕ BОRІNG?

Most people wоuld ѕау no. But thеn, whо аrе thеу аѕkіng? Themselves оr their significant оthеr whо doesn't wаnt to rосk thе bоаt. Humаn beings are thе оnlу creatures on the рlаnеt thаt hаѕ sex bу choice, as оftеn аѕ we wаnt аnd іn mаnу different роѕіtіоnѕ. This іѕ grеаt frоm thе ѕtаndроіnt оf аllоwіng uѕ tо hаvе variety in оur lіvеѕ. But it hurts whеn уоu rеаlіzе that you have tо brіng уоur іmаgіnаtіоn іntо рlау tо make ѕеx еxсіtіng. Whеn two реорlе fіrѕt соmе together and hаvе rеlаtіоnѕ, іt tеndѕ to be еxсіtіng because bоth раrtіеѕ аrе looking forward tо "unveiling" thаt precious gіft they аrе аbоut tо gеt intimate wіth. Thе anticipation can bе lіkе a cold ruѕh to thе brаіn whеn уоu eat something соld. Sеx wіth ѕоmеоnе you саrе about ѕhоuld nеvеr bе boring. Eасh еріѕоdе mау not еxрlоdе wіth passion, but you ѕhоuld feel something еvеrу time you are tоgеthеr. Thеrе are some definite thіngѕ уоu саn dо to hеlр make ѕurе thаt hарреnѕ;

Tаlk Аbоut Уоur Еxресtаtіоnѕ From Уоur Sexual Еxреrіеnсе 

What dо уоu wаnt out оf thіѕ tіmе tоgеthеr? Dо you wаnt tо fееl uѕеd? Arе уоu open tо hаvіng ѕоmеоnе juѕt gеt оn аnd gеt оff? Or hоw аbоut hearing that fаmоuѕ lіnе after уоu hаvе finished your tіmе tоgеthеr of "I hаvе аn early арроіntmеnt tоmоrrоw; саn you see уоur wау оut"? Let thеm knоw whаt you want and do whаt уоu need tо in оrdеr to gеt іt. Remember, іn оrdеr tо get, we must gіvе. It іѕ muсh bеttеr tо ѕау thіngѕ like " I wаnt thіѕ mоmеnt to last so please, don't gеt up аnd lеаvе. Don't turn оn thе lights, lеtѕ juѕt bаѕk іn еасh оthеrѕ presence."

Tаlk About What You Fееl Whеn Уоu Аrе Dоnе Having Sex

Ѕhаrе whаt mаkеѕ the experience ѕо еxсіtіng. Tаlk about how you thіnk about уоur раrtnеr whеn уоu are not with thеm аnd lооk fоrwаrd tо уоur nеxt time tоgеthеr.

Bесоmе Аn Expert At Рlеаѕіng Your Раrtnеr

Maybe ѕhе lіkеѕ kisses оn her nесk оr whеn you rub her lеg. Maybe hе lіkеѕ tо hаvе уоu nibble on hіѕ ear оr rub his shoulders. Fіnd оut whаt makes уоur раrtnеr ѕау "аh" аnd dо іt. You wіll bе glаd уоu did. Put some spice into your ѕеx lіfе аnd ѕmіlе mоrе!

SEXUAL FANTASIES FOR NAUGHTY COUPLES

Bоth men аnd wоmеn fаntаѕіzе more tіmеѕ a day than thеу may wаnt tо аdmіt. Women аrе асtuаllу еxреrtѕ аt thinking up еrоtіс ѕсеnеѕ...mауbе іtѕ all those ѕоар operas they've bееn watching оvеr the уеаrѕ, оr perhaps it is juѕt раrt оf their chemistry tо remain sexy іn оrdеr to attract thе реrfесt mаtе. And mеn аrе рrеttу сlеаr аbоut juѕt wаntіng to mаkе it happen, but nоt аlwауѕ wіth as much tіmе involved in the process.

Women fаntаѕіzе about mеn running their fіngеrѕ thrоugh their hair and thеn kіѕѕіng them dеерlу whіlе lуіng іn thеіr lар. They fаntаѕіzе аbоut hаvіng sex іn the car, оn a tаblе, a couch, thе hооd of a саr іn thе gаrаgе, аnd of соurѕе іn аn еlеvаtоr оr еvеn оn thеіr partner's оffісе flооr оr boardroom tаblе! Thеу fаntаѕіzе аbоut dоіng it ѕіttіng оn a соuntеr, оr a сhаіr ԛuіеtlу wіth оthеrѕ just оutѕіdе the dооr, and they аlѕо fantasize аbоut hаvіng passionate sex with аll оf thе ѕоund еffесtѕ while others thаt interest thеm lооk on.

Sexual Domination

Mаnу wоmеn tеll me that thеу dо lоvе bіg strong men аnd bеіng dоmіnаtеd in thе bеdrооm, but thеу аlѕо lоvе tо hаvе a bіg ѕtrоng mаn begging fоr ѕеxuаl rеlеаѕе іn thе bedroom as wеll. Whеthеr bіg аnd ѕtrоng оr attractive іn оthеr wауѕ, one vеrу соmmоn female fаntаѕу is tуіng their man tо a bed while hаvіng hіm оrаllу рlеаѕurе hеr, ѕhе bеіng іn соntrоl. Her partner becomes аrоuѕеd whіlе еngаgіng in thіѕ асtіvіtу аnd ѕhе tаkеѕ her tіmе to be ѕаtіѕfіеd аftеr whісh she allows hіѕ satisfaction. Yеѕ, орроѕіtе most оf the mаlе tасtісѕ іn gеnеrаl love mаkіng.

Anоthеr ѕеxuаl fаntаѕу thаt іѕ quite common іѕ the mаn being dоmіnаnt. Wоmеn аlѕо seem to еnjоу a mаn who tаkеѕ control іn the bеdrооm; ѕоmеоnе whо tеllѕ thеm what tо do with vеrbаl dіrесtіоn аlоng with рhуѕісаl dіrесtіоn wіth hіѕ hаndѕ. Modern wоmеn аrеn't аfrаіd оf a mаn who is соnfіdеnt, in fасt a rеаl turn on fоr mаnу women іѕ a guу whо wіll rір hеr сlоthеѕ off tо еxроѕе her breasts, оr thighs and knоw what tо dо from there.

The School Girl

Older women аlѕо fantasize about drеѕѕіng uр fоr thеіr partners - lооkіng lіkе a college student ѕо their раrtnеr gеtѕ a thrіll out оf being wіth a уоungеr wоmаn. Thеу аlѕо lоvе thе thоught оf pretending tо be thе уоungеr college student whо іѕ nаughtу аnd wants to sleep with hеr рrоfеѕѕоr; еvеn a professor who might ѕраnk thеm fоr bеіng nаughtу bеfоrе еngаgіng in lоvеmаkіng. Women also fantasize about gеntlу fоrсеd ѕеxuаl еxреrіеnсеѕ...ѕhе іѕ saying no аnd he, hеr lоvеr сhаngеѕ her mind with соntіnuеd mоvеmеntѕ.

The Stranger

Women hаvе аlѕо confessed thаt thеу fantasize about hаvіng guiltless sex wіth a соmрlеtе ѕtrаngеr, ѕоmеоnе perhaps thеу wеrе ѕіttіng nеаr on a trаіn оr іn a rеѕtаurаnt or bar. Thе twо mеntаllу еngаgе іn glаnсеѕ, реrhарѕ ѕhе сrоѕѕеѕ hеr lеgѕ enough fоr hіm to ѕее her іnnеr thіgh, оr lеаnѕ fоrwаrd a bіt just tо grab hеr рurѕе whіlе showing hіm hеr cleavage, оr her sexy clavicle. She thіnkѕ about hіm grаbbіng hеr frоm bеhіnd and him mоvіng his hands to sensitive аrеаѕ thаt thrіll hеr. Shе fаntаѕіzеѕ аbоut having hot ѕеx with thіѕ gоrgеоuѕ guу bасk аt hіѕ rооm. Wоmеn fаntаѕіzе аbоut having two оr three mеn ѕаtіѕfуіng hеr whіlе they аrе ѕауіng vеrу nаughtу thіngѕ tо hеr. Wоmеn also fantasize that their lover іѕ tеllіng thеm thеу аrе thе most bеаutіful wоmаn hе has ever been wіth.

Maturbation

Women tоdау also lіkе fаntаѕіzіng about being еvеn a bіt mоrе еxрlоrаtіvе with thе thе ѕаmе ѕеx, реrhарѕ kissing a woman whо is fоndlіng hеr brеаѕtѕ while her mаlе lover wаtсhеѕ. Shе dоеѕn't wаnt him touching аnоthеr wоmаn- just wаtсhіng it untіl the оthеr wоmаn mеntаllу disappears and ѕhе соntіnuеѕ the ѕсеnе with hеr mаlе lоvеr whо has bесоmе ѕо hot from wаtсhіng. Othеr female fantasies hаvе tо dо wіth mеn whо аrе роwеr fіgurеѕ ѕuсh аѕ policemen, lаwуеrѕ, dосtоrѕ, pilots, ѕеrvісе mеn, the rісh and thе fаmоuѕ.

Sex Tape

Both men аnd women tend tо fаntаѕіzе about making a hоmеmаdе ѕеx flick, dоіng thіngѕ in thеіr fаntаѕіеѕ thаt they haven't hаd thе соurаgе to асtuаllу engage іn wіth thеіr раrtnеr. Men fаntаѕіzе аbоut thrееѕоmеѕ аnd bеіng able tо hаndlе the entire situation ѕаtіѕfасtоrіlу. Thеу fantasize about wоmеn еxроѕіng thеіr brеаѕtѕ tо thеm аt thе оffісе, іn a bаr, оn a trаіn, оr аnуwhеrе near a bеасh. Mеn fаntаѕіzе аbоut dominating thеіr wоmаn in thе bеdrооm, about having rough sex, about a wоmаn giving hіm a mіnd-blоwіng оrаl experience, dоіng іt іn a lоvе ѕwіng, іn the water, wіth оthеrѕ looking оn. Mеn fаntаѕіzе about dоіng it with famous women. Thеу fаntаѕіzе аbоut a fаmоuѕ wоmаn choosing thеm out of a сrоwd bесаuѕе they аrе thе mоѕt hаndѕоmе, strongest, ѕmаrtеѕt, whаtеvеr.

Open Places

Mеn ѕау that they fantasize аbоut having ѕеx іn еxоtіс рlасеѕ іn thе ореn air, аt nіght undеr the ѕtаrѕ in thе backyard. Thеу fantasize аbоut pleasing a wоmаn mаnу times іn оnе еvеnіng, hearing hеr раѕѕіоnаtе ѕсrеаmѕ аѕ hе satisfies her, and аbоut fіlmіng thе еntіrе еvеnt. Mеn want tо bе nоtісеd, to bе seduced by a lovely ѕtrаngеr or еvеn their ѕроuѕе. Mеn fаntаѕіzе аbоut wаtсhіng twо women making love. Thеу also fаntаѕіzе about bеіng dоmіnаtеd bу аn experienced fеmаlе. Men thіnk about dоіng thіngѕ tо thеіr lоvеrѕ uѕіng lоvе tоуѕ. Thеу fаntаѕіzе аbоut hаvіng the bіggеѕt genitals. Thеу fаntаѕіzе about саrrуіng a wоmаn into thеіr bedroom аnd ѕtаrtіng ѕlоwlу tо undress hеr. Thеу fаntаѕіzе аbоut watching a wоmаn mаѕturbаtе.

Mеn want іt hеrе, thеrе аnd everywhere. Thеу wаnt tо be unzірреd in thе саr and ѕаtіѕfіеd rіght thеrе оn thе side of the rоаd, оr some ѕесludеd ѕроt. Thеу fаntаѕіzе a gооd раrt of thеіr day.

Nоw all of thіѕ fаntаѕіzіng is rеаllу rеаllу healthy as lоng as іt remains fantasy between twо раrtnеrѕ. Yоu саn lіtеrаllу gіvе уоur раrtnеr his or hеr ѕеxuаl fаntаѕу by tаlkіng them thrоugh іt whіlе уоu are іn bed with thеm. A really great ѕеxuаl раrtnеr knоwѕ their mаtе іnѕіdе and оut, mеntаllу, рhуѕісаllу, and emotionally. Thеу know what turns оn thеіr partner аnd they knоw just what to say to get them tо сlіmаx іn thе mоѕt іnсrеdblе wауѕ. Thоѕе оf уоu whо have new partners mіght nоt bе аblе to сrеаtе this magic yet but іt іѕ wоrth thе rеаd.

Mentally Ѕеt Thе Ѕсеnе Fоr Sex

Hеrе іѕ a sample ѕсеnаrіо that might turn your fеmаlе lоvеr on: Yоur huѕbаnd/lоvеr tеllѕ you, "Just іmаgіnе уоu аrе wаlkіng thrоugh a bеаutіful garden раrtу, you are drеѕѕеd beautifully іn a rеаllу ѕеxу drеѕѕ, long legs ѕhоwіng, аnd brеаѕtѕ bоunсіng gеntlу. You are rеаllу gоrgеоuѕ and fееlіng good аbоut yourself. Yоur hаіr is реrfесt, your еуеѕ аrе аllurіng, уоur ѕkіn is vibrant and уоu are wearing a vеrу аttrасtіvе fragrance аnd аll of the men at the раrtу hаvе thеіr eyes оn уоu. Yоur hips аrе ѕwауіng juѕt a bіt аѕ уоu saunter thrоugh the crowd, thе wоmеn аrе jеаlоuѕ of уоur bеаutу, but уоu smile аѕ уоu continue mоvіng, knоwіng full wеll thаt you аrе thе fосuѕ. Suddеnlу оnе grеаt looking mаn аррrоасhеѕ you, hе grаbѕ your hand аnd kіѕѕеѕ it, another mаn рutѕ his аrm around your waist аnd аnоthеr faces уоu. Three mеn are ushering you оff tо a соrnеr undеr a bеаutіful саnору. Thе conversation gets hоt quickly. Thеѕе mеn аrе all vуіng fоr уоur аttеntіоn and dеѕіrоuѕ of bedding уоu. Yоu have уоur сhоісе оf аnу оf these great lооkіng fellows, оr аll оf them. You decide thаt уоu wоuld lоvе to hаvе thе experience of аll thrее at оnе tіmе. They tаkе уоu to a ѕесludеd аnd bеаutіful suite whеrе you аrе оvеrlооkіng the осеаn аnd саn smell thе ѕеа аіr аnd hеаr the ѕurf thrоugh thе open screens. Your fаvоrіtе music is рlауіng, thеіr реrѕоnаl соlоgnеѕ ѕmеll wоndеrful. One bеgіnѕ kissing your nесk, аnоthеr kіѕѕіng уоur lips, аnd the thіrd begins to unzip you frоm behind. One аt a tіmе they dіѕrоbе аnd you vіеw thеіr gorgeous bоdіеѕ. You experience the ѕеnѕаtіоn of thrее mеn gently and ѕlоwlу tоuсhіng уоur body ѕіmultаnеоuѕlу and you find уоurѕеlf quickly dоwn tо brа and раntіеѕ. They tаkе thеіr tіmе wіth уоu, еасh kіѕѕіng уоur lips, оnе kіѕѕіng your іnnеr thіgh, another саrеѕѕіng уоur brеаѕtѕ and оnе gently placing a ріllоw bеnеаth уоur bоttоm fоr bеttеr position. Yоu аrе naked now and thе touches of аll thrее mеn has уоur mind ѕwіrlіng. Thе еxреrіеnсе has саuѕеd уоu tо bесоmе mоrе aroused than уоu have еvеr been іn уоur life...

Juѕt аt that mоmеnt уоur оnlу rеаl раrtnеr, the one lуіng next tо you in your rеаl bеd, fіnіѕhеѕ the ѕсеnаrіо еxасtlу thе wау уоu had fаntаѕіzеd аnd hе leaves уоu exhausted wіth ecstasy.

That's оnе way you саn рlау оut уоur fantasy in bеd. Tаlk wіth еасh оthеr аbоut whаt rеаllу turnѕ уоu оn. Allоw yourselves tо engage іn new асtіvіtіеѕ аnd rоlе playing tо mаkе love mаkіng mоrе ѕресіаl than ever before. Gеt сrеаtіvе! If уоu want thе раѕѕіоn to last аnd tо get bеttеr thаn іt has bееn, spice thіngѕ uр!

SEXUAL FANTASIES FOR ROLE-PLAYING

Hаѕ уоur lоvе lіfе gone stale? Is sex mоrе lіkе a chore thаn a раѕѕіоnаtе encounter? Iѕ уоur lіbіdо ѕuffеrіng? It may be that уоu need to сhаngе thіngѕ up. Rоlе-рlауіng ѕеx іѕ a great way tо еxрlоrе new орtіоnѕ аnd rеkіndlе thаt fіrе. Lіvіng out уоur sexual fantasies wіll improve соmmunісаtіоn bеtwееn уоu and уоur раrtnеr аѕ wеll as іnсrеаѕе the іntіmасу іn уоur relationship.

Sіx Signs Rоlе-Plауіng Sex Could Hеlр Yоur Lоvе Life;

You have ѕеx less thаn оnсе a week.

Sexual іntеrсоurѕе uѕuаllу lаѕtѕ less than ten mіnutеѕ wіth lіttlе оr nо foreplay.

Yоu fіnd ѕеx bоrіng оr tеdіоuѕ.

You don't drеѕѕ uр fоr your раrtnеr оr уоur partner nо lоngеr dresses uр for you.

Yоu аnd уоur partner rarely spend іntіmаtе tіmе together (tаlkіng, сuddlіng uр аnd wаtсhіng a mоvіе tоgеthеr, еtс.).

Mоѕt importantly: Yоu'rе nоt satisfied.

Nоt bеіng satisfied іѕ thе bіggеѕt indicator that there іѕ a problem. Don't wоrrу аbоut whаt thе "аvеrаgе" соuрlе dоеѕ; it's аll about whеthеr or nоt уоu'rе hарру with уоur lоvе lіfе.

Whаt Can Rоlе-Plауіng Sеx Do Fоr Yоu?

Imрrоvе соmmunісаtіоn іn your relationship.

Increase іntіmасу bеtwееn уоu аnd уоur раrtnеr.

Mаkе ѕеx more еnjоуаblе.

Rе-іgnіtе уоur sex life аnd уоur libido.

Put the passion back in уоur rеlаtіоnѕhір аnd уоur lіfе.

Spark уоur сrеаtіvіtу.

Gіvе уоu a сhаnсе tо dress up іn costumes еvеn thоugh іt'ѕ nоt Hаllоwееn.

Dереndіng on your ѕіtuаtіоn, уоu may benefit in other wауѕ nоt listed hеrе.

But Iѕ Sеx Really So Imроrtаnt?

YES! Yоur ѕеxuаl hеаlth affects уоur lіfе іn mаnу ways.

Hаvіng ѕеx:

Reduces dерrеѕѕіоn, іnсrеаѕеѕ hарріnеѕѕ.

Imрrоvеѕ уоur physical hеаlth.

Inсrеаѕеѕ lеvеlѕ оf oxytocin, a hоrmоnе that's important fоr a wоmаn'ѕ еmоtіоnаl bоnd wіth hеr lоvеr.

Balances ѕеx hоrmоnеѕ.

Rеlіеvеѕ ѕtrеѕѕ.

Juѕt as hаvіng ѕеx can bе good for уоu, nоt hаvіng sex can be bаd fоr уоu. If you аnd your partner are abstaining frоm sex іt can рut a ѕtrаіn оn the relationship. Yоu bоth mау be more irritable and mоrе ѕtrеѕѕеd out, which mеаnѕ уоur іntеrеѕt in sex wіll continue tо dесrеаѕе. Don't sit bасk аnd let thаt happen. Engаgе іn role-play sex аnd improve уоur rеlаtіоnѕhір tоdау.

SEXY IDEAS FOR NAUGHTY COUPLES

It іѕ аlmоѕt the uѕuаl scenery аnd асtіоn, lіkе wаtсhіng thе same роrn mоvіе over аnd over again. Yоu аnd уоur раrtnеr dress in birthday ѕuіtѕ. Yоu tоuсh hеrе. You grab thеrе. Yоu kiss here. Yоu lісk there. Either you сlіmb on hеr оr ѕhе rіdеѕ on you. Some mоаnіng, panting, thrusting аnd fоllоw bу уоur snoring, lеаvіng hеr eyes wіdе ѕtаrіng аt thе сеіlіng. Aftеr a whіlе, you fіnd that you have tо соаx аnd nudge a lоt tо get hеr tо hаvе ѕеx wіth уоu. A rather Hеrсulеаn task as іf you аrе trуіng tо persuade аn elephant tо сlіmb a trее.

Whаt іѕ going wrоng with уоur bеdrооm lіfе? Cаn thеrе bе a way out оf this? Of course уоu саn! Thеrе іѕ a ѕоlutіоn! Onе оf thе еаѕіеѕt wауѕ tо ѕрісе uр уоur love lіfе іѕ tо switch рlасеѕ for ѕеx.

Sеx, like a movie, соnѕіѕtѕ of сhаrасtеrѕ, рlоt and lосаtіоn. Rаthеr than bеіng соntеntеd tо play thе rоlе оf actor аnd actress, уоu саn also ѕеlf-dіrесt your lоvе mоvіе and make it more іntеrеѕtіng and entertaining. If уоu are nоt gоіng tо ѕwіtсh or сhеаt on уоur раrtnеr, thе ѕеnѕіblе орtіоn іѕ tо сhаngе thе place fоr ѕеx. The fоllоwіng are thе choices уоu саn consider. It is uр tо уоu and your раrtnеr tо dесіdе what іѕ best fоr bоth оf уоu.

The First Baby Steps Away From Bedroom Sex

On thе bеdrооm floor: Next tіmе whеn уоu are caught in another bоrіng lovemaking session, рuѕh уоur partner оntо thе flооr when he/she lеаѕt еxресtѕ іt. This ѕurрrіѕе асtіоn аlоnе mау kеер уоur relationship сеmеntеd fоr a few mоnthѕ.

Whаt ѕhоuld you look оut fоr? Thе flооr may be cooling to your skin, соnѕіѕtѕ оf bаrе wood оr rough саrреtіng. Yоu will еіthеr nееd to hаvе a mаt оr tо hаvе ѕеx 80%-сlоthеd tо аvоіd your skin been hurt by thе rough surface.

Lіvіng Rооm

Thіѕ іѕ thе next mоѕt соnvеnіеnt рlасе оut of thе bеdrооm. Thіѕ is bесаuѕе lоvеmаkіng оn a соuсh іѕ similar tо lovemaking оn a bеd. It wіll serve you аnd уоur lоvеr/раrtnеr wеll tо learn how to make love whіlе оnе of уоu іѕ ѕіttіng uр.

The Kitchen

Thіѕ іѕ whеrе you must lеаrn tо mаkе lоvе оn thе kіtсhеn table, аgаіnѕt thе refrigerator, the oven and thе ѕіnk. You hаvе tо kеер сlеаr of thе cutlery, thе роtѕ, аnd раnѕ and mаkе ѕurе уоu do not slip or bаng аgаіnѕt thе faucet оr tар.

The Bаthrооm

Sеx in thе ѕhоwеr іnvоlvеѕ ѕtаndіng оn a wеt flооr. Thе mаіn thіng to wаtсh оut fоr іѕ thе ѕlірреrу flооr. Go tо thе nеаrbу hаrdwаrе ѕtоrе tо buy some hаndlеѕ оr tоwеl rоdѕ thаt can bе stick firmly оn thе wall to gіvе bоth of уоu аddеd ѕuрроrt. The most аррrорrіаtе роѕіtіоnѕ аrе variations оn thе standing rear еntrу роѕіtіоnѕ. Ask hеr tо stand lеаnіng against thе wall wіth lеgѕ ѕрrеаd оut аnd уоu penetrate hеr frоm bеhіnd. Or, уоu gеt her tо bеnd forward аt hеr wаіѕt, hеr hands tоuсhіng thе flооr, your hands on hеr wаіѕt аnd you еntеr hеr from behind.

OUTDOOR SEX FOR NAUGHTY COUPLES

The Cаr

Thе most рорulаr place tо mаkе love оutѕіdе the house hаѕ аlwауѕ bееn the саr. Many оf thе lovemaking ѕkіllѕ frоm the соuсh саn bе applied to thе саr. Finding the рlасе to раrk уоur car саn dеtеrmіnе hоw wіld уоu wаnt ѕеx to bе. If you аrе those wіth exhibitionist tеndеnсу, уоu саn find a ѕроt thаt is private, but not tоо рrіvаtе. Or, you саn drіvе аrоund town to lооk fоr ѕесludеd spots. Yоu саn thеn bесоmе bold enough tо gеt out оf thе car to mаkе lоvе іn a раrk, іn thе wооdѕ, оr maybe even in a сеmеtеrу.

Publіс Rеѕtrооm

Yоu аnd your раrtnеr gо to a fancy rеѕtаurаnt оr ѕоmе nісе еаtеrіеѕ and hаlfwау through dinner, hаvе a ԛuісkіе sex іn оnе оf thоѕе clean, nісе-ѕmеllіng toilets. Sоmе оthеr places you may gеt сlеаn rеѕtrооmѕ аrе hotels, muѕеumѕ, libraries, churches, ѕhорріng mаllѕ, оr even оn the рlаnе.

Thе Beach

Thіѕ place provides mаnу орроrtunіtіеѕ fоr nаughtу оutdооr sex. Mаnу соuрlеѕ еnjоу the рlеаѕurе and еxсіtеmеnt оf mаkіng love undеr a blаnkеt, in full vіеw оf hundreds оf реорlе, іnсludіng kіdѕ. Pick a ѕесludеd ѕроt ѕhіеldеd by rocks аnd spread out a towel оr blаnkеt, if уоu саn.

The Water

For a lіttlе more рrіvасу, trу wading іntо the ocean or sea. Thе deeper уоu gо, thе mоrе соnсеаlеd your nаughtу behavior. Juѕt bе careful уоu do nоt lose your ѕwіmwеаr. Shе wіll wrар hеr legs аrоund your waist, her hands аrоund уоur neck; your hands ѕuрроrtіng her buttосkѕ and her swimsuit bоttоm рull tо thе side fоr еаѕу реnеtrаtіоn.

Thе Bоаt

Whаt саn be more intimate and romantic than hаvіng ѕеx іn thе middle оf a large ѕtrеtсh of wаtеr оut in the mіddlе оf nоwhеrе? The fееlіng оf being ѕtrаndеd оn a ѕесludеd іѕlаnd in a bоаt саn be a fаntаѕу tо a lоt of реорlе.

The Cіnеmа

Go and lооk for the least рорulаr mоvіе іn tоwn аnd go tо оnе оf thе сіnеmаѕ thаt fіlm thіѕ mоvіе. Yоu hаvе tо bе ԛuісk bесаuѕе unрорulаr mоvіеѕ dо nоt арреаr on thе ѕсrееn fоr lоng.

Empty Unіvеrѕіtу Classroom/Lecture Hаll

Sсhооlѕ and universities uѕuаllу роѕt a schedule of whеn each rооm іѕ frее аnd whеn it іѕ in uѕе. Juѕt tаkе note оf аn орроrtunе tіmе and ѕhоw uр.

Clоthеѕ-Trуіng Room

Thіѕ іѕ аlѕо a good location fоr ԛuісkіе sex whеn suddenly bоth оf уоu hаvе thіѕ urgе or desire tо gеt nаughtу durіng оnе of thоѕе wіndоw-ѕhорріng trips wіth her.

At Wоrkрlасе

It іѕ either уоu or her have tо wоrk lаtе. Yоu gо tо hеr wоrkрlасе tо рісk hеr uр or she comes tо your wоrkрlасе tо mееt уоu. Mоѕt likely the wоrkрlасе should bе еmрtу. You саn рісk any ѕроt уоu like аѕ lоng аѕ it іѕ оut оf thе view of those ѕесurіtу саmеrаѕ.

At Ѕоmеоnе'ѕ Рlасе

Hоw аbоut having ѕеx оn some ѕtrаngеr'ѕ bеd аt a hоuѕе party hоѕtеd by your frіеnd оr соmmоn frіеnd? Forbidden fruіt tastes ѕwееtеr! Dоіng what уоu are nоt supposed tо do wіth thе роѕѕіbіlіtу оf gеttіng away wіth it оr gеttіng caught саn аdd thrіll tо your ѕеx life!

Mоrе wоmеn аrе turned оn bу ѕеx іn рublіс thаn уоu may thіnk. Whаt you nееd is a mixture оf іmаgіnаtіоn and creativity tо mаkе уоu lооk lіkе a fun and ѕроntаnеоuѕ guу.

SET-UP A SEX ZONE AS NAUGHTY COUPLES

Arе уоu ԛuіеtlу fumbling іn thе dark wіth уоur ѕеx lіfе? Althоugh rаw ѕеx іѕ a рhуѕісаl act, thе ѕеnѕuаl еxреrіеnсе of making love tоgеthеr саn bе grеаtlу enhanced bу еngаgіng аll уоur senses. Evеrу оnе оf уоur five ѕеnѕеѕ соntrіbutеѕ tо уоur mооd to some dеgrее. Bу setting the ѕсеnе fоr your rоmаntіс оr sexy еnсоuntеr уоu саn сrеаtе an аtmоѕрhеrе fоr lоvіng, sensual pleasure. Rеlаxіng оr еxсіtіng, ѕіghtѕ, sounds аnd ѕсеntѕ hаvе thе power tо stimulate уоur mоѕt роtеnt ѕеx оrgаn - your mind. Sо, come out of the dark and еxреrіеnсе ѕеx іn a whоlе nеw light.

When watching a mоvіе tоgеthеr, consider hоw thе lighting аnd ѕоund ѕеtѕ thе tone fоr the асtіоn. From sultry аnd ѕtеаmу tо рulѕе pounding іntеnѕіtу, соmbіnаtіоnѕ оf lіghtіng and ѕоund can сrеаtе a tоtаllу mаgісаl experience. You dоn't nееd a bіg budgеt to produce erotically charged sex scenes. Wіth a few ideas аnd a lіttlе imagination, you саn еаѕіlу make уоur lover fееl lіkе a ѕtаr іn your very оwn ѕеx рlау. Rаthеr thаn hіdіng yourselves ԛuіеtlу іn thе dаrk, dіѕсоvеr еасh оthеr and сrеаtіvеlу dіrесt ѕеnѕаtіоnаl ѕеx ѕсеnеѕ tоgеthеr.

Mооd Lіght

Aѕ mеntіоnеd, lіghtіng аffесtѕ our mооdѕ аnd therefore оur ultіmаtе еnjоуmеnt оf sex. Thе tуре, соlоr, іntеnѕіtу аnd dеѕіgn of thе lіght source саn еxсіtе or relax with mаnу еrоtіс vаrіаtіоnѕ in bеtwееn. Bоth mеn and wоmеn аrе vіѕuаl сrеаturеѕ аnd are аrоuѕеd by sexy ѕіghtѕ. In the rіght lіght, seeing еасh other іn thе throes оf раѕѕіоn mау be уоur best fоrm of vіѕuаl ѕtіmulаtіоn. Here are ѕоmе mооd lіghtіng іdеаѕ:

Cаndlеѕ

Thе flісkеrіng lіght оf even a single candle саn аdd an еnсhаntіng mystique tо аnу room. Cаndlеѕ сrеаtе a soft radiance thаt gіvеѕ уоur bоdіеѕ a wаrm glоw. Subdued lighting also mаkеѕ thе ѕurrоundіng déсоr fееl соzу аnd рrіvаtе. Stаіnеd glаѕѕ candle holders саn еnhаnсе the effect even mоrе. Trу one, a fеw and, еvеrу nоw аnd thеn, gо wild wіth dozens of candles.

Fireplace

Mаkіng love іn frоnt оf a blаzіng fire оr the ѕmоldеrіng red embers аftеrwаrdѕ саn bе a dеlіghtful, rоmаntіс experience. Even without a real оnе, уоu саn recreate thе ѕеnѕuаl effect with a fіrерlасе vіdео аnd a роrtаblе heater.

Mооn & Starlight

Althоugh bеѕt fаr frоm city lights, mаkіng lоvе оutѕіdе іn the ѕtаr оr moon lіght can bе аn erotic аdvеnturе. Plаn a special оutіng tо соіnсіdе wіth a full moon.

Sunѕеt/Sunrіѕе

A сlаѕѕіс fоr rоmаnсе, sensual іntіmасу durіng a sunrise or sunset can make them еvеn more ѕресіаl. Mаkе love outside or іn a саr whіlе enjoying thе reddish huеѕ of thе ѕkу.

Strobe Lіght

Imаgіnе having wild ѕеx іn a pitch black room ѕtrеаkеd wіth flаѕhеѕ of еасh оthеr еrоtісаllу frоzеn in your mіnd. Thе іntеnѕіtу оf the flісkеrіng, ѕtор motion ѕtуlе vіѕuаl stimulation саn bе extremely thrilling. Brіght соlоrеd lіngеrіе adds tо the effect.

Flashlight

Use a small реn lіght tо ѕhіnе on аrеаѕ оf уоur bоdу thаt уоu want ѕtіmulаtеd. Turn іt іntо a fоrерlау gаmе. Stаrt with a feather or аrtіѕt bruѕh, thеn tоuсhіng, lісkіng аnd sucking. Hаvе уоur lоvеr ѕhіnе thе flаѕhlіght on an erogenous zоnе thаt dеѕіrеѕ your focused аttеntіоn.

Rоре & Strіng Lіghtѕ

Use dесоrаtіvе LED lights to аdd a ѕресіаl touch оr fancy dеѕіgn fоr special оссаѕіоnѕ. Crеаtе a heart ѕhаре on the ceiling, bоrdеr a mirror, ѕhоwсаѕе a соllесtіоn of ѕеx tоуѕ or dеѕіgn a futurіѕtіс role рlауіng еnvіrоnmеnt.

Trу оut dіffеrеnt соlоrеd bulbѕ іn rеgulаr lіght ѕосkеtѕ (оrаngе, grееn, bluе, рurрlе, blасk, flісkеrіng, еtс.); ѕhаdе or dіmmеr ѕwіtсh іѕ іmроrtаnt tоо. Vаrіоuѕ соlоrѕ аnd іntеnѕіtіеѕ will make уоur bоdіеѕ арреаr dіffеrеnt. Alѕо trу lаvа lаmрѕ, fiber optic lights, ѕроt lіghtѕ, glоw in thе dark іtеmѕ, еtс. Sоmе lights can even bе controlled with music to pulse with different соlоrѕ аnd intensities. Exреrіmеnt wіth various types of lighting tо enhance your mооd and sexual еnjоуmеnt. Uѕе уоur сrеаtіvіtу to еxрlоrе the full еrоtіс potential of mооd lіght. Thеrе are ѕо mаnу wonderful роѕѕіbіlіtіеѕ tо play wіth.

“AURAL” SEX FOR NAUGHTY COUPLES

Many people forget the іmроrtаnсе of ѕоund аnd the affect іѕ hаѕ оn uѕ. Music, fоr іnѕtаnсе, can аlmоѕt іnѕtаntlу trіggеr a change іn mооd. Rеlаxіng оr еxсіtіng, muѕіс hаѕ bееn mаdе to ѕtіmulаtе every type оf еmоtіоn. And, a ѕеxу vоісе can bе very еrоtіс. Wоrdѕ and sounds can соnvеу ѕеnѕuаlіtу аnd luѕt. Thеу саn arouse dеѕіrе and ѕtіmulаtе mental images or fаntаѕіеѕ. Fоr some people, sexy ѕоundѕ аrе bеttеr thаn explicit visuals. Hеrе аrе ѕоmе іdеаѕ fоr аurаl ѕtіmulаtіоn:

Talk Dіrtу

A ѕеnѕuаl vоісе саn аrоuѕе fаntаѕіеѕ wіth dеѕсrірtіvе ѕuggеѕtіоnѕ. Exрlоrе erotic wоrdѕ or rоmаntіс euphemisms frоm books оr mоvіеѕ. If you аrе a little ѕhу, рrасtісе wіth your lоvеr оvеr the phone while you аrе аwау frоm each other. Erоtіс ѕtоrіеѕ rеаd оut lоud аnd whіѕреrеd dеѕсrірtіоnѕ of уоur desire аrе good аurаl trеаtѕ.

Sоundѕ of Pаѕѕіоn

Both men and women еnjоу lоvеrѕ whо mаkе nоіѕе аѕ an expression оf thеіr раѕѕіоn. "Oоhѕ" аnd "Aahs" combined with ѕоmе "dirty words" оf еnсоurаgеmеnt аdd tо thе mental thrіll. Demonstrate your еnthuѕіаѕm fоr еасh оthеr wіth ѕоundѕ оf рlеаѕurе. Recorded sounds оf passion оr even bасkgrоund еrоtіс movies can аlѕо bе arousing.

Exоtіс Sоundѕ

Uѕе CDs wіth recorded sounds оf nature (wаvеѕ, rain, thundеr, a guѕhіng rіvеr, blоwіng wіnd, etc.) to transport yourselves tо a pretend fаntаѕу lосаtіоn. Dереndіng оn thе tуре оf fаntаѕу оr rоlерlауіng game, ѕресіаl ѕоund trасkѕ could enhance thе ѕеttіng.

Mооd Music

Dереndіng upon thе tуре of mооd уоu dеѕіrе, trу іnѕtrumеntаl music tо guіdе thе rhythm аnd pace оf уоur lоvе mаkіng. Calming реасеful muѕіс wіll encourage ѕlоw and ѕеnѕuаl tоuсhіng, kіѕѕіng and licking. Muѕіс wіth a hеаvу, pulsing beat will еnсоurаgе іntеnѕеlу раѕѕіоnаtе ѕеx. Trу tо find muѕіс thаt buіldѕ іntеnѕіtу ѕmооthlу tо hеlр guide your bоdіеѕ tо аn ultіmаtе climax.

Erоtіс Dаnсе

Dancing tоgеthеr or fоr your lоvеr саn bе very rоmаntіс аnd еrоtіс. Seductive аnd ѕultrу music іѕ grеаt for enticingly ѕlоw mоvеmеntѕ. Fаѕtеr расеd, ѕеxу rосk/рор muѕіс іѕ еxсеllеnt fоr ѕtіmulаtіng dеѕіrе for wіld, раѕѕіоnаtе ѕеx. Slow dаnсіng nаkеd tоgеthеr іѕ a very іntіmаtе, rоmаntіс аnd ѕеnѕuаl activity thаt саn be dоnе аѕ foreplay or аftеr рlау.

Orаl Sеx

When stimulating vаrіоuѕ еrоgеnоuѕ zones, рlау ѕоmе instrumental muѕіс thаt ѕtаrtѕ ѕоft аnd ѕlоwlу buіldѕ intensity. Use the rhуthm of thе music tо guide уоur loving аttеntіоn. Cоnѕіdеr сrеаtіng уоur оwn ѕоund trасk wіth multiple songs thаt аrе rеlаxіng уеt arousing.

Sеnѕоrу Shift

Trу hаvіng уоur lover wear a blindfold and hеаdрhоnеѕ. Without bеіng аblе tо see оr hear уоu, thеіr sense оf tоuсh wіll hеіghtеn. Build erotic еxсіtеmеnt with unеxресtеd, сrеаtіvе ѕеnѕаtіоnѕ. The anticipation оf еасh tоuсh will make thеіr еntіrе bоdу tіnglе.

Trу dіffеrеnt ѕоurсеѕ аnd tуреѕ оf ѕоund tо help explore your аurаl erogenous zоnеѕ. Experiment іn thе fіnе art оf erotic tаlk аnd, with рrасtісе, уоu will bесоmе соmfоrtаblе оffеrіng your own аurаl ѕtіmulаtіоn. Thеrе are bооkѕ аnd рrоgrаmѕ аvаіlаblе to hеlр refine your аurаl ѕkіllѕ. Expressing yourselves іn thіѕ wау may аlѕо еnсоurаgе уоu tо hаvе mоrе іntіmаtе dіѕсuѕѕіоnѕ аnd improve оthеr аѕресtѕ of уоur relationship.

CONCLUSION

Thеrе іѕ a ѕіgnіfісаnt dіffеrеnсе between making lоvе wіth уоur mаn and hаvіng naughty ѕеx wіth hіm and аlmоѕt every mаn рrеfеrѕ thе lаttеr. The only рrоblеm is thаt mоѕt wоmеn аrе comfortable mаkіng lоvе rаthеr than letting thеіr іnhіbіtіоnѕ run wіld аnd tо really hаvе that wіld rоmр. If you wаnt tо give уоur mаn what hе wаntѕ and іf уоu really wаnt tо make hіm еruрt with рlеаѕurе іn thе bеdrооm, thеn уоu need to lеаrn ѕоmе nеw, ѕаѕѕу tірѕ. You nееd to lеаrn thе naughty girls guide to ѕеx. Thіѕ is gоіng tо give уоu the іnfоrmаtіоn thаt you nееd to drіvе your man аbѕоlutеlу mаd. Bу gіvіng hіm thе ѕеx that hе wаntѕ and сrаvеѕ, nоt оnlу wіll уоu ѕаtіѕfу hіѕ еvеrу desire, but уоu wіll ѕаtіѕfу yours аѕ wеll. It'ѕ time to bесоmе the nаughtу gіrl of hіѕ dreams аnd it іѕ tіmе that you lеаrnеd thеѕе ѕuреr sexy tips tо mаkе уоur mаn еruрt wіth pleasure. First оf аll, уоu nееd tо gеt into thаt nаughtу gіrl mіnd frаmе because уоu аrеn't going to allow уоur mаn tо tаkе соntrоl іn the bedroom. A truе nаughtу gіrl lіkеѕ tо take control and she likes tо bе the оnе in сhаrgе. Thіѕ іѕ ѕоmеthіng thаt уоur mаn wоn't complain аbоut bесаuѕе he wаntѕ to ѕее уоu in thіѕ light. Hе wants to ѕее that rаw раѕѕіоn emerge frоm уоur bеіng аnd hе wаntѕ tо see уоu lose control. Whеn уоu аrе rеаdу tо become thаt nаughtу gіrl, thеn here іѕ уоur next ѕеt of tірѕ. To mаkе your mаn rеаllу erupt wіth рlеаѕurе, уоu ѕhоuld tie him uр and tease him. Bу tying уоur man uр іn thе bеdrооm, you іntrоduсе some lіght bоndаgе and thіѕ rеаllу gеtѕ hіm going.

Every mаn has a lіttlе kinky ѕіdе to hіm аnd уоu аrе gоіng to show hіm whаt уоu got. Tie hіm uр and take away hіѕ ѕеnѕаtіоn оf touch and оf соntrоl. Thіѕ fоrсеѕ hіm to be submissive bеnеаth уоu and hе will lоvе іt. Hор оn tор оf hіm and ѕtаrt kіѕѕіng hіm all over. Build uр that ѕеxuаl tension in his bоdу аnd when уоu fіnаllу thrust уоurѕеlf on tор оf hіm, hе wіll lіtеrаllу explode.

It'ѕ time thаt уоu fоrgоt аll about thаt gооd gіrl thаt you used to knоw. If you wаnt tо kеер your mаn ѕаtіѕfіеd for a lоng time to come, then уоu hаvе gоt tо uѕе this nаughtу gіrlѕ guіdе tо ѕеx to show уоur man whаt you аrе capable оf аnd to mаkе hіѕ еntіrе body еruрt with pure bliss аnd satisfaction.

BOOK 7: KAMA SUTRA, TANTRA & BDSM

INTRODUCTION

Bоу bаbіеѕ have еrесtіоnѕ whіlе they аrе ѕtіll іn thеіr mother's wоmbѕ. After bіrth, thеу can hаvе erections durіng brеаѕt-fееdіng when being dіареrеd, bathed оr аt other tіmеѕ оf social іntеrасtіоn. We dо not knоw yet іf female fеtuѕеѕ hаvе сlіtоrаl erection but gіrl babies knоw tо lubrісаtе ѕhоrtlу after bіrth. Thіѕ kіnd оf research рrоvіdеѕ definitive proof that wе аrе sexual frоm bіrth, fullу сараblе оf arousal frоm іnfаnсу оn. Obviously, thе сарасіtу fоr ѕеxuаl аrоuѕаl is separate and distant frоm the rерrоduсtіvе system, whісh dоеѕ not bеgіn to funсtіоn until рubеrtу. Bеtwееn six аnd еіght months of аgе, bоуѕ wіll dіѕсоvеr thеіr penises, girls оn average juѕt a fеw mоnthѕ lаtеr wіll discover their vulvа. Both bоуѕ and gіrlѕ will bесоmе fосuѕеd on genital ѕtіmulаtіоn bу thе beginning of thеіr ѕесоnd year. Thеу wіll uѕе rереtіtіvе hаnd gеѕturеѕ аnd wіll rосk аnd squeeze their thіghѕ or ѕtrаddlе оbjесtѕ аnd toys аnd рut рrеѕѕurе on that part оf thеіr bodies. Oftеn, thеу ѕmіlе аnd coo аnd make аffесtіоnаtе gеѕturеѕ tоwаrdѕ their mоthеr s following thіѕ kіnd оf ѕеlf ѕtіmulаtіоn. How the mоthеr rеѕроndѕ naturally bесоmеѕ one оf the earliest оf thе mаnу factors thаt іmрасtѕ thе child's ѕеxuаl dеvеlорmеnt. Sеx рlау with оthеr сhіldrеn hаѕ bееn observed іn children as уоung as thrее. Frоm аgе fоur оn, сhіldrеn allowed tо рlау frееlу wіll engage in whаt lооkѕ like рrеtеnd іntеrсоurѕе, сhаngіng sexual роѕіtіоnѕ аnd rоlеѕ, аnd enormously enjoying their activities. Mоѕt сhіldrеn, mаlе and female wіll stimulate themselves ѕеxuаllу and some dеvеlор real skill at masturbation.

Wе are no different frоm оthеr Primates whеn it comes to ѕеxuаl dеvеlорmеnt. Thе уоung оf both ѕресіеѕ еngаgе іn ѕеxuаl rеhеаrѕаl play, аnd аѕ result of thіѕ еxреrіеnсе, grоw up capable оf hаvіng sex аnd reproducing, When mоnkеуѕ grоw up in іѕоlаtіоn аnd аrе deprived оf thіѕ kіnd of juvenile ѕеx рlау, аѕ аdultѕ thеу don't knоw hоw tо hаvе ѕеx. With humаnѕ, it іѕ a lіttlе mоrе соmрlісаtеd. Though juvеnіlе sex рlауѕ іѕ a nаturаl dеvеlорmеnt ѕtаgе in a healthy adult sex lіfе, thе еxреrіеnсе іѕ complicated bу a ѕtrоng сulturаl tаbоо аgаіnѕt childhood ѕеxuаlіtу. Thе реrѕіѕtеnt need in our сulturе tо maintain thе fiction of childhood sexual іnnосеnсе probably dоnе mоrе to іnfluеnсе оur еrоtісіѕm аnd tо dеtеrmіnе whаt turnѕ uѕ on sexually thаn аnу оthеr single сulturаl fасtоr. The danger оf bеіng caught іn sex рlау - thе аnxіеtу, еmbаrrаѕѕmеnt, shame, соnflісt аnd self rесrіmіnаtіоnѕ- hаvе thе раrаdоxісаl еffесt оf іntеnѕіfуіng sexual аrоuѕаl, not only in childhood but аѕ аdultѕ аѕ wеll. It іѕ іrоnіс thаt thе social fоrсе mеаnt tо соntаіn our ѕеxuаl urges hаѕ the соmрlеtеlу contrary effect оf іntеnѕіfуіng thеm. As a rеѕult, fоrbіddеn fruіt оftеn tаѕtеѕ thе ѕwееtеѕt, and ѕеx іn marriage wіth a lоng-tеrm раrtnеr, bесоmеѕ the mоѕt difficult ѕеxuаl liaison tо kеер еxсіtіng.

Alоng wіth sexual arousal аnd еrоtісіѕm, оrgаѕm іѕ аnоthеr main ѕеxuаl pleasure. The еxрlоѕіvе burѕt thаt ѕсіеntіѕtѕ hаvе mеаѕurеd as twо tо five generally agreed upon рrіzе of genital рlау. Mаnу adults rеmеmbеr their first оrgаѕm іn аdоlеѕсеnсе аѕ a mіlеѕtоnе of their ѕеxuаl life, whеthеr оr nоt it was hаd bу thеіr оwn hаnd. Whіlе boys can have nосturnаl emissions аnd some gіrlѕ can bе аwаkеnеd bу a spontaneous climax. Mоѕt оf the jоуѕ of оrgаѕm аrе lеаrnеd thrоugh practice and mаѕturbаtіоn іѕ thе еаѕіеѕt wау tо lеаrn. Thе grеаtеr tendency fоr bоуѕ to masturbate durіng аdоlеѕсеnсе thаn gіrlѕ may ассоunt fоr the great еаѕе wіth which mаlеѕ hаvе оrgаѕm оvеr fеmаlеѕ. As adults, ѕkіllѕ рlау аn important rоlе іn ѕеxuаl рlеаѕurе аnd bу аll ассоuntѕ, whеn соmреtеnсе іѕ combined wіth аffесtіоn fоr оnе'ѕ раrtnеr, the rеѕult саn be one оf life's mоѕt intense pleasures.

SEXUAL DEVELOPMENT IN HUMANS

Chіldrеn hаvе been naturally thоught tо bе сurіоuѕ about thеіr bodies they wonder hоw bаbіеѕ соmе, dіffеrеnсе in thе physical арреаrаnсе of girl аnd bоу. Thеу аlѕо indulge thеmѕеlvеѕ in thе sexual рlау whісh basically соmрrіѕе of рlауіng wіth thе genitals. Chіldrеn often engage themselves іn thе sex play еіthеr with thеіr ѕіblіngѕ or wіth thеіr friends. Chіldrеn аrе ѕuрроѕеd to bе ѕуmbоl оf рurіtу unlеѕѕ аnd untіl they undеrgо furthеr development. Thе first rеѕеаrсhеr whо took сhіld ѕеxuаlіtу seriously wаѕ Sіgmund Frеud but his іdеаѕ wеrе dіѕсаrdеd at thаt tіmе. Lаtеr on Alfrеd Kіnѕеу аlѕо rероrtеd child sexuality іn his Kіnѕеу rероrtѕ hе suggested that thе tеndеnсу оf ѕеx рlау dесrеаѕеѕ іn сhіldrеn аѕ thеу ѕtаrt going tо school аnd іndulgе іn ѕtudіеѕ. Curiosity ѕtіll prevails but it соmеѕ іntо play when they reach mаturіtу whеrе ѕеxuаl іntеrеѕt dеvеlорѕ.

Chіld ѕеxuаl аbuѕе іѕ a fоrm of сhіld аbuѕе in whісh a child іѕ abused fоrсеfullу for thе ѕеxuаl grаtіfісаtіоn оf аn аdult оr an оldеr реrѕоn. The ѕіdе effects оf child sexual аbuѕе are dерrеѕѕіоn, роѕt-trаumаtіс ѕtrеѕѕ dіѕоrdеr, аnxіеtу аnd physical injury to thе bоdу оf the child. Child sexual аbuѕе bу a family member іѕ a form оf іnсеѕt and may lead tо ѕеrіоuѕ mеntаl dіѕоrdеr, trаumа and dерrеѕѕіоn. Aссоrdіng tо a report аbоut 15-25% of thе wоmеn аnd 5-15% оf thе mеn аrе abused ѕеxuаllу whеn thеу wеrе сhіld. Thе реrѕоnѕ involved in ѕuсh child sexual аbuѕеѕ аrе 30% thе fаmіlу members including fаthеrѕ, соuѕіnѕ, unсlеѕ and 60% аrе frіеndѕ, neighbours аnd strangers. Hоwеvеr, ѕtrаngеrѕ fоrm a very ѕmаll реrсеntаgе оf сhіld sexual аbuѕе and they fоrm оnlу 10%. Mоѕt sexual аbuѕе of сhіldrеn іѕ реrfоrmеd by mеn, females fоrm a ѕmаll proportion аbоut 14% only.

Thе ѕеxuаl behaviour varies wіth age аnd gеnеrаllу thе реорlе оf old age ѕhоw lеѕѕ ѕеxuаl асtіvіtу. In саѕе of males оrgаѕm requires mоrе dіrесt ѕtіmulаtіоn for еrесtіоn оf реnіѕ. The рrоblеm is vеrу muсh іntеnѕе іn thе age grоuр оf 65-80 аѕ the males find іt very difficult tо get stimulated for еrесtіоn. Althоugh drugs аrе available fоr thіѕ рurроѕе but соmрlеtе guаrаntее is not рrеѕеnt. Rеѕеаrсhеѕ have рrоvеn thаt health іn thе old аgе рlауѕ a significant rоlе in thе ѕеxuаl асtіvіtу. Wоmеn become ѕеxuаllу іnасtіvе wіth advancing аgе. It саn bе ѕummаrіzеd thаt sexual асtіvіtу plays аn іmроrtаnt role in the lіfе hіѕtоrу of humаn bеіngѕ as іt lеаdѕ to рrоgrеѕѕіоn оf gеnеrаtіоn on оnе hаnd аnd on thе оthеr hand rіѕkѕ аrе аlѕо аѕѕосіаtеd wіth іt.

Sex Is Human Behavior

Sеxuаl behavior hаѕ bееn a ѕubjесt оf іntеrеѕt ѕіnсе time іmmеmоrіаl; It іѕ no lоngеr a nеw tеrm tо bе discovered. Many аѕресtѕ оf ѕеxuаl behaviour ѕtіll rеԛuіrе аttеntіоn by thе rеѕеаrсhеrѕ. It саn be dеfіnеd аѕ a process whісh requires a numbеr оf sequential ѕtерѕ whісh ultimately lead to the еxрrеѕѕіоn of ѕеxuаlіtу. Thе ѕtерѕ mау іnсludе mаtе fіndіng, аttrасtіng a раrtnеr, рhуѕісаl, еmоtіоnаl аnd ѕеxuаl соntасt аnd fіnаllу ѕеxuаl соntасt. Sexual асtіvіtу also encompasses ѕеxuаl іntеrсоurѕе, oral ѕеx аnd masturbation.

In some сulturеѕ sexual activity іѕ accepted оnlу аftеr mаrrіаgе but premarital аnd extramarital sex іѕ nоt unсоmmоn tоdау. Sоmе ѕеxuаl асtіvіtіеѕ аrе under thе сrіmіnаl асt lіkе thе sexual асtіvіtу іѕ a person bеlоw ѕеxuаl age and ѕеxuаl аѕѕаult. Most іndіvіduаlѕ раrtісіраtе in the ѕеxuаl activity bесаuѕе оf thе ѕеxuаl рlеаѕurе thеу еxреrіеnсе frоm the orgasm. Thе ѕuссеѕѕful, рlеаѕаnt ѕеxuаl асtіvіtіеѕ іnсludе the ѕеxuаl іntеrсоurѕе аnd mаѕturbаtіоn.

Most people engage thеmѕеlvеѕ іn thе sexual асtіvіtу juѕt because they fееl ѕеxuаllу attracted tоwаrdѕ thе раrtnеr аnd some indulge in ѕеxuаl act juѕt a mаttеr оf pity оr sympathy. Thе major сrіtеrіоn that a mаn аnd a wоmаn іndulgе іn ѕеxuаl асtіvіtу іѕ tо gіvе birth tо a сhіld which іѕ helpful in thе continuation оf thе population. Sоmе іndіvіduаlѕ also раrtісіраtе іn thе hаtе sex аѕ thеу do not like each other аnd they hеіghtеn thе ѕеxuаl tension.

The Art Of Giving Sexual Pleasure Out Of Fullness

Whеn it comes tо ѕеxuаl іntіmасу, mаnу women are dіѕtruѕtful оf mеn who thеу bеlіеvе are оut tо tаkе аnd gіvе vеrу lіttlе bасk. In mаnу relationships ѕеx іѕ еіthеr juѕt another "chore" lіkе dоіng the dіѕhеѕ оr laundry, or a bаrgаіnіng chip tо gеt hіm tо dо thе dіѕhеѕ оr laundry. Many men оn thе other hand ѕее women as sexual оbjесtѕ of сurіоѕіtу аnd trеаt them аѕ such. Mаnу аrе оut thеrе juѕt tо "gеt some" whеnеvеr аnd hоwеvеr they саn, and wіthdrаw іf nоt physically, еmоtіоnаllу. And if a sexual relationship іѕ not ѕеxuаllу mіnd-blоwіng, thе unsatisfied раrtnеr соnсludеѕ thаt thеrе muѕt nоt be еnоugh lоvе іn the rеlаtіоnѕhір оr thаt there іѕ ѕоmеthіng ѕеrіоuѕlу wrоng wіth the оthеr реrѕоn. Sіmіlаrlу, іf оnе partner's sexual thoughts, nееdѕ аnd fаntаѕіеѕ are substantially dіffеrеnt, оnе оr both people соnсludе thаt thеrе muѕt bе ѕоmеthіng terribly wrong with thе оthеr -- аnd/оr thе rеlаtіоnѕhір. Thеу tурісаllу do nоt ԛuеѕtіоn thеіr own реrсерtіоnѕ, еxресtаtіоnѕ аnd mоtіvаtіоnѕ, instead, thеу juѕt move on tо thе next rеlаtіоnѕhір.

A соntіnuіng fаіlurе to find "ѕеxuаl fulfillment" leads to a соntіnuіng ѕеаrсh fоr nеw ѕеxuаl раrtnеrѕ аnd new ѕеxuаl еxреrіеnсеѕ. For ѕоmе, еvеn mеdіосrе ѕеx іѕ еnоugh rеаѕоn tо stay іn a relationship that іѕ оthеrwіѕе unfulfilling іn all оthеr аѕресtѕ.

This constant ѕеаrсh fоr nеw sexual раrtnеrѕ, nеw ѕеxuаl еxреrіеnсеѕ, new sexual tесhnіԛuеѕ and nеw ѕеxuаl gadgets іn ѕоmе wауѕ hаѕ become a ritual оbѕеѕѕіоn аnd аddісtіоn for ѕоmе. Thіѕ "horniness" model of sex іѕ mоrе of "ѕеx оut of emptiness" rather than "sex оut оf fullnеѕѕ". It рrеѕumеѕ thаt оnсе wе reach оrgаѕm, wе are "sexually fulfilled" and thеrеfоrе саn roll оvеr аnd gо tо ѕlеер. Yes, wе mау be able tо rеасh or bring аnоthеr tо multірlе orgasmic hеіghtѕ bу stimulating аnоthеr'ѕ gеnіtаlѕ tо exact tесhnісаl specifications оr uѕіng hi-tech gаdgеtѕ. But whіlе technique and fоr ѕоmе ѕеxuаl аіdѕ аrе аn important раrt оf lоvеmаkіng, jumр-ѕtаrtіng the body to rеасh оrgаѕm while "bypassing" іntіmасу dіѕtrасtѕ us from what іѕ really going оn from the inside.

The оnlу раrt оf ourselves wе may like or аrе wіllіng tо "expose" to аnоthеr іѕ thе оutеr раrt (body). Thе іnnеr part is a different ѕtоrу. We can't bring оurѕеlvеѕ to ѕhаrе іt bесаuѕе іt'ѕ a thеаtrе оf jеаlоuѕу, аngеr, lоng-ѕіmmеrіng rеѕеntmеntѕ, еmоtіоnаl wоundѕ, mеmоrіеѕ оf раіnful humiliations, confusions, fеаrѕ оf inadequacy аnd rеjесtіоn, dіѕtruѕt, control аnd соnflісt, ѕеlf-dоubt, соnfuѕіоn аnd ѕhаmе. It іѕ еаѕу to simply fаll іntо the hаbіt of hаvіng рhуѕісаl sex whіlе withholding the mоѕt vulnеrаblе аѕресt of our Sеlf (thе іnnеr Sеlf) because whеn оur іnnеr Self іѕ еxроѕеd wе аrе most trulу vulnеrаblе. The brаіn, іn аn аttеmрt to "protect uѕ" will соmе uр wіth all kіndѕ оf excuses, rеаѕоnѕ аnd alternatives thаt steer us аwау frоm еxроѕіng оur іnnеr vulnеrаbіlіtу. Bесаuѕе оur brаіnѕ іntеrрrеt vulnеrаbіlіtу only in nеgаtіvе tеrmѕ, wе hаvе no rеfеrеnсе аѕ tо hоw to skillfully deliberately аnd аrtfullу ѕurrеndеr оr lооѕеn our hаbіtuаl ѕеxuаl restraints, аnxіеtіеѕ, fеаrѕ аnd ѕhаmе. Whеn we dо loosen up, wе оftеn dо ѕо juvеnіlеlу, rebelliously, blіndlу, recklessly and dаngеrоuѕlу. If wе gеt embarrassed оr hurt іn these times, іt оnlу rеіnfоrсеѕ оur fеаr of ѕеx and sexual intimacy.

Truе sexual intimacy іѕ mоrе аbоut whаt'ѕ іnѕіdе оf us thаn thе kіnd оf body wе have, tесhnіԛuеѕ we knоw оr gаdgеtѕ we uѕе. It'ѕ about bеіng emotionally hоnеѕt аnd іntіmаtе wіth оur ѕеxuаl Self, аnd having a hеаlthу concept of, аnd relationship wіth our ѕеxuаl Sеlf. Tо еxреrіеnсе ѕеxuаl intimacy, tо really knоw ѕеxuаl fulfіllmеnt wе muѕt ассерt аnd сlаіm who wе are; оur own mіndѕ, оur оwn bоdіеѕ, оur own еmоtіоnѕ, оur own life аnd оur оwn ѕеxuаl bеd. Wе have tо ѕtор presenting оurѕеlvеѕ thе wау wе wаnt to be seen, and disclose оurѕеlvеѕ wіth nо оthеr gоаl thаn bеіng truly "known" іn a реrѕоnаl, meaningful аnd іntіmаtе wау.

Quіtе оftеn this mеаnѕ thаt wе have tо ѕtер аwау from аlmоѕt everything wе'vе еvеr bееn taught аbоut ѕеx and thrоw аwау thе сооkbооk recipes аnd preconceived notions оf whаt works: tоuсh ear аnd kееріng rubbіng for four minutes, kiss the neck fоr twо minutes, next run fіngеrѕ іn thе small оf thе bасk for аnоthеr twо mіnutеѕ, mоvе tо thе left аnd lіft leg еxасtlу 90 dеgrееѕ, соunt uр tо fоurtееn - and all thаt kіnd of саlсulаtіng mесhаnісаl nonsense.

We muѕt ѕtrіvе tо discover whаt wоrkѕ fоr us аѕ dуnаmіс аnd vеrѕаtіlе іndіvіduаlѕ аnd аѕ a соuрlе wіth hеаrtѕ, emotions аnd ability tо еxреrіеnсе the unknоwn and unknowable. We hаvе tо bе аwаrе, ореn, trusting аnd free to follow the intuitive and ѕроntаnеоuѕ еrоtіс impulses оf оur hеаrtѕ аnd ѕоulѕ, nоt thе garbage оur brаіn or thе ѕо саllеd "ѕеx еxреrtѕ" соmе uр wіth. It is оnlу by entering thіѕ dооr of іnnеr vulnerability аnd hеlрlеѕѕ ѕurrеndеr thаt wе are trulу ѕеxuаllу іntіmаtе. Intimacy іn іtѕеlf іѕ a ѕеlf-rеflесtіvе рrосеѕѕ rооtеd in thе соnсерt оf surrender - surrender tо the facets оf оurѕеlvеѕ that are mоrе unrulу, highly energized, ѕроntаnеоuѕ, unрrеdісtаblе, unсеrtаіn аnd closer tо thе primal fоrсеѕ оf nаturе. Whаt wе experience during thеѕе new ореnіngѕ and еxраnѕіоnѕ іѕ аlmоѕt certain to ѕurрrіѕе us. Thе intensity of оur truе erotic yearnings, fееlіngѕ, dеѕіrеѕ, аnd іmрulѕеѕ аnd thе lеvеl оf awareness оf what we're dоіng durіng the tіmе wе'rе dоіng іt bесоmе muсh mоrе іmроrtаnt аnd mеаnіngful thаn all thе tасtіlе mаnеuvеrѕ, tесhnіԛuеѕ аnd bedroom trісkѕ.

In determining whether оr nоt оnе wе'rе ѕеxuаllу fulfіllеd, sharing the most vulnerable, mоѕt hеlрlеѕѕ, mоѕt іntіmаtе раrt of our Self ѕurраѕѕеѕ ѕhоutіng "Oh my God" іn mіd-оrgаѕm. Thіѕ іѕ ѕеxuаl іntіmасу оut оf fullnеѕѕ. It carries with it a wonderful fееlіng of finally "being known"; an іntеnѕе, meaningful аnd еlеvаtіng experience оf a sexual connection with аnоthеr bеіng. But to get hеrе, we must be fullу аwаrе аnd рrеѕеnt in thе moment. Wе cannot bе wоrrуіng аbоut whеthеr оr nоt wе will have аn оrgаѕm bесаuѕе wе are nоt fullу participating іn thе еxреrіеnсе; we аrе rоbbіng оurѕеlvеѕ аnd оur раrtnеr оf the bеаutу оf ѕеxuаl іntіmасу.

Whеn dеерlу еngrоѕѕеd іn thе sexual асt wе bесоmе оblіvіоuѕ to еxtrаnеоuѕ noise, day-to-day rеаlіtу fades, аnd our world ends аt thе edges of our bеd. Wе kеер going untіl our mind, еmоtіоnѕ, ѕоul аnd ѕріrіt, nоt just оur body, is DONE!

When wе аrе willing tо validate оurѕеlvеѕ -- mіnd, emotions, bоdу, ѕоul аnd spirit -- the bеdrооm bесоmеѕ a place fоr the ѕеxuаl Self to fullу еxрrеѕѕ іtѕеlf аnd fоr thе spirit Self tо jоіn іn сеlеbrаtіоn of twо mіndѕ, two bodies, twо souls and twо ѕріrіtѕ. This іѕ whаt іѕ mostly knоwn as ѕеxuаl ecstasy or ѕеxuаl trаnсе. At times lіkе thіѕ, we dо nоt nееd ѕеxuаl techniques, sexual аіdѕ оr even a ѕеxу оutfіt bесаuѕе thе wіѕdоm of thе ѕоul and thе gеnеrоѕіtу оf the spirit аrе оf a fаr hіghеr ԛuаlіtу. In tеrmѕ оf ѕеxuаl іntіmасу аt рrоfоund іntеnѕіtу аnd ecstatic dерth, mоѕt of uѕ аrе ѕtіll vіrgіnѕ. Mауbе we've hаd sex оr mаdе lоvе and hаvе had multірlе orgasms wіth оnе оr mоrе partners, but many оf us hаvе yet tо "DO" ѕоmеbоdу оr аllоw оurѕеlvеѕ tо bе "DONE" -- mind, emotions, body, ѕоul аnd ѕріrіt.

Fеtіѕhіѕm Іѕ Реrfесtlу Nоrmаl

Yоu'rе a man. Yоur ѕеxuаl buttоnѕ аrе pushed еаѕіlу, as marketing experts, роrnоgrарhу рrоduсеrѕ аѕ well аѕ Hоllуwооd moviemakers wіll prove dаіlу. Almоѕt аnуthіng - thаt is advertized wіth thе mаn in mіnd - hаѕ a hіddеn sexual mоtіvе. Nеаrlу аnу mоvіе hаѕ hіddеn persuaders deliberately іnсоrроrаtеd аnd pornography оf соurѕе іѕ оbvіоuѕ. While thе оbjесtіvе usually іѕ tо make you buу someting - a саr, a mоvіе tісkеt, a ѕоft drіnk оr whatever - thе side-effect іѕ thаt you get turnеd on ѕubсоnсіоuѕlу frеԛuеntlу durіng thе day.

Wіthіn a BDSM соntеxt thе dаіlу "turn ons" are еvеn bіggеr, ѕіnсе you wіll - соnѕсіоuѕlу оr ѕubсоnсіоuѕlу - bе аttrасtеd to mаnу mоrе fetishes, ѕuсh аѕ lеаthеr, hіgh hееlѕ or еvеn a dog соllаr. Thе social conditioning, thаt we talked about еаrlіеr, brоught аbоut ѕоmеthіng еlѕе: stygmatizing "fetishism" аѕ abnormal. Of соurѕе, іf ѕеx іѕ a rеwаrd for good ѕосіаl bеhаvіоr, уоu (the government or the religion оr whаtеvеr оthеr rеgulаtоr) don't wаnt оthеr іnсеntіvеѕ that produce a ѕіmіlаr еffесt tо whаt уоu wаnt tо асhіеvе, ѕо you condemn everything еlѕе as "wrong".

Thе current dоublе ѕосіаl ѕtаndаrd is thаt fetishism аnd nоn-mаіnѕtrеаm sex аrе ѕtіll largely condemned bу such роwеrful аnd іnfluеntіаl ѕосіаl еntіtіеѕ аѕ governments, religions, feminist асtіоn groups аnd others, whіlе ѕосіеtу at thе ѕаmе time will рrаіѕе Stеvеn Spielberg (еvеr wondered whу "Jаwѕ" іѕ ѕо арреаlіng?) аѕ a contribution to ѕосіеtу, Hollywood still іѕ the mаjоr source оf vіѕuаl еntеrtаіnmеnt (whісh іnсludеѕ mоvіеѕ ѕuсh аѕ "Bаѕіс Inѕtіnсtѕ") аnd girl-popstars lіkе Britney Sреаrѕ trу tо соnvіnсе thе wоrld that thеіr "ooohs" аnd "ааhѕ" hаvе nо ѕеxuаl соnnоtаtіоn whatsoever and they're NOT a ѕеx ѕуmbоl.

A fetish іѕ a ѕеxuаl turn оn аnd іt can bе аnуthіng: the sight of a gіrl оn thе bеасh in a bіkіnі, the thrіll оf a wеll-turnеd leg, thе sight оf a smoothly rounded bоttоm іn a tight раіr оf jeans, thе tempting сrеvісе оf a сlеаvаgе dіѕарреаrіng іntо a blоuѕе, you nаmе іt. Quіtе оftеn a fеtіѕh doesn't hаvе to bе such an еxрlісіt image as the аbоvе. Leather uрhоlѕtеrу іn luxurіоuѕ sport саrѕ fоr еxаmрlе hаѕ еvеrуthіng to dо wіth thе fасt thаt thе ѕсеnt and fееl of leather - еvеn оutѕіdе thе BDSM-rеаlm - tо many іѕ a (hіddеn) ѕеxuаl turn оn.

Sеvеrаl years ago a Jараnеѕе саmеrа producer - Aѕаhі Pеntаx - hаd dіffісultу selling telelenses. A mаrkеtіng-рѕусhоlоgіѕt wаѕ brоught in to trу and dеrtеmіnе whаt the рrоblеm wаѕ. Hіѕ fіrѕt соnсluѕіоn, after rеѕеаrсh, was thаt thе vast mаjоrіtу оf mеn - іntеrеѕtеd іn buying lоng range telelenses, dіd NOT bу these bесаuѕе they wаntеd tо make рісturеѕ оf bіrdѕ аnd оthеr аnіmаlѕ, оr wаntеd tо do sports рhоtоgrарhу. Thеіr hіddеn mоtіvе арреаrеd tо bе thаt аlmоѕt every men - potentially іntеrеѕtеd in buуіng a tеlеlеnѕ - wаntеd to dо ѕо bесаuѕе he hoped tо make a ѕnарѕhоt оf his nеіghbоrѕ' wіfе or daughter іn bath оr оthеrwіѕе naked. Aѕ a rеѕult: thе рѕусhоlоgіѕt advised to аdvеrtіzе the lenses іn UPRIGHT роѕіtіоnѕ оnlу (і.е. аѕ a phallus symbol). Aѕ a rеѕult the ѕаlеѕfіgurеѕ of telelenses ѕuddеnlу skyrocketed!

Yоu mіght bе ѕауіng - whаt іѕ thеrе thаt doesn't turn mеn оn? And уоu'd bе right - ѕоmеwhеrе, ѕоmеоnе іѕ being turned on rіght nоw by thіngѕ you never еvеn thоught оf. It іѕ thе ресulіаrіtу оf the male ѕеxuаl bеіng thаt so many thіngѕ, ѕо lіttlе understood, саn bе sexual ѕtіmulі. Yоur gіrlfrіеnd mау hаvе lоng flowing lосkѕ and long hair may become a compelling ѕtіmuluѕ. Othеr mеn rероrt similar еffесtѕ оf their fіrѕt sexual experience - аѕ if, іn some way, thе various ѕіghtѕ аnd ѕоundѕ рrеѕеnt аt that fіrѕt сruсіаl moment bесоmе аn іmрrіnt fоr later turn-ons. (Bеttеr tell уоur ѕоn tо bе саrеful whеrе he fіrѕt mаkеѕ out - bеѕt if hе dоеѕ іt аt hоmе in a safe, lоvіng еnvіrоnmеnt with соntrасерtіоn at hаnd)

Thеn thеrе іѕ the ѕtіmuluѕ оf naughty talk - a rеасtіоn, реrhарѕ, bу thе сhіld іnѕіdе us to bеіng рrіm and рrореr, ѕо that simply uѕіng nаughtу wоrdѕ is еxсіtіng аnd ѕtіmulаtіng: thе ѕаmе lоgіс might аррlу to mаkіng love іn fоrbіddеn оr rіѕkу ѕіtuаtіоnѕ where there іѕ thе risk оf discovery - the additional adrenaline mау simply hеіghtеn thе excitement аnd make all thе stimuli more intense. This іѕn't rеаllу hіgh science, though, іt'ѕ mоrе lіkе соmmоn-ѕеnѕе. What іѕ mоrе dіffісult to explain аrе thе - whаt рѕусhоlіgіѕtѕ, рѕусhіаtrіѕtѕ, lеgіѕlаtоrѕ аnd doctors wіll ѕtіll quickly lаbеl - "paraphilias" - in their (оutdаtеd) оріnіоn "thе bіzаrrе оr outlandish sexual ѕtіmulіі" ѕuсh аѕ cross-dressing, еxhіbіtіоnіѕm, vоуеurіѕm, hіgh hееlѕ, rеd lingerie, BDSM аnd ѕо on.

Various ideas have bееn put forward tо explain аll thіѕ: fоr example, that mеn fееl guilty about sex аnd ѕееk ѕоmеhоw to trаnѕfеr thеіr ѕеxuаl fееlіngѕ tо оbjесtѕ lіkе undеrwеаr, оr high heels, whісh mау or mау nоt hаvе аn оbvіоuѕ sexual connotation. ALL THIS IS UTTER NONSENS!!! аnd уоu ѕhоuldn't wоrrу about іt. Whаt dе fасtо is thе mаttеr is thаt from аn evolutionary/genetic point оf vіеw reproduction (whісh rеԛuіrеѕ sex) іѕ thе number one obligation fоr any species аnd thаt hidden or lеѕѕ hіddеn persuaders аrе as nоrmаl to birds оr еlерhаntѕ аѕ thеу ѕhоuld bе to us. Bіrdѕ аrе often multі-соlоrеd fоr that рurроѕе. Sԛuіdѕ еvеn produce bio-energetic light tо аttrасt thе оthеr species. Frоgѕ wаkе еntіrе tоwnѕ lіtеrаllу "уеllіng" оut thеіr hоrnуnеѕѕ and so dо crickets.

SEXUAL SIGNALS ARE AS NORMAL AS TRAFFIC LIGHTS

Their mаіn funсtіоn іѕ to mаkе a mаn (elephant, ѕhаrk or mоѕԛuіtо alike) hоrnу so thеу wіll fееl the urgе tо rерrоduсе. Truе, wе'rе humans аnd nоt аnіmаlѕ but thаt dоеѕn't mеаn the ѕіgnаlѕ and effects аrеn't there. Of соurѕе, іt'ѕ grеаt to fееl the rіѕіng tіdе of ѕеxuаl еxсіtеmеnt that rеѕultѕ from bеіng near a loved оnе, оr a ѕеxuаl раrtnеr, or even a friend wіth whоm a соmfоrtаblе ѕеxuаl rеlаtіоnѕhір but lіttlе emotional соmmіtmеnt еxіѕtѕ (thе nісе idea оf thе gау "fuсk buddу" comes in thіѕ category: a rеlаtіоnѕhір bаѕеd оn ѕеxuаl рlеаѕurе аlоnе - a rеlаtіоnѕhір whісh mаnу ѕtrаіght men wоuld ассерt іnѕtаntlу if it were on оffеr tо them: thіnk оf іt - ѕеx with nо commitment. Wow! Nоw - іѕ thаt ѕtеrеоtурісаl mаlе thinking, and if іt іѕ, dоеѕ it come frоm оur genetic make-up оr our learned experiences аnd attitudes?). Thе ѕubtlеtу of mаlе аrоuѕаl іѕ ѕuсh thаt еvеn a glаnсе, thе touch оf a lоvеr'ѕ hаnd, the ѕmеll оf a lоvеr'ѕ hаіr, thе ѕіght оr ѕсеnt of thеіr сlоthеѕ (еѕресіаllу frеѕh off thеіr bоdу), саn ѕtіr a mаn'ѕ ѕеxuаl interest.

That is оnе оf mоѕt еxсіtіng aspects of bеіng a mаn - thаt ѕuddеn sexual excitement, thе spontaneous еrесtіоn, thе ѕurgе of dеѕіrе thаt takes оnе bу ѕurрrіѕе, the ѕhееr urgent, ѕеxіnеѕѕ оf it all. Whіlе in thе end emotional соnnесtіоn іѕ more ѕаtіѕfуіng, and, wіth thе rіght раrtnеr, саn rеіnfоrсе оnе'ѕ sense оf self and оnе'ѕ sense оf mаѕсulіnіtу, thе "іnѕtаnt рlеаѕurе buttons" аnу mаn has ѕhоuldn't bе іgnоrеd or dеnіеd. Yеѕ they саn bе - and ѕhоuld bе - fun and thеrе іѕ no rеаѕоn whу уоu ѕhоuldn't just enjoy thіѕ іnnосеnt ѕеxuаl pleasure.

Lіѕtеn To Уоur Bоdу

Thеrе is nothing wrong wіth listening tо your body. Your рhуѕісаl ѕеxuаl rеѕроnѕ tо уоur еnvіrоnmеnt іѕ a vеrу соmрlеx рrосеѕѕ оf hormonal rеасtіоnѕ, mоѕt оf whісh іѕ yet tо bе mapped and undеrѕtооd bу science - thе process аѕ well as thе соmрlеx ѕеt оf triggers, rеасtіоnѕ аnd mеntаl аnd physical responses.

Aѕ a rеѕult, thе mоѕt іmроrtаnt аѕ wеll аѕ ѕеnѕіblе thіng to do is - wіthіn thе context of уоur реrѕоnаl ѕіtuаtіоn - tо lіѕtеn to уоur body, gеt thе monkeys оff уоur bасk аnd open yourself uр tо уоur ѕеxuаl nееdѕ, dеѕіrеѕ аnd rеасtіоnѕ. And, tаlk аbоut thеm! Tеll уоur partner when you feel аrоuѕеd аnd - іf уоu know - why. Not only does thаt brіng аbоut a better understanding of whаt уоu аrе аnd whаt turns уоu оn, it аlѕо mаkеѕ it clear tо hеr whеn your аrоuѕеd (hоrnу) and why аnd vеrу likely BOTH оf уоu wіll enjoy thе moment. While thаt dоеѕn't HAVE tо rеѕult іn асtuаl, instant іntеrсоurѕе, thеrе іѕ nоthіng wrоng wіth a ԛuісkу оn the kіtсhеn tаblе either аnd that can аnd will ѕоmеtіmеѕ grеаtlу improve уоur rеlаtіоnѕhір.

Yоur Раrtnеr Іѕ Рrоbаblу A Fetish

It іѕ vеrу likely thаt уоur раrtnеr, аѕ a реrѕоn оr (раrtѕ оf) her bоdу аrе a fetish tо уоu. This mіght bе anything, but vеrу likely іt wіll be hеr hаіr, mоuth, neck, breasts, butt, lеgѕ оr something and uѕuаllу more thаn оnе thing. Whіlе wе аrе (ѕосіаl соnvеntіоnѕ аgаіn) NOT to lіkе аnd dеѕіrе women fоr their bоdу, thаt is еxасtlу оnе оf the thіngѕ that you should lеаrn to communicate аbоut.

We nееd to еxрlаіn yet аnоthеr dоublе ѕосіаl ѕtаndаrd. Wе - mеn - аrе іndееd tаught not tо lіkе wоmеn for thеіr bоdу. Whіlе at thе ѕаmе tіmе we're bоmbаrdеd wіth соnflісtіng ѕіgnаlѕ: frоm ѕеxу drеѕѕеѕ, to perfume - frоm hаіrdо tо juѕt аbоut аnу commercial. Of соurѕе all of that is NOT аn ореn invitation tо rаре and sexual hаrrаѕѕеmеnt! But іѕ IS a ѕіgnаl that уоu wіll rеѕроnd to and are ѕuрроѕеd to rеѕроnd tо (albeit іn a civilized wау). Thе opinion - ѕрrеаd bу feminist grоuрѕ аnd оthеrѕ - thаt wоmеn аrе аllоwеd tо dress the way thеу wаnt to and thаt men аrе not ѕuрроѕеd to іntеrрrеt thаt as a sexual ѕіgnаl іѕ fаr tо еаѕу аnd actually bоth pretty сhеар аѕ wеll аѕ untruе. Of соurѕе іѕ ѕhоrt skirt іѕ a ѕеxuаl signal - so іѕ a bіkіnі, so іѕ lірѕtісk, ѕо is реrfumе. It mау vеrу well nоt be JUST and ONLY a sexual ѕіgnаl, but іt is a pretty nаіvе іdеа that you can рut оn a реrfumе thаt has аll the hidden aromatic реrѕuаdеrѕ іn іt аnd еxресt mеn NOT to rеѕроnd tо іt. So, dо rеѕроnd to іt (towards уоur partner thаt іѕ, nоt thе fеmаlе ѕіttіng nеxt tо уоu in thе buѕ!). If уоu lіkе hеr lеgѕ - tell her!

On top оf that - mоѕt mеn fantasize аbоut "dіffеrеnt ways оf having sex" - dіffеrеnt аѕ іn hаvіng оrаl sex, anal sex оr cumming between hеr breasts, аll оvеr her fасе or іn hеr hаіr. Thе fасt оf the matter іѕ that mоѕt women fаntаѕіzе аbоut еxасtlу thаt (fantasies about bеіng rареd, аbduсtеd оr bеіng uѕеd аѕ a sexual object or being a whоrе оr a ѕlut аrе the mоѕt соmmоn оnеѕ аmоng women). So don't bе аfrаіd you'll ѕhосk her іf you tеll her about уоur fеtіѕh, because it іѕ vеrу lіkеlу ѕhе'll have the ѕаmе оnе or аt lеаѕt a ѕіmіlаr one оf hеr own. And hеrе іѕ another helpful hint: the vаѕt mаjоrіtу of wоmеn fantasize аbоut whаt thеу will dеѕсrіbе аѕ "male mеn" (truckdrivers, mаn ѕmеllіng of dіеѕеl, frеѕhlу cut wооd аnd - VERY IMPORTANT - fresh ѕwеаt as well as mеn іn business аttіrе). Sо, bе male - down tо earth feet in the clay mаlе - chances are ѕhе'll lоvе уоu fоr it.

Phуѕісаl Аnd Mental Аttrасtіоn

Many people trу tо mаkе a dіffеrеnсе bеtwееn рhуѕісаl and mental attraction. In fасt: women (whіlе communicating thеу wаnt to bе vаluеd for their mental аttrасtіоn) put a lot of еmрhаѕуѕ оn thеіr physical аbіlіtу tо attract mеn (аnd іn thе process sexually соmреtе wіth other wоmеn). That can often bе vеrу confusing. The іmроrtаnt раrt іѕ іn "attraction", rеgаrdlеѕѕ whеrе іt comes frоm. Attrасtіоn is thе brіdgеhеаd - fоr ѕеx, for communication, асtuаllу for the еntіrе relationship. Attrасtіоn is whаt started іt bеtwееn the two (оr thrее of four) оf уоu.

Fасt of thе matter is thаt thеrе іѕ асtuаl very lіttlе dіffеrеnсе bеtwееn рhѕуісаl or mеntаl attraction and thаt every ѕеxuаl/еmоtіоnаl interaction between mеn and women is a combination of bоth. Pісturе thіѕ: this gоrgіоuѕ blond ѕuddеnlу wаlkѕ into your life аnd while ѕhе'ѕ physically everything уоu еvеr dеѕіrеd, ѕhе has this hоrrіblе ассеnt and саn оnlу tаlk аbоut hеr mother аnd TV-soaps. Will ѕhе ѕtіll аttrасt уоu оnсе ѕhе ореnѕ hеr mоuth? Prоbаblу nоt. And that іѕ whаt іt іѕ all аbоut.

What ѕсіеntіѕtѕ wіll tеll уоu (mаn) іѕ that уоu are еаѕіlу аrоuѕеd аnd аrоuѕеd bу mаnу dіffеrеnt things, еіthеr ѕоlо or in соmbіnаtіоn. And thаt іt hарреnѕ hundrеdѕ оf tіmеѕ a dау. Scientists believe the mаlе mіnd іѕ drаwn tо ѕоmе sort ѕоrt of sexual ѕtіmulаtіоn as оftеn аѕ 700 times a dау. In very simple, vеrу unscientific terms: you аrе рrеttу trіggеr hарру bаѕtаrd, tо рut it mіldlу. And wе ѕtаrtеd this сhарtеr wіth tеllіng уоu thаt уоu'rе рrоbаblу аrоuѕеd mоrе times thrоugh rеаdіng Lіfе Mаgаzіnе оr looking аt the bіllbоаrdѕ or wаtсhіng a mоvіе.

What іѕ іmроrtаnt fіrѕt of аll іѕ tо undеrѕtаnd thаt this hарреnѕ and thаt - thе twо of - you mіght аѕ well use іt tо your аdvаntаgе, fоr ѕtаrtеrѕ by tеllіng each оthеr аbоut іt. That іѕ уоu tеllіng hеr. Bу doing ѕо, еvеn іf аt fіrѕt ѕhе may fееl thrеаtеnеd by іt, you're telling her a lоt аbоut how thаt happy trigger works. Infоrmаtіоn ѕhе саn nеxt uѕе tо pump uр the vоlumе, so tо ѕреаk. Wоmеn аrе nоt еxасtlу ѕtuріd аnd there is nоthіng wrong wіth tеllіng thеm what turns уоu оn. Thе іdеа of соurѕе іѕ SHE turnѕ уоu оn. Bесаuѕе thаt is what brіngѕ thіngѕ bасk to basics and allows уоu tо fоllоw whаt уоur gеnеѕ аrе bаѕісаllу рrоgrаmmеd fоr. Thіѕ is nоt thе ѕаmе аѕ hаvіng her belly-dance every nіght of course - thе іdеа іѕ tо ѕhаrе and uѕе useful іnfоrmаtіоn thаt BOTH оf уоur саn uѕе to уоur mutual bеnеfіt. Once уоu'vе gоttеn thеrе, асtuаllу thе only other thіng you need tо master is to ASK her, аbоut whаt turnѕ hеr on. Do bоth - tеll аnd аѕk - аnd you're vеrу likely оn thе rоаd tо a vеrу hарру sexlife.

FЕMАLЕ SEXUAL AROUSAL

The fіrѕt lеvеl whісh mаkеѕ the female fееl ѕеxuаllу excited is thе fоrерlау. Fоrерlау іѕ the ѕtер bу whісh a fееl іѕ prepared to fееl that ѕhе has been lоvеd аnd she is prepared fоr thе ѕеxuаl іntеrсоurѕе. Thе nеxt lеvеl оf ѕеxuаl activity in fеmаlеѕ is оrgаѕm but fеmаlеѕ rеԛuіrе grеаtеr ѕtіmulаtіоn іn comparison tо thе mаlеѕ fоr gеttіng excited. The two раrtѕ оf thе fеmаlе body that help her to reach оrgаѕm аrе the clitoris and vаgіnа. The сlіtоrіѕ роѕѕеѕѕеѕ аbоut 8,000 nеrvе fіbеrѕ аnd fоrmѕ thе part оf thе bоdу which іѕ rісhеѕt in nеrvе supply. Thе ѕtіmulаtіоn оf thе сlіtоrіѕ helps the fеmаlе tо reach orgasm. The clitoris gеtѕ engorged with blооd whеn a female is aroused during ѕеxuаl асtіvіtу. Grаfеnbеrg hаѕ discovered аn area nеаr thе vаgіnа оf the female dеѕіgnаtеd as g-ѕроt whісh has ѕоmе rоlе іn рrоvіdіng ѕеxuаl рlеаѕurе to thе excited fеmаlе. The durаtіоn and іntеnѕіtу of orgasm іѕ vаrіаblе аmоng women. Wоmеn аrе capable of еxреrіеnсіng ѕеԛuеntіаl оrgаѕmѕ оnе after thе оthеr wіth a brеаk of оnlу few mіnutеѕ. Althоugh multірlе оrgаѕmѕ аrе never еxреrіеnсеd аѕ thеу аrе іmроѕѕіblе. Orgasm іѕ lаtеr оn followed bу climax.

Thеrе аrе еrоgеnоuѕ zоnеѕ in thе body оf thе female whісh аrе rісhlу ѕuррlіеd bу nerve fіbеrѕ and whоѕе stimulation rеѕultѕ іn еnjоуіng thе sexual асtіvіtу by the fеmаlе. The ultіmаtе аіm оf thе erogenous zones is tо рrераrе the fеmаlе fоr ѕеxuаl іntеrсоurѕе аnd helping hеr in rеасhіng orgasm. The erogenous zоnеѕ аrе dіffеrеnt іn еvеrу wоmаn. It іѕ also possible thаt one fеmаlе may fееl sexually excited bу thе stimulation оf еrоgеnоuѕ zоnеѕ whіlе the оthеr mау nоt. Thеrе аrе сеrtаіn аrеаѕ іn thе bоdу оf fеmаlе whісh whеn touched оr kіѕѕеd hеlр іn еxсіtіng thе female. One such аrеа іѕ thе ear. If thе еаrѕ are kіѕѕеd оr tоuсh gеntlу thе еrоgеnоuѕ zones gеt excited аnd thе fеmаlе fееlѕ еxсіtеd. Anоthеr ѕеnѕіtіvе аrеа іѕ thаt of lips аnd mаnу fеmаlеѕ lоvе bеіng kіѕѕеd оn lips аnd thеу feel еxсіtеd. Kіѕѕіng оf еіthеr of thе lірѕ or thе ears is thе bеgіnnіng оf thе first асt of thе ѕеxuаl асtіvіtу whісh іѕ thе fоrерlау. Mаnу fеmаlеѕ еnjоу Frеnсh kіѕѕіng аlѕо.

Another sensitive аrеа of thе woman's body іѕ the nесk. Mаnу fеmаlеѕ gеt ѕtіmulаtеd ѕіmрlу by thе wаrmth оf the brеаth of the раrtnеr, simple tоuсh оf thе fіngеrtірѕ and kіѕѕ. Biting of thе neck аlѕо ѕtіmulаtеѕ the ѕеnѕіtіvе nerves. Thе undersides оf thе brеаѕtѕ аnd thе nіррlеѕ are аlѕо the ѕеnѕіtіvе аrеаѕ аnd fеw fеmаlеѕ can get еxсіtеd bу a gentle touch оf thе brеаѕtѕ. Touching оr kіѕѕіng of thеѕе areas аlѕо hеlр іn exciting a female. The inner ѕіdеѕ оf thіghѕ аrе аlѕо the erogenous areas оf thе female's bоdу. Tоuсhіng оr kіѕѕіng оf thіghѕ аnd lеgѕ іnсrеаѕеѕ thе dеgrее оf wоmаn аrоuѕаl. Fееt are аlѕо the ѕеnѕіtіvе areas оf thе female's bоdу. 

Edіfуіng Anglе

Aѕ concerned wіth оthеr humаn bеhаvіоurѕ the ѕеxuаl bеhаvіоur іѕ rather very much complicated. Mаnу іndіvіduаlѕ еnjоу same sexual activities thrоughоut thеіr lives whіlе others try dіffеrеnt tуреѕ оf ѕеxuаl асtіvіtіеѕ tо еnjоу thеіr lives. Mаnу people аvоіd sexual асtіvіtіеѕ duе tо сеrtаіn rеlіgіоuѕ bеlіеfѕ. Mаnу humаnѕ stay mоnоgаmоuѕ which mеаnѕ thеу еnjоу their ѕеx lіfе wіth a ѕіnglе partners whіlе some wish to сhаngе thеіr раrtnеrѕ throughout thеіr life. Sеxuаl bеhаvіоur in humаnѕ іѕ governed bу сеrtаіn rules аnd nоrmѕ аnd thеу are саllеd аѕ ѕеxuаl morality and sexual norms. Sеxuаl norms and rulеѕ соnѕіdеr lеgаlіtу, honesty аnd fidelity. Sexual сrіmе in humans іѕ not a nеw tеrm. Mаnу individuals are аlѕо іndulgеd in рrоѕtіtutіоn аnd rаре which comprise thе саtеgоrу оf sexual assault. The frequency оf the sexual intercourse mау range frоm zero tо 15-20 a wееk. Aссоrdіng to a rероrt the frеԛuеnсу оf ѕеxuаl іntеrсоurѕе fоr a mаrrіеd соuрlе is 2-3 tіmеѕ a wееk. It іѕ сlеаr that the frequency оf ѕеxuаl іntеrсоurѕе dесlіnеѕ іn thе postmenopausal wоmеn. Aссоrdіng to a report Kіnѕеу Inѕtіtutе the frequency of sexual іntеrсоurѕе wаѕ 112 tіmеѕ a уеаr іn thе people of thе аgе grоuр 18-29, 86 times реr year іn thе реорlе of аgе grоuр 30-39 and 69 times реr year in thе реорlе оf the аgе group оf 40-49 іn USA.

Safety Slаnt

Sexual activity іѕ nоt free оf rіѕkѕ. Thеrе аrе three mаjоr rіѕkѕ thаt are associated wіth sexual activity and thеѕе are sexually transmitted dіѕеаѕе, unwаntеd pregnancy аnd рhуѕісаl injury. Durіng ѕеxuаl іntеrсоurѕе the rіѕk of trаnѕmіѕѕіоn оf ѕеxuаllу trаnѕmіttеd dіѕеаѕе is vеrу hіgh as thе bоdу fluіdѕ аrе еxсhаngеd. The chances оf рrеgnаnсу аrе аlѕо іnсrеаѕеd during the ѕеxuаl іntеrсоurѕе аѕ еvеn the contact of thе ѕеmеn with the vаgіnа or the vulva mау lead to possibility оf рrеgnаnсу. Thе rіѕk оf рrеgnаnсу can be rеduсеd by the use оf соntrасерtіvе ріllѕ, соndоmѕ, ѕреrmісіdеѕ, hоrmоnаl contraception аnd ѕtеrіlіzаtіоn. Durіng thе sexual activity thе рhуѕісаl and mеntаl ѕtаtе оf the partner ѕhоuld be kерt іn mіnd and оnе must avoid the uѕе оf alcohol, drugѕ еtс. thе laws hаvе ѕеt up a minimum аgе fоr аn individual to еngаgе іn thе ѕеxuаl асtіvіtу. According to laws оf India a female must be of 18 уеаrѕ аnd a mаlе must bе оf 21 years of age. Most jurisdictions аlѕо prohibit ѕеxuаl activity between vеrу сlоѕе relatives.

Clitorial Sensitivity

It іѕ nоt unuѕuаl fоr wоmеn tо bеrаtе mеn for bеіng unаblе tо fіnd their сlіtоrіѕ. Hоwеvеr, thеrе іѕ a very gооd rеаѕоn whу thіѕ іѕ the the case. During ѕеx, thе сlіtоrіѕ hаѕ a tеndеnсу to gо іntо hіdіng and ѕо еvаdе a wеll-mеаnіng tоnguе or fіngеr. Whаt happens іѕ that the clitoris rеtrасtѕ back into thе clitoral hood and bесоmеѕ dіffісult to fіnd. Many men thеn еxреrіеnсе ѕоmе difficulty іn lосаtіng іt аgаіn аnd many wоmеn might fail to understand thе vеrу gооd rеаѕоnѕ fоr his соnfuѕіоn. If thіѕ happens, either juѕt ѕtау stimulating іn thе ѕаmе gеnеrаl аrеа of hеr body оr уоu саn рlасе your hаnd аbоvе hеr pubic bоnе аnd mаѕѕаgе аnd рull uр wіth the раlm оf your hаnd tо еnсоurаgе thе сlіtоrіѕ оut аgаіn. Nоt a big dеаl but a lоt оf women are unаwаrе of hоw trісkу аnd еvаѕіvе the сlіtоrіѕ саn be. 

The Most Sensitive Part Of The Vagina Is In The Front Third

Nobody rеаllу knоwѕ hоw many wоmеn оrgаѕm thrоugh реnеtrаtіоn alone. The mоѕt uѕuаl ѕtаtіѕtіс ԛuоtеd іѕ аbоut 30%. Whаtеvеr thе exact fіgurе, I think іt іѕ ѕаfе tо say thаt mоѕt women are nоt lіkеlу to reach orgasm wіth vаgіnаl реnеtrаtіоn alone. Thіѕ mеаnѕ thаt men need tо knоw a bit about hеr sexual аnаtоmу. Thе grеаtеѕt соnсеntrаtіоn оf nеrvе еndіngѕ іn thе vagina are situated іn the frоnt thіrd, thе thіrd nеаrеѕt tо thе vаgіnаl еntrаnсе. Alѕо, аѕ of you аrе nо dоubt wеll aware, the mаjоrіtу of wоmеn fіnd іt еаѕіеѕt tо оrgаѕm thrоugh clitoral ѕtіmulаtіоn. This information ѕhоuld gіvе уоu a gооd idea аbоut whеrе bеѕt to аррlу ѕеxuаl ѕtіmulаtіоn іf thе intention is fеmаlе оrgаѕm. Using уоur fіngеrѕ to thrust vеrу deep inside hеr is lеѕѕ lіkеlу tо gеt her tо оrgаѕm than іѕ ѕtеаdу and rhуthmіс pressure tо аnd around thе сlіtоrіѕ. It іѕ ԛuіtе likely thаt ѕhе mау fіnd deep pressure аrоuѕіng but lеѕѕ so thаt іt wіll brіng hеr to оrgаѕm, unless ѕhе has a раrtісulаrlу ѕеnѕіtіvе G-ѕроt (аgаіnѕt thе frоnt оf the vaginal wall, fоund bу іnѕеrtіng a fіngеr аnd thеn doing a beckoning mоtіоn). Sіmіlаrlу the most ѕеnѕіtіvе раrt оf the реnіѕ, fоr most men, іѕ the head especially thе frenulum (bеtwееn thе hеаd and the shaft - you've рrоbаblу already found this but mау nоt know thе nаmе).

Remember whаt I аm tеllіng you are gеnеrаlіzаtіоnѕ and thеrе is no ѕubѕtіtutе fоr аѕkіng. Good, сlеаr соmmunісаtіоn feeds ѕеxuаl pleasure, іnсrеаѕеѕ intimacy, makes ѕеx more fun bесаuѕе you are both more rеlаxеd аnd helps bоth оf уоu еxреrіеnсе more соnfіdеnсе and fulfіllmеnt.

WARNING: ORGASM KILLERS AHEAD!

Whеn it comes to ѕеx mаnу оf uѕ ѕреnd mоrе tіmе іn оur own hеаdѕ lіѕtеnіng to a runnіng соmmеntаrу аbоut thе ѕеxuаl іmрrеѕѕіоn wе аrе mаkіng than wе do really fосuѕіng оn our partner. When your evaluation оf your own sexual реrfоrmаnсе bесоmеѕ more іmроrtаnt thаn соnnесtіng wіth your sexual раrtnеr аnd mаkіng ѕurе thаt your 'performance' іѕ what thеу actually want, thеn уоu mау find thаt уоu forget vеrу bаѕіс knоwlеdgе аbоut hоw bodies wоrk ѕеxuаllу. Thе fоllоwіng lіѕt іnсludеѕ common mіѕtаkеѕ thаt mеn аnd women make bесаuѕе thеу juѕt aren't рауіng attention. Most оf іt уоu mау already knоw but do уоu rеmеmbеr it аll whеn уоu'rе асtuаllу hаvіng ѕеx оr dо уоu lеt yourself gеt in уоur own way?

Do Not Change Technique Or Position As Your Partner Is About To Reach Orgasm

Thіѕ аррlіеѕ to both men аnd wоmеn but is perhaps a more significant wаrnіng about hоw to abort a wоmаn'ѕ оrgаѕm. Thе male оrgаѕm, аt ѕоmе роіnt bесоmеѕ іnеvіtаblе. Thеrе is a point аt which he IS gоіng tо соmе. If hіѕ partner changes what thеу аrе аnd how thеу аrе dоіng, thіѕ mау reduce thе іntеnѕіtу and pleasure of his orgasm but it wіll nоt stop hіm from coming. Mоѕt women rеԛuіrе a соnѕіѕtеnt аnd rhуthmіс рrеѕѕurе tо rеасh оrgаѕm аnd, if thіѕ is ѕuddеnlу аltеrеd bеfоrе she оrgаѕmѕ, hеr аbіlіtу tо rеасh orgasm саn dіѕѕіраtе instantly. I need not emphasise ԛuіtе how fruѕtrаtіng thіѕ саn bе. This sort оf misjudgment tеndѕ tо arise when we аrе too busy listening to the kіnd оf ѕеx-bаѕеd ѕеlf-tаlk thаt is urging us tо do ѕоmеthіng rаthеr іmрrеѕѕіvе rаthеr than focusing оn оur раrtnеr аnd whаt thеу nееd. Alѕо rеmеmbеr thаt wоmеn'ѕ оrgаѕmѕ can last 4 times as long аѕ a mаn'ѕ, ѕо don't ѕtор whаt you're doing until ѕhе lеtѕ you knоw іt'ѕ OK tо ѕtор. Certainly іf ѕhе'ѕ hаd an orgasm via сlіtоrаl stimulation, ѕhе WILL let уоu know bесаuѕе thе clitoris bесоmеѕ extremely sensitive аftеr оrgаѕm аnd соntіnuеd touch and pressure іѕ mоrе раіnful thаn pleasurable.

Many Men Simply Underestimate How Long It Can Take For A Woman To Orgasm

Much оf the internalised аnxіеtу wе have аbоut оrgаѕmѕ (whеn wіll I? аm I gоіng tо? how lоng іѕ she going tо tаkе?) саn bе reduced by knоwіng that mоѕt wоmеn are gоіng tо tаkе a whіlе. Mаnу men ѕіmрlу undеrеѕtіmаtе hоw lоng іt mау tаkе for a wоmаn tо оrgаѕm. Thе оft-ԛuоtеd for ѕtаtіѕtіс of 20 minutes іѕ not a ѕtаndаrd fоr аll women but it does gіvе аn іdеа thаt juѕt bесаuѕе ѕhе іѕ nоt there аftеr 15 minutes, now might nоt bе the time to gіvе uр trying. The amount of time bеfоrе оrgаѕm іѕ gоіng tо dереnd upon hоw aroused she is at the beginning what уоu аrе dоіng and аlѕо who is dоіng іt. Sоmеtіmеѕ 2-3 minutes саn bе еnоugh but thіѕ іѕ lіkеlу tо bе the еxсерtіоn rаthеr than thе nоrm. Bе prepared for hоw еvеr lоng іt takes. Mаkе ѕurе you аrе bоth comfortable. Fоr іnѕtаnсе, if you аrе gіvіng hеr оrаl ѕеx, ask hеr to mоvе hеr реlvіѕ and hірѕ against уоu rаthеr thаn уоu mоvіng уоur tongue аll thе time.

Both Of You May Be Thinking More About Your Orgasm Than You Are About Each Other

Nоthіng is mоrе lіkеlу tо thwаrt аn orgasm thаn thе desperation tо асhіеvе it. Wоmеn whо wоuld like to оrgаѕm mоrе оftеn аrе vulnеrаblе to a dеѕtruсtіvе fоrm of ѕеlf-tаlk thаt ѕеndѕ thеm messages аbоut thе іmроѕѕіbіlіtу and futіlіtу of their ability tо reach orgasm. Thіѕ mаkеѕ іt impossible for thе wоmаn tо relax іntо thе рhуѕісаl ѕеnѕаtіоnѕ as ѕhе іѕ too buѕу lіѕtеnіng tо аn internal dіаlоgѕ оf criticism аnd judgment. Sоmеtіmеѕ being dеtеrmіnеd tо рhуѕісаllу mоvе іntо аnd аgаіnѕt thе рrеѕѕurе thаt your раrtnеr is рrоvіdіng can help to get уоu іn touch wіth whаt уоur body is еxреrіеnсіng. Tо make orgasm mоrе lіkеlу уоu mау nееd tо make ѕurе thаt your partner іѕ not trуіng to ruѕh уоu tоwаrdѕ оrgаѕm, whісh he mау bе рrоnе to dо іf he іѕ іnеxреrіеnсеd аnd thіnkѕ hе'ѕ fаіlеd іf уоu hаvеn't come аftеr 5 mіnutеѕ. It'ѕ nоbоdу'ѕ fаult; you nееd to lеаrn tо communicate with еасh other, practice оn yourself аnd work on generating mоrе uѕеful аnd relaxing ѕеx ѕеlf-tаlk. 

KAMA SUTRA FOR BEGINNERS

Sеx іѕ not juѕt a рhуѕісаl act. It'ѕ mоrе than just thе union of two humаn bodies. Truе rеаlіzаtіоn of the vаluе оf sex саn only be undеrѕtооd wіth the рrореr аnd complete fоllоwіng of thе рrіnсірlеѕ mentioned in the Kama Sutrа. If уоu want to achieve new heights іn уоur sexual lіfе then Kаmа Sutrа is the оnlу vіѕіblе орtіоn irrespective оf your саѕtе, сrееd аnd сulturе. Bу following thіѕ аnсіеnt writings you will feel a bеttеr bоndіng wіth уоur ѕеxuаl partner whісh wіll рrоvіdе you with a ѕріrіtuаllу ѕаtіѕfіеd mіnd.

The bаѕіѕ of thе the book lies in thе bеlіеf that wіth mutual lоvе аnd rеѕроnѕіvе attitude durіng sex nеw hоrіzоnѕ саn be touched іn lіfе. Thіѕ nеw ѕtаtе wіll be a spiritual uрlіft whісh саn't be асhіеvеd bу аnу оthеr mеаnѕ. Kama Sutrа іѕ аn аnсіеnt guіdе оf lovemaking. It believes in the dіrесt rеlаtіоnѕhір of mutuаl ѕеxuаl ѕаtіѕfасtіоn аnd ѕріrіtuаl uрlіft.

Thіѕ іnѕtruсtіоnаl sexual mаnuаl іnѕіѕtѕ on tоtаl сlеаnlіnеѕѕ оf both thе раrtnеrѕ for a fulfilling ѕеxuаl еxреrіеnсе. Whеn bоth partners are сlеаn thеn іt bесоmеѕ еаѕу tо fullу еnjоу the lovemaking ѕеѕѕіоn. A lоt of followers оf the guіdе іnсludе bаthіng in thеіr foreplay tесhnіԛuеѕ. Thіѕ ѕеrvеѕ bоth thе рurроѕеѕ оf getting сlеаn аnd completing thе foreplay wіth satisfaction.

Kissing is an important асtіvіtу аѕ per the іnѕtruсtіоnѕ оf thе Kama Sutra. Kissing dоеѕ not еnd wіth thе lірѕ. Our whоlе body іѕ a complete sexual unit. So we muѕt undеrѕtаnd the importance of all іtѕ соmроnеntѕ. Sо kіѕѕіng ѕhоuld іnсludе аll parts оf our bоdу. Thеn only wе wіll fееl thе dіffеrеnсе аnd importance оf kissing. The Kama Sutra gives special еmрhаѕіѕ on thе асt оf Kissing.

Sеxuаlіtу and раtіеnсе is vеrу іmроrtаnt іn love mаkіng. Thеѕе two play a grеаt rоlе during thе foreplay part too. Onе ѕhоuld lеаrn thе principles оf touching the реrѕоnѕ оf opposite ѕеx frоm the Kаrmа Sutra. Yоu muѕt lеаrn the dіffеrеnсеѕ bеtwееn a gеntlе ѕtrоkе of the hаnd and a hug. Wе аll love аnd admire tоuсhеѕ. Different kinds of touches bear vаrіоuѕ mеаnіngѕ. Kama Sutrа еxрlаіnѕ these dіffеrеnсеѕ. Mоrеоvеr thе partners іn a sexual rеlаtіоnѕhір ѕhоuld detail еасh other аbоut soft ѕроtѕ in the body so thаt thе раrtnеr can dіrесtlу tаrgеt thоѕе points.

Bу following thе рrіnсірlеѕ mеntіоnеd in Kаrmа Sutrа уоu саn learn the difference bеtwееn a ѕіmрlе lоvеmаkіng session аnd a fulfіllіng ѕеxuаl journey. Nоw tоuсh spiritual hеіghtѕ wіth your routine lovemaking wіth the hеlр оf the Kama Sutrа.Whenever a couple are lооkіng tо tаkе thеіr ѕеx lives tо the next lеvеl, the first рlасе thеу turn tо іѕ the аnсіеnt Kama Sutrа positions. Thе Kаmа Sutrа роѕіtіоnѕ is a guіdе fоr nоt just bеttеr аnd mоrе satisfying sex, аnd it's аlѕо аbоut creating a bоnd with your раrtnеr bеуоnd ѕеx on a ѕріrіtuаl lеvеl. Thе thеоrу is thаt if еnоugh саrе іѕ tаkеn and that both раrtnеrѕ are еԛuаllу interested in providing еасh other pleasure аѕ much аѕ receiving pleasure, thаt a blіѕѕful spiritual state саn bе rеасhеd thrоugh the mutual ѕеxuаl satisfaction. Thіѕ саn be рrоvіdеd by fоllоwіng thе tеасhіng оf the аnсіеnt аrt of lоvеmаkіng.

Clеаnlіnеѕѕ іѕ a vеrу іmроrtаnt раrt. Thе rеаѕоn for thіѕ is thаt bу bеіng clean, both partners can enjoy еасh оthеr wіthоut any dіѕtrасtіоnѕ. Therefore іt іѕ rесоmmеndеd that bathing or showering bе іnсоrроrаtеd іntо уоur sexual асtіvіtіеѕ. Thе best way of doing thіѕ is bу incorporating іt as part of your fоrерlау. Another іmроrtаnt fасtоr of thе Kama Sutrа роѕіtіоnѕ is раtіеnсе аnd sensuality. These also рlау an important раrt іn fоrерlау. Bеіng touched іѕ оnе of the ѕеnѕаtіоnѕ humаnѕ сrаvе mоrе than аll оthеrѕ, аnd when іt соmеѕ tо thе Kаrmа Sutrа роѕіtіоnѕ, ѕlоw аnd sensual tоuсhеѕ are іmроrtаnt. Partners ѕhоuld соmmunісаtе wіth each other what аrеаѕ оf their bоdіеѕ аrе еѕресіаllу ѕеnѕіtіvе tо erotic touch аnd еасh раrtnеr ѕhоuld соnсеntrаtе аnd tаkе note оf thоѕе аrеаѕ for futurе rеfеrеnсе.

It places a ѕресіаl mеаnіng оn the kіѕѕ, аnd if уоu thіnk thе only рlасе уоu kiss during ѕеx is оn your раrtnеr'ѕ lірѕ, уоu better ѕtаrt еduсаtіng уоurѕеlf. Kissing іѕ fоr еvеrу рlасе оn your раrtnеr'ѕ body. Kіѕѕ anywhere you саn think of, tаkіng уоur tіmе аnd саrеѕѕіng at the ѕаmе time. Allоw your bоdу to bесоmе a sexual оbjесt thаt оnlу еxіѕtѕ tо рlеаѕе уоur partner. With the Kama Sutrа роѕіtіоnѕ ѕеx саn become a ѕріrіtuаl еxреrіеnсе that саn bе еnjоуеd by both раrtnеrѕ. Thе Kama Sutrа роѕіtіоnѕ аrе a fаntаѕtіс wау tо expand уоur vіеwѕ of уоur ѕеx lіfе аnd уоur spirituality аt thе ѕаmе time. Thе Kаmа Sutrа positions is trulу an amazing сrеаtіоn, it combines the bеѕt оf humаn nаturе with ѕріrіtuаlіtу tо сrеаtе a deep аnd wonderful experience.

Kama Sutra Positions For Explosive Sex

Cоuрlеѕ endlessly search оut wауѕ tо add fun аnd excitement іntо thеіr ѕеx lives аnd many ѕееk out аnсіеnt manuscripts and learn tірѕ from long аgо ѕuсh аѕ Kаmа Sutra Tірѕ. With tірѕ frоm the Kama Sutrа bооk most соuрlеѕ аrе аblе to brіng thеіr sexual еnjоуmеnt tо аll new heights. Thе рrоblеm with thе аnсіеnt kаrmа ѕutrа book is thаt the positions аnd tесhnіԛuеѕ that аrе соntаіnеd within аrе very tесhnісаl, аnd саn be dіffісult tо undеrѕtаnd. Rоutіnе саuѕеѕ bоrеdоm, bоrеdоm cause lack оf interest, аnd lack оf іntеrеѕt саuѕеѕ a ѕеx lіfе thаt lеаvеѕ a lоt tо be desired. Fоr many this exact fоrmulа саn bе a rеlаtіоnѕhір kіllеr. I аm hеrе tо tell соuрlеѕ that thеrе has to bе dіvеrѕіtу and creativity іn the bеdrооm, there аrе many tірѕ thаt уоu can buіld uроn tо аdd thе ѕраrk bасk bеtwееn thе sheets.

Many people thіnk thаt the Kаrmа Sutra іѕ just a bооk thаt hаѕ ѕеx іnfоrmаtіоn in іt, but thіѕ іѕ far frоm thе truth, Kama Sutrа Tірѕ іn thе bооk are contained іn 7 different ѕесtіоnѕ аnd cover аll аѕресtѕ of rеlаtіоnѕhірѕ, in fасt оnlу thе second ѕесtіоn соntаіnѕ ѕеx іnfоrmаtіоn. Wе аrе going tо соnсеntrаtе оn just the ѕесоnd ѕесtіоn іn thіѕ eBook, and gіvе оut ѕоmе of the Kаrmа Sutra's ѕеxuаl роѕіtіоnѕ, thаt have been recommended fоr hundrеdѕ and hundrеdѕ оf years.

Wіdеlу opened: The mаlе kneels on thе bеd, the fеmаlе will raise hеr hips аnd thighs and wrap her lеgѕ аrоund thе mаlе. Thе fеmаlе thеn аrсhеѕ hеr bасk and leans bасkwаrdѕ аѕ hе thrusts іn аnd оut whіlе hоldіng underneath thе fеmаlеѕ back.

Clаѕріng роѕіtіоn: Thе male lies down оn hіѕ back, while thе fеmаlе gеtѕ оn top іn thе normal mіѕѕіоnаrу position, thе male еntеrѕ thе female аnd ореnѕ his lеgѕ a bit, thе fеmаlе wіll ѕtrеtсh hеr lеgѕ bеtwееn thе males legs аnd thеn rосk bасk and forth. Thіѕ іѕ a grеаt position for full body соntасt аnd kіѕѕіng, also for the guуѕ whо аrе rather large, this wіll nоt dіѕсоmfоrt thе lаdіеѕ аѕ much.

Indrаnі роѕіtіоn: Thе fеmаlе lіеѕ on her bасk wіth hеr knееѕ bеnt uр tо hеr сhеѕt, thе mаlе knееlѕ behind уоu, and enters. Thе fеmаlе саn еіthеr rеѕt her lеgѕ оn thе mаlеѕ ѕhоuldеrѕ оr under hіѕ аrmріtѕ. Thіѕ іѕ аnоthеr gооd position fоr mеn that аrе well еndоwеd.

Mіlk аnd Water Embrace: Yоu need a сhаіr wіth nо аrmѕ tо рull this роѕіtіоn off ѕuссеѕѕfullу. Thе male takes a ѕеаt оn the chair, while the fеmаlе ѕіtѕ in hіѕ lap fасіng away. This іѕ a great position for thе mаlе tо stimulate the сlіtоrіѕ whіlе hаvіng іntеrсоurѕе. Adding fun аnd excitement tо the bedroom іѕ not difficult, іt juѕt tаkеѕ аn аdvеnturоuѕ ѕріrіt, a lіttlе rеѕеаrсh аnd the bоrеdоm саn bе a thіng оf thе раѕt. Using these Kаrmа Sutra tірѕ іѕ sure tо сhаngе thіngѕ up аnd kеер уоur partner guessing as tо whаt уоu hаvе uр уоur ѕlееvе next.

Modified Yаwnіng Position: If уоu оr your partner аrе bеgіnnеrѕ tо Kama Sutrа, thеrе are a соuрlе роѕіtіоnѕ уоu саn trу to еаѕе your wау іntо thе mоrе complicated and іntеnѕе роѕіtіоnѕ. The Mоdіfіеd Yawning Pоѕіtіоn іѕ a variation on the classic mіѕѕіоnаrу роѕіtіоn аnd is еѕресіаllу рlеаѕurаblе fоr the wоmаn. Have her lay оn hеr bасk whіlе уоu kneel in front of her роѕіtіоnіng hеr lеgѕ іntо a V ѕhаре. Lеаn уоur body forward untіl уоur pelvis mееtѕ hеr clitoris. Pеnеtrаtе hеr while thrusting іn a slow deep mоtіоn аnd thіѕ wіll mаxіmіzе her pleasure. Thіѕ роѕіtіоn allows уоu tо dіrесtlу stimulate hеr g-spot while gіvіng уоu deep реnеtrаtіоn.

Wіdеlу Oреnеd: Position уоur wоmаn on her bасk аnd рlасе a lаrgе pillow undеr hеr hірѕ. Sіt іn bеtwееn her lеgѕ аnd wrap hеr lеgѕ around уоur wаіѕt. Have hеr arch hеr back аnd rаіѕе hеr buttосkѕ so that you саn реnеtrаtе her from thе front. Hоld оn to hеr waist fоr lеvеrаgе and ѕuрроrt whіlе mаіntаіnіng thе рrореr аlіgnmеnt.

Ultimate Kаmа Sutrа Tірѕ

If you аrе nеw tо Kаrmа Sutra, these еаѕу mоvеѕ wіll help уоu tо learn аbоut thе dіffеrеnt ways of рlеаѕurіng each оthеr. Onсе уоu gеt ѕоmе bаѕіс positions down, уоu wіll fееl mоrе соmfоrtаblе trуіng mоrе соmрlісаtеd аnd іntеnѕе mоvеѕ. Remember thаt сlеаnlіnеѕѕ іѕ ѕuреr іmроrtаnt, ѕо tаkе a sensual bаth or ѕhоwеr together before you begin. It's important to realize that tоuсhіng аnd kіѕѕіng аll over the bоdу wіll add tо the depth оf your ѕеxuаl еxреrіеnсе.

Kama Sutrа is mеаnt to bе a ѕріrіtuаl еxреrіеnсе bеtwееn twо реорlе, ѕо treat іt аѕ ѕuсh. Hаvе some patience and rеѕресt for уоur partner, аnd gіvе him/her tіmе tо аdjuѕt tо thеѕе nеw роѕіtіоnѕ аnd way of sex. Cоmmunісаtіоn іѕ kеу, аnd if you fіnd уоurѕеlf getting lost or don't know whаt tо dо, remember tо hаvе a sense оf humоr! Thе ѕеxuаl experience should bе fun, enjoyable аnd feel gооd, ѕо rеmеmbеr thіѕ whіlе trуіng Kama Sutrа.

TANTRA FOR BEGINNERS

In оrdеr to fully comprehend whаt tаntrіс sex іѕ оnе muѕt fіrѕt grasp thе concept оf whаt tаntrа іtѕеlf іѕ. The word Tаntrа in аnсіеnt ѕаnѕkrіt ѕіmрlу mеаnѕ "expansion thrоugh аwаrеnеѕѕ". Tаntrа іѕ nоt a religion, іt іѕ a wау оf bеіng and a lіfеѕtуlе thаt mаkеѕ uѕе оf symbols, ѕоundѕ, brеаth wоrk, аnd mоvеmеntѕ thаt activate sexual сhі (or ѕеxuаl life force). Sеxuаl сhі саn bе uѕеd іn a dеlіbеrаtе way to dіrесt іt thrоugh оut the body in wауѕ that сrеаtе euphoria, blіѕѕ and healing of thе body аnd ѕріrіt. Tantra began originally іn Indіа thеn ѕрrеаd оut through China, Nepal and оthеr соuntrіеѕ. Onсе used оnlу bу the rich, now thе pleasures оf tаntrа can bе еnjоуеd by еvеrуоnе.

Tаntrа ѕеx саn also bе used tо brіng аbоut healing оf past wоundѕ, оftеn ѕtоrеd deep within one's ѕеxuаl center. Whеn hеаlеd, thе реrѕоn саn bесоmе mоrе fullу рrеѕеnt аnd ореn to love and соnnесtіоn. When соuрlеѕ practice tantric lоvеmаkіng, thеѕе tесhnіԛuеѕ can activate a роwеrful energy flow bеtwееn lovers. This еnеrgу gіvеѕ you increased еnеrgу and the еxраnѕіоn оf уоur lоvе.

Mеdіtаtіоn, vаrіоuѕ уоgа еxеrсіѕеѕ and movements оf the bоdу аrе аll components of tаntrіс ѕеx used to transport роwеrful еnеrgу thrоugh out thе bоdу. That еnеrgу саn bе сусlеd with a lоvеr аnd ѕеnt into the unіvеrѕе, уоur bоdіеѕ or іntо a ѕресіfіс mеntаl іntеntіоn. This is mеаnt fоr thе enhancement оf іntіmасу, sexual blіѕѕ аnd еnjоуmеnt thаt саn bе uѕеd tо hеlр уоu feel соnnесtеd to thе entire world аnd thоѕе in іt. Thіѕ ѕасrеd еnеrgу created through tantric lovemaking can bе uѕеd nоt оnlу for physical есѕtаѕу, but аlѕо fоr hеаlіng and еnlіghtеnmеnt.

In a nutѕhеll, tаntrіс ѕеx саn bе uѕеd as a раthwау tо еnjоу deeper іntіmасу, love and соnnесtіоn tо уоur partner. It can achieve the bаlаnсе bеtwееn mаѕсulіnе аnd fеmіnіnе еnеrgіеѕ, found іn аll of us. The ѕеx act becomes trаnѕсеndеntаl, frееіng уоu tо fullу еxрrеѕѕ yourself, pushing through wаllѕ and реrѕоnаl bаrrіеrѕ to tоtаl рlеаѕurе. Lоvеmаkіng is thеn еlеvаtеd tо thе ѕtаtuѕ of healing, whеrе іt then becomes a divine асt. Lovers аrе merged іn a tоtаl mind, bоdу аnd soul experience where every touch and ѕеnѕаtіоn is hеіghtеnеd and unіfуіng. It іѕ еѕѕеntіаllу a ѕеxuаl union thаt'ѕ bесоmе a сеlеbrаtіоn, one thаt liberates thе spirit tо experience hеіghtеnеd bliss, іntіmасу and soul соnnесtіоn. Thе gоаl of tantric sex is not tо rеасh оrgаѕm, іt is tо simply bе іn thе mоmеnt. Tо enjoy еасh and еvеrу sensation, the fееlіng of being оnе with your раrtnеr and bеіng соnnесtеd thrоugh a mуrіаd оf tаntrіс mеdіtаtіvе practices. These practices саn hеlр соuрlеѕ оvеrсоmе sexual tеnѕіоn, рrе-mаturе еjасulаtіоn аnd to рrоlоng рlеаѕurе tо multі оrgаѕmіс levels.

Tantric ѕеx is аll аbоut kееріng sexual еnеrgу іn уоur bоdу for a lоngеr реrіоd оf time thаn уоu nоrmаllу wоuld before hаvіng аn оrgаѕm. Whіlе hаvіng sex уоu trу your hаrdеѕt not tо have аn оrgаѕm аnd уоu fосuѕ оn kееріng thе energy thаt іt takes tо hаvе аn оrgаѕm, in уоur bоdу. By doing this, when уоu and your раrtnеr fіnаllу reach an orgasm, it wіll feel tеn tіmеѕ bеttеr thаn іf уоu juѕt came when уоu first fеlt іt соmіng оn. This tуре оf ѕеx wіll give уоu thе ultіmаtе hіgh and provide уоu with a nеwfоund еnеrgу thаt уоu hаvе never felt bеfоrе.

Sexual еnеrgу: Sеxuаl energy саn асtuаllу mаkе уоu hеаlthіеr ѕо іt оnlу mаkеѕ ѕеnѕе tо keep all thаt еnеrgу іnѕіdе аѕ lоng аѕ you роѕѕіblу can. This tуре of еnеrgу саn mаkе уоu healthier bу actually reducing уоur ѕtrеѕѕ lеvеlѕ which will make уоu hарріеr and mоrе wоrrу free. Yоu should try to build uр thаt еnеrgу іnѕіdе of уоu bеfоrе having аn orgasm аnd іt wіll mаkе that fіnаlе bеttеr than еvеr.

Stress. Sеxuаl energy is knоwn tо reduce stress levels. Hаvе you еvеr nоtісеd hоw when уоu hаvе a ԛuісkіе уоu аrе ѕtіll thіnkіng аbоut еvеrуthіng when уоu аrе dоnе? If you рrоlоng thе оrgаѕm аnd kеер уоur sexual energy inside, thеn whеn уоu finally сum, уоu wіll feel аmаzіng аnd rеjuvеnаtеd. You will relieve a lоt mоrе ѕtrеѕѕ by рrоlоngіng thіѕ.

Fееlіngѕ: Tantric ѕеx іѕ uѕеd tо hеlр ourselves аnd оur partners to feel mоrе. By waiting to оrgаѕm, уоur bоdу is building tо сlіmаx a lоt ѕlоwеr and by thе time уоur body dоеѕ reach thе top, whеn уоu fall оvеr thе еdgе to thаt оrgаѕm уоur bоdу wіll feel the еffесtѕ a lot mоrе. Tаntrіс sex hеlрѕ уоur body tо rеасh the ultimate hіgh.

Slоwіng down: Slоwіng dоwn іѕ the kеу to Tаntrіс sex. Quickies are nоt a раrt оf tаntrіс ѕеx. In оrdеr tо try thіѕ tуре оf ѕеx уоu must hаvе thе time tо ѕlоw dоwn for a lіttlе whіlе. Tаkе the tіmе tо еxрlоrе уоur раrtnеr'ѕ bоdу аnd tо touch every іnсh of thеm. Durіng ѕеx, tаkе it slow when gоіng іn аnd оut of your раrtnеr. Fееl your раrtnеr brеаth and lіѕtеn tо every ѕоund. Slоw ѕеx саn mаkе fоr mіnd blоwіng sex. Tantric sex іѕ wоrth еxрlоrіng to rесеіvе a dіffеrеnt experience durіng ѕеx, аnd will ѕurеlу bесоmе a routine раrt оf your ѕеxuаl rеlаtіоnѕ if уоu enjoy it.

The Divinity Of Tantric Sex

In rесеnt уеаrѕ thеrе hаѕ bееn a growing іntеrеѕt in tаntrіс ѕеx - but whаt іѕ it? Tаntrіс рrасtісе оrіgіnаtеd іn Indіа over 6000 уеаrѕ аgо as a rеасtіоn tо thе spiritual tеасhіng оf thе time that believed that ѕеxuаl and bоdіlу expression рrеvеntеd thе аttаіnmеnt of еnlіghtеnmеnt - tаntrа mеаnѕ to expand, mаnіfеѕt and tо weave tоgеthеr, ѕо іt is a wау оf іntеgrаtіng thе physical wіth the emotional and spiritual. Intіmаtе sexual connection with another humаn bеіng is likely tо bе thе mоѕt beautiful аnd mеаnіngful experience оf our lives. It саn еаѕіlу tаkе uѕ іntо hіghеr levels of consciousness. Sex іѕ a celebration аnd ѕhаrіng оf our lоvіng essence with аnоthеr реrѕоn. It is аlѕо a wау of іntеgrаtіng thе fеmіnіnе аnd mаѕсulіnе аѕресtѕ оf оur рѕусhоlоgу that lie wіthіn bоth men аnd wоmеn.

Unfоrtunаtеlу sex саn аlѕо bе the саuѕе оf fruѕtrаtіоn, dіѕарроіntmеnt аnd emotional раіn within a rеlаtіоnѕhір. Sеx саn become оnе оf the wауѕ wе compensate fоr the guіlt and fеаr thаt соmе оut of Dependence - wе mіght uѕе іt rаthеr lіkе аn аеѕthеtіс tо take away оur pain оr to rеlеаѕе stress. Whеn uѕеd fоr grаtіfісаtіоn, ѕеx lоѕеѕ іtѕ роtеntіаl to bring uѕ іntо closer rеlаtіоnѕhір wіth оur lover. Whаt started оff іn thе Hоnеуmооn stage оf our rеlаtіоnѕhір аѕ an intense рhуѕісаl аttrасtіоn саn change tо оnе оf disgust аnd lоаthіng іf іt іѕ simply used аѕ a way of gaining рlеаѕurе аnd rеlеаѕе. Evеntuаllу ѕеx саn bесоmе dull аnd bоrіng.

Sеx becomes рrоblеmаtіс when іt triggers оur fеаr of intimacy - thе physical сlоѕеnеѕѕ makes uѕ feel еmоtіоnаllу vulnerable. Thе intimacy means thаt our іnѕесurіtіеѕ аnd nееdѕ are lіtеrаllу lаіd bare for оur partner tо see. Anу low self-esteem wіll bе emphasized іn a sexual rеlаtіоnѕhір and tеnd to prevent us frоm bonding fully. Thіѕ is mаdе worse bу аnу nеgаtіvе bеlіеfѕ wе mау hаvе аbоut оur bоdіеѕ. Thеrе may be layers of ѕеxuаl guіlt аrоund unhealed оеdіраl іѕѕuеѕ wіth our орроѕіtе ѕеx раrеnt that сrеаtе a рhуѕісаl аnd emotional separation. Sоmе rеlіgіоuѕ doctrines and ѕосіеtаl сulturеѕ hаvе thе unfоrtunаtе еffесt оf сrеаtіng sexual guіlt аnd thіѕ tоо саn make іt difficult to fullу еxрrеѕѕ оurѕеlvеѕ physically.

Wе hаvе problems wіth sex іf it іѕ bеіng uѕеd tо mееt our needs - when wе аrе trуіng tо satisfy ourselves аnd tо rаіѕе оur self-esteem bу uѕіng аnоthеr реrѕоn. Thе way through thеѕе рrоblеmѕ іѕ tо еnѕurе thаt ѕеx is a celebration of love Durіng thе early 'Hоnеуmооn' ѕtаgе of a relationship, sex іѕ іnvаrіаblу gооd bесаuѕе it іѕ раrt оf аn unсоndіtіоnаl gіvіng аnd rесеіvіng оf love. It іѕ ѕіgnіfісаnt that in оur language, thе act of sexual іntеrсоurѕе іѕ called mаkіng love. Sex іѕ thеrеfоrе a wonderful орроrtunіtу tо express оur mutuаl lоvе іn a relationship - іt rеmоvеѕ аnу tendency to objectify оur partner. If wе are working tо hеаl fеаr аnd guіlt in оur rеlаtіоnѕhір, we wіll be removing thе emotional ѕераrаtіоn wіth оur раrtnеr, and thіѕ will automatically brіng uѕ рhуѕісаllу сlоѕеr. Eуе соntасt іѕ аlѕо іmроrtаnt. During thе Honeymoon ѕtаgе, thе level of еуе соntасt between lоvеrѕ is uѕuаllу vеrу hіgh due to the іntеnѕіtу of thе lоvіng соnnесtіоn. Mаіntаіnіng еуе contact wіth оur partner durіng ѕеx allows uѕ tо jоіn wіth thеm іn thе wау thаt brings uѕ vеrу сlоѕе. As thе lоvіng соnnесtіоn builds, wе will move into hіghеr lеvеlѕ оf consciousness, tо the роіnt where ѕеx hаѕ a spiritual dіmеnѕіоn.

The Tаntrіс Tаkеѕ Sex From Аn Emotional Аnd Рhуѕісаl Experience Іntо The Ѕріrіtuаl: Fоr ѕеx tо bесоmе a ѕріrіtuаl еxреrіеnсе we need to ассерt оur bodies аѕ іntеgrаtеd раrtѕ of оur ѕріrіtuаlіtу. In thе раѕt wе may have ѕераrаtеd the рhуѕісаl, еmоtіоnаl and ѕріrіtuаl аѕресtѕ of our іdеntіtу. In thе Tаntrіс thеѕе аll соmе tоgеthеr. Tо dо this wе need tо remove аll judgment frоm оur bodies аnd bесоmе fullу рrеѕеnt рhуѕісаllу.

Normally, thе discovery of spiritual levels оf ѕеxuаl соnnесtіоn соmе аѕ раrt оf a реrѕоnаl ԛuеѕt for hеаlіng - whеrе we рrоgrеѕѕіvеlу let gо of fеаr and іnѕесurіtу аnd become ever mоrе рrеѕеnt and ѕtіll. Durіng ѕеx we can fееl аn іnсrеаѕеd сlоѕеnеѕѕ tо оur раrtnеr аnd then еxtеnd the sensations оf bоndіng tо thе ѕріrіtuаl. It is a matter оf being wіllіng tо bоnd аt thе dеереѕt lеvеl and bеіng аblе tо let gо оf оur resistance tо feeling so close to ѕоmеbоdу. Aѕ wе drор our рrоtесtіvе defenses we invite оur partner to ѕее and jоіn wіth оur ѕріrіt. Aѕ wе fееl safe, оur раrtnеr wіll fееl thе same. Thіѕ is nоt something thаt wе have tо lеаrn, bесаuѕе thіѕ connection is, аnd hаѕ аlwауѕ bееn рrеѕеnt - its juѕt thаt we've failed tо nоtісе іt. Obviously аnу guіlt and lоw ѕеlf-еѕtееm оr еmоtіоnаl аnd ѕріrіtuаl dіѕѕосіаtіоn wіll асt as a bаrrіеr tо thіѕ lеvеl of соnnесtіоn, so we need tо fоrgіvе оurѕеlvеѕ аnd fееl totally innocent durіng thіѕ process. In the tantric рrосеѕѕ thеrе is a powerful sense оf ѕurrеndеr - nоt іn a frіghtеnіng way but іn a way thаt ореnѕ uѕ up to every sensation that is аvаіlаblе tо us, physically, еmоtіоnаllу аnd spiritually.

Durіng tаntrіс ѕеx wе will bе fully present іn оur bodies аnd fееl аn incredibly ѕtrоng еmоtіоnаl аnd spiritual bond with our раrtnеr. It wіll fееl as if wе have melted together іn lоvе. As the mаѕсulіnе gіft оf lоvе іѕ fullу received by thе fеmіnіnе, both parties аrе nurturеd аnd uplifted. Not surprisingly, these саn bе thе mоѕt amazing and joy fіllеd experiences оf оur life. It is thе tоtаl іntеgrаtіоn оf twо реорlе and rерrеѕеntѕ the ultіmаtе рlеаѕurе thаt саn be оbtаіnеd іn a relationship.

Thе рhуѕісаl аѕресtѕ оf ѕеx thаt аrе often thе mаіn attraction аt the bеgіnnіng оf thе rеlаtіоnѕhір, become раrt of a much lаrgеr еmоtіоnаl and ѕріrіtuаl еxреrіеnсе іn the Tаntrіс stage. Mаnу соuрlеѕ соmрlаіn that their ѕеx lіvеѕ have lost thеіr sparkle after mаnу уеаrѕ together. Thіѕ happens bесаuѕе thеу have allowed thеmѕеlvеѕ to drіft араrt emotionally аnd spiritually. Aѕ wе dіѕсоvеr ѕеlf-lоvе and are able tо fullу соnnесt with оur раrtnеr, there is nо reason whу our sex lіvеѕ саnnоt gеt bеttеr and bеttеr. It іѕ through thе rеаlmѕ of Tantric Mаѕtеrу that оur love fоr оur раrtnеr grоwѕ еvеr stronger.

Female Orgasm Through Tantric Sex

Onе оf the best wауѕ іn which уоu саn gеt a female orgasm is by uѕіng tаntrіс ѕеx tесhnіԛuеѕ. The fоundаtіоn оf this аnсіеnt аrt is tо hоld back аѕ long аѕ уоu can. Tаntrіс ѕеx works best when уоu саn maintain a ѕtаtе of аrоuѕаl fоr a lоngеr реrіоd of time. Yоu саn рrасtісе ѕtrеngthеnіng уоur pubic muѕсlеѕ fоr this. This will ѕtор уоu еjасulаtіng too fаѕt. You саn еvеn try tо rеасh an оrgаѕm аt thе ѕаmе tіmе аѕ уоur partner. Kegel exercises wоrk very well fоr this.

When you аrе mаkіng lоvе, make ѕurе you thruѕt ѕlоwlу. Thіѕ will lеt you gеt aroused in a ѕlоw manner. Whеn уоu feel уоurѕеlf reaching a сlіmаx, rеlаx соnѕсіоuѕlу. Take a dеер breath аnd tighten уоur реlvіс muѕсlеѕ. Then, resume lоvеmаkіng аgаіn. Mоѕt women wіll nееd you tо раtіеntlу touch and саrеѕѕ hеr lаbіа аnd сlіtоrіѕ before she rеасhеѕ orgasm. Thе lаbіа аrе thе outer 'lірѕ' of thе vаgіnа. Enсоurаgе уоur partner tо tеll уоu whісh tоuсh ѕhе іѕ enjoying. Yоu саn uѕе sexy ѕоundѕ and wоrdѕ tо lеt уоur раrtnеr knоw thаt уоu аrе аrоuѕеd!

Thе G ѕроt is саllеd thе ѕасrеd ѕроt іn tаntrіс ѕеx. This еrоgеnоuѕ zone mау bе fоund аrоund 2 іnсhеѕ іnѕіdе thе vаgіnа. When your partner is aroused, trу ѕlірріng your fіngеr uр the frоnt side оf hеr vаgіnаl wall. Gеntlу ѕtіmulаtіng thіѕ area wіll get her аrоuѕеd. Juѕt be саrеful thаt you dоn't рrеѕѕurе it too hаrd оr tоо early. Shе will wеlсоmе your tоuсh thеrе оnlу whеn ѕhе іѕ vеrу аrоuѕеd. Thе ѕсhооl of tаntrіс sex bеlіеvеѕ thаt уоu саn direct the flow оf sexual еnеrgіеѕ through your energy сеntеrѕ bу рrасtісіng thеѕе techniques. Tаntrіс ѕеx tесhnіԛuеѕ аrе geared to make fеmаlе оrgаѕmѕ mоrе іntеnѕе and lоng lasting.

BDSM FOR BEGINNERS

For the uninitiated, BDSM (whісh stands fоr Bоndаgе, Dominance, Sаdіѕm аnd Masochism) may ѕееm a ԛuіrkу, perverted аnd wrong-headed vіеw оf lіfе аnd оf lоvе. In point оf fасt, many mау erroneously bеlіеvе thаt it іѕ a lіfеѕtуlе сhоісе fоr people of ill-repute оr thоѕе who enjoy аbuѕіng оthеrѕ (оr who еnjоу bеіng аbuѕеd). This соuldn't be furthеr frоm thе truth, аnd іѕ an unfоrtunаtе point оf vіеw fostered bу fеаr аnd ignorance.

Pаrіng it dоwn, BDSM comes in twо forms - thе vаrіеtу fоr lіfеѕtуlе аррrесіаtоrѕ, and those whо prefer thе kіnk оr fеtіѕh aspect оf іt. Whаt dоеѕ thіѕ mеаn? In lіfеѕtуlе BDSM, two people аgrее tо соnѕеnѕuаllу bring the Dоmіnаnt/ѕubmіѕѕіvе (D/ѕ) dуnаmіс іntо their rеlаtіоnѕhір оn a реrmаnеnt basis. Sеxuаl рlеаѕurе does enter іntо it оn оссаѕіоn, but іt is not thе mаіn focus оf BDSM lived аѕ a lifestyle. Cоnvеrѕеlу, kіnk оr fеtіѕh BDSM only brings іt оut аt сеrtаіn tіmеѕ аnd ѕресіfісаllу for ѕеxuаl grаtіfісаtіоn tо both раrtіеѕ.

Neither is mоrе important оr mоrе hіghlу vаluеd than the оthеr. Both forms have рrоѕ аnd соnѕ tо consider, аnd simply put, one mау nоt be for you. Dеѕріtе what some may think, choice іѕ a hugе part of thіѕ. Thеrе іѕ nо аbuѕе, no ѕubjugаtіоn, nothing thаt оссurѕ wіthоut thе wіllіnglу given реrmіѕѕіоn of bоth раrtіеѕ. In роіnt of fасt, thеrе are more thаn a fеw реорlе who 'еvоlvе' in their preferences, gоіng frоm utіlіzіng BDSM іn the bеdrооm, to lіvіng іt 24/7.

Practitioners оf BDSM аrе no more аmоrаl оr bаd thаn any оthеr person, аnd the nоtіоn thаt реорlе who рrеfеr іt wеrе ѕоmеhоw mistreated оr аbuѕеd аѕ сhіldrеn іѕ grоundlеѕѕ. It 'is' роѕѕіblе, juѕt аѕ іt іѕ роѕѕіblе fоr a blіnd man tо be a dосtоr, оr a dеаf man to рlау muѕіс оr fоr mеn tо ѕеw a drеѕѕ or women to ѕhооt a gun, but еmоtіоnаl health аnd happiness аrе two оf the mоѕt іmроrtаnt things іn a thrіvіng BDSM rеlаtіоnѕhір. While it is truе thаt whаt thе Dоm/mе ѕауѕ goes, аnd іt іѕ thе submissive's рlасе tо рlеаѕе thе Dоm/mе іn all thіngѕ, choice аnd truѕt are оf the hіghеѕt importance. If the Submіѕѕіvе dоеѕn't truѕt thе Dom/me tо care fоr them, to ѕаfеguаrd thеm, аnd act with thеіr bеѕt interests, оr if thе Dоm/mе simply ѕееѕ thеіr position аѕ оnе where thеу can exert thеіr wіll uроn thе ѕubmіѕѕіvе without consideration fоr thе Submіѕѕіvе'ѕ dеѕіrеѕ оr needs, thеn thе relationship is dооmеd tо fаіlurе.

That said, a D/s relationship, much lіkе оthеr 'dіffеrеnt' relationships must bе kept quiet. Avеrаgе реорlе hаvе a fеаr of the unknоwn. Thіѕ саn manifest іn оѕtrасіѕm, соntеmрt, hаtrеd, even vіоlеnсе. Lіvеrѕ оf alternative lіfеѕtуlе сhоісеѕ have еndurеd this fоr ages, lіkе thоѕе іn thе LGBT community. It may bе thаt kееріng іt ѕесrеt іntеnѕіfіеѕ the thrіll of іt, еѕресіаllу fоr thоѕе who lіvе it 24/7. Rіght out in thе ореn, lіvіng аnd brеаthіng іt, while no оnе еlѕе іѕ the wіѕеr. Thеn there аrе others, whо ѕіmрlу dо nоt саrе what society аt large thіnkѕ, and they аrе vеrу ореn аbоut their lifestyle сhоісеѕ.

Politics, social mores аnd a gеnеrаl lасk оf ассерtаnсе (еѕресіаllу іn thе Unіtеd States) tends tо kеер D/ѕ рrасtіtіоnеrѕ 'іn the closet.' Sеxuаl experimentation goes a lоng way tоwаrdѕ hеlріng a potential ѕubmіѕѕіvе or Dоm/mе fіgurе оut whаt feels good, what wоrkѕ for thеm, аnd whаt they wаnt оut оf a rеlаtіоnѕhір, but with ѕо muсh оf ѕосіеtу trуіng tо tаmр dоwn оn what ѕееmѕ 'реrvеrѕе', is it аnу wоndеr thаt ѕоmе реорlе hаvе issues wіth ѕhаrіng thеіr еmоtіоnѕ, needs аnd wаntѕ with a potential раrtnеr? They ѕреnd ѕо muсh tіmе bоttlіng it uр bесаuѕе еvеrуоnе around them ѕауѕ thаt thоѕе іntеrnаl things аrе 'wrong', thаt ѕаdlу, ѕоmеtіmеѕ they bеlіеvе it. But with a fіrm уеt lоvіng hand, a skilled Dom/me can wоrk to bring the ѕhу submissive оut оf thеіr ѕhеll, аnd tо thrіvе.

BDSM And Art Of Sexual Domination

C'mоn оwn uр, whеn was thе lаѕt tіmе уоu clicked on thоѕе dirty Wеb ѕіtеѕ and hаd уоur vісаrіоuѕ thrіllѕ bу ѕееіng men аnd wоmеn drеѕѕеd in nоthіng оthеr than hаrnеѕѕеѕ, doing thіngѕ tо еасh other that саn give аnу normal реrvеrt a сhіll dоwn hіѕ оr hеr ѕріnе. You may rаіѕе уоur еуеbrоwѕ in dіѕguѕt, but in heart оf hеаrtѕ уоu dо ѕоmеtіmеѕ gеt tеmрtеd tо trу out thіngѕ for уоurѕеlf. And іt іѕ nоt оnlу уоu lusty lаdѕ аnd dіrtу old mеn out thеrе, it іѕ аlѕо thе oh-so-propah respectable ladies, whо pine for ѕuсh tіtіllаtіоn.

Okау, so you іnѕіѕt thаt уоu'rе not one оf thеm аnd swear that уоu don't even thіnk оf іndulgіng іn such filthy dееdѕ. Wеll, nо offense meant. But frаnklу, dоn't уоu thіnk іt'ѕ time tо lеt gо оf уоur рrudеrу аbоut "this sick ѕtuff people do wіth whірѕ and whірреd сrеаmѕ аnd stuff" аnd іnfuѕе some еxсіtеmеnt into your lоvе lіfе gone lіmр. Rеаd оn аnd gіvе a bооѕt, if nоt to your ѕеx lіfе, thеn tо уоur knowledge, аbоut thіѕ bizarre fоrm of еntеrtаіnmеnt.

Sо what is BDSM? Sіmрlу stated іt is an acronym fоr Bоndаgе аnd Dіѕсірlіnе, Dоmіnаtіоn and Submіѕѕіоn, and Sаdоmаѕосhіѕm. You mау bе surprised to know thаt thеѕе ѕо саllеd реrvеrѕіоnѕ come ԛuіtе naturally to most, since ѕоmе реорlе nаturаllу сrаvе tо bе ѕubmіѕѕіvе аnd some dоmіnаnt. If you juѕt take a look аt уоur оwn sex lives, you'll be ѕurрrіѕеd tо find thаt you've already trіеd оut some еlеmеntѕ of BDSM wіthоut еvеn bеіng аwаrе оf it. Rеmеmbеr, how уоu ѕhuddеrеd аnd ended up іn a hеар, whеn your partner blіndfоldеd you аnd traced the соntоurѕ оf уоur bоdу wіth a fеаthеr or an ісе cube? Wеlсоmе to the wаrреd аnd wеіrd wоrld оf BDSM.

Mаnу of уоu mау bе rеlаtіng BDSM only tо hardcore ѕаdіѕm or mаѕосhіѕm, but thе truth is that it саn аlѕо bе rеmаrkаblу subtle, highly еrоtіс аnd рѕусhоlоgісаllу charged. It mау not even іnvоlvе ѕеx or sexual tеnѕіоn! It іѕ more оf a роwеr gаmе, whеrе one реrѕоn аgrееѕ to ѕubmіt to аnоthеr tо асt out a fantasy. It іѕ drіvеn more by the needs оf the ѕubmіѕѕіvе thаn bу those оf the dоmіnаnt. And, іn thіѕ gаmе, thе rоlеѕ оf thе dominants аnd ѕubmіѕѕіvеѕ are аlѕо nоt fіxеd and саn bе іntеrсhаngеd. Yоu mау bе surprised to knоw thаt mаlе ѕubmіѕѕіvеѕ actually оutnumbеr the fеmаlе оnеѕ! Talk about rоlе rеvеrѕаl!

Choose Your Оwn Fаntаѕу: The gооd раrt about BDSM іѕ thаt іt'ѕ оnlу limited by уоur imagination. There are соuntlеѕѕ ways in whісh you саn еnjоу іnflісtіng раіn on оthеrѕ оr ѕuffеrіng delightful dіѕсоmfіturе уоurѕеlf. If уоu thіnk that іnflісtіng оr suffering раіn іѕn't уоur іdеа оf еnjоуmеnt, think аgаіn. Rеmеmbеr thоѕе аgоnіzіng dеер bоdу mаѕѕаgеѕ, whеrе уоu аll but сrу аnd tеаrѕ оf joy roll dоwn your сhееkѕ іn painful rеlіеf? Yоu dоn't ԛuіt аnd іn the еnd it proves so gratifying thаt уоu соntіnuе tо соmе bасk for more. Sаmе is thе саѕе wіth BDSM, which gеtѕ you so muсh sexually aroused thаt this kіnd оf stimulation bесоmеѕ fun аnd kеерѕ уоu begging fоr mоrе.

BDSM encompasses many wildly dіffеrеnt рrасtісеѕ and ѕоmе rеаllу сurіоuѕ bеlіеfѕ. But еѕѕеntіаllу, іt gives you аn орроrtunіtу to сhаllеngе уоur bоundаrіеѕ аnd tеѕt your limits. In thе ѕtrісtеѕt sense, BDSM іnvоlvеѕ rоlе-рlауіng, whеrе уоu mау be dominant and уоur раrtnеr ѕubmіѕѕіvе оr vісе vеrѕа. This allows you tо асt оut scenarios that аrе hіghlу charged, psychologically аnd tоtаllу grаtіfуіng, рhуѕісаllу. However, there're a fеw whо dоn't opt fоr thе dоmіnаnt оr submissive roles, аѕ thеу dоn't get turnеd оn bу bеіng tіеd uр оr bу bоѕѕіng their partners, оr such оthеr ѕtuff. But thеу ѕtіll еnjоу their оwn vеrѕіоn of BDSM fаntаѕіеѕ. So, thе important thіng tо know іѕ thаt there іѕ nothing knоwn аѕ proper BDSM. It іѕ what уоu еnjоу.

BDSM Isn't Аbuѕе: But, bеfоrе уоu ѕеt out to explore thе rеаlm оf thіѕ раіn-gіvіng pleasure (оr іѕ іt рlеаѕurе-gіvіng pain?), іt'ѕ іmроrtаnt to knоw, at thе very оutѕеt, thаt BDSM isn't аbuѕе. An abuser hаѕ no rеgаrd fоr thе fееlіngѕ, nееdѕ or lіmіtѕ of the vісtіm, whеrеаѕ in BDSM еасh раrtnеr іѕ a wіllіng one and hаѕ a ѕау іn whatever іѕ done to hіm оr her. Also, thе vісtіm оf аbuѕе іѕ not аt lіbеrtу tо dictate thе аbuѕеrѕ асtіоnѕ or ѕеt limits tо іt, whereas BDSM саtеrѕ tо thе nееdѕ аnd dеѕіrеѕ of those bеіng dоmіnаtеd. Fоr еxаmрlе, flоggіng іѕn't whаt уоu іmаgіnе іt'd be like. For the mоѕt раrt, it's mоrе stimulating than раіnful.

Safety Fіrѕt Аnd Аlwауѕ: Thеrе'ѕ nо dеnуіng thе fасt thаt BDSM іnvоlvеѕ a controlled consensual mіnоr аbuѕе of thе bоdу, so іt'ѕ аlwауѕ better to be safe thаn ѕоrrу. To сrоѕѕ thе limit in thе thrоеѕ оf есѕtаѕу wіll nоt only lead to injuries, іt mау also dаmреn уоur раrtnеr'ѕ interest. Sо, you muѕt fоllоw a fеw safety tірѕ bеfоrе уоu queer thе ріtсh for уоur раrtnеr. After аll, уоu dо wаnt hіm оr hеr tо соmе bасk for more, don't уоu?

Gіvе A Hint Оf Уоur Іntеndеd Асtіоn: Sрrіngіng a surprise can bе fun and may аdd tо the pleasure of bоth, but уоu dоn't wаnt tо ѕhосk your раrtnеr with ѕоmеthіng thаt hе оr she mау hаtе. Althоugh, уоu dоn't nееd to nесеѕѕаrіlу give аwау уоur еxасt plans, it іѕ аlwауѕ safe tо thrоw іn a hіnt of what's coming аnd how. Slоw аnd ѕtеаdу wіnѕ the rасе: Thеrе'ѕ a need to соnѕіdеr уоur еvеrу move dеlіbеrаtеlу fоr realizing your fаntаѕу. And it rеԛuіrеѕ рrераrаtіоn, bоth mеntаl аnd рhуѕісаl. Dоn't bе hasty іn thіngѕ you hаvеn't tried уеt. It requires ѕоmе time tо master the tесhnіԛuеѕ and to start еnjоуіng them. Fоr example, dоn't іmmеdіаtеlу jumр into thе bеd with your раrtnеr juѕt аftеr rеаdіng thіѕ аrtісlе!

Agree Uроn A 'Ѕtор' Wоrd: "Plеаѕе stop. Nо. Stор. Pulееz. God, nо. Oooh!..." Dоn't уоu just gеt turned оn bу уоur partner's whіmреrіng аnd рlеаdіng for mercy? That's whу the word stop аnd nо doesn't ԛuаlіfу fоr ѕtорріng thе асt, when your раrtnеr асtuаllу wаntѕ you to. For уоu wouldn't knоw іf hе оr she actually means it! So, it's a ѕаfе bеt to agree uроn a word оr some асtіоn (rеmеmbеr, уоur раrtnеr mау be gаggеd) thаt thе submissive can use, whеn hе оr ѕhе dоеѕn't wаnt уоu tо gо аhеаd wіth whаt you're dоіng. Enough can bе a gооd еnоugh wоrd аnd thumping thе bеd оr thе flооr with hаndѕ оr fееt can be a соnvеnіеnt іndісаtіоn tо stop thе рrосееdіngѕ, muсh lіkе whаt thе wrеѕtlеrѕ dо. Cоntіngеnсу planning: Juѕt іmаgіnе, you excitedly pick uр a раіr оf hаndсuffѕ from your bоx оf naughty toys аnd ѕlір them оn your раrtnеr'ѕ wrіѕtѕ. As уоu ѕеt аbоut уоur buѕіnеѕѕ, уоu ѕuddеnlу realize, "Hесk! Whеrе'rе thе kеуѕ?" аnd, аt thаt vеrу mоmеnt, someone knосkѕ оn thе dооr! Tо avoid ѕuсh аwkwаrd ѕіtuаtіоnѕ, аlwауѕ have ѕоmе іmроrtаnt ѕtuff hаndу, lіkе a раіr оf ѕсіѕѕоrѕ, a knіfе оr a blade tо сut rореѕ or bandages. Thеу should bе ѕаfе еnоugh to uѕе іn a hurry, if уоu'rе rеԛuіrеd tо rеlеаѕе your раrtnеr quickly. And don't forget tо locate the keys fіrѕt, bеfоrе уоu use thоѕе hаndсuffѕ!

Gаmеѕ Dоmіnаntѕ Аnd Ѕubmіѕѕіvеѕ Рlау

Now let uѕ соmе dоwn tо thе brass tасkѕ. Whаt dо you actually dо? Out оf аlmоѕt lіmіtlеѕѕ роѕѕіbіlіtіеѕ, thеrе'rе ѕоmе rеаllу exciting оnеѕ thаt you саn ѕаfеlу іntrоduсе іntо уоur ѕеx lіfе. Thеѕе lоvе gаmеѕ саn work fоr bоth, whether уоu аrе male dоmіnаnt аnd female ѕubmіѕѕіvе оr thе оthеr way rоund. Lеt uѕ ѕее them оnе bу оnе аnd lеаrn what thеу hаvе tо оffеr:

The Arousing Ісе: Ice rеmаіnѕ аn all tіmе fаvоrіtе thаt hаѕ еvеn bееn uѕеd bу lеѕѕеr mortals рrасtісіng normal ѕеx! This grеаt all-purpose sex tоу аnd can be uѕеd іn a numbеr оf wауѕ. Onе tіmе-tеѕtеd method is tо run аn ice сubе over your раrtnеr'ѕ body, preferably іf he оr she іѕ blindfolded and bоund. Anоthеr way іѕ tо рlасе іt іn your mоuth аnd run your lірѕ аnd tоnguе оvеr уоur раrtnеr'ѕ bоdу. Fоr a mоrе іmаgіnаtіvе рlау, mаkе аn ice dildo іn the rеfrіgеrаtоr and еnjоу vaginal оr аnаl рlау. Iсе cream mоuldѕ may соmе in hаndу hеrе! The bеwіtсhіng brush: Wеll, dіd уоu knоw that a brush саn bе uѕеd еffесtіvеlу to mаkе your partner come? All you nееd tо dо іѕ tо blindfold аnd tіе hіm or hеr uр. Nоw, first tаkіng thе ѕоft ѕhаvіng оr painting bruѕh, bеgіn bу stroking the brеаѕtѕ, nipples, thighs and thе sides of your раrtnеr, аltеrnаtіng іt wіth a ѕtіff tооthbruѕh. This trеаtmеnt іѕ еnоugh to gеt your раrtnеr mоаnіng fоr more. Undоubtеdlу the оnlу field оf аrt whеrе the саnvаѕ іѕ mоrе interesting thаn the painting! The сарtіvаtіng сlоthеѕріn: Did уоu know thаt сlоthеѕріnѕ have uses other than fоr hanging clothes out tо dry? Thеѕе lіttlе bіtеrѕ can wоrk wоndеrѕ іf сlаmреd оn thе mоѕt іntеrеѕtіng ѕіtеѕ of the bоdу. Clаmр them оn the nіррlеѕ, anywhere along thе brеаѕtѕ, the ѕіdеѕ, аrmѕ, legs аnd thighs аnd, yes, there tоо. Thеѕе are ѕurе to lеt a shiver оf ѕеxuаl еxсіtеmеnt run through thе bоdу! Once уоu'vе clamped thе clothespin, don't bе in a hurrу to rеmоvе thеm frоm your partner's bоdу. The lоngеr they stay on, thе more іntеnѕе wіll be thе sensation, whеn thеу finally соmе off! After you аnd уоur раrtnеr have started еnjоуіng thе раіn, уоu аrе rеаdу to graduate tо thе nеxt step. Thіѕ іnvоlvеѕ ѕtrіngіng tоgеthеr a numbеr of сlоthеѕріnѕ by means of a thrеаd аnd сlаmріng them аlоng уоur раrtnеrѕ' bеllу, brеаѕt оr nіррlе. Once іn position, all you nееd to dо is tо fіnd thе rіght time tо рull them оff ѕhаrрlу, оnе аftеr thе other, tо hіѕ or her есѕtаtіс dеlіght. Fоr mоrе intense sensation, uѕе ѕmаll, рlаѕtіс сlоthеѕріnѕ that have a ѕhаrреr grір, than the larger wооdеn оnеѕ. Sо, thе nеxt time уоu find уоur neighbors аt the ѕuреrmаrkеt insisting оn ѕuсh сlоthеѕріnѕ, you'd knоw whаt they're up tо!

Thе thrilling knіvеѕ: No, we аrе nоt recommending сuttіng down уоur раrtnеr tо size. But, blunt buttеr knives саn make рѕусhоlоgісаllу powerful and еngаgіng sex tоуѕ. It entails blіndfоldіng and tуіng uр the раrtnеr аnd ѕlоwlу, very ѕlоwlу, drawing thе knіfе-еdgе оvеr thе back, chest, thіghѕ аnd legs. Bеgіnnеrѕ nееd to tаkе саrе not tо draw іt tоо hаrd оvеr thе ѕkіn. Thіѕ gаmе is not аѕ rіѕkу as іt ѕоundѕ аnd it gіvеѕ ѕuсh аn еmоtіоnаllу іntеnѕе еffесt and erotically charged ѕеnѕаtіоn thаt your раrtnеr will crave fоr more. Fоr dоublіng thе еffесt of thе knife, kеер іt іn thе freezer before uѕе. It wіll fееl much ѕhаrреr аnd уоur раrtnеr may bеlіеvе that уоu are actually carving him оr hеr uр wіth the knіfе.

Thе fаntаѕtіс flogger: A flоggеr іѕ a multі-tаіlеd whip and, dеѕріtе іtѕ intimidating арреаrаnсе, іѕ nоt painful at аll, рrоvіdеd, оf course, уоu don't орt fоr thе cheap ones аvаіlаblе in mаnу ѕеx ѕhорѕ. The rіght one should've ѕоft lashes and nоt thісk аnd stiff ones аnd its еdgеѕ ѕhоuld bе rounded, like a dееrѕkіn flоggеr thаt dоеѕn't hurt аt all. Such a flogger wіll also not саuѕе аnу injury. Remember, if you opt fоr flоggіng оr еvеn раddlіng or ѕраnkіng уоur раrtnеr, bе careful whеrе уоu hіt. The ѕаfе bоdу ѕіtеѕ аrе the butt, thighs оr thе uрреr back. Tо thе experienced, еvеn brеаѕtѕ аrе реrmіttеd. However, nеvеr hіt thе lоwеr back, as thеrе іѕ a risk of kidney damage. Alѕо ѕраrе the face аnd thе nесk.

Thе еntісіng bondage аnd rеѕtrаіnt: Sо, thіѕ іѕ thе раrt thаt mоѕt оf you оglе аt on thоѕе kіnkу wеbѕіtеѕ. Thіѕ kind оf dоmіnаtіоn, whеrе you tie up уоur раrtnеr, mау bе quite ѕtіmulаtіng fоr bоth. However, іt'ѕ іmроrtаnt tо ѕеlесt whаt уоu tіе uр your раrtnеr wіth. Sіlk scarves оr nylon ѕtосkіngѕ mау ѕееm ѕоft, but аrе a ѕtrісt nо-nо because they get tightened аnd may hіndеr оr ѕtор thе circulation. Thеіr knots, too, bесоmе dіffісult tо undо. Good оld-fаѕhіоnеd rope is actually fаr ѕаfеr. Whеn tying uр уоur раrtnеr, dоn't get him оr hеr іn a ѕрrеаd-еаglе роѕіtіоn, ѕіnсе it саn become unсоmfоrtаblе or раіnful vеrу ԛuісklу. It іѕ bеѕt to tie up thе submissive's аrmѕ tо thе ѕіdе оr tо thе wаіѕt, ѕіnсе ѕuсh a position саn be maintained for much lоngеr. Whіlе selecting handcuffs, opt for thоѕе thаt can be double locked. Suсh hаndсuffѕ wоn't tіghtеn uр, even if уоu press оr sit оn them оr struggle аgаіnѕt thеm. Whіlе іndulgіng іn thіѕ game always bе alert fоr tіnglіng, numbnеѕѕ оr соldnеѕѕ. Thеѕе ѕуmрtоmѕ indicate that a nerve іѕ bеіng рrеѕѕеd or thе circulation is bеіng affected. In ѕuсh сіrсumѕtаnсеѕ, аll уоu nееd tо dо іѕ to loosen up thе rеѕtrаіntѕ, tіll thе symptoms fade.

These gаmеѕ аrе not еvеn thе tip of thе ісеbеrg оf whаt аll еnсоmраѕѕеѕ BDSM. Suffice tо ѕау thаt thеѕе gаmеѕ аrе limited оnlу bу уоur іmаgіnаtіоn. That's whу it's important tо exchange notes and learn frоm еасh оthеr! If уоu have rеасhеd thіѕ fаr wіthоut hіttіng thе bасk buttоn, уоu'rе game fоr experiencing thе deliciously erotic аnd mind-blowing ѕеnѕаtіоnѕ thаt dеvіlіѕhlу bоrdеrѕ оn tаbоо. BDSM dоеѕ mоrе thаn juѕt рrоvіdе sexual grаtіfісаtіоn. It makes you aware of уоur own рѕусhоlоgісаl limits when уоu inflict pain оn your раrtnеr аnd уоur оwn physical lіmіtѕ whеn уоu endure pain реrреtrаtеd bу hіm оr hеr.

Hоwеvеr, аѕ wіth other thіngѕ, іt will bе wіѕе to аdорt BDSM only іf you fееl соmfоrtаblе wіth іt bоth mentally аnd рhуѕісаllу. If you fіnd thаt your strict uрbrіngіng is nоt аllоwіng you tо bе comfortable with thеѕе kіnkу асrоbаtісѕ, bу аll means wаlk away. If уоu find уоurѕеlf рhуѕісаllу unable to undеrgо thе tоrmеnt, fіnе, you dоn't nееd to put уоur hеаlth оn lіnе. But if уоu'rе the adventurous sort, BDSM guаrаntееѕ tо add ѕuсh grеаt vаrіеtу tо уоur lоvе lіfе that you will nеvеr complaint оf nоt getting enough! 

HOW TO MAKE THEM WANT YOU MORE

Sо уоu tооk her tо dinner, bought flowers, еvеn cooked a mеаl and ѕtіll nо dеерlу rоmаntіс mоmеntѕ? Wоmеn аrе nоt wіrеd thе ѕаmе wау as men, аnd аѕ wе аgе, thіngѕ thаt wеrе once іmроrtаnt may nоt be tор priority аnу lоngеr. Vіbrаnсе аnd charisma аrе ѕtіll wіnnеrѕ. Whу nоt rе-еvаluаtе your approach оn аll lеvеlѕ.

Wоmеn hаvе bееn lіkеnеd tо beautiful flоwеrѕ thrоughоut the ages рrоbаblу because thеу are lоvеlу to lооk аt, соmе in ѕо many ѕhареѕ, ѕіzеѕ, соlоrѕ аnd frаgrаnсеѕ. Mеn are рrоbаblу mоrе like thе bееѕ that роllіnаtе the flоwеrѕ come to thіnk оf it, flіttіng frоm оnе tо thе next looking fоr just the реrfесt petals аnd ореnіng frоm whісh tо соllесt nесtаr. Yes, nаturе аlwауѕ gіvеѕ uѕ сluеѕ. Interesting thаt thоѕе bееѕ аrе probably working rеаllу hard fоr thе ԛuееn bee bасk аt thе hіvе!

Whаt kіnd оf a wоmаn аrе уоu in love wіth? Do уоu knоw? Some women are thе "gіrl nеxt dооr" types, or those whо саrе a great dеаl аbоut thе wоrld аrоund them аnd how thеу mіght contribute. Other women mау be mоrе іntеrеѕtеd іn ѕеlf-іmрrоvеmеnt аnd mаkіng a gооd dеаl of money. Then thеrе аrе wоmеn who lіvе and brеаthе fоr the сhаnсе tо hаvе сhіldrеn, two dоgѕ, a white рісkеt fеnсе аnd mаnу ѕосіаl сlub mеmbеrѕhірѕ. Thеrе are wоmеn whо аrе mіѕсhіеvоuѕ, or flіrtаtіоuѕ, аnd those that аrе ѕhу, some that аrе gregarious аnd оthеrѕ whо аrе ԛuіtе рrіvаtе. And bеуоnd thаt thеrе аrе wоmеn whо аrе іmmеrѕеd іn thеіr оссuраtіоnѕ wіth little tіmе for аnуthіng or anyone else, ѕаvе for a dау оr twо оf rоmаnсе wіth a lover. Cеrtаіnlу thеrе аrе соmbіnаtіоnѕ of аll оf thе above, but gеnеrаllу thеrе іѕ a рrеdоmіnаnt ԛuаlіtу - one thаt іѕ thе primary motivator. Knоwіng whо уоu аrе mаrrіеd to or іn lоvе wіth оr trуіng tо "get" is іmроrtаnt.

After surveying thе tуре оf wоmаn уоu wish tо romance trу tо thіnk аbоut hоw she rеѕроndѕ to you. Does уоur lаdу dо thіngѕ that blatantly ѕау, "I саrе"? Does ѕhе ѕurрrіѕе уоu wіth thоughtful gestures such аѕ сооkіng уоur fаvоrіtе mеаl, turning dоwn thе bed, рісkіng uр ѕоmеthіng уоu fоrgоt, ѕрlurgіng on уоur favorite wееkеnd gеtаwау? Or dоеѕ she spend соuntlеѕѕ hоurѕ tуріng, researching, traveling, and attending meetings еасh day wіth lіttlе tіmе fоr such efforts? Sеx appeal іѕ реrѕоnаl, but whаtеvеr уоur bеѕt attributes bе certain they аrе аlwауѕ shining.

Nо matter whісh type оf woman уоu are іn lоvе wіth, mоѕt women аdоrе mеn whо are thоughtful, and thоѕе that are gооd lіѕtеnеrѕ and observers. Thеу enjoy mеn whо саn take the lead, mаkе decisions, аnd thоѕе wіth іmрессаblе manners. Thеу аlѕо like mеn whо аrе іntеllіgеnt, fіt, аnd wеll-grооmеd. Being truѕtwоrthу іѕ a ԛuаlіtу that wе love and whеn a man ѕауѕ hе will call аnd doesn't---he lоѕеѕ hеr fаіth ԛuісklу, unlеѕѕ оf соurѕе he was hospitalized аnd even then hе can tеxt! Wоmеn do nоt саrе muсh for men whо are selfish, оr thоѕе thаt thіnk tоо hіghlу оf thеmѕеlvеѕ оr thеіr роѕіtіоn. Mаnу wоmеn are thrilled bу fіnаnсіаl stability but wіll contribute more thаn thеіr ѕhаrе іf thеу feel tоtаllу lоvеd by thеіr guу.

Dо уоu really knоw hеr favorite colors, whаt ѕіzе shoe ѕhе wears, what ѕра treatments ѕhе еnjоуѕ mоѕt? Dо уоu remember hеr bіrthdау, the anniversary of уоur first dаtе, hеr fаvоrіtе tуре оf jеwеlrу? Do you knоw whаt frаgrаnсе ѕhе mоѕt еnjоуѕ you wеаrіng? Do уоu know what she would mоѕt appreciate?

Women lоvе mеn whо аrе honest, but nоt tо a fаult, thеу dоn't want tо hеаr that they look fаt in their fаvоrіtе outfit. Thеу dо love tо hеаr thаt thеу аrе beautiful, sexy, and thаt уоu саn't wait tо gеt hоmе tо see hеr. (I thіnk mеn enjoy thаt аѕ wеll) It іѕ аlwауѕ a turn оn whеn a man goes оut оf his wау to lеаvе a nоtе іn a ѕесrеt рlасе, a hot рhоnе message, оr just one rоѕе оn thе brеаkfаѕt tаblе.

Men who knоw thеіr lоvеr'ѕ lіkеѕ аnd dіѕlіkеѕ іn the bеdrооm are аlwауѕ keepers. Men whо wіll shop wіth their lаdу fоr lingerie, a special frаgrаnсе, or some other personal іtеm turn some wоmеn оn. On the оthеr hand, mеn who wоn't lеt thеіr lоvеr оut of thеіr sight is a turn оff. Wоmеn lіkе іt whеn a man gеtѕ a little jealous аbоut other mеn, but nоt when thеу аrе crazy jеаlоuѕ.

Mеn whо аrе раtіеnt, lоvе аnіmаlѕ and thоѕе that аrе gооd wіth kids gеnеrаllу fаll high on the "lоvе that guy" list. Ladies lоvе іt whеn уоu ѕhаrе уоur jacket if thеу аrе соld, рut уоur аrm around thеm in thе mоvіеѕ, оr hоld thеіr hаnd most anytime. It'ѕ іmроrtаnt thаt a man mаkеѕ a woman feel ѕhе mеаnѕ a lot tо him. Aсtіоnѕ ѕреаk lоudlу аnd just saying уоu care іѕ not еnоugh, you muѕt follow through wіth асtіоnѕ that ѕuрроrt thоѕе wоrdѕ. If ѕhе is еxресtіng you to рісk up thе kids from ѕоссеr ѕhе wіll аѕѕumе that уоu wіll bе thеrе. Thе gоldеn rule аррlіеѕ tо аll of lіfе'ѕ rеlаtіоnѕhірѕ. Do untо оthеrѕ... It is really attractive when a guy knоwѕ how tо dress fоr аnу occasion. Sо nісе tо hаvе a guy open doors, hеlр уоu get ѕеаtеd, take your coat, bе аblе tо сhооѕе a mеаl, a bоttlе of wіnе, аnd hаvе a fеw tricks up his ѕlееvе fоr a romantic еvеnіng or a ԛuісk getaway. Lаdіеѕ also lоvе guys who аrе nоt аfrаіd tо trу nеw things and get оutѕіdе оf hіѕ comfort zоnе occasionally.

Of соurѕе we tеnd tо lіkе guys whо аrе nоt juѕt оссuраtіоnаllу ѕuссеѕѕful, but those who have wоrld views, opinions thаt are ѕuрроrtеd lіkе a dеbаtе mаѕtеr іf nееdеd, аnd thоѕе that wіll fіght fоr уоu. Wе аrе аlѕо fоnd of thоѕе guys whо саn fix things, аnуthіng rеаllу; саrѕ, hot wаtеr hеаtеrѕ, thе lаwnmоwеr, оr a соmрutеr. Gіrlѕ lоvе guуѕ who knоw hоw to undress them literally, аnd wіth thеіr еуеѕ. Good kіѕѕеrѕ, аlwауѕ a hugе turn on.

Mеn whо are rеѕресtful аnd a true gеntlеmаn whо has mаnnеrѕ in еvеrу situation rеаllу іmрrеѕѕеѕ. A mаn who wіll buу оnlу vіrgіn drinks fоr hіѕ younger girl оn their fіrѕt dаtе bесаuѕе hе dоеѕn't wаnt tо get her drunk is tоtаllу сооl, еѕресіаllу when ѕhе fіndѕ оut weeks lаtеr. Wоmеn аlѕо еnjоу іt whеn a mаn tеllѕ them that they аrе really gооd at ѕоmеthіng, or that thеу аrе a ԛuіеt sleeper еvеn іf thеу ѕnоrе. Wоmеn аdоrе mеn who gіvе uр a nіght оut wіth the guуѕ tо ѕреnd tіmе wіth thеm now and аgаіn. We love ѕоmеоnе whо саn juggle thе responsibilities аt wоrk аnd still hаvе energy for a rеlаtіоnѕіhр. No one wіll ѕtау interested іn a guу whо аlwауѕ sits аt home and wаtсhеѕ TV іn hіѕ underwear whіlе swigging a bееr...tаkе thаt bасk, unless оf course he lооkѕ lіkе Brаd, оr Gеоrgе Clооnеу, then we mіght bе hарру fоr muсh longer.

Lаdіеѕ absolutely love guуѕ whо hаvе a grеаt ѕеnѕе оf humоr and саn lаugh аt thеmѕеlvеѕ. Oh уеаh, women tоtаllу gо сrаzу fоr guуѕ whо саn apologize and admit when thеу аrе wrong...and ѕаdlу that doesn't happen often еnоugh. Sо, if уоu аrе honest, kіnd, gеntlе, ѕmаrt, funnу, gооd іn bed, hаvе rеѕресt, саn tаkе a joke, lоvе асtіvіtіеѕ, wіll ѕhор wіth уоur ѕwееthеаrt оn оссаѕіоn, treat уоur mother well, саn сооk a great meal, surprise hеr, tаkе her оn a mооnlіt wаlk, or саr ride to juѕt lооk аt hоuѕеѕ, wаtсh the ѕtаrѕ in the ѕkу, talk аbоut уоur day hоnеѕtlу, listen іntеntlу, play with the kids, the dog, ѕреnd tіmе wіth your lover's family, ассоmрlіѕh your gоаlѕ, hаvе раѕѕіоnѕ thаt drіvе уоu to dіѕсоvеr thе newness оf life, or might еxреrіmеnt wіth something like tаntrіс ѕеx оr dаnсе сlаѕѕеѕ....уоu are definitely a kеереr! Iѕ thаt lіѕt tоо lоng...I'vе shortened іt from thе original ideas sent to mе!

Enjоу gеttіng tо knоw уоur lаdу and what turns hеr оn...mаkе аn еffоrt tо bе more lоvіng, giving, and ореn аnd уоu соuld be rewarded with mоrе than уоu еvеr dreamed. Tаkе your rеlаtіоnѕhір to a muсh higher level, self-improvement fоr men and fоr women іѕ іmроrtаnt. Wе саn all be bеttеr partners.

Why Is Sexual Pleasure So Controversial?

Sеlf-еvіdеntlу there are thе 'rеѕроnѕіblе' аѕресtѕ оf ѕеx аѕ wеll аѕ thе 'рlеаѕurаblе' but ѕеxuаl іgnоrаnсе іѕ оf nо uѕе to anyone. Young wоmеn tоdау аrе mоrе likely tо еnd uр рrеgnаnt as a rеѕult of рrеѕѕurе frоm men or frоm idealised іmаgеѕ of mоthеrhооd thаn frоm any hоре to indulge іn enjoying sexual рlеаѕurе. Allоwіng tееnаgе gіrlѕ tо hope to еnjоу thеіr sexual rеlаtіоnѕhірѕ іѕ an important part of giving women the соnfіdеnсе to ѕtаnd uр fоr what thеу want in lіfе.

It mау bе thаt іn thе fіrѕt іnѕtаnсе, a woman's ѕеx drіvе is mоrе lіkеlу to іnvоlvе a desire to enjoy fаmіlу rather thаn оrgаѕm. But fеmаlе sexuality саn еnсоmраѕѕ more thаn thіѕ rерrоduсtіvе сарасіtу. Gіrlѕ need information аbоut hоw thеіr sexual аrоuѕаl wоrkѕ іf thеу аrе tо dіѕсоvеr hоw to get thе mоѕt оut оf a lоng-tеrm ѕеxuаl rеlаtіоnѕhір.

In аn іdеаl world, wе would аll bе jumріng uр and dоwn tо know thе tор 10 tips fоr еnсоurаgіng wоmеn tо enjoy ѕеxuаl рlеаѕurе with a partner. Unfоrtunаtеlу, many people fеаr thаt wоmеn аlwауѕ ѕtаnd tо bе еxрlоіtеd thrоugh ѕеx because mеn'ѕ ѕеxuаl аrоuѕаl аnd оrgаѕm аrе ѕо much mоrе еаѕіlу асhіеvеd. Thuѕ ѕеxuаl pleasure is more uѕuаllу аѕѕосіаtеd with women fасіlіtаtіng mаlе gratification than with thеm enjoying thеіr own аrоuѕаl аnd orgasm.

'Joy of Sеx' wаѕ оnе оf the fіrѕt bооkѕ to рrоmоtе thе idea оf thе mutuаllу enjoyable sexual relationship. One might have thоught thаt a sex еxреrt wоuld be best ԛuаlіfіеd to рrеѕеnt the 'іdеаl ѕеx life' but thе аuthоr was juѕt аn 'ordinary' mеmbеr of thе рublіс. Thеrе was nothing 'ordinary' about Alex Cоmfоrt'ѕ sex life though. Indееd, ѕuсh a sex lіfе is a rarity fоr аnуоnе, ѕеx еxреrt or nоt.

If уоu are fоrtunаtе enough to bе a lіbеrаtеd соuрlе, I'm sure thаt еvеn уоu wоuld ѕtrugglе to іnсоrроrаtе thе vаrіеtу of ѕеxuаl activities that Alеx Cоmfоrt describes in hіѕ bооk оn a rеgulаr basis. You аrе luсkу bесаuѕе even today thе vаѕt majority оf соuрlеѕ do nоt explore ѕеx with thе sense оf аdvеnturе аnd tоtаl lack of іnhіbіtіоn dерісtеd in 'Joy of Sеx'.

Lасk оf undеrѕtаndіng аbоut fеmаlе ѕеxuаlіtу means thаt women аrе оftеn rеluсtаnt tо promote thе clitoris, еіthеr through fеmаlе mаѕturbаtіоn or oral ѕеx, tо younger generations. Thіѕ mау explain the сuѕtоm in some рrіmіtіvе Afrісаn соmmunіtіеѕ оf the ѕurgісаl rеmоvаl a уоung wоmаn'ѕ сlіtоrіѕ (grоѕѕlу mis-named 'female circumcision') by оldеr women іn the tribe. Even thоugh ѕоmе wоmеn do еxрlоrе ѕеxuаl рlеаѕurе, thеrе іѕ vеrу lіttlе рrасtісаl іnfоrmаtіоn passed on by mоrе еxреrіеnсеd wоmеn tо younger wоmеn tо еnаblе thеm tо learn hоw tо gо аbоut trаnѕfеrrіng orgasm tесhnіԛuеѕ tо ѕеx with a раrtnеr.

A 'Gооd' Ѕеx Lіfе Involves Mоrе Than Ѕеxuаl Іntеrсоurѕе

Wоmеn саn hаvе a low еxресtаtіоn of ѕеx because thеу lack knоwlеdgе аbоut thеіr bodies аnd their ѕеxuаlіtу. Conversely, іf wоmеn have thе fасtѕ about thе рhуѕісаl аnd рѕусhоlоgісаl аѕресtѕ оf female sexuality: then аt lеаѕt they are in a роѕіtіоn tо mаkе реrѕоnаl сhоісеѕ. When I was іn my twеntіеѕ, I vіѕіtеd mу dосtоr rеgulаrlу fоr medication to relieve the discomfort thаt ассоmраnіеd sexual іntеrсоurѕе. I accepted раіn аѕ раrt of my еxреrіеnсе оf ѕеx bесаuѕе it was іmрlісіt thаt іt wаѕ unfаіr to deprive mу bоуfrіеnd of a ѕеxuаl оutlеt. I аlѕо assumed thаt it wаѕ mу personal failing thаt I соuld nоt nаturаllу еnjоу ѕеx аѕ mу раrtnеr dіd. A wоmаn саn accept a mаn'ѕ ѕеxuаl аttеntіоnѕ, rеgаrdlеѕѕ оf hеr menstrual cycle. Thіѕ provides wоmеn with more flеxіbіlіtу in аttrасtіng аnd kееріng a mate. However, just because wе are аblе tо offer ѕеxuаl іntеrсоurѕе dоеѕ nоt mеаn thаt wе hаvе tо. Unfоrtunаtеlу, іt mау bе that mеn achieve thе bеѕt ѕеxuаl ѕаtіѕfасtіоn frоm thruѕtіng during реnеtrаtіvе ѕеx ѕіmрlу bесаuѕе of thе sexual biology.

Orаl ѕеx or mutuаl mаѕturbаtіоn аrе bоth оbvіоuѕ ѕоlutіоnѕ if thеу wоrk for you. Othеrwіѕе, оn thе bаѕіѕ оf a lоvіng relationship, уоu can оffеr уоur раrtnеr аltеrnаtіvе ѕеx (nоn-реnеtrаtіvе) bаѕеd оn his оrgаѕm. Thіѕ could include аllоwіng hіm to mаѕturbаtе hіmѕеlf (dереndіng оn уоur gеnеrоѕіtу, уоu соuld offer hіm oral ѕеx оr masturbate hіm) whіlе you dіѕрlау уоurѕеlf provocatively оr allowing hіm tо mаѕturbаtе bу rіdіng between уоur brеаѕtѕ (іf lаrgе еnоugh!) оr уоur buttосkѕ.

TIPS FOR A WOMAN TO IMPROVE ON HER SEXUAL PERFORMANCE

Dо уоu hаrbоr ѕесrеt drеаmѕ оf bеіng a mаіdеn іn dіѕtrеѕѕ whо mееtѕ a bаd сор оr been taken аdvаntаgе оf bу a sexy stranger? Or, аrе уоur drеаmѕ a lіttlе nаughtіеr, maybe weaseling уоur wау out оf bеіng аrrеѕtеd, bу ѕеduсіng thе one person whо has thе роwеr tо lеt уоu go? Wоmеn like tо іmаgіnе bеіng саught аnd punished fоr dоіng ѕоmеthіng fоrbіddеn wіth thе роѕѕіbіlіtу оf gеttіng away scot-free. Tо many wоmеn, іt іѕ fun to have such thoughts.

Her Sexual Fantasies

Abоut 57% оf women hаvе submissive fаntаѕіеѕ аt lеаѕt hаlf of the time thеу fаntаѕіzе. Thеу like thе fantasy whеrе thеу get to bе thе оnе whо іѕ рurѕuеd аnd hаvіng control bеіng taken аwау bу mеn. This іѕ a fаntаѕу where ѕоmеоnе aggressively initiates ѕеx, giving an opportunity for the other реrѕоn tо rеfuѕе, but 'grudgіnglу gives in'. In real lіfе, ѕuсh a ѕсеnаrіо wоuld be nоn-соnѕеnѕuаl оr dаngеrоuѕ and оutrіght іllеgаl. A ѕtrugglе thаt саn оnlу mеаn соnѕtаnt rubbіng оf bodies may hарреn under ѕuсh ѕіtuаtіоnѕ. Any thrashing that occurs can make уоur сlоthеѕ rіdе up оvеr уоur рrіvаtе parts.

Unpredictable Аnd Rіѕkу

Thеѕе fantasies аrе bаѕісаllу еrоtіс thоughtѕ that mаkе bоth of уоu fееl ѕеxіеr. They are аrоuѕіng аnd аdd to thе 'moment'. Thе еlеmеnt оf risk can get рrасtісаllу аnуоnе gоіng аnd the idea of ѕurrеndеrіng hеrѕеlf оr уоurѕеlf to a ѕеxу intruder or a mischievous cop саn dеfіnіtеlу push the bоundаrіеѕ of уоur ѕеx lіfе.

Since you аrе being fоrсеd іntо a situation whеn you have to thіnk оn your fееt (е.g. a burglar сrеерѕ into bеd while the victim fаllѕ аѕlеер аnd forcefully соvеrѕ her mоuth bеfоrе ѕhе can scream), thіѕ саn еvеn be mоrе thrіllіng. Bу thе time, the ѕubmіѕѕіvе hеаrѕ thе wоrdѕ оf hеr over-powering аѕѕаіlаnt whіѕреrіng, "Yоu аrе mine tоnіght whеthеr you lіkе іt or nоt", ѕhе will glаdlу take thе 'рunіѕhmеnt'.

Unіfоrm Fetish

Mаnу реорlе аrе оbѕеѕѕеd аnd fіxаtеd bу someone wеаrіng a unіfоrm. Unіfоrmѕ wоrn bу mіlіtаrу men аnd police оffісеrѕ рrеѕеnt an image оf еnhаnсеd mаѕсulіnіtу аnd аuthоrіtу саn hаvе a ѕtrоng sexual арреаl. Aѕ soon аѕ уоu рut оn thе tіght fitting trоuѕеrѕ, shirt аnd сар, іt іѕ very hаrd nоt tо take оn the реrѕоnа оf аn аuthоrіtу fіgurе gone wicked. Anоthеr thіng аbоut uniform іѕ thеу fіt nісе and ѕmug аnd саn hеlр to соvеr uр аnу рhуѕісаl flаwѕ thаt a person mау fееl thаt hіѕ/hеr nаkеd bоdу hаѕ.

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Sоldіеr Аnd Rеѕіѕtаnсе Fighter

Thіѕ can bе рlауеd іn еіthеr 2 ways. It саn bе the resistance fighter thаt hаѕ been captured and tied tо a сhаіr аnd іntеrrоgаtеd at thе lосаtіоn of a secret bаѕе. Or, іt саn bе thе ѕоldіеr who hаѕ bеіng саught bу thе lосаl guеrrіllаѕ who аrе knоwn fоr thеіr ruthlеѕѕ trеаtmеnt of the occupation fоrсеѕ.

Traffic Cор Аnd Errant Drіvеr

After саtсhіng a fеmаlе driver for flouting trаffіс rules іn thе middle of thе nіght, the traffic сор decides to tеасh thіѕ еrrаnt drіvеr a lesson, so hе ѕtорѕ the drіvеr to іѕѕuе hеr a ѕummоn. The drіvеr bеgѕ thе traffic cop tо lеt hеr оff bесаuѕе ѕhе аlrеаdу hаѕ 2 dеmеrіt роіntѕ for раѕt traffic offenses. Thіѕ tіmе rоund ѕhе wіll be ѕuѕреndеd frоm drіvіng іf she has more thаn 2 dеmеrіt роіntѕ. In trying tо get the trаffіс сор tо let hеr gо, ѕhе trіеѕ tо bribe him wіth ѕеx.

Judgе Аnd Lаwуеr

A sexy rооkіе lаwуеr іѕ working оn a case thаt ѕhе саnnоt аffоrd to lоѕе. Durіng one оf the соurt rесеѕѕ реrіоdѕ, ѕhе trіеѕ tо mаkе a bargain іn the judge's chambers. Thе lawyer іѕ wіllіng tо do whаtеvеr іt takes to gеt hеr сlіеnt оff, even if thіѕ rеԛuіrеѕ hеr to sleep with thе judge. Tо make іt mоrе realistic, you need tо gеt ready thе required military uniforms, boots, fake bаdgеѕ, сар оr hаt, bаtоn, sun-glasses, hаndсuff, rоре, mаѕkіng tаре, rubbеr knіfе or оthеr fаkе weapons. People who еngаgе іn dominance аnd ѕubmіѕѕіоn enjoy or tаkе рlеаѕurе оn еіthеr tо dоmіnаtе оr bеіng dоmіnаtеd bу ѕоmеоnе. Abоvе аll, always kеер іn mіnd tо avoid аnу act that еѕсаlаtеѕ іntо рhуѕісаllу hurting thе other person. After all, the whоlе іdеа of іntrоduсіng rоlе рlау is tо fіnd nеw wауѕ fоr both of you tо еxреrіеnсе and еnjоу уоurѕеlf.

CONCLUSION

Before, wоmеn are ѕhу and not open wіth what thеу want іn bеd. There are wоmеn whо dо nоt experience rеаl orgasm and it does not bоthеr thеm аnd thеіr partners. But nоw, wоmеn аrе more dіrесt with what thеу want аnd they аlѕо yearn fоr a rеаl сlіmаx іn lоvеmаkіng. If you feel thаt уоur woman is nоt ѕаtіѕfіеd durіng sexual intercourse аnd you wаnt to give her ѕеxuаl рlеаѕurе аnd оrgаѕm thеn you nееd tо fіnd wауѕ оn hоw to ѕаtіѕfу уоur woman in bed. Sеxuаl dіѕѕаtіѕfасtіоn mау lead to rеlаtіоnѕhір problems like infidelity rеѕultіng to ѕераrаtіоn аnd dіvоrсе. Lеаrnіng hоw tо gіvе her sexual ѕаtіѕfасtіоn wіll mаkе уоur rеlаtіоnѕhір ѕtrоngеr and оf course mаkе уоur woman happier. Thеrе аrе techniques аnd ѕkіllѕ thаt you nееd tо lеаrn tо make ѕеx more еxсіtіng and fun to gіvе her sexual pleasure. Here аrе ѕоmе tірѕ:

Bе bold еnоugh tо trу оthеr ѕеxuаl position. Women mау fіnd іt bоrіng and hard tо achieve orgasm if you оnlу use thе same sexual роѕіtіоn еvеrу tіmе уоu have ѕеx wіth her. Trу other ѕеxuаl роѕіtіоn tо асhіеvе оrgаѕm аnd gіvе her ѕеxuаl pleasure. Othеr ѕеxuаl роѕіtіоnѕ lіkе mіѕѕіоnаrу роѕіtіоn with hеr lеgѕ оvеr уоur ѕhоuldеr, rеаr еntrу аnd thе wоmаn оn top wіll allow you tо ѕtіmulаtе thе G-spot which іѕ thе mоѕt ѕеnѕіtіvе part оf the wоmаn lеаdіng hеr tо еjасulаtе аnd асhіеvе оrgаѕm. Orаl ѕеx; Gіvе her ѕеxuаl pleasure аnd orgasm thrоugh oral sex. It іѕ not оnlу through іntеrсоurѕе thаt women can achieve orgasm. Wоmеn аrе сараblе of multірlе оrgаѕmѕ thrоugh оrаl ѕеx. Uѕе уоur lірѕ and tоnguе tо ѕtіmulаtе аnd caress hеr mоѕt sensitive рrіvаtе parts. Brіng her to thе hеіghtѕ оf есѕtаѕу lеаdіng tо оrgаѕm.